What do you like about BBWs?

[Pandora73]

I love reading threads like this, but as a BBW I also have to wonder where the hell you men have been all my life!

That continues to be an oddity to me about this board. There seem to be so many men who profess to love curvy women (or whatever term you prefer), but I certainly can't find many in real life! (well, available ones anyway!) What gives?!

At any rate, a heartfelt thank you to you guys who do appreciate women for what they are and aren't hung up entirely on the narrow societal standards of beauty.

 

[GoldunAngel]

Your welcome. Where you been?

*sighs* I've been busy....not much time to play....I'm here every now and again....

 

[crowfiend11]

*sighs* I've been busy....not much time to play....I'm here every now and again....

Hello Angel,
If you are not too busy and can't find a play parnter, I'll be glad to help you out!!!

 

[craig30]

I love reading threads like this, but as a BBW I also have to wonder where the hell you men have been all my life!

That continues to be an oddity to me about this board. There seem to be so many men who profess to love curvy women (or whatever term you prefer), but I certainly can't find many in real life! (well, available ones anyway!) What gives?!

At any rate, a heartfelt thank you to you guys who do appreciate women for what they are and aren't hung up entirely on the narrow societal standards of beauty.

Hey there. I am available where in the south are you?

 

[craig30]

*sighs* I've been busy....not much time to play....I'm here every now and again....

Well I still would like to get a chance to talk to you. As you can see from reading this thread its hard to meet local people.

 

[webman252]

*sighs* I've been busy....not much time to play....I'm here every now and again....

Florida would be a wonderful diversion from this ungodly cold blast. But I am sure a hot Florida woman would melt the snow and ice up here.

 

[JiggilyJoe]

Hello all, New to Lit, but I had to post on this thread. There are so many beautiful full figured women out there. What really gets me is how many of them dont realize just how beautiful and sexy they really are!

 

[stilts30]

I like em

 

[Fantazmaster]

How about another idea on getting rid of BBW,in favor of another term to describe you lovely ladies.My suggestion is to simply drop the first "B" and make the term "BW" for Beautiful Woman.

 

[CreekPrincess]

For the zaftig ladies out there in this thread, I'll relate an experience I look back fondly on. I was taking a train once during a festival here when public transit is crammed beyond belief, in the middle of summer. And I squeezed onto this train, and somehow found myself up against the backside of this very lovely and absurdly curvaceous young woman. I was still at the age in my life where I had not really acknowledged that I was turned on by larger women.
And as more people piled into the train behind me, I was pushed forward and brought into hips-to-ass contact with this woman. Now, I was extremely shy at the time and would never have initiated any sort of contact with a stranger on the train, but it was hard not to get a little turned on by the blue jeans frottage that we were experiencing. And it didn't help that I could very easily look over her shoulder and down her cleavage. And whenever we went over a bump, that lovely wide ass rubbed against me, and I could tell by the way that she looked back over her shoulder that she was acutely aware of my presence. And I wasn't sure if it was appreciated or not. But as we got out of downtown and crowd began to thin, she didn't move forward and away from me; our bodies stayed in closer contact than they needed to; and I knew then that she was aware, that she wanted that contact too. Unfortunately, somebody slipped between us, and there was no way I could discretely bring myself back against her.
And as I stood watching her from a few feet away now, I really became aware for the first time how much this sort of physique turned me on. And I wanted to tell her this; maybe I felt a bit guilty about achieving some level of sexual gratification from this innocent stranger. But there were too many people around to speak to her, and my stop was approaching. So I took out my notebook, and wrote a little note about how gorgeous her body was and how I loved being in proximity to it, and then I delicately slipped it into the back pocket of her jeans.
In my fantasies, I sometimes think of her, and imagine her finding that note, and saving it; I imagine that if she ever doubts her beauty, she takes it out and remembers how turned on her body made this stranger. Of course, I also imagine her pleasuring herself as she reads the note, because all of my fantasies end up as sexual fantasies.
So ladies, be aware that there are men out there, every day of your life, who see you and are aroused and intrigued, but so often we're either too shy or in circumstances that prevent us from acting on that arousal.

Very sensual experience! Thanks for sharing it!!!!!

 

[lovebothsexes]

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Curious question to all the fellas who like BBWs.....why do you? I am one and never felt sexy or attractive til MusicLover2009 came along....blows kisses at him! So I was wondering what guys thoughts were on that. Also, how big do you like your gals boys?

like 'em from 180 to 300 and from age 50 up

 

[Rikki_13]

well... i was reading this thread cause I am going to need the confidence boost for today. I consider myself a BBW, and most of the time I am pretty cool about it. But today, is a family shindig where I am always compared to my cousin. She is about four inches shorter than me putting her at about 5'4" and I prolly outweigh her by close to a hundred pounds. She is the blonde, blue-eyed porcelain doll, whereas they see me as the large, dark haired, dark-eyed one. I think I am curvy where a woman needs to be and i dont look like i am going to collapse at any moment. I always get the following tho, "isnt it a pity that she doesnt lose some weight? she would be soooooo pretty if she would!!!" GRRR!!!

yep, this is going to be my day folks!!! I just hate having to put up with my own freaking family downing me and wished it wasnt an obligation that i was forced to attend. Lord give me strength, if not maybe i can find it in the rum bottle? lol

Thank you for letting me vent everybody.

