What exactly turns you on about your wife or girlfriend being with another man? Past or Present?

[Nellie60]

There's lot of guys out there who write about their wives etc with other men. What exactly turns you on about it?

A fetish being realised? Actually watching her?
Knowing what she's really like and imagining her giving and receiving the same with someone else? Feeling submissive about it?

For me its sort of erotic knowing what she like and watching her let go the same way with another man. ie seeing her display what turns her on. And knowing that she very desirable to other men who now have the pleasure that I have experienced.

Cum on let me know!

 

[LeeKee]

Seeing her sexuality in motion i guess. Not into the being subservient or humiliated, nothing like that, just the eroticism. Id join too, but if not, id be right there enjoying the energy.

 

[Nellie60]

Seeing her sexuality in motion i guess. Not into the being subservient or humiliated, nothing like that, just the eroticism. Id join too, but if not, id be right there enjoying the energy.

Having her for yourself is ideal. You can enjoy joy the "sexuality in motion" and eroticism for yourself. So is it a different form of the same desire?

 

[LeeKee]

Having her for yourself is ideal. You can enjoy joy the "sexuality in motion" and eroticism for yourself. So is it a different form of the same desire?

Perhaps. Its anither way to see her. Another layer or perspective

 

[Nellie60]

Perhaps. Its anither way to see her. Another layer or perspective

Seeing your lady enjoying herself is one factor so is seeing her being attractive to other guys. Probably shows how lucky you are? And that knowledge of what she's really like is a turn on for me.

 

[Sgts19]

The more excited and fun she has the bigger turn on for me. Before I'd even met her I heard her getting fucked by her them boyfriend and jerked off. Years later I was side by side with my best friend , we looked at each other and did a quick switch. That was the first time I ever saw her fucked. The look on her face the way she moved and things she said turned me on more than I can ever remember being. I watched him with her for many years and he did the same when I was with his wife. I did hear her several times with someone different and that was almost as fun as seein

 

[Nellie60]

The more excited and fun she has the bigger turn on for me. Before I'd even met her I heard her getting fucked by her them boyfriend and jerked off. Years later I was side by side with my best friend , we looked at each other and did a quick switch. That was the first time I ever saw her fucked. The look on her face the way she moved and things she said turned me on more than I can ever remember being. I watched him with her for many years and he did the same when I was with his wife. I did hear her several times with someone different and that was almost as fun as seein

That's hot. You mean you heard her being fucked and jerking him off?

You had a wife swap? Just trying to understand.

 

[magicalmoments]

If I'm honest about it, my main motivation is that I love watching live sex, as opposed to videos. My wife is one of the few women I know that will let me watch her being fucked, and everything else that goes with it, without making a complaint to the police. She also lets me participate if I want in a way that is far superior to wanking to videos. Simple as that really.

 

[Nellie60]

If I'm honest about it, my main motivation is that I love watching live sex, as opposed to videos. My wife is one of the few women I know that will let me watch her being fucked, and everything else that goes with it, without making a complaint to the police. She also lets me participate if I want in a way that is far superior to wanking to videos. Simple as that really.

Entirely agree...live shows are magic. I got so so aroused watching my ex girlfriend finish a guy years ago...just seeing her so turned on...

 

[Nellie60]

The more excited and fun she has the bigger turn on for me. Before I'd even met her I heard her getting fucked by her them boyfriend and jerked off. Years later I was side by side with my best friend , we looked at each other and did a quick switch. That was the first time I ever saw her fucked. The look on her face the way she moved and things she said turned me on more than I can ever remember being. I watched him with her for many years and he did the same when I was with his wife. I did hear her several times with someone different and that was almost as fun as seein

Thank you..do you think you were more aroused when you had sex with her compared with your then wife? Sometimes I get quite turned on by the idea of seducing someone else's lady with consent of course.. And you sort of already knew what she was like

 

[Justfantasies]

Thinking about a pasty girlfriend who liked to fuck on business trips -- it was the confessions and sex with her after

 

[Nellie60]

Thinking about a pasty girlfriend who liked to fuck on business trips -- it was the confessions and sex with her after

Same really wanted to fuck her badly after finding out. Did every sexual act that I don't normally do routinely..

 

[Nellie60]

Same really wanted to fuck her badly after finding out. Did every sexual act that I don't normally do routinely..

That's after asking her about every detail of her affair.

 

[Ramone45]

The humiliation plays a role in this turn on for me. Although she loves me for lots of reasons, we have accepted that I can't satisfy her sexually because of my premature ejaculation. I have come to accept that sex and love can be separated. She had sex issues, too. She had an older sister whom the family considered "Pretty" and openly favored her. She discovered that she could find acceptance from men through sex. I guess she would have been considered promiscuous. She has always been a "man's woman"; more male friends than female. Naturally, she became VERY good at sex.

 

[Justfantasies]

Same really wanted to fuck her badly after finding out. Did every sexual act that I don't normally do routinely..

It's the act of reclaiming her that is exciting and knowing that she is valuable -- desirable to other men

 

[Mike130]

Not into the humiliation part, for me it’s more about watching her in action, like watching a porn movie starring my wife. How she moves with another man, how she moans, the scent of sex, maybe even doing things that she doesn’t do for me. Maybe taking a much bigger cock. Eating the cum out of her pussy. Also the fact that she’s desirable by other men validates my love for her.

