What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

[Hornymwtxn]

Glad to see this conversation has continued. When people (me, it's ME!) establish boundaries, it becomes tedious to have to go over it again and again. It's simple selfishness and lack of respect to both me AND my sweetheart.

It's why @Neanderthal247 is not on iggy, but that other poster is. Respect people, it's not that hard.

Not sure if you are referring to me being in your iggy or not,

But if it is me you should make clear I have never had any discussions with you on a sexual matter whatsoever and our beef was over something else entirely and if I could put you in my iggy I certainly would but that isn't an option available.

Please stop with your implications

 

[AmberLGreen]

Imagine you and me Debbie on a deserted island. Oh the possibilities of us dying, but at least we would be laughing

Can I imagine you in budgie smugglers?

 

[Xerxes82]

They always have the right to say no, or joke along for a good laugh.

I'm sorry, but even as a guy this just doesn't work. Maybe, MAYBE, for the very first time when boundaries are being established. But after that, just no.

Why should they have to say no? Shouldn't you respect them enough to recognize and honor their wishes?

Once the situation has been made clear between both parties, which is the kind of interaction being talked about here, continuing to push and needle just because she can keep saying no or just go along with it makes you a dickhead.

Just straight up, a dickhead.

I've never met a dead horse I wouldn't beat in the name of trying to be funny, but there comes a point when it STOPS BEING FUNNY. And that point is the moment she makes clear that it isn't what she wants or is into. After that it isn't humor or playfulness. It's harrassment. Period, full stop.

 

[kinkincguy]

Dumb question…what’s an iggy?

 

[AmberLGreen]

Not sure if you are referring to me being in your iggy or not,

But if it is me you should make clear I have never had any discussions with you on a sexual matter whatsoever and our beef was over something else entirely and if I could put you in my iggy I certainly would but that isn't an option available.

Please stop with your implications

Did she make any implication that it was you? Maybe you should stop making assumptions

 

[Dribble]

A lot of friendships turn sexy and that is perfectly acceptable when it is what both parties want. What we are discussing, is when one party has made it very clear that they don’t want a sexual chat but the other will take an everyday chat and try to steer it in a sexual direction.

Example:
Him - How was your day?
Me - Pretty long. I ache all over
Him - You probably need a massage
Me - That would probably help
Him - Imagine me sliding the straps of your bra off your shoulders…
Me - No thanks. I don’t want to imagine you doing that
Him - Not hitting on you. I am not here for that. I was just being nice.


Well, it isn’t “nice” and if you are repeating this behaviour, you are not a “nice guy”, you are a predator

I understand....but this is what I have found as well...

Her: I don't want that kind of relationship...I just want friends I can talk too.
Me: I can do that

Two weeks later....

Her: I can't believe he treated me that way...I thought i was special?
Me: I am sorry....but i thought you said you weren't here for that?
Her:..............silence..........

My experience has been what people should say is that you aren't interested in that with me. Cause when you say that isn't what you are here for....I take that literally. But obviously....that wasn't the truth....so basically....I will be called a predator no matter what I do.

 

[AllAmericanMale]

Flirting with 800mbs. Melissa is an absolute monster.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

Dumb question…what’s an iggy?

Ignore.

 

[Xerxes82]

Dumb question…what’s an iggy?

The ignore list feature. It hides content from posters you place on it.

 

[jason28053]

Can I imagine you in budgie smugglers?

Sure! Whatever the fuck those are!

 

[AmberLGreen]

Dumb question…what’s an iggy?

When you put people on ignore, you have an ignore list or an “iggy”

 

[kinkincguy]

When you put people on ignore, you have an ignore list or an “iggy”

Thanks…makes total sense

 

[jason28053]

Ignore.

Don’t ignore! Answer the question

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Did she make any implication that it was you? Maybe you should stop making assumptions

Well she should make clear who she was referring to as other may make the assumption it was me.

And I have always respected boundaries

 

[LordofDargaardkeep]

you are not a “nice guy”, you are a predator

Am I still a predator when I take my teeth out?
I am pretty sure wanting me to smack you with that big floppy dildo for a "massage" was your idea way before I started helping you get your bra off... geez girl we need to work on our communication skills!

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I can definitely attest; There are some great guys here on Lit

I might be biased.. But some just are amazing!!

 

[AmberLGreen]

I understand....but this is what I have found as well...

Her: I don't want that kind of relationship...I just want friends I can talk too.
Me: I can do that

Two weeks later....

Her: I can't believe he treated me that way...I thought i was special?
Me: I am sorry....but i thought you said you weren't here for that?
Her:..............silence..........

My experience has been what people should say is that you aren't interested in that with me. Cause when you say that isn't what you are here for....I take that literally. But obviously....that wasn't the truth....so basically....I will be called a predator no matter what I do.

Totally agree with this. You should always be honest.

The whole “nice guy” thing winds me up but the other thing that does is when women say “I don’t want anything serious, I am just here for fun” but then a week later, they are publicly calling him all the names under the sun for not falling in love with them and moving on to another woman.

If people were honest about what they wanted and others could accept that what somebody else wants isn’t necessarily what they want, then it would make the online world so much easier to navigate.

BTW I have never heard anybody refer to you as a predator

 

[barefootgirl69]

I understand....but this is what I have found as well...

Her: I don't want that kind of relationship...I just want friends I can talk too.
Me: I can do that

Two weeks later....

Her: I can't believe he treated me that way...I thought i was special?
Me: I am sorry....but i thought you said you weren't here for that?
Her:..............silence..........

My experience has been what people should say is that you aren't interested in that with me. Cause when you say that isn't what you are here for....I take that literally. But obviously....that wasn't the truth....so basically....I will be called a predator no matter what I do.

I think this is very different than what I've brought up yesterday and continues today.
The point is it's obvious to most people that I'm not interested in anyone but a certain Litster. It's in my profile, as well. To have to say it to someone over and over to only hear "just joking" is disrespectful. It gets old.

 

[snexxer]

"Us"?

Lol.
Sorry im a Brit and a Yorkshire man.
Shown us your tits, would be how we would say, show me your tits, in local vocabulary.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Sure! Whatever the fuck those are!

https://ibb.co/bDG1XHv

 

[jason28053]

https://ibb.co/bDG1XHv

A speedo

 

[AmberLGreen]

Well she should make clear who she was referring to as other may make the assumption it was me.

And I have always respected boundaries

She shouldn’t have to do anything. Do you think that everybody knows you two had an issue with each other. Don’t assume that everybody knows everything that is going on. The fact that she doesn’t name names is because she is being respectful to the person even though they were not respectful to her.

 

[AmberLGreen]

Am I still a predator when I take my teeth out?
I am pretty sure wanting me to smack you with that big floppy dildo for a "massage" was your idea way before I started helping you get your bra off... geez girl we need to work on our communication skills!

Our communication skills are simple. You shut up and do as I tell you

 

[Hornymwtxn]

She shouldn’t have to do anything. Do you think that everybody knows you two had an issue with each other. Don’t assume that everybody knows everything that is going on. The fact that she doesn’t name names is being she is being respectful to the person even though they were not respectful to her.

Excuse me for being concerned her post COULD be smearing someone's reputation with her vague implications.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

"Us"?

He was role playing as Gollum.