Would you consider this a cuckhold kink? Maybe borderline.

[Stopokochac]

I never thought I'd be using that word to describe myself. I'm typically a very jealous and possessive person when I'm talking to someone, or have feelings for someone.

However, I've noticed a pattern where when I get rejected by a girl, I get really turned on by the thought of her being with another man.
If we're still talking and on good terms, I sort of feel angry/jealous, but kind of turned on at the same time. But if we're no longer talking, especially if we had a falling out, the anger and jealousy aspect sort of goes away.

Though I don't like the thought of her having an emotional bond, which I guess is more important to me, but from a sexual and physical standpoint, it turns me on and fascinates me to see what kind of man she chose over ME.

I feel a lot of it has to do with the fact that I just like seeing her turned on and what gets her off.

Again, it only has to be in a sexual context though.
Like the idea of them bonding and having emotional feelings/support, still drives me mad, but the idea of them having sex, turns me on, though I guess with some exceptions. I don't like anything too sensual, because then I feel emotion is involved.

Though often I like to imagine her partner with a dick that's either too small or too big

 

[lily_wall_]

I wouldn't say cuck. Because it needs you two to have a relation when she fucks other men.

Maybe you're "simping" or a special case of "voyeur"

 

[Stopokochac]

I wouldn't say cuck. Because it needs you two to have a relation when she fucks other men.

Maybe you're "simping"

That's why I said "borderline".
"Simping" Good God! That's even worse!

 

[Stopokochac]

I don't like to admit it, 'cuz it's so stigmatized, but it's true. I do simp.

 

[lily_wall_]

That's why I said "borderline".
"Simping" Good God! That's even worse!

A very particular case of "voyeur" ?

I don't like to admit it, 'cuz it's so stigmatized, but it's true. I do simp.

Stigmatized in general maybe but on Lit I hope. No kink shaming

 

[Stopokochac]

A very particular case of "voyeur" ?

Stigmatized in general maybe but on Lit I hope. No kink shaming

I can definitely agree with "voyeur".
Simping is more a psychological behavior though than a kink.

 

[Stopokochac]

Fuck! I just found out she was in love and really close with another man while we were already talking and I can't help but be extremely turned on.

 

[Phatfeet]

I wish I had more answers for you, but I do not think it is a form of cuckolding. I am not even sure it is a form of candualism, but I do understand it better than some might.

To me it sounds like you have been through some very dark times.

Everyone has had troubles in life for sure, but for some of us, we have had it especially hard. This tends to produce a fear within us that the rug is going to get pulled out from underneath us anytime things start going well. Because of that life-experience repeating itself, we tend to get anxious when things start going well, so to combat what we feel is going to be an earth-shattering downfall, we live in mediocracy.

That is, we keep ourselves from being overly excited about things, all to avoid what we feel will be an inevitable hard let down.

By doing that for so long, we crave this need for emotional extremes. It certainly can be found in sexual gratification (lots of masturbation, frequent unattached sex, or even kinky sex), but other extreme forms of emotion like jealousy or even anger can help us “feel” emotions we typically do not let ourselves experience. That can often mean morphing the two extremes like gratifying sex and jealous anger together. A lover in the throes of sex certainly would generate intense emotions.

We often think of the word “controlling” as having a negative connotation to it, but by living in mediocracy, that is just what we are trying to do; control our next big let-down by not allowing ourselves to have emotional highs or lows. I mean, there is no way we can control life's results, but if we limit how excited we are about positive events, we can therefore control what we perceive will be great loss soon, But it does not mean we do not crave it, nor get thrilled when intense emotions happens.

But I know this situation all too well and it’s a tough way to live. It affects relationships deeply which tends to cause even more abandonment, that causes even more emotional isolation.

Sadly, while I understand what brings this on, but don’t know how to spin out of it. Life-experience is a powerful motivator and it is really hard to fathom that maybe... finally... the worst is behind us and good things happening to us, is not going to lead to something really bad happening.

But this is in NO WAY shaming of you if this is something you struggle with. This may not be the case at all with you? If it is though, just take solace in knowing that someone else understands. Hugs to you if this is a struggle, or anyone reading this who struggles with this.

 

[magic_rat]

Who needs labels? If it gets you off, enjoy it.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

I never thought I'd be using that word to describe myself. I'm typically a very jealous and possessive person when I'm talking to someone, or have feelings for someone.

However, I've noticed a pattern where when I get rejected by a girl, I get really turned on by the thought of her being with another man.
If we're still talking and on good terms, I sort of feel angry/jealous, but kind of turned on at the same time. But if we're no longer talking, especially if we had a falling out, the anger and jealousy aspect sort of goes away.

