Who Is Better at Communication, Men or Women?

[juicylips]

Sometimes men complain that women talk too much.

Women complain that men don't listen to them.

I am talking about orally as well as written word.


What do you think?

Cassidy

 

[Guest]

 

[MechaBlade]

I know it is easier for men to communicate with other men then women. But I don't know what women talking to other women are like.

I'm guessing men.

MechaBlade

 

[juicylips]

Cass,

I haven't a clue about this one.

I think women are more emotional than men, for the most part, we're better at expressing our emotions, both in the written and spoken word.

Sometimes I think men and women just don't communicate at all well, thank god there's the language of luuurrrve to get us through!

You are so fucking gorgeous, Foxy. Love your av.

I agree about women being more emotional. I know it is therapeutic for me to write or talk things out with my friends, as you well know.

Cassidy

 

[riff]

Everybody talks to much and no one listens enough, juicylips.

And where does all of this leave transexuals?

I am trying to become a better listener. Now, forget the details and get to the point. LOL.

 

[VanB]

Man to man communication is the simplest - we understand each other

1st man "fancy a beer and watching the match?"
2nd man "yup"

End of conversation

or

1st man "Look at the tits on her"
2nd "Man, I could give her 1"

End of conversation

Woman to woman comes next but not enough room to give a simple example (besides I don't have the time to type 14 pages of girl talk)

Man to Woman or vice versa - incomprehensible gibberish

 

[freescorfr]

Everybody talks to much and no one listens enough, juicylips.

And where does all of this leave transexuals?

I am trying to become a better listener. Now, forget the details and get to the point. LOL.

Too true riff. I reckon listening is 80% of communicating.
One thing I'd like to be a lot better at is affirming that I've got hwat the other person has said.

Most of my life my responses have always been," No, I think..."

That'sa fart in the face way to communicate, I now realise after decades of doing it.

Better to reply, "Yes, I understand that what you think, feel, etc..is " or make sure I've got right what I've heard.


Women talk far too much about other people and too little about themselves.


Of course when they're blethering about what she's done or what he's up to they're just talking about themselves, really.

 

[juicylips]

Everybody talks to much and no one listens enough, juicylips.

And where does all of this leave transexuals?

I am trying to become a better listener. Now, forget the details and get to the point. LOL.

I do agree with you. I always try to be direct and open.

I once told someone that I liked sending pm's, emails, etc. and that I liked to communicate and keep things up front. He said he could tell that by the fact I was at Lit. I really hadn't thought of that before. My need for communicating being expressed through threads and posting. He listened to me when I didn't even know I was talking.

jl

 

[riff]

Well, JL, you are always welcome to e-mail or PM me. But I love your posts.

Only one juicylips in my book. Not saying I place you on the highest pedestal, I much prefer you on your hands and knees where I can hump you silly

 

[Ishmael]

Sometimes men complain that women talk too much.

Women complain that men don't listen to them.

I am talking about orally as well as written word.


What do you think?

Cassidy

Verbally women, hands down. We men aren't even close. A man that gets in a heated discussion with a woman is much like the person that would take a knife to a gun fight.

The older I get, the better I listen.

Ishmael

 

[Orlanth]

Sometimes men complain that women talk too much.

Women complain that men don't listen to them.

I am talking about orally as well as written word.


What do you think?

Cassidy

Well, I do think one could say it is women or men how can openly comnucate. I would sasy about half - half, about the same for both genders.

In my last couple of reltionshis, including the one I'm in now; that I can openly talk about how I feel, my emotions, my past, likes and dislikes, etc, etc.. In my last to reltionships, my partners don't talk openly as much as you would think... My Ex-fiancee and I drifted apart for lack of comunication on her part, so after trying time, and time and time again, I called it off.
With my girlfriend I have at the moment is going the same way (Minus the engagment. (not at that point in the reltionship.)). Needless to say, I am giving this reltionship all I have to work.

I can go into detail, but I would end up with a Novel, so I'll leave it that.

 

[lovetoread]

In my relationship,he is the one who tells me I dont communicate well.

So in my opinion,men do it better,but women do it more.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Who Is Better at Communication, Men or Women?

Verbally women, hands down. We men aren't even close. A man that gets in a heated discussion with a woman is much like the person that would take a knife to a gun fight.

The older I get, the better I listen.

Ishmael

I like your analogy. What about writing? Do women still have the advantage? I noticed you just mentioned verbally.

