Which is more intimate, intercourse or oral?

[glorfindale39]

Intercourse definatly. I love the face time, the staring into each others eyes, and watching the reactions of my partner as we move through our lovemaking. Oh yeah, definatly intercourse.

G.

 

[Kenny9990]

Wow, Capricious Chic, oral is now considered second base.

I was born WAY TOO soon......wish I was growing up today!!!

I was one who selected "other" and I gave my reason above--both are comparably intimate.

 

[teddybear4play]

I've always found that I need to have more trust in the person to make love with them, than to have them perform oral on me, or me perform oral on them. Maybe it's because I did that whole "I'm not having sex till I'm married, so I'll do everything BUT sex" thing. I love performing oral, and having it done to me, but I really think that making love, to me, is the far more intimate of the two acts... lovemaking affords many other kinds of contact... kissing, looking into each other's eyes, hands running over skin, fingernails gently sliding across each other's arms and backs, tongue gently licking across your partner's neck, etc.

I said the same thing.

It sounds so much better when you say it, though.

TB4p

 

[curious2c]

After some thought and reading here...I voted 'other'. Why you might ask?

Because, the act of intercourse between two (or more) consenting adults shows a certain intimacy to begin with. Usually oral sex starts it off (since that is considered to be foreplay and usually never performed to completion.) Then intercourse follows shortly there after. I would like to clarify that the above is for the most larger group of persons. There are exceptions to this of course.

My thoughts are...oral is the more intimate, especially if performed to the orgasm or completion of your partner(s). It shows that the giver is in touch enough to do something that is illegal in quite a few states to begin with, and also that they are trusting the givee to not 'capture' or 'control' or 'take advantage' of them. Oral is what I woudl consider the most giving act. However...intercourse is in it's own way just as intimate too. To allow oneself to actually be with someone in that way shows that there is measurable trust in that act too.

Now, this is only if it is between two (or more) consenting adults, and not in a situation of 'pay for play' or prostitution. That has a whole different meaning and does not belong in this thread. In the case of prostitution, it is obligatory for the payee to perform the duty as directed and while some may consider it intimate, it is more a business intimacy than any other type of intimacy.

In my opinion, just the act of either one, oral or interourse, is a show of intmacy that is special in its own right. Combined...It can show a true love for each other and a humbling for each other too.

Edited to add:

Eye contact in either act is probably the most intimate that one can be. to look into each others eyes as you are pleasuring one another is what I believe to be THE single most intimate thing one can do.

 

[Shadowann2]

I voted for oral at the top, but after reading everyone's posts, I'm not sure anymore. I agree with Jim about the trust issue involved with oral. That is one of the reasons that I love giving oral to a guy; I have the control so they have to trust me.

However, now that all of you have made your point about the face to face, and body to body intimacy of intercourse, I don't think I could pick one over the other. So change my vote from oral to other.

 

[deliciea]

would vote for other maybe I am wrong but have had sex with Many men and thats all it was sex have saved my one special spot for that one special Man adn when I gave it to him it meant the world to me to know that I could go that far with some one adn still feel totaly relaxed about them seeing me at my most vulnarable

 

[SkyBluAngelEyes]

I voted for intercourse.

There are many different facets to intercourse though. Having intercourse can be of course synonymous with sex and making love, but making love is way different than that of having sex.

To me, intercourse, the intimate act of making love kind, lead two people to a higher plain. The act of sharing eye contact, kissing during, hearing the sounds that pour from their mouths, to having your skin caressed and the slight caress from the fingernails up the back, the squeezing of the muscles during orgasm, the closeness of letting someone that far inside of my soul, having someone "see" the real me is just about as intimate as I could get.

Oral sex on the other hand is quite intimate too. It is usually a precursor to making love, and is very intimate also... But for some reason, to me, it just doesn't have the same oomph that intercourse does.

Kissing to me, is on the same level as making love. That is one of the most intimate things I can give or take from a lover without taking my clothes off.

Cool thread PLS..

 

[SpecialK]

Oral...

I vote for oral because receiving oral sex has been a hurdle for me. For the longest time, I wouldn't let anyone pleasure me orally. I felt way too exposed. Something about letting a man get THAT close to me, down there, just really made me nervous.

And seeing the various answers to this thread, I think what you find most intimate is where your own boundaries lie. Oral sex was always a bigger deal to me, especially being on the receiving end.

K

 

[Blindinthedark]

I said intercourse. I'm not sure why. Gut instinct I guess.
Just seems more intimate to me.