I have a question for all you experts out there. When does having a certain type for a relationship become a pattern? I am wondering because the last few women I have dated are problamatic. They put themselves down, and they have a huge attitude. When I say they put themselves down I mean constantly. I have seen many episodes of loveline and they always talk about a psychological dependancy or something. I do not have any serious problems with family or my life, so what the fuck is going on???
When does it start becoming a pattern?
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i would say you tend to find people you think you'll be successful with, you may need to be extra careful.
a good thing is to get to know people well before you date them- you may be able to spot problems from a distance,...
other than that, i don't know what to tell you, good luck!
a good thing is to get to know people well before you date them- you may be able to spot problems from a distance,...
other than that, i don't know what to tell you, good luck!
Whispersecret
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I think it's a pattern when you notice it's a pattern. 
Seriously, I love to analyze, but I can't really glean anything from your post without knowing a heck of a lot more about you.
Some people think it's a crock, and some people think it's only for the mentally disturbed, but you might want to look into seeing a psychologist. I think that many of the problems that people face have a better chance of being solved when the reasons behind the problem are known. There is surely a reason why you keep being attracted to this certain type of woman, and it might help you to find out what that is. Best of luck to you.
Seriously, I love to analyze, but I can't really glean anything from your post without knowing a heck of a lot more about you.
Some people think it's a crock, and some people think it's only for the mentally disturbed, but you might want to look into seeing a psychologist. I think that many of the problems that people face have a better chance of being solved when the reasons behind the problem are known. There is surely a reason why you keep being attracted to this certain type of woman, and it might help you to find out what that is. Best of luck to you.
goddess_euphoria
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I don't know if I can answer your question really, but I've noticed I have some what of a similar problem with guys. Though they don't really put themselves down, it's more like "everything sucks, my life is horrible, etc." All I can figure is that it must be in my nature to want to help people and make them happy (or some thing like that) Anyway, if it makes you feel any better, I know not all women are whiney with low self-esteem, hey, I'm actually rather conceeded...
