What have you learned from lit? (A thought thread)

[Stxhm]

I've learned not to take anyone too seriously on this platform. Some of us are seeking something, while others are hiding from it.
We're all on here for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

 

[orangecurious]

to be myself, i guess... not get too wound up by people showing off, just try and stay calm, be polite, be funny (apparently) and treat people as people (even the ones who aren't, but you don't know that).

Just, be 'normal' in this abi-normal world

 

[lifeis2short2b]

I don't feel I learned to much here. But definatly confirmed a whole lot.

 

[easyoff]

That there are other people as weird as me, and never post on the poltics threads.

 

[Kittycity]

Sometimes your crush is actually crushing on you and hasn't reached out because your settings have blocked PMs

 

[Azuldrgon]

Be comfortable when you post something.
If you're not, maybe you should reconsider.

 

[sftopbottom]

That there are other people as weird as me, and never post on the poltics threads.

everyone else is pretending to be other than weird

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

Oh boy. I didn't know this existed. Here goes.

A few takeaways:

• This is not a good place to be if you are having mental health issues currently. Some of what goes on here will only make you feel worse, therefore:
• It is good to take breaks and hiatuses. This site has a sort of aspect to it that can attract addictive personalities, or people who feel impulsive and/or compulsive. If it's starting to wear on you, you need to politely and privately mention it to people who would miss you, and then step away for a bit.
• Sexual trauma can happen, even in front of a computer screen. Learn the red flags and use the ignore as soon as someone starts testing your boundaries. They will do that.
• To try to be less open and vulnerable about myself. There are people here who will pretend to comisserate with you, but will, after you've unloaded, try to hook up with you so they can get their wanks.
• Don't take it too seriously, and try to hold your tongue, even when feeling righteous indignation. Unless you're a mod, calling someone out for a perceived wrong will make things worse, 99% of the time. Block and move on.

 

[Dirtyoldhornyman]

I'm not sure if I have actually learned anything here, but can make some observation after a few months.

I see that there are many people in the same situation, sexless marriages, and Lit is part of their secret life also. I also have found that there are some real idiots on here, but most are really nice. Its been nice to explore sexually with others and share things I have never shared with anyone else in my life. I have met some really great women on here, honest and real, that have surprised me with their openness. Super Lit women, can't say enough about some of them. (a few that I wish didn't live so damn far away or even other countries) Have also made a few male friends, and have shared some things never shared before.

 

[big_cane_sugar]

I want to bump this because I was going to make the same thread and I'm curious if anyone has anything to add.

 

[mickyp123]

I would not change the experience i have had on Lit, very soul warming, be yourself and be true.

 

[Chillygirl]

People come and go and you have to just deal with it.

 

[ThePullOutKing]

So many things as this place over the years has been quite the eye opener where lots of people of different types all collide and you try to sort out the pieces to see what goes with what.

The most important for me is practicing patience. I've gotten pretty good at it here after a few years.

Relax and don't worry about it. No expectations. That other person just wasn't for you. Going hand in hand with that people come and go. Don't get hung up on someone wanting to do something else or just disappearing all together, or ghosting you.

I've learned to be a better writer by witnessing some who are really $#@#$@ good at it and then taking pieces of their prose and adding them to my library.

Definitely not taking myself too seriously. Laugh as much as you can, even at yourself.

Chit chat and just hanging out is good too. It doesn't have to be any more than that and that's fine. You need friends too.

 

[LostHorizon]

I’ve learned that there are a lot of crazy people on the internet and they all seem to find their way here.

 

[latecomer91364]

I learned this years ago: Just post your shit and don't bother chatting with anybody.