What exactly turns you on about your wife or girlfriend being with another man? Past or Present?

[wouldloveto]

It was definitely hotter than any imagination.

Bingo!

 

[EasyBrad59]

dreamy <3

It’s like your fantasies are the counterpart to mine.

 

[LeeKee]

Ive given up.

 

[cadman7777]

Well I love hearing about past sexual experiences from any woman really...my wife wouldn't share from a standpoint of it being a turn on to either one of us....she hasn't really shard much of anything

 

[MamaBitte]

Unless you are a part of a wife sharing situation, it's difficult to explain the sexual excitement that happens when you watch a wife dress up for a date with another man.

Unfortunately, I am not in such a situation. Nevertheless, I think I can imagine it. Which only makes my longing for it to happen even greater.

 

[Burstplayer]

For me its the sexual objectification of her. Not in a misogynistic way, but more of an affirmation of her hotness and desirability and seeing her relent to her desires. Haven't been able to share her yet, but when we role play it, it gets me off faster than anything. When she describes what her session was with her imaginary stranger, I go from 0-100 in 2 seconds. Knowing she's carnal and not just having sex with me for love and commitment is the best turn on for me.

 

[Sgts19]

Very hot experience. Would you say it was better in reality than you imagined?

As I mentioned above post, I watched an ex girlfriend finish a guy off with her hand and have said it probably was the mosy erotic voyeuristic thing I have witnessed live. It was definitely hotter than any imagination.

This reminded me of the time in college when I saw my ex GF getting fucked. Mixed feelings, hurt but major lust. Came everywhere seeing that. I think that's where my kink of voyeurism started

 

[Nellie60]

This reminded me of the time in college when I saw my ex GF getting fucked. Mixed feelings, hurt but major lust. Came everywhere seeing that. I think that's where my kink of voyeurism started

When you saw your ex get fucked was it arranged, consented or she had an affair?

In my case mentioned was arranged, still mixed emotions but voyeurism aspect hot.

However my first girlfriend I caught her. She had an affair.

 

[EasyBrad59]

This reminded me of the time in college when I saw my ex GF getting fucked. Mixed feelings, hurt but major lust. Came everywhere seeing that. I think that's where my kink of voyeurism started

My story is similar. My cuck kink began when my college girlfriend told me she cheated on me with some guy she met in Europe. I was so upset and full of jealousy. But, then, the image of her with him became my go to masturbation fantasy. It still makes me hard thinking about it, and I now think about myself either watching in person and/or participating by jerking or sucking his cock while she notes how much bigger he is.

 

[Jay142]

For my wife and me, part of the attraction to sharing her with my best friend was that it broke us out of a routine life of working and raising three kids. It was risky and naughty.

It was my idea to share her and my fantasy. I had to do a lot of convincing, but once she tried it, she liked it. I got her into exhibitionism first, and I loved seeing other men being sexually attracted to her. Their desire for her made her that much more sexually attractive to me. Other men wanted to fuck her, but she was mine.

Her exhibitionism led to her modeling lingerie for my best friend and me. That naturally led to her fucking him at my urging. It wasn't fair to keep teasing him without some sexual relief. It was like I was gifting him my wife for a night where we would both fuck her. I loved seeing her on her knees with his dick in her mouth or her spreading her legs or bending over offering him her pussy. It was like watching my own personal porn movie or live sex show. He also got to watch me fuck her. It was so exhilarating to have nights of pure sexual pleasure.

Unfortunately, he fell in love and got married. My wife and I didn't trust anyone else to keep our dirty little secret, and never found anyone else to take his place.

 

[SissySalina]

Knowing that She wakes up with a smile!

 

[Addam829]

My wife and I are polyamorous and I found that I have a massive hot wife fetish after we opened our marriage.

I think I just really like knowing that other men want my wife. Other than that, I don't really know why I find it so hot that she bangs other dudes. I just do.

I think sometimes you don’t have to have an answer. If you enjoy it then that’s all that should matter. Other husbands have told me the same thing before and after they watch.

 

[LeeKee]

I think sometimes you don’t have to have an answer. If you enjoy it then that’s all that should matter. Other husbands have told me the same thing before and after they watch.