And to all the other beautiful goddesses, may your holidays be awesome and filled with non-judgemental family!!! We are beautiful, some people are just not smart enough to realize it!!!

 

[newbiebabe]

Don't let them get to you...

Rikki 13..... have a good day with the family but ignore those comments. You seem to be a very lovely person and if they cannot see your beauty and only interpret some things as faults then the problem is indeed theirs.

I understand the issue of family obligation and dreaded judgements forthcoming so believe you are not alone. They are the hardest to get over at times. But take heart, the day will soon pass.

BTW, if you don't mind my saying, you have beautiful eyes and terrific gams!

 

[CreekPrincess]

well... i was reading this thread cause I am going to need the confidence boost for today. I consider myself a BBW, and most of the time I am pretty cool about it. But today, is a family shindig where I am always compared to my cousin. She is about four inches shorter than me putting her at about 5'4" and I prolly outweigh her by close to a hundred pounds. She is the blonde, blue-eyed porcelain doll, whereas they see me as the large, dark haired, dark-eyed one. I think I am curvy where a woman needs to be and i dont look like i am going to collapse at any moment. I always get the following tho, "isnt it a pity that she doesnt lose some weight? she would be soooooo pretty if she would!!!" GRRR!!!

yep, this is going to be my day folks!!! I just hate having to put up with my own freaking family downing me and wished it wasnt an obligation that i was forced to attend. Lord give me strength, if not maybe i can find it in the rum bottle? lol

Thank you for letting me vent everybody.

And to all the other beautiful goddesses, may your holidays be awesome and filled with non-judgemental family!!! We are beautiful, some people are just not smart enough to realize it!!!

Yeah tell them to stuff it! I sooooo know what you feel and go through! I've been there so many times myself being compared to others in my family! So big (((HUGS)))!!! If you ever need a friend to talk to and vent with about it, I added you to my buddy list. But self-esteem and happiness is not found at the bottom of the rum bottle although it may make things a little more fun or possibly numb. Just be happy with you and for those who criticize flip 'em the bird and tell them to eat you because there are guys out there who would love to eat us BBWs! LOL!!!

 

[Rikki_13]

thank you to everybody for the compliments and well wishes. im sure i will make it thru this. I think my other problem is the fact that my sis is in Iraq and my bro is at ft hood, so there goes my "safety net - barrier" from some of the comments.

but, my sister would give anything to be able to go today, so for her i will put on the happy face and get thru it if it freaking kills me!!!!

hope everybody has a great day!!!

 

[username_69]

The size of her mind is more important to me than the size of her body.

 

[eurotripper]

bbw's are women

All this talk about why BBW's are better or worse than other women is for me not the point. Not all BBW's are beautiful and/or sexy; and the same is true with skinny and regular women. Each body type has the potential to be beautiful or not. What is the personality like? That is really the most important criterion. Is her face pretty? Shallow possibly, but skinny women with faces that are not pretty are simply not attractive. Personally, I feel freer with a big woman. I like being with a woman who won't judge my own imperfect body harshly. I like a woman who enjoys her liquor and her food because then I can enjoy mine, and also because in my mind there is a connection between enjoying food and liquor and a strong libido. I just see big women as more attuned to things sensual, which includes sex. Having said that, some thin or regular women are sexy too. I have had relationships with all types, as I suppose most men have. Perhaps the biggest difference with big women is that we have to reject the societal conditioning that only skinny women are attractive. Whenever I see a man with a big woman, I think to myself, good for you, go for what turns you on. So, big women, you are not necessarily beautiful because you are big, you are beautiful because you are beautiful.

 

[all_the_goodies]

I had a husband who would tell me no one would every want me if I left him cause I was "Fat and used."

So it is nice to see men that would want me and prove him worng.

 

[Spenser41]

Ladies, I will say it again. BIG or small, it is the heart and the spirit of a person that makes a person beautiful. A woman could look like a model and be ugly inside. I like BBWs or what ever you want to call yourself, women with curves, because I love the curves. One woman wrote to me and said I may not be interested in her because she was not a BBW. I said then I would be just as judgmental as others towards BBWs. It is all about the HEART and Spirit of a woman that makes her beautiful. But I think because BBWs are judged as being fat and because they are rejected more and jumped on by family members and friends to loose weight (you would look so beautiful or handsome if you just lost weight) that is very very insulting and people get sick of hearing it.
So, ALL women are wonderful, but the size doesn't matter. And I am an equal opportunity hugger. I hug all... no matter what size!