 

[Jcam1980s]

Several things:

To watch her be cum inside at her risky time
To watch her cumming while being screwed (toe curling is her sign shes about to or cumming)
To jack off on her face while the guy screws her
To watch his cock twitch and pulse as it pumps his cum into her
To see her on her back, legs spread wide, tits moving back/fourth with every stroke
To hear her asking him to go easy as she struggles to accommodate his cock

 

[Nellie60]

Not into the humiliation part, for me it’s more about watching her in action, like watching a porn movie starring my wife. How she moves with another man, how she moans, the scent of sex, maybe even doing things that she doesn’t do for me. Maybe taking a much bigger cock. Eating the cum out of her pussy. Also the fact that she’s desirable by other men validates my love for her.

Thats pretty hot. Watching how excited and enthusiastic she gets is a big turn on. How her techniques change with someone else and seeing her do things to him and maybe he's never experienced before..thats a turn on. Or as you say accepting sexual acts from him that she won't necessarily do with you. As you know I watched an ex girlfriend go ballistic on another man cock with her hand and truthfully it has been one of the hottest thing I have seen live.

 

[GD88]

There's lot of guys out there who write about their wives etc with other men. What exactly turns you on about it?

Well, the original post asks about my wife being with another man/other men in the past so I'm going to address that.

I would say the turn-on for me about my wife having been with other men in the past, in this case her ex, are all the things that she learned about sex from them. Whatever circumstances these relationships ended under, it was clear that her exes both took care of her and taught her a lot in their beds.

The impact of that on me is that it created a situation when my wife/then girlfriend and I were starting to date each other where I was a virgin with zero experience and she, despite being the same age, having infinitely more sexual experience. And this let to what I call the heavenly days at her apartment where I lost my virginity and learned a lot from her.

 

[Nellie60]

Well, the original post asks about my wife being with another man/other men in the past so I'm going to address that.

I would say the turn-on for me about my wife having been with other men in the past, in this case her ex, are all the things that she learned about sex from them. Whatever circumstances these relationships ended under, it was clear that her exes both took care of her and taught her a lot in their beds.

The impact of that on me is that it created a situation when my wife/then girlfriend and I were starting to date each other where I was a virgin with zero experience and she, despite being the same age, having infinitely more sexual experience. And this let to what I call the heavenly days at her apartment where I lost my virginity and learned a lot from her.

The past is also interesting but there are a lot of men who like to see their wives or girlfriends being sexual with another either watching them or hearing about their escapades or at least fantasy about a scenario of some type. It could simply be a fantasy and no more than that. The actual reality could be rather different. The thought is just hot and erotic.

 

[Justfantasies]

The past is also interesting but there are a lot of men who like to see their wives or girlfriends being sexual with another either watching them or hearing about their escapades or at least fantasy about a scenario of some type. It could simply be a fantasy and no more than that. The actual reality could be rather different. The thought is just hot and erotic.

That is certainly true for me and I have always found woman who want to talk about the afairs they have had very attractive -- I wonder if it is true for all men if they were honest

 

[Sgts19]

I'll never figure out why this turns me on. Yes I heard her with her then boyfriend before I'd even known what she looked like. Yes I did jerk off which at that age I would have anyways just hearing someone fuck. Getting together with her after that never even crossed my mind. Hearing even without seeing is a big turn on for me, brings me right back to what I heard way back then.
Hard to explain. I think its a small percentage of men who are into this out in the real world. Yes, on here you hear about this stuff, but I guess that's why we're on this site

 

[Nellie60]

That is certainly true for me and I have always found woman who want to talk about the afairs they have had very attractive -- I wonder if it is true for all men if they were honest

They may talk about it voluntarily or they are not embarrassed to talk about it if asked. I know a lot hold back either they wish to let that past go or they don't want to make you jealous perhaps or you may think they are some slut. Truth is a lot of men may appear not interested but deep down harbour this secret fantasy of watching, hearing every details of their partners past or wishing they would be seduced by someone else or be the seducer. Its better than porn but its not for everybody to make it s reality. Definitely for me watching a girlfriend being the seducer is pretty erotic.

 

[Nellie60]

They may talk about it voluntarily or they are not embarrassed to talk about it if asked. I know a lot hold back either they wish to let that past go or they don't want to make you jealous perhaps or you may think they are some slut. Truth is a lot of men may appear not interested but deep down harbour this secret fantasy of watching, hearing every details of their partners past or wishing they would be seduced by someone else or be the seducer. Its better than porn but its not for everybody to make it s reality. Definitely for me watching a girlfriend being the seducer is pretty erotic.

It's wanting to know what she will be like with someone else Maybe she will be absolutely wild in bed! Do things that may surprise us!

 

[Justfantasies]

It's wanting to know what she will be like with someone else Maybe she will be absolutely wild in bed! Do things that may surprise us!

They may talk about it voluntarily or they are not embarrassed to talk about it if asked. I know a lot hold back either they wish to let that past go or they don't want to make you jealous perhaps or you may think they are some slut. Truth is a lot of men may appear not interested but deep down harbour this secret fantasy of watching, hearing every details of their partners past or wishing they would be seduced by someone else or be the seducer. Its better than porn but its not for everybody to make it s reality. Definitely for me watching a girlfriend being the seducer is pretty erotic.

Mine have been more than willing to talk about other lovers because they knwo I get off on it.