What do you want from life?

[Sir_Winston54]

I don't know - I don't think most of us would really like to be really, really rich - Bill Gates rich. You lose so much privacy.

But -- what are the things that would make you as an individual happy? What would it take for you to wake with a smile on your lips, looking forward to the day, and drift to sleep satisfied with your life?

 

[DustyWolfe]

I don't know - I don't think most of us would really like to be really, really rich - Bill Gates rich. You lose so much privacy.

But -- what are the things that would make you as an individual happy? What would it take for you to wake with a smile on your lips, looking forward to the day, and drift to sleep satisfied with your life?

I think to be in a stable relationship, own a home and be financially secure enough to not be in debt would make me happy. I would like to have a kid someday and of course dogs... Yep... that would be what I want from life. Pretty simple huh? I wish

 

[graceanne]

Re: Re: What do you want from life?

I think to be in a stable relationship, own a home and be financially secure enough to not be in debt would make me happy.

Ditto. I also want to be a good mom.

 

[incubus'_sub]

You may be surprised to find that stability, owning your own home and having no debt, whilst being easier than the struggle to achieve it, is not that satisfying in itself.

We are contrary creatures and usually always desire more than we have, either financially, emotionally or sexually.

I think that this is a normal thing and without it we would become less able to continue living (as opposed to existing) and exploring other interests & possibilities. This is not to be confused with the I can't be happy until I have XYZ syndrome, but still I feel it's healthy to continue to want & desire. The trick is to be satisfied with what you already have, but never to give up the will to go further.

 

[InnerDarkness]

I still want the debt free life whether it is satisfying or not HA!

but yeah...a nice home, paid for car, to know what the hell I am doing and to be okay with that...

to be satisfied with my relationships on all levels.

to be satisfied with ME....
that one is hard.

 

[A Desert Rose]

I want my children to become happy, healthy, successful adults.

Other stuff can fall into place for me or not.

 

[Netzach]

I want to die without shitloads of money left over to leave to no one having enjoyed my small fortunes to their fullest potential...and what's left leave to the war orphans.

I want to have something to be curious about every day.

I want a string of failure and disappointment and regret that signified I at least got out of the house and my comfort zone and cut loose once in a while.

I want my memoirs to be a good read.

 

[bluntforcemama]

I want as much as life is willing to let me take.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Froid said it: Love and Work.

 

[Kajira Callista]

I want my children to grow up happy and healthy both physically and emotionally, thats my number one.
Number two would be to find the person who fits right and to remember what it is like to be accepted for who/what i am.

 

[Scarlett_t2]

Happiness for my children.....and inner peace.
Scarlett

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I guess ...

... it's time I put my own $.02 in, since I started the thread, but I wanted to see what some of you would say.

For myself:
A place to live - not necessarily a house, and definitely not anything fancy or overly large. Just a comfortable place to be, either by myself or with my partner and/or with friends.
Financial comfort - which to me means just enough money to pay the necessary bills, do the things I really want to do, and put a little aside in case some one of those I care about might need a helping hand once in a while.
A partner - someone with whom I could share the comfort of my home and my life; someone with whom I could laugh and play; someone who cared about my wants and needs, as I cared about hers.

Of these, which is most important? The last.

For my friends (and I count a number of those on this board in that category, even if we have never chatted or met or corresponded):
Peace - peace in their hearts and minds that what they most dearly want and need has come true, is coming true, will come true.

 

[FungiUg]

I've achieved almost all of the "things" I wanted from life. A home of my own, with a partner I love. A family. A career I enjoy. The various material possessions that make life pleasant.

So my life has become a journey of discovery from here. I want to do more travel, spend more time with people, discovering the people, art, culture, wine, food and so on.

I'd also eventually like to add a third person to our relationship, namely a submissive or slave that we can own and share. This will have to wait until the two boys have grown and gone on to their own things. But it's definately a possibility.

I'd also like to live and work in Europe, and do a tour of the US and of Canada. But that's all in line with the travel theme.

In the mean time, I will enjoy the people I meet, and who I share my life with in whatever fashion. I have a great bunch of friends, and family who I love when I get to catch up with them.

All in all, my life has been a journey from hell to heaven, and I love it to bits. Happiness is a state of mind, not a place, and it's nor permanent. The journey of life is up and down. But I've managed to reach a part of my life where I am happy most of the time. And that, to me, is the most significant achievement.

 

[Technodivinitas]

The Zen side of me says: To get where I'm going.
The way-too experienced side of me says:

To be financially secure enough to afford to see a doctor when I'm sick, a dentist to keep my teeth lovely, a massage therapist when I've strained a muscle. I'd like to get to a point where I just don't have to worry about finances so much. (And anyone who thinks that money can't buy happiness has never been incredibly poor...)

