What exactly turns you on about your wife or girlfriend being with another man? Past or Present?

My wife was raised in a very religious and conservative household. Her and her 2 sisters are extremely beautiful with amazing bodies. So much so that (even though she was conservative) she modeled and competed in bikini competitions (36D-24-36).
https://ibb.co/V06Yj9ZJ
(Wife in black, her sister in blue)

She was not a slut and was raised to believe that sex was only for those who were in a committed relationship and who she truly loved.

She dated her first boyfriend at 13 and waited 2-1/2 years before finally losing her virginity to him. They only split up because her family moved away.

She met her next boyfriend at 16. He was her best friend’s brother and she waited a year before having sex. They split shortly after that because after he became abusive after fucking her the first time. She told me that he was extremely huge and she was usually very sore afterwards. In her later years she would say that she could never fuck a guy with a huge cock because of that.

She met her next boyfriend and moved in with him a year later, before having sex. Soon after, I met her through another of her friends and we were only friends (although I was dying to fuck her).

When her boyfriend began dealing cocaine, she moved out. We began dating and it took a little time before she had sec with me.

As you can see, she wasn’t a slut or a sex addict. She enjoyed sex, but it had to be with someone she cared for. I, on the other hand, was always turned on by stories of men sharing their partners.

I tried to get her to flash guys, but she wouldn’t. I would bring up other men during sex and at first she didn’t want to hear it. Eventually, she warmed to the talk because she knew that it turned me on and our sex was much better after fantasy & role playing talk and even began teasing me with the possibility of actually fucking another guy.

Afterwards, she would say “no way” and that she just went along with the sex talk because I got off on it. I tried to get her to go for it, but she was very reluctant to sleep with another man, even after many years of me asking.

Finally, after 15 years of asking and convincing her that I wanted her to, a couple things had happened in her life to at least convince her to meet another guy, provided that I was there. She insisted that she would only meet and see if there was an actual attraction or if she could even “fool around”, but said that she would definitely not fuck him.

We met a guy through Adult Friend Finder and it went well, but no sex. After returning home, we had great sex and I asked her if she was ready to fuck him. She said no, but was willing to meet again for drinks. We met him again and when she went to the restroom, he met up with her in the foyer and they kissed. She felt wrong and returned to me.

Back at home she disclosed what happened and the kiss. I convinced her that I wanted that to happen and had hoped even more would.

Eventually, she had sex with him. He fucked her multiple times that night. A month later she agreed to one more meeting and they fucked some more. Afterwards, she said “no more” and went back to being a conservative, married, mom.

https://ibb.co/MPj028M
(What she wore that night)

Our sex life had died down some years later and she would tell me that she misses sex and she needs to get fucked. I told her to get a fuck buddy, but she told me “no!” After we completely stopped having sex I tried to convince her to find someone to fulfill her sexual needs, but she said “no.”

I think with me telling her that I wanted her to and her need for sex, she probably has had a few lovers, but she’ll never admit it to me. (Although I wish she would).

I wrote about our experiences here on Lit:

https://www.literotica.com/series/se/my-lifestyle-experiences

Chapters 1-6 are completely factual.
 
For me is watching her be head over heels for another man. Watching her be cock hungry for one specific man that just gets her going. Her going out of her way to seduce him and get her fixing. Naked photos , videos, dressing provocative for him, lingerie etc. whatever she can. She has a very determined personality so she will try to obtain what she wants through whatever means.
I like when my wife is attracted to another man. If she allows him to pleasure her, that’s great. But I don’t really like her falling head over heels for him or having him dominate her.

The thrill of watching her get excited from another man is the best.
 
I like when my wife is attracted to another man. If she allows him to pleasure her, that’s great. But I don’t really like her falling head over heels for him or having him dominate her.

The thrill of watching her get excited from another man is the best.
Correct what you say! I love watching her being excited when she works on him as well.
 
If I'm honest about it, my main motivation is that I love watching live sex, as opposed to videos. My wife is one of the few women I know that will let me watch her being fucked, and everything else that goes with it, without making a complaint to the police. She also lets me participate if I want in a way that is far superior to wanking to videos. Simple as that really.
Best way I’ve heard it explained that would make me want to do this for a man !
 
Best way I’ve heard it explained that would make me want to do this for a man !
I use to have phone sex with a woman from here that felt that way....I mean it was her fantasy to have two men......And mine was always to see a woman well pleased that way.....I did the main share of talking(because I always came up with sexy fantasies) but she loved how excited I got talking about it....
 
For me is watching her be head over heels for another man. Watching her be cock hungry for one specific man that just gets her going. Her going out of her way to seduce him and get her fixing. Naked photos , videos, dressing provocative for him, lingerie etc. whatever she can. She has a very determined personality so she will try to obtain what she wants through whatever means.
Watching her primp and prepare, for hours on end, as she gets ready for a sex date with her former B/F leaves me like a bowl of jelly, all quivering inside. With excitement that is.
 
I just enjoy her feeling sexy and confident. And when she enjoys that with another man and me she’s the total object of sexual pleasure
 
From a woman point of view!
It started with my husband wanting to know details of my past boyfriends then on to lovers. Seeing him se o turned on effected me as I related some things I never thought I would share. The more we enjoy sharing and seeing him damn near cry in orgasm the more I want to please him ....We moved on to friends and flirtatious moves his friend made on me. AND I started returning sexual comments in from of David. On my birthday, after a party I ended up the center of David and his two friend helping clean up, Huge and Kisses, Then daring me to let them removed my top and shorts...

