where are your friends, when YOU need someone to talk to?

[lobito]

When they have things they need to talk about with ANYONE, you are there to listen to them. But are they there to listen to you when you need them? Or are they suddenly too busy right now?

Lo

 

[jass1960]

Spill it, lobito

whats the problem?

 

[SempreAngela]

Where are my friends when I need them...

They are usually asleep, I have horrible timing.

 

[Bindii]

I know what you mean, it sort of sucks but I try and think of it as some people are just meant to be listeners and others aren't.

Don't tell me you are still glum?

 

[SweetBrat73]

When they have things they need to talk about with ANYONE, you are there to listen to them. But are they there to listen to you when you need them? Or are they suddenly too busy right now?

Lo

We're here and we'll listen if ya need somebody


Brat

 

[alexandraaah]

Anywhere I need them to be..

I have simply tremendous friends.

Plus, I pay well.

 

[plasticman33]

You've got it right, I'll listen and offer advice. But, if I want to talk to someone, they're few and far between.

There have been a few here at Lit, that have listened to my rants, and for those, Thank You!

 

[Aphrodisiac]

My friends are there for me 24/7 .... as I am for them.
We are like that we will call or go see one another whenever we need to talk .... we always make time.

These are my best friends , they are always there for me.

 

[Dillinger]

I have a couple I can count on. A few online who have been wonderful listeners lately when I've really needed it and who have gone out of their way to be supportive... to help.

More flexibility and support at work then I expected - a pleasant surprise.

And one in particular - more "rl" then online - who has just listened and been there no matter what...

Is this a general question, lobito... or more?

 

[SilverVeil]

I have no friends. So it would not matter anyway. Would it ?

 

[SweetBrat73]

Hope you found a friend to listen to ya...I think ppl here are worried about you now...



Brat

 

[lobito]

Thanks folks, no it wasn't meant as a Rhetorical Q, but it's fine to answer it that way too.

I need(ed) maybe still someone I can talk to, but I've (just) talked to my best Lit friend, and I'm a bit better, knowing that one person who calls me their friend, really is one. To her thanks.

To those who asked me here and privately, thanks for asking, I MAY just hit you up, if you'll listen.

The one thing I've learned over the last few days here at Lit, is you find out who your friends "REALLY" are. And unfortunately, some just snow you over, and don't care about YOUR feelings afterall.

There's SO much more, but I won't bore you with the details right now.

Lo - who's confused as usual

 

[VanB]

Lo

Hope you get yourself sorted - you sound kind of really bothered.

 

[Dillinger]

Well... whatever it is... good luck... we don't know each other that well... but you can put me on the list of people you can hit up.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

Hey I was sleeping!

I'm here for ya though...sleep or not.

Morgy

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[shyybabe]

Glad you found your best friend to help you.

Best friends although hard to find are wonderful.

Hope you're feeling better soon.


Hugs

 

[alexandraaah]

Sometimes, lobito, you have to look hard and close at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself that very same question. It is always a hard awakening when one realizes that someone they thought was their friend turns out to be a nasty two-faced traitor.

Cathy, a short time back you asked for suggestions on how to make yourself more "tolerable" to the people of this board. I would say, for one, posting shit like this won't help your cause any. It strikes me as personal and mean. Just some constructive criticism.

Alex

 

[April]

My friends are not always there. But that's not their fault. Just the way life goes. Time zones don't help either. When they are their, they are wonderful, supportive, and I truly appreciate them. I try to be the same back, but I'm afraid I am not as good as I should/could be.

Lobito, if you ever want to talk, I'm available. Same goes for anyone else. Just PM me.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Guest]

what a bitch!

Alex...you are RIGHT!! And I had come back to add something to that post BUT I wasn't able to log on here for over 6 hours.

Sometimes, lobito, you have to look hard and close at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself that very same question. It is always a hard awakening when one realizes that someone they thought was their friend turns out to be a nasty two-faced traitor.

The people that I KNOW are my friends, through thick and thin, are always available to me...whether in an email or a phone call. All I need to do is reach out.

I was going to come back and edit this like a chicken shit and walk away when I realized that I had had to look at myself in the mirror and realize the same thing about myself. It is a good reminder to ME to pick and choose my friends carefully...Just as it is a good reminder to ME to remember that I have hurt other people and to change my behaviour so that I do not ever do that again.

Thank you for responding...and I had typed all that out earlier before anyone had posted after me...but it wouldn't post.

So tell us Cathbitch, does it always have to be about YOU? Can you not see that this young chap is having a bad enough day, without you jumping his case because you can't stand to see someone else get some sympathy?

You're not even a big enough person to appologize at all, much less sincerly, for treating this guy the way you did not once, but two times.

What a beautiful friend you must make to your lackies that hang on your every word at this place.

 

[*bratcat*]

Re: what a bitch!

 

[lobito]

Actually Unreg, I find it difficult to respond to such crap as whatzername. Thanks though.

Lo

 

[Cheyenne]

When they have things they need to talk about with ANYONE, you are there to listen to them. But are they there to listen to you when you need them? Or are they suddenly too busy right now?

Lo

Back to the original question of the thread...

I've discovered a few good friends from here at Lit the last few days. I had a bad health scare this week, and I was in a panic until I took a few more tests and the results this afternoon. (I'm fine, will just be monitored closely in the future.) A few people here did everything they could to keep my spirits up, practically held my hand through the computer screen in very supportive emails. Some others, I never heard from at all after I told them about my initial scare. I really appreciate the ones who took time to listen to me. They made it easier for me to get through a time when I couldn't even think clearly.

In other words, some were here to listen to me when I needed them. Others were too busy. But I understand that, too.

 

[Wiggles]

When I'm really down in the dumps over something I'll talk to my mom. I know she'll love me no matter what. Unconditionally.

Another is my best-friend, she's been with me through a lot, and I'm here for her too.

I haven't really unloaded on any online friends yet, I'm not so sure some would stick around to take it. I don't even think I could get my troubles into word format... LoL

But hopefully some of the people I've connected with here would be there for me if I need them.