Oh and by the way, this was not a thread to say which size is better, but to say WHY we enjoy women with curves. Not saying that others do not matter or not pretty

 

[newbiebabe]

Very nicely put...

All this talk about why BBW's are better or worse than other women is for me not the point. Not all BBW's are beautiful and/or sexy; and the same is true with skinny and regular women. Each body type has the potential to be beautiful or not. What is the personality like? That is really the most important criterion. Is her face pretty? Shallow possibly, but skinny women with faces that are not pretty are simply not attractive. Personally, I feel freer with a big woman. I like being with a woman who won't judge my own imperfect body harshly. I like a woman who enjoys her liquor and her food because then I can enjoy mine, and also because in my mind there is a connection between enjoying food and liquor and a strong libido. I just see big women as more attuned to things sensual, which includes sex. Having said that, some thin or regular women are sexy too. I have had relationships with all types, as I suppose most men have. Perhaps the biggest difference with big women is that we have to reject the societal conditioning that only skinny women are attractive. Whenever I see a man with a big woman, I think to myself, good for you, go for what turns you on. So, big women, you are not necessarily beautiful because you are big, you are beautiful because you are beautiful.

Eurotripper... nicely put, great thinking. And this I think is what most women, never mind their size, are wanting their man to think of them. .... they are beautiful because they are beautiful!

 

[Rikki_13]

Well everybody, I made it through it today. I would like to apologize for hijacking the thread so I could basically have a pity party for myself. But, I would also like to say thank you for everybody's support, it definitely made a rough day a lot easier.

And to get more back to the actual topic of the thread... I have had several friends that have seen me tell me that I am beautiful at my size and that I shouldnt classify myself as BBW. It is hard not to, when society has conditioned us to see beauty only in smaller packages. How many tv shows or movies show women of larger size in the starring role? We see Sandra Bullock and Reese Witherspoon as the ideal that women should aspire to be. If we as adults struggle to feel confident about our curves, how will this effect our daughters' views of their bodies?

I agree with an earlier post about how women's view about food seems to mirror their libido. I enjoy food and I enjoy sex. My skinny friends are picky about food and picky about sex. They always complain about how they are never satisfied, but I think it is because they arent truly happy with themselves.

 

[crowfiend11]

Hello Ricki,
I'm glad that you have made it through the family gathering. If your avs are of you then you are a very beautiful woman. I have read some ofyour posts on other threads and you seem like a great woman and any who call you a friend/lover should have no reason to complain about what you look like. The body is just a shell for the inner beauty!!

Well everybody, I made it through it today. I would like to apologize for hijacking the thread so I could basically have a pity party for myself. But, I would also like to say thank you for everybody's support, it definitely made a rough day a lot easier.

And to get more back to the actual topic of the thread... I have had several friends that have seen me tell me that I am beautiful at my size and that I shouldnt classify myself as BBW. It is hard not to, when society has conditioned us to see beauty only in smaller packages. How many tv shows or movies show women of larger size in the starring role? We see Sandra Bullock and Reese Witherspoon as the ideal that women should aspire to be. If we as adults struggle to feel confident about our curves, how will this effect our daughters' views of their bodies?

I agree with an earlier post about how women's view about food seems to mirror their libido. I enjoy food and I enjoy sex. My skinny friends are picky about food and picky about sex. They always complain about how they are never satisfied, but I think it is because they arent truly happy with themselves.

 

[mranyguy]

Just saw this thread... now I did not read through everyone's posts. I don't care so much what other men are finding good or bad. But here is my thoughts on the topic;

I don't consider myself into "BBW", but I find I am often attracted to women who fall into that category. For me, I like to sculpt. It is wonderful to create something and feel it in your hands. In my opinion women that get pushed into this category FEEL like women. The are what you want to close your eyes and touch when you want your mind to imagine an erotic figure. I have never limited myself to one "type" of person, since the person side of things is really what is sexy or erotic. But I think I can clearly say that no matter what you are planning when you mind wanders you know what something should feel like to feel sensual. So categorize it as you will.... doesn't change my mind...

 

[Earthgoddess]

Md

How I wished some of you all were here in MD, every time I read this thread it makes me smile.

 

[clayborg]

big and beautiful

not sure if i have replied to this or not.

Here is my take. I am a man. I am sick and tired of hearing of men complaining about girlfriends/wifes who are "fat." Give me a break, in my opinion, the soul/heart/spirit is what makes someone attractive. I have to say, for the many larger (please forgive me for that obvious size statement) women who have posted images of themselves, it is obvious that they are comforatble with what they have, and gosh darn it, they look great!! Don't they!?

I find nothing more sexy than a woman who finds herself sexy and is comfortable with what they have.

I for one, love how women look, no matter what size they wear, as long as that pretty face is wearing a smile.