Which is more intimate, intercourse or oral?

[penguindance]

 

[Ezarc]

Personally, I love the closeness and the feeling of being so in tune with your lover as you go down on them. It is the way you can listen and feel the changes in them that you can't to the same degree during intercourse. But then again what does it matter. It ain't happening and not likely to any time soon.

 

[I'mVan]

Kissing during sex, or foreplay. Kissing is both the most chaste and meaningles thing that can be done in a 'sexual' situation. And the deepest, most intimate, most passionate thing.

 

[bknight2602]

Intercourse defiantly, the whole gamut of kissing and holding is more intimate.

 

[april-wine]

Oral.....You really have to be involved, going down, tasting, sucking, licking....MMMMMMM


No wham bam thank you mam stuff there.....

 

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[Kitte]

There is an intimacy to oral that is mind blowing. The closeness of worshiping or being worshiped by a lover. Of being the object of their adoration. Especially if it is someone who very much so enjoys doing it.

But then again, for me, the intimacy of allowing that person inside your body is inexplicable. But some of that closeness can get lost if you get caught up in your own orgasm.

I guess I dont know. Not unusual though.

 

[sheath]

ORAL

Without a doubt, oral is more intimate. It takes incredible trust to let someone do that. With intercourse you have some control, but with oral...if it's done right...you lose all that you are. You have to completely trust someone to let that happen.

S.

 

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[S.Daedalus]

I'll put my vote into Oral. There is something so open and intimate about exploring your lover’s body. You don't even need to have your cloths off to have intercourse. I'd replace all the intercourse in the world to just have nights of sensual passionate oral sex. (just a side blurt) It starts with but a kiss and it grows into a union that cannot be divided. And to you...I now bow my head

 

[Kenny9990]

I feel oral and intercourse and equivalent in intimacy. I wouldn't have one with a new lover if I wasn't ready to do the other.

Peoples' feelings on this are probably related to their age. I'm mid-50's and I grew up thinking all sex required intimacy. Also, blow jobs were pretty hard to come by when I was a teenager.

Today, I read oral sex is far more common--even in the middle schools. Consequently, younger people might fel it is less intimate than intercourse.

Now if you want something sexual that is really intimate--take anal sex. Talk about trust......

 

[marksgirl]

I voted for oral.

 

[sexy-girl]

oral is more intimate ... but i would rate kissing as more intimate then intercourse also ... maybe im bias

 

[capricious_chic]

I voted oral.

But I agree with Kenny, it really depends upon your age.

Most of the people I know and have dated in the Y generation, put barely any emphasis on oral sex. It is considered 2nd base these days.

 

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[I'mVan]

My thoughts precisely.

How odd. I can't even understand this, and yet many folks feel the same - apparently women in particular.

I consider intimacy to be strongest when you share, oral is a giving (or receiving) kinda thing. Intercourse, or affection is shared. Breathing someone elses breath, watching their eyes. Rising to a shared moment of release.

 

[Guest]

kissing

 

[Guest]

I think it depends on who you are with...or who you are doing which one too.

If I am really in love with someone... intercourse is more intimate...its the sharing of souls and feelings as well as bodies.



and how come them 'other' people never post their reason?? LOL

 

[JazzManJim]

I find oral to be more intimate because it involves a level of trust that intercourse does not.

When giving oral, you are essentially in a vulnerable position where you cede some level of control to the other person. They can physically harm you at the worst or at the least force you into a position you can't escape for a little while.

 

[Pechorin]

Oral

But not if that's all you do, period.

 

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[JazzManJim]

Jim, you always know how to word things perfectly.

Why thank you!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

"Other"...

I think that oral sex and sexual intercourse are both intimate.
I will not be having sex with anyone I don't care about and don't love and the same goes for oral sex.

The whole concept of let's fuck just because .. does not appeal to me and the same can be said about having oral sex.

In my eyes, not just any man will do ..

But , maybe I am just odd in my ways.

 

[teddybear4play]

You're not odd at all, Aph.

"Intercourse" is too vague. I would consider oral to be more intimate than just fucking, but not as intimate as making love.

After all, despite any contributions the recipient might make, oral is still one person doing something to somebody else. Good lovemaking is two people doing it to, with, and for each other.

Furthermore, you can't really look someone in the eyes and kiss them while engaging in oral. Unless you're really flexible. Intercourse allows for a versatility of other actions that display intimacy (kissing, caressing, handholding, etc.) that just isn't the same with oral.

TB4p

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I've always found that I need to have more trust in the person to make love with them, than to have them perform oral on me, or me perform oral on them. Maybe it's because I did that whole "I'm not having sex till I'm married, so I'll do everything BUT sex" thing. I love performing oral, and having it done to me, but I really think that making love, to me, is the far more intimate of the two acts... lovemaking affords many other kinds of contact... kissing, looking into each other's eyes, hands running over skin, fingernails gently sliding across each other's arms and backs, tongue gently licking across your partner's neck, etc.