Though I don't like the thought of her having an emotional bond, which I guess is more important to me, but from a sexual and physical standpoint, it turns me on and fascinates me to see what kind of man she chose over ME.

I feel a lot of it has to do with the fact that I just like seeing her turned on and what gets her off.

Again, it only has to be in a sexual context though.
Like the idea of them bonding and having emotional feelings/support, still drives me mad, but the idea of them having sex, turns me on, though I guess with some exceptions. I don't like anything too sensual, because then I feel emotion is involved.

Though often I like to imagine her partner with a dick that's either too small or too big

It’s a slippery yet exciting slope!

 

[liqueur]

I never thought I'd be using that word to describe myself. I'm typically a very jealous and possessive person when I'm talking to someone, or have feelings for someone.

However, I've noticed a pattern where when I get rejected by a girl, I get really turned on by the thought of her being with another man.
If we're still talking and on good terms, I sort of feel angry/jealous, but kind of turned on at the same time.

I would call that a fledgling form of cuckoldry. That's how it started for me. Two different girlfriends (one in high school, and one just after) abandoning me on a date to go fuck someone else.

 

[Escierto]

Simp, definitely. Cuck wannabe. First you need a relationship. Then you get cucked.

 

[muycurioso]

I wish I had more answers for you, but I do not think it is a form of cuckolding. I am not even sure it is a form of candualism, but I do understand it better than some might.

To me it sounds like you have been through some very dark times.

Everyone has had troubles in life for sure, but for some of us, we have had it especially hard. This tends to produce a fear within us that the rug is going to get pulled out from underneath us anytime things start going well. Because of that life-experience repeating itself, we tend to get anxious when things start going well, so to combat what we feel is going to be an earth-shattering downfall, we live in mediocracy.

That is, we keep ourselves from being overly excited about things, all to avoid what we feel will be an inevitable hard let down.

By doing that for so long, we crave this need for emotional extremes. It certainly can be found in sexual gratification (lots of masturbation, frequent unattached sex, or even kinky sex), but other extreme forms of emotion like jealousy or even anger can help us “feel” emotions we typically do not let ourselves experience. That can often mean morphing the two extremes like gratifying sex and jealous anger together. A lover in the throes of sex certainly would generate intense emotions.

We often think of the word “controlling” as having a negative connotation to it, but by living in mediocracy, that is just what we are trying to do; control our next big let-down by not allowing ourselves to have emotional highs or lows. I mean, there is no way we can control life's results, but if we limit how excited we are about positive events, we can therefore control what we perceive will be great loss soon, But it does not mean we do not crave it, nor get thrilled when intense emotions happens.

But I know this situation all too well and it’s a tough way to live. It affects relationships deeply which tends to cause even more abandonment, that causes even more emotional isolation.

Sadly, while I understand what brings this on, but don’t know how to spin out of it. Life-experience is a powerful motivator and it is really hard to fathom that maybe... finally... the worst is behind us and good things happening to us, is not going to lead to something really bad happening.

But this is in NO WAY shaming of you if this is something you struggle with. This may not be the case at all with you? If it is though, just take solace in knowing that someone else understands. Hugs to you if this is a struggle, or anyone reading this who struggles with this.

great post

 

[Kolejdayz]

I never thought I'd be using that word to describe myself. I'm typically a very jealous and possessive person when I'm talking to someone, or have feelings for someone.

However, I've noticed a pattern where when I get rejected by a girl, I get really turned on by the thought of her being with another man.
If we're still talking and on good terms, I sort of feel angry/jealous, but kind of turned on at the same time. But if we're no longer talking, especially if we had a falling out, the anger and jealousy aspect sort of goes away.

Though I don't like the thought of her having an emotional bond, which I guess is more important to me, but from a sexual and physical standpoint, it turns me on and fascinates me to see what kind of man she chose over ME.

I feel a lot of it has to do with the fact that I just like seeing her turned on and what gets her off.

Again, it only has to be in a sexual context though.
Like the idea of them bonding and having emotional feelings/support, still drives me mad, but the idea of them having sex, turns me on, though I guess with some exceptions. I don't like anything too sensual, because then I feel emotion is involved.

Though often I like to imagine her partner with a dick that's either too small or too big

I have had these feelings too about one girlfriend from a long time ago -- cuckish for sure but also a little different

 

[Stopokochac]

I jerked off multiple times last night reading her posts about him and imagining them