As I got older, thought doesn't make me angry, it a turn on. As with alot of other things, "its complicated "

 

[Addam829]

For my wife and me, part of the attraction to sharing her with my best friend was that it broke us out of a routine life of working and raising three kids. It was risky and naughty.

It was my idea to share her and my fantasy. I had to do a lot of convincing, but once she tried it, she liked it. I got her into exhibitionism first, and I loved seeing other men being sexually attracted to her. Their desire for her made her that much more sexually attractive to me. Other men wanted to fuck her, but she was mine.

Her exhibitionism led to her modeling lingerie for my best friend and me. That naturally led to her fucking him at my urging. It wasn't fair to keep teasing him without some sexual relief. It was like I was gifting him my wife for a night where we would both fuck her. I loved seeing her on her knees with his dick in her mouth or her spreading her legs or bending over offering him her pussy. It was like watching my own personal porn movie or live sex show. He also got to watch me fuck her. It was so exhilarating to have nights of pure sexual pleasure.

Unfortunately, he fell in love and got married. My wife and I didn't trust anyone else to keep our dirty little secret, and never found anyone else to take his place.

I’m so sorry that yall have not found someone that yall trust yet. I hope yall will, it’s so satisfying where there is complete trust with everyone involved.

 

[zoso682001]

For my wife and me, part of the attraction to sharing her with my best friend was that it broke us out of a routine life of working and raising three kids. It was risky and naughty.

It was my idea to share her and my fantasy. I had to do a lot of convincing, but once she tried it, she liked it. I got her into exhibitionism first, and I loved seeing other men being sexually attracted to her. Their desire for her made her that much more sexually attractive to me. Other men wanted to fuck her, but she was mine.

Her exhibitionism led to her modeling lingerie for my best friend and me. That naturally led to her fucking him at my urging. It wasn't fair to keep teasing him without some sexual relief. It was like I was gifting him my wife for a night where we would both fuck her. I loved seeing her on her knees with his dick in her mouth or her spreading her legs or bending over offering him her pussy. It was like watching my own personal porn movie or live sex show. He also got to watch me fuck her. It was so exhilarating to have nights of pure sexual pleasure.

Unfortunately, he fell in love and got married. My wife and I didn't trust anyone else to keep our dirty little secret, and never found anyone else to take his place.

That has a familiar sound to it .

 

[vandelayatx]

Thinking about the noises and faces she might make with another man that she doesn't make with me

 

[Seeking4wife04]

When you saw your ex get fucked was it arranged, consented or she had an affair?

In my case mentioned was arranged, still mixed emotions but voyeurism aspect hot.

However my first girlfriend I caught her. She had an affair.

If it was a girlfriend ex-wife or current wife, I would demand that she fuck him in front of me

 

[zoso682001]

Getting to see her face and reactions when she's having a toe curling orgasm from a different perspective and / or angle .
The quivering , lip biting and leg shaking . Very Hot ! Her enjoyment is mine too .

 

[Nellie60]

Getting to see her face and reactions when she's having a toe curling orgasm from a different perspective and / or angle .
The quivering , lip biting and leg shaking . Very Hot ! Her enjoyment is mine too .

Most definitely seeing her facial expressions and reactions when another man is pleasing and enjoying her.

And most definitely seeing her facial expressions when she is pleasing him!

 

[PFWilly]

Specifically, the mental images I can call up of the wild night she had with our very good friend while I was sleeping. She eventually told me in exquisite detail about how they had fucked four times that night. She also lovingly told me about how much she enjoyed the fucking, but also the two times she had his big cock shooting off in her mouth. She only talked a little bit about him licking her cunt to orgasm a few times.

Since I’d also enjoyed his cock in my mouth on separate occasions, and had seen her pussy a few times too, it was easy to conjure up images…lol. The one scene I most frequently consider is the first time they fucked, her bent over the kitchen table as his long cock pushed in…all the way.

 

[UtilityCurve]

Knowing she's carnal and not just having sex with me for love and commitment is the best turn on for me.

You've hit on the nub of the gist if it for me.

Because they are known to tend to our egos, it is possible for men to discount the magnitude of pleasure our partners often proclaim as their genuine experience, or worse their desire for sex at all (Most guys would prefer not to examine this thesis closely, and I think rightly so.)

