The delicious complexity of wife-sharing relationships

[Iwatchedher]

Can I seek opinions and responses to my evolving view of sharing my wife?

The more I reminisce about the times I relished sharing the woman who was first my girlfriend and then my wife with other men, and the more I fantasise about such things, the clearer it becomes to me that the incredibly intense experience, both emotionally and sexually, is partly driven by the complexity of the dynamic between me and both the other people involved - both my wife and the man who on any particular occasion was fucking her. I used to think that it was really all about my wife - a celebration of sexuality.

I felt that that my pleasure in knowing that she was giving herself to another man, or hearing from her about what he had done with her, or better still watching her, which I did just a few times, was driven by the delight and, yes, pride I took in the power of her sexual urges. I didn't really think much about the men who fucked her - they were just the instruments, so to speak, of her lust.

But looking back on those experiences I realise that this was only part of the delight. Now, looking back, I think as much or more about the men involved, about their experience of sexual pleasure wth my wife. I relish their excitement as they realised that she was available to them, that she wanted their cocks in her pussy, that her body was theirs to enjoy, and I love to reflect on their sensations as they caressed her body, fingered her pussy, felt her vagina enclose their cocks, experienced her quivering with pleasure as she felt their cocks move inside her, and their feeling of triumphant possession as they pumped their semen deep inside her...I feel all this very vividly, and in a sense I feel that in fucking her, my wife, they were fucking me...by 'lending' them my wife I was giving them the pleasure they enjoyed wth her...[though this is wrong because of course her body was not mine to 'lend', the choices she mad were always entirely hers, but sex knows no logic]. And I get excited and aroused by the thought of 'giving' these men this pleasure ... and an intimacy with them... and thse I have now, late in life discovered my bi side, hitherto quite deeply hidden.

Does this make any sense or ring any bells with anyone?

 

[pixie07]

Can I seek opinions and responses to my evolving view of sharing my wife?

The more I reminisce about the times I relished sharing the woman who was first my girlfriend and then my wife with other men, and the more I fantasise about such things, the clearer it becomes to me that the incredibly intense experience, both emotionally and sexually, is partly driven by the complexity of the dynamic between me and both the other people involved - both my wife and the man who on any particular occasion was fucking her. I used to think that it was really all about my wife - a celebration of sexuality.

I felt that that my pleasure in knowing that she was giving herself to another man, or hearing from her about what he had done with her, or better still watching her, which I did just a few times, was driven by the delight and, yes, pride I took in the power of her sexual urges. I didn't really think much about the men who fucked her - they were just the instruments, so to speak, of her lust.

But looking back on those experiences I realise that this was only part of the delight. Now, looking back, I think as much or more about the men involved, about their experience of sexual pleasure wth my wife. I relish their excitement as they realised that she was available to them, that she wanted their cocks in her pussy, that her body was theirs to enjoy, and I love to reflect on their sensations as they caressed her body, fingered her pussy, felt her vagina enclose their cocks, experienced her quivering with pleasure as she felt their cocks move inside her, and their feeling of triumphant possession as they pumped their semen deep inside her...I feel all this very vividly, and in a sense I feel that in fucking her, my wife, they were fucking me...by 'lending' them my wife I was giving them the pleasure they enjoyed wth her...[though this is wrong because of course her body was not mine to 'lend', the choices she mad were always entirely hers, but sex knows no logic]. And I get excited and aroused by the thought of 'giving' these men this pleasure ... and an intimacy with them... and thse I have now, late in life discovered my bi side, hitherto quite deeply hidden.

Does this make any sense or ring any bells with anyone?

I definitely feel an intimacy with the men my wife is with . Especially with my wife’s current main boyfriend . There relationship has evolved to now sometimes I’m allowed to get him ready for his time with my wife and those are some of my favorite moments .

 

[Iwatchedher]

Thanks Pixie - yes I can really appreciate how helping to prepare your wife’s lover for his time with her would add an incredibly vivid dimension to your feelings of intimacy with him. I never had that pleasure!

 

[bumpinthenight2022]

You're further along than me but it's reasonable that you're evolving. When I fantasize about it, it's about her being a tool for another man's pleasure. A slut. And her being turned on by my excitement of her being as slutty as possible. And maybe strangely, being as casual as possible about it. I'd love to be hanging out with a friendly couple and she takes the guy to the bathroom to get fucked, and comes back and continued the conversation like normal.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Well stated. Cheers

 

[Iwatchedher]

You're further along than me but it's reasonable that you're evolving. When I fantasize about it, it's about her being a tool for another man's pleasure. A slut. And her being turned on by my excitement of her being as slutty as possible. And maybe strangely, being as casual as possible about it. I'd love to be hanging out with a friendly couple and she takes the guy to the bathroom to get fucked, and comes back and continued the conversation like normal.

Thanks Bumpinthenight! Your comment rings a couple of bells for me.

The first is the idea of my wife being, as you wrote, 'a tool for another man's pleasure'. In reminiscing about what my wife did do with other men, and fantasising about what she might have done, I love to focus on the fact that for her [as she often told me] what she really loved was not the pleasure she herself got from a guy fucking her, but the feeling that she, her body, was being used by the man selfishly for his own pleasure. Of course she did love the sensations she experienced herself - his body on hers, his cock inside her pussy, him quivering and grunting as he came deep within her - but she very seldom reached an orgasm from casual sex, and she said that for her the real turn on was that sensation of being used by a man for his pleasure and as a receptacle for his semen. And I've always found hat a real turn on.

The second bell that your comment rings for me, and its related to what i've just being saying, is where you wrote about her 'being as casual as possible about it'. Yes, that right! It is no big deal...she meets a guy, they get chatting [or dancing] and she feels the thing click so they go off and he fucks her, and then she comes back and tells me what she has done as if it was no more than slipping outside to enjoy a smoke together. I would not myself call that 'slutty' because to me that imples some negative judgement about her - but it certainly is the behaviour that people call slutty!

All of which just goes to show how many strands there are to the complex, surprising, counter-intuitive and yes, perhaps mildly perverted delight one can feel when your wife is fucked by another man!