Cassidy

 

[Hamletmaschine]

gender differences in communication

The general consensus among those who have actually studied the subject is that neither is "better." Men and women tend to communicate differently--but even that's a huge generalization, and there is no way of evaluating which is "better." Women tend to be more skilled at relational communication, while men are more skilled at task-oriented communication. But that's not to say that either is incapable of developing both sets of skills.

And for what it's worth: those who've said that listening is important (in oral comm.) are of course correct. Neither men nor women are "better" listeners--as with every other comm. skill, men and women listen differently.

 

[plasticman33]

Sometimes men complain that women talk too much.

Women complain that men don't listen to them.

I am talking about orally as well as written word.


What do you think?

Cassidy

I don't feel like talking right now!

 

[freescorfr]

Re: gender differences in communication

The general consensus among those who have actually studied the subject is that neither is "better." Men and women tend to communicate differently--.

The evidence that was produced a year or so ago suggested that men can only do one thing at a time while women can multi-task. I can't listen to a woman and concentrate on a book at the same time, but apparently many women can - and cook the dinner and sew and do the things thery're meant to do - all at once.
We, men, just have one track minds.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Re: Re: gender differences in communication

The evidence that was produced a year or so ago suggested that men can only do one thing at a time while women can multi-task.

Good point. What's interesting about this is that 'multi-tasking' used to mean 'scatterbrained', while men's 'one-thing-at-a-time' meant that they could 'concentrate' better.

The culture has changed in order to revalue (rather than simply dismiss) women's skills.

 

[Rambrat]

You are so fucking gorgeous, Foxy. Love your av.

Cassidy

Just once..I like you to say this to me...

I love comunicating with women because I feel that they can discuss any topic. I feel more relaxed in their presence.

 

[privy2u]

Hiya JL - you said orally and written but my first thought was a little different!

First - take 5 women and give them 5 seconds to start a "hen party" with all 5 talking at the same time about 5 seperate topics for 5 hours!

Next - Enter a man and let him ask 1 question. He can repeat it 5 times every 5 minutes for 5 hours and stand there for 5 days before even 1 woman will look up and say, "I'm sorry. Did you say something?"

As for guys - 5 men talking at the same time for 5 hours about the same 2 subjects (2 subjects = anything with a motor and women) over and over.

Next - Enter a woman and let her ask 1 question. It's a sure bet that at least one guy saw what she drove up in and every one of them saw what she was wearing!

What's the difference? Not what you think I bet!
The women weren't trying to communicate with the man, but the woman was damn sure communicating her ass off with the men!


privy

 

[juicylips]

Just once..I like you to say this to me...

I love comunicating with women because I feel that they can discuss any topic. I feel more relaxed in their presence.

I usually communicate with men far better than with women. I find myself opening up easier to them..no pun intended, lol

Maybe they just ask the right questions.
jl

btw - Your so fucking gorgeous, R. Love your av

 

[CarolineOh]

I've got a couple of observations on the difference between how men and women communicate with each other, that are good examples of why it seems so frustrating some times.
Interjections: A woman who is concentrating on what she is hearing will frequently interject supportive sounds into the conversation, you know going "oh?' "uhhuh" "right" etc. Men generally sit in silence if they are intent on hearing what the other person has to say. Result: Men think women are impatient and prone to interrupt. Women think men are sullen or uninterested.
Gazing: When women are paying close attention to what we are being told, we will look the speaker straight in the eye. Men have a habit of looking off into space or down at their hands or somewhere when they are concentrating on what's being said. Result: Men think we are pissed at what we are hearing or don't believe them, we think they are daydreaming while we are saying something important.
Just my observations, your mileage may vary.

 

[Rambrat]

btw - Your so fucking gorgeous, R. Love your av

I love you JL!
and i love when you talk dirty...

 

[April]

Interjections: A woman who is concentrating on what she is hearing will frequently interject supportive sounds into the conversation, you know going "oh?' "uhhuh" "right" etc. Men generally sit in silence if they are intent on hearing what the other person has to say. Result: Men think women are impatient and prone to interrupt. Women think men are sullen or uninterested.
Gazing: When women are paying close attention to what we are being told, we will look the speaker straight in the eye. Men have a habit of looking off into space or down at their hands or somewhere when they are concentrating on what's being said. Result: Men think we are pissed at what we are hearing or don't believe them, we think they are daydreaming while we are saying something important.

I guess I communicate more like a man then.

 

[juicylips]

I love you JL!
and i love when you talk dirty...

Now, that is communicating!!

To the point and it flatters the hell out of me.

I adore talking dirty, R. Stick around.

jl

 

[bluespoke]

Oh well Cassidy, it looks like there is no concensus.

Some men talk, some men listen.

Some women talk, some women talk.