What Is Wrong With Ignoring Someone...

[Guest]

I admit it, if someone crosses a line I feel compelled to reply or worse spend time in my head on my own private rant.
The first response only adds fuel to the fire by giving attention to the attention seeker. The second gives up space in my head to something that usually won't matter in a day or 2.

So what is wrong with simply ignoring someone who pushes 'your' buttons??

I'm not talking about a discussion involving a difference of opinion but rather the kind of thing that ends up deteriorating into name-calling and slinging insults back and forth. Is there really any point to going to that level with anyone.

If you don't want to engage in mudslinging with someone then don't. If you do that's fine too but it is always a choice.

Sorry for the cliche' but 2 wrongs never make a right and among adults the "but he/she started it..." thing wears a little thin with me.

(And yes, I'm hoping for a discussion -- just because it's how I see things doesn't mean I'm automatically right.)

 

[angelika]

Sorry-- I'm not nameless, this was my thread.

 

[CelestialBody]

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

You know what? It does happen, all the time. Look at any nasty thread, and instead of counting the number of people who repsond, look at the number of people who don't respond. How many people just choose to ignore Yayati and SYNthysist/AJ and that stupid "Gilly is gone hurray!" thread, etc. etc. People ignore all the time here. You just don't notice it.

 

[Rambling Rose]

I came. I saw. I ignored.

Then I came back in to let you know I ignored.

 

[angelika]

You know what? It does happen, all the time. Look at any nasty thread, and instead of counting the number of people who repsond, look at the number of people who don't respond. How many people just choose to ignore Yayati and SYNthysist/AJ and that stupid "Gilly is gone hurray!" thread, etc. etc. People ignore all the time here. You just don't notice it.

Of course you are right about that....

 

[angelika]

I came. I saw. I ignored.

Then I came back in to let you know I ignored.

thanks for letting me know or I never would have known

 

[Rambling Rose]

No problem. I can't speak for the other 33 members who came in and ignored without coming back to take responsibility for their actions! Cowards.

 

[RawHumor]

I came. I saw. I ignored.

Then I came back in to let you know I ignored.

Strangely, there HAVE been quite a few serious quotes like this that I've seen. LOL

 

[riff]

I don't have anyone on ignore. But I don't read everything either.

I just do my thing. When I have enough, I jump into the bottomless pit.

 

[angelika]

No problem. I can't speak for the other 33 members who came in and ignored without coming back to take responsibility for their actions! Cowards.

Obviously you did take resposibility for your actions.
I'm honored that you chose to ignore me.

 

[Ezzie]

Nothing wrong with ignoring

Just so long as it's not something serious that you're ignoring.

Don't ignore a baby's crying
Don't ignore a serious traffic accident
Don't ignore your mother's priceless pearls of wisdom.... things like that.

Ignoring trolls and people that annoy you, well, that's fine because I do it. Most of us do.

 

[alexandraaah]

I tend to be reactionary in person...used to be much more than I am now. It was usually about feeling slighted and getting that visceral feeling that clouded any judgement.

It seems that online people have less fear to really lay into someone, and the person on the receiving end is much less afraid to stand up for themselves.

I think it's for all the same reasons that people don't ignore one another (when they don't, as I agree with DCL) in person...there's bullies, instigators, defenders, neutralizers...

I could get all group therapy on your ass and tell you the roles that people play in group situations, including title and definition, but that might bore you.

 

[April]

It's all meaningless anyway.

You're all on notice. *snicker*

 

[CelestialBody]

You're all on notice...

 

[angelika]

thanks for responding --you all make alot of sense.
I knew there was a reason why I liked it here.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Nothing's wrong with ignoring people who irritate or insult you. The general "you" not the specific "you." Lot's of people ignore me cause I'm one of those irritating and insulting people.

I prefer not to ignore people because I am confrontational anyway. Mudslinging, insulting, fighting, and generally making the whole board a source of tension for anyone who shows up seem to be what I do best when I get going.

Ignoring is a good thing, actually, It prevents trolls from getting the satisfaction and will stop them. Ignoring also keeps confrontations from disrupting the comfort of others on the board. Ignoring also ensures that no one says anything that they will regret.

I doubt I'll ever figure it out, myself.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

Last night on "West Wing" they did a riff on the "misunderstanding" dynamic rampant in all Internet communities; how one short post can be "read" by a whole host of Site Members as 100 different things, and how annoying actual dialogue can be when people insist on interpretting what you're saying to suit their own posts. When that happens in a thread, I tend to start ignoring.

 

[alexandraaah]

Last night on "West Wing" they did a riff on the "misunderstanding" dynamic rampant in all Internet communities; how one short post can be "read" by a whole host of Site Members as 100 different things, and how annoying actual dialogue can be when people insist on interpretting what you're saying to suit their own posts. When that happens in a thread, I tend to start ignoring.

You know, you could have pm'd me if you were going to say something so personal and cutting. I thought you respected me.


Like that?

 

[freescorfr]

Last night on "West Wing" they did a riff on the "misunderstanding" dynamic rampant in all Internet communities; how one short post can be "read" by a whole host of Site Members as 100 different things, and how annoying actual dialogue can be when people insist on interpretting what you're saying to suit their own posts. When that happens in a thread, I tend to start ignoring.

DCL I hope you saw, then, my apology to you in the multifarian thread over claiming to have special insight into what you mean by agnosticism.

 

[RawHumor]

<snip>...and how annoying actual dialogue can be when people insist on interpretting what you're saying to suit their own posts. When that happens in a thread, I tend to start ignoring.

So you're saying that you hate me and you never wanna talk to me again? *sob*

Just say it... I REPULSE you, don't I?!?!

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

I'd say it, but I'm ignoring you.

 

[Rambling Rose]

Don't worry RH, he's also ignoring the tooth fairy.

 

[Dixon Carter Lee]

DCL I hope you saw, then, my apology to you in the multifarian thread over claiming to have special insight into what you mean by agnosticism.

Yes I did, and I responded there. No problem, really.(And I think you meant to say "Atheisim", which is different than "Agnosticism".)

 

[chewbacca71]

I also tend to get confrontational when I feel that people are being assholes. I agree that everyone is entitled to an opinion, but when they start going after someone for no reason, I have a hard time sitting idly by and watching. I am getting better at ignoring the trolls in here, but I am not there yet. Maybe I just need a little help, any lovely ladies of Lit willing to hold my hands so I dont answer a Troll?? Or better yet, put them somewhere that they will be put to better use?? **winks**

Chewey