I looked at David and said Honey this just might be a point of not turning back....he responded let me go fix us all fresh drinks. The sexual GO light was light and I was in my bra and panties kissing his best two married friends.


I loved it and it sparked a whole now world of sexual excitement for both of us
 
From a woman point of view!
It started with my husband wanting to know details of my past boyfriends then on to lovers. Seeing him se o turned on effected me as I related some things I never thought I would share. The more we enjoy sharing and seeing him damn near cry in orgasm the more I want to please him ....We moved on to friends and flirtatious moves his friend made on me. AND I started returning sexual comments in from of David. On my birthday, after a party I ended up the center of David and his two friend helping clean up, Huge and Kisses, Then daring me to let them removed my top and shorts...

I looked at David and said Honey this just might be a point of not turning back....he responded let me go fix us all fresh drinks. The sexual GO light was light and I was in my bra and panties kissing his best two married friends.


I loved it and it sparked a whole now world of sexual excitement for both of us
That sounds amazing. More wives should listen to their husbands, and watch them for clues as to whether this is something they truly want. Then again, it must be undertaken with an abundance of caution. Good for you, and your hubby.
 
My wife has told me about her past experiences. For me, my wife is my favorite porn star and I love when I make her slut self come out. Particularly because she had (and still does on occasion) have shy tendencies.
So hearing about how she was used by others is another way of my getting to experience her being her slut self. And after the first time she told me about past things she's done and seeing how hard I got at it, she started becoming proud of what she calls her hoe phase.
 
Many, many years ago it was the thought of my gf taking big cocks, she talked about it a lot...

Then, when it finally happened with me there, watching that big, veiny, black cock push past her lips...
{both sets of lips, as the picture just came into my head}

To see her wet cunt stretch to take his girth, then the sound of it, and her, as he pushed his considerable length deeper into her.

While I had anticipated this scene for quite some time I had no idea how I would react when it became a reality.

To see her writhe in pleasure, hear her familiar moans and whines, and see that it was him and not me doing this to her, I got very hard and started leaking pre-cum as soon as I touched myself.

When they came, so did I. I was quite the exprience.
 
Many, many years ago it was the thought of my gf taking big cocks, she talked about it a lot...

Then, when it finally happened with me there, watching that big, veiny, black cock push past her lips...
{both sets of lips, as the picture just came into my head}

To see her wet cunt stretch to take his girth, then the sound of it, and her, as he pushed his considerable length deeper into her.

While I had anticipated this scene for quite some time I had no idea how I would react when it became a reality.

To see her writhe in pleasure, hear her familiar moans and whines, and see that it was him and not me doing this to her, I got very hard and started leaking pre-cum as soon as I touched myself.

When they came, so did I. I was quite the exprience.
Very hot experience. Would you say it was better in reality than you imagined?

As I mentioned above post, I watched an ex girlfriend finish a guy off with her hand and have said it probably was the mosy erotic voyeuristic thing I have witnessed live. It was definitely hotter than any imagination.
 
Well I love hearing about past sexual experiences from any woman really...my wife wouldn't share from a standpoint of it being a turn on to either one of us....she hasn't really shard much of anything
 
Unless you are a part of a wife sharing situation, it's difficult to explain the sexual excitement that happens when you watch a wife dress up for a date with another man.
Unfortunately, I am not in such a situation. Nevertheless, I think I can imagine it. Which only makes my longing for it to happen even greater.
 
For me its the sexual objectification of her. Not in a misogynistic way, but more of an affirmation of her hotness and desirability and seeing her relent to her desires. Haven't been able to share her yet, but when we role play it, it gets me off faster than anything. When she describes what her session was with her imaginary stranger, I go from 0-100 in 2 seconds. Knowing she's carnal and not just having sex with me for love and commitment is the best turn on for me.
 
Very hot experience. Would you say it was better in reality than you imagined?

As I mentioned above post, I watched an ex girlfriend finish a guy off with her hand and have said it probably was the mosy erotic voyeuristic thing I have witnessed live. It was definitely hotter than any imagination.
This reminded me of the time in college when I saw my ex GF getting fucked. Mixed feelings, hurt but major lust. Came everywhere seeing that. I think that's where my kink of voyeurism started
 
This reminded me of the time in college when I saw my ex GF getting fucked. Mixed feelings, hurt but major lust. Came everywhere seeing that. I think that's where my kink of voyeurism started
When you saw your ex get fucked was it arranged, consented or she had an affair?

In my case mentioned was arranged, still mixed emotions but voyeurism aspect hot.

However my first girlfriend I caught her. She had an affair.
 
This reminded me of the time in college when I saw my ex GF getting fucked. Mixed feelings, hurt but major lust. Came everywhere seeing that. I think that's where my kink of voyeurism started
My story is similar. My cuck kink began when my college girlfriend told me she cheated on me with some guy she met in Europe. I was so upset and full of jealousy. But, then, the image of her with him became my go to masturbation fantasy. It still makes me hard thinking about it, and I now think about myself either watching in person and/or participating by jerking or sucking his cock while she notes how much bigger he is.
 
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