What do you secretly think of females who have...

[p_p_man]

multiple marriages.

We've all read that Joan Collins has done it again and we all know about Elizabeth Taylor.

But what do we secretly think of women in general who go that route?

stupid?
sex starved?
whores?
nymphomaniacs?
frustrated?
attention seekers?
lonely?
scared?

or what?

 

[Guest]

 

[Cheyenne]

If all the husbands die, I think she is a black widow.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Optimistic or insane. One or the other.

 

[LadyDarkFire]

I have an aunt who is currently engaged to her 8th fiance, hoping to make him her fith husband. I don't think of her any differently for this, she is my aunt, she is my family, I love her to an extent, but she still has her problems with me, and I with her. The fact that she has chosen to love that many men makes no difference to me. It's really none of my buisness, so that is my answer to your question, I feel it is none of my buisness.

I would like to turn the question to you, though p_p_man, and ask you what you think of men who do the same?

 

[p_p_man]

I would like to turn the question to you, though p_p_man, and ask you what you think of men who do the same?

I reckoned someone would ask that.

Why not start a thread yourself...

I promise I'll post to it.

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Because I don't think it deserves its own thread, frankly. I don't like people being judged on choices that are not the buisness of others. Love and life come in different forms, I'm not going to judge anyone on how many times they've tied the knot.

 

[Quisath]

I'm in agreeance with Lady. Maybe (and not meaning to sound so Cliche') "Variety is the Spice of Life".

 

[Cheyenne]

I thought about this one a little more. I think it depends on the reason for so many divorces. If she marries them and divorces them just to get their money and move on, that would leave a bad impression. If she marries them and they all divorce HER, then I'd go with the optimism slant. She's still hunting for Prince Charming. If they die, like I said above, I'd guess black widow.

I don't know anyone married that many times. But I do know a woman with 7 kids (I think.) Two have the same father, the rest each have different dads. She doesn't marry (only once.) This woman manages child payments as a career. Wouldn't you think any sane man would run the other way when they hear her history? Nope, she just keeps getting pregnant over and over. A single mom with 7 kids must prove that she is insane.

 

[Juspar Emvan]

Marriage is special. I'm thinking if you're constantly 'trading in on a newer model' it's a bad thing. If you give it all you've got, and it fails. You move on and possibly fall in love again, get married again - good for you. But 8 times? When it gets around there, I find a lack of respect for the sanctity of marriage - at least as I see it.

 

[Mellon Collie]

My mother is on her third marriage. They've all been very nice men, one is my father, one adopted me and the other is my current step father. Maybe her multiple marriages have contributed to my reluctance to marry, I don't know. But how can you get up and say those words over and over again? I'm sure she meant it every time but I just don't get it

Amen.

My mom has been through quite a few men and she doesn't date - she marries and I've found that I think of marriage as a joke. Not some vow of love and commitment but people keeping divorce lawyers in the style of living which they've grown accustomed too.

But all that will probably change as soon as I get married (if ever) myself.

 

[lilminx]

I'm going to act as if you asked this about women AND men on multiple marriages...

because only asking or answering the original one is sexist.

Both of my parents are on their third marriage, and although some people gasp in horror when I tell them that, it doesn't bother me.

My mom's first marriage was out of convenience (she had gotten pregnant and needed someone to marry- he was a childhood friend and offered). He was an alcoholic, and she left him. Her second marriage was to my father and things weren't working out (still not really sure why- I think he wanted to swing, and she didn't), so they got a divorce. Her third marriage has been her longest and happiest marriage.

My dad's first marriage occurred when both he and his wife were 15- way too young, imo. Second marriage, to my mom. Third marriage to his current wife, and this has also been his longest and happiest marriage.

Although it sounds crazy, I am pretty well-adjusted. i have grown up living with my stepdad for almost my entire life; my mom is still very good friends with her first husband, who is like a father to me. Things on my dad's side weren't so good, but he did to me what he did to my older halfsisters once he got remarried- he didn't treat me very well, and I felt that my stepsister kind of "replaced" me. That's his on fault, though.

So based on the above, they both got married too young, immaturely and for the wrong reasons. Why stay in it when it's not working? When they were older, more mature, and able to make wiser decisions, they found people who they are both more compaitble with.

Why would you judge someone for that?

 

[Jimi]

multiple marriages.

We've all read that Joan Collins has done it again and we all know about Elizabeth Taylor.

But what do we secretly think of women in general who go that route?

stupid?
sex starved?
whores?
nymphomaniacs?
frustrated?
attention seekers?
lonely?
scared?

or what?

Insecure & self-loathing, in the end?

You'd think people could get it "right" by the third try... In my mind, three marriages is sad, but understandable - more... What's the point?

Those of us who go through the many ups and downs of ONE longterm relationship have enough to learn about the other person... much less 5 or 6 people...

Mind you, after 23 years, I still have a lot to learn...

 

[p_p_man]

Re: Re: What do you secretly think of females who have...

You'd think people could get it "right" by the third try... In my mind, three marriages is sad, but understandable - more... What's the point?

Those of us who go through the many ups and downs of ONE longterm relationship have enough to learn about the other person... much less 5 or 6 people...

Mind you, after 23 years, I still have a lot to learn...

I don't think you've got a lot to learn at all on this one. As lilminx thinks it's sexist not to mention men, a thought I find sexist in the first place, I'll add to my own thread.

I'm 3 times married and seem to have followed the regular pattern. First time too young, second time too rushed and third time a solid relationship.

There won't be any more because I'd just have to accept the fact that I'm not the marrying kind, and it would be plain stupid to keep on trying...

 

[ksmybuttons]

In the generation of Joan Collins and Elizabeth Taylor, our culture pressured them to marry. Our culture has deigned that in order to be truly accepted as a couple, and to have children, you have to be married. I have a friend whose father is on his eighth. He just hasn't figured out that you don't have to marry to have good, legitimate sex.

I have friends that have never married and have been together for years. One set has four grown children. They are still together. Another set are getting married for the first time, they are over 50. They are doing it for pragmatic reasons: health insurance, taxes, inheritance and health care decision making. They have been together for years, but our society won't acknowledge their relationship, and give them the rights of a relationship, without the legal piece of paper that says they are married and can then have the societal benefits given to that institution.

I didn't marry until I was 33. If for some reason it should end, I would not choose to marry again.

 

[kotori]

Most likely both

Optimistic or insane. One or the other.

but really,

In the generation of Joan Collins and Elizabeth Taylor, our culture pressured them to marry. Our culture has deigned that in order to be truly accepted as a couple, and to have children, you have to be married.

It's a socio-legal issue. If Elizaberth Taylor had "just lived" with Nicky Hilton when she was 18, her film career would have been over quicker than you can say "Hayes Commission." What else was a girl to do in that generation if she wanted a fuck? Marry him.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Svedish_Chef]

But all that will probably change as soon as I get married (if ever) myself.

It will happen eventually, I'm sure.

Some guy will get lucky enough

 

[crysede]

Hello! Couldn't resist popping in to share some wisdom from ‘Picture of Dorian Gray' on this subject: though I must admit that I've never been married, so I have no idea whether Wilde's got it right or not.

When a woman marries again it is because she detested her first husband. When a man marries again it is because he adored his first wife. Women try their luck; men risk theirs.

 

[LukkyKnight]

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