A home that I can come back to- but don't have to. (I love travelling!)

Spiritually? I'm pretty much all good. My world focuses around Bliss, and in studying and perpetually bettering myself, my art, my music, and my flesh. How much better could it get?

 

[Sidney_1]

I don't know - I don't think most of us would really like to be really, really rich - Bill Gates rich. You lose so much privacy.

But -- what are the things that would make you as an individual happy? What would it take for you to wake with a smile on your lips, looking forward to the day, and drift to sleep satisfied with your life?

This is such a good question, and so private and personal for me, that I'm going to write about it in my journal. But generally, I want to develop my interests and skills in certain areas, and spend my time doing what I love and seeing an improvement over time. Remain curious about people and stories. Create beauty daily. Cook and eat with others. Take trips. Achieve some minor personal goals. Feel more grounded. Feel healthy. Not worry about my financial future. Oh, and live closer to my friends, see family more often, and find love.

I'm not sure if I'm capable of dreaming, or feeling like I'll achieve all my dreams, so these are sort of "small" dreams.

I'm open for suggestions about how to dream bigger. I don't want to dream impossible dreams.

 

[graceanne]

I don't know - I don't think most of us would really like to be really, really rich - Bill Gates rich. You lose so much privacy.

I do not want to be Bill Gates rich. I'd like to be comfortable, but first off the Bible says 'easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God'. Something about rich makes people really concerned with 'stuff' and protecting what's 'mine', and I don't want to be like that. Beyond that, I've noticed that generations of wealth seems to make ... not very bright and lazy. I'd rather my children (and grandchildren and great grandchildren) be survivors than hot house plants that would wilt in the real world.

That said, I wouldn't mind being comfortable. I wouldn't mind having enough money to be able to do my grocery shopping at Safeway instead of Winco's. I'd like to pay my electric bill monthly instead of when we get excess funds from the college. I would like to never have to get a food basket again or sit in another welfare line. These would ... well they might not make me happy, but they'd go a long way toward helping.

Honestly, I'm a content person. I'm happy with my life, otherwise. And we're doing what we can to take care of all those issues, by both of us going to college. *shrugs*

 

[chy_girl]

I want to be wanted and valued for who I am as a person as well what I can contribute to anything from a conversation to society.

I want a comfortable home that is infused with the essence of my me-ness.

I want a pile of fresh canvases and a pallet full of paint - with a side of good music and hot tea.

I want my world to have more love, respect and honor than distrust, lies and betrayal.

I want to never lose sight of the million little joys the we often miss as we go through our days as well as the tears of growth and happiness and sorrow.

I want to be me in all my imperfect glory, with all of my quirks and kinks, and still have people who are willing to stand up and say "I'm glad you're in my life - even when you are a neurotic, obsessive, pain in the ass."

I want to have faith that there is a reason for my life's path. That I'm not just trudging through the various terrains of life, experiencing the blinding heat, the immobilizing cold and the mind-numbing fogs, simply for the Universe's amusement. I want faith that I have a bigger purpose - even a small importance to someone, somewhere - other than a carbon footprint.

I want to be ok in my own skin and in my own brain.

I want to never lose the belief that even if I don't end up where I wanted to go, I did end up in the places I needed to be.



I'd also like a daily nap time, but that might be pushing the envelope a little.

 

[graceanne]

I'd also like a daily nap time, but that might be pushing the envelope a little.

Ha! Hahahaha! Why not ask for the moon in a cute, little glass jar, too?

*snort*

Daily nap time. hehehe

 

[chy_girl]

Ha! Hahahaha! Why not ask for the moon in a cute, little glass jar, too?

*snort*

Daily nap time. hehehe

Silly gracie! I got one of those the *last* time I asked for daily nap time.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

This is something I've been seriously considering lately.

 

[chy_girl]

This is something I've been seriously considering lately.

Having daily naps or being given the moon in a pretty jar as a boobie prize?


It's a good topic. And one that seems to be applying to more and more people as of late.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Having daily naps or being given the moon in a pretty jar as a boobie prize?


It's a good topic. And one that seems to be applying to more and more people as of late.

Daily naps, of course

But yeah, as life progresses, and not the way you thought it would when you were younger, you start to wonder, what it is you want, what is is you think you want, what might not be absolutely necessary to your happiness.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

...............

 

[Keroin]

Everything.

I am greedy and lustful when it comes to life. I want to go everywhere, do everything, meet everyone, etc, etc. I want to pounce on life and rip its guts out.

 

[Cattypuss]

Physical health (check, pretty much)

Mental health (I'll beat this recurrent clinical depression if it's the last thing I do!)

Someone I love to cuddle (check!)

A dog (check!)

Enough money to live in physical comfort, debt-free (check!)

A job that positively interests me (that would mean a career change, which I have been considering of late)