But if a woman, particularly a wife, transgresses social norms that particularly weigh on women (fidelity, monogamy) by having sex with (a) man/men not her committed partner, there's a strong presumption that she really, REALLY enjoys sex as such.

In this way, a hot or shared wife "proves" that when she says she enjoys sex with you, it is first and foremost the sex she enjoys. You are icing.

Husbands might ask themselves, given a choice between your wife's pleasure from having sex with you being 90% attributable to the physical sensations and actions and 10% because it is her lawfully-wedded spouse behind them, or 90% him and only 10% the actual contact.

The more a husband weighs in on the side of sex over identity, I think the more likely he enjoys hotwife/wife-sharing porn and erotica.

 

[Burstplayer]

You've hit on the nub of the gist if it for me.

Because they are known to tend to our egos, it is possible for men to discount the magnitude of pleasure our partners often proclaim as their genuine experience, or worse their desire for sex at all (Most guys would prefer not to examine this thesis closely, and I think rightly so.)

But if a woman, particularly a wife, transgresses social norms that particularly weigh on women (fidelity, monogamy) by having sex with (a) man/men not her committed partner, there's a strong presumption that she really, REALLY enjoys sex as such.

In this way, a hot or shared wife "proves" that when she says she enjoys sex with you, it is first and foremost the sex she enjoys. You are icing.

Husbands might ask themselves, given a choice between your wife's pleasure from having sex with you being 90% attributable to the physical sensations and actions and 10% because it is her lawfully-wedded spouse behind them, or 90% him and only 10% the actual contact.

The more a husband weighs in on the side of sex over identity, I think the more likely he enjoys hotwife/wife-sharing porn and erotica.

Excellent analysis...I've always had a hard time articulating this to my wife. I'd rather her be sexual in nature by herself with HER desires and needs on display. It's far more attractive to me. It's not needed to validate her attractiveness to men so much, I know that, but its to see her in her purest carnal needs, trying her best to satisfying them, makes her VERY hot.

 

[Nellie60]

Excellent analysis...I've always had a hard time articulating this to my wife. I'd rather her be sexual in nature by herself with HER desires and needs on display. It's far more attractive to me. It's not needed to validate her attractiveness to men so much, I know that, but its to see her in her purest carnal needs, trying her best to satisfying them, makes her VERY hot.

Seeing one ex girlfriend get overwhelmed with excitement when she gave a handjob to another man still etched in my mind. The facial expressions and her pleasure was all hers and his of course. Knowing she really was turned on is a big factor and not just pleasing me or him

 

[Islander55]

You've hit on the nub of the gist if it for me.

Because they are known to tend to our egos, it is possible for men to discount the magnitude of pleasure our partners often proclaim as their genuine experience, or worse their desire for sex at all (Most guys would prefer not to examine this thesis closely, and I think rightly so.)

But if a woman, particularly a wife, transgresses social norms that particularly weigh on women (fidelity, monogamy) by having sex with (a) man/men not her committed partner, there's a strong presumption that she really, REALLY enjoys sex as such.

In this way, a hot or shared wife "proves" that when she says she enjoys sex with you, it is first and foremost the sex she enjoys. You are icing.

Husbands might ask themselves, given a choice between your wife's pleasure from having sex with you being 90% attributable to the physical sensations and actions and 10% because it is her lawfully-wedded spouse behind them, or 90% him and only 10% the actual contact.

The more a husband weighs in on the side of sex over identity, I think the more likely he enjoys hotwife/wife-sharing porn and erotica.

The other issue is that many people enjoy some variety. It is not about being bigger or better, etc. but just someone different. Each man is a little bit different in how they feel or how they fuck.

 

[Burstplayer]

Seeing one ex girlfriend get overwhelmed with excitement when she gave a handjob to another man still etched in my mind. The facial expressions and her pleasure was all hers and his of course. Knowing she really was turned on is a big factor and not just pleasing me or him

I also think the inverse is true as well. Even very attractive women who show little to no interest in sex besides what is just expected of them in a relationship and never express desires, fantasies and show willingness to be attractive to other men, just don't make me want them at all. If that inner flame to sex is never developed or shown, it's a big turnoff.