When you want Romance, how do you ask for it?

[Ms_Lilith]

I love my bf. I really do.. he's wonderful.. funny, sweet, kind, handsome, intelligent, good in bed, all the great stuff that a woman could ask for (I'm lucky I got him first!).

But-
and there's always a but... I really want to be romanced right now.. I want to dress up, and be taken out for a night on the town, or I want him to set up a bath with candles and rose petals and wine, or to set up our bedroom with rose petals on the bed, and champagne and candles.

I just set up our room that way for him, because I think he'll like it, and I bought us a beautiful velvet blanket which is REALLY nice to make love on (I have one at my place)... but I want to be babied.. and the thing that makes it worse is that there are a lot of people out there who want to wine and dine me, and romance me.. and I just want it from HIM!

How do I hint?!

 

[willfulbrat]

Don't hint. Demand it.

 

[mayi]

if i had the answer to that question i would not me here

mayi

 

[Weevil]

Trust me, as a funny, sweet, kind, handsome, intelligent man myself that hinting doesn't work. You can hint all you want and your BF might never get the picture.

While we are occasionally good a spontaneous romance it's not something we can do very often. I once tried an out of the blue romantic night when the ball and chain was not in the mood.

and I learned my lesson. From now on I plan my romantic evenings a week in advance.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

grr.. why do SOME guys have to be so clueless? (Notice that I said some! I'm employing restraint!)

I don't WANT to ask, cus I'll seem self-centred

 

[MissTaken]

grr.. why do SOME guys have to be so clueless? (Notice that I said some! I'm employing restraint!)

I don't WANT to ask, cus I'll seem self-centred

Well, it wouldnt' be self centered to suggest that the relationship could use a bit of romance or asking what sorts of romantic things might he enjoy?

Start the conversation from a "we" perspective rather than an "I need " point of view. Exchanging ideas for romance is more likely to get what you want without alienating him, than making a list and saying, "here babe, try this!"



hugs

Miss T

 

[MissTaken]

Oh!

And if that doesn't work, beg!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

lol.. thanks, MissT..

I think I'm trying to do the suggestion thing with the whole 'setting up the love den' thing... he's gonna be so thrilled with that new velvet blanket, and I know that the sex will be great (see my Vick's Vaporub thread)..

 

[AzureAngel]

I'd stick with the begging tactic

 

[Hamletmaschine]

I'd recommend whining a lot. That always puts a man in the mood for romance.