What are the 5 best things that ever happened to you?
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No one is answering.... 
(besides Scaly, but he's still thinking 
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I must say it's a hard one to answer for myself too. Not because nothing good ever happens or happened to me, but because, if you want to answer this question seriously/properly, you will have to think very hard first what is most important to you in life, and maybe, when you think about those things, it makes you realise that you tend to come up with the
a) I met my wife/husband
b) I married her/him
c) the birth of our first child
d) the birth of our second child
e) our devorce !!!!!
.... while you realize that things that appeared to be of less importance for the longest time, were a huge (positive) influence on your life.... now that you come to think of it.
I'm still thinking about this one too. I think I have a few things nailed down, but have to think about it further too.
(besides Scaly, but he's still thinking )I must say it's a hard one to answer for myself too. Not because nothing good ever happens or happened to me, but because, if you want to answer this question seriously/properly, you will have to think very hard first what is most important to you in life, and maybe, when you think about those things, it makes you realise that you tend to come up with the
a) I met my wife/husband
b) I married her/him
c) the birth of our first child
d) the birth of our second child
e) our devorce !!!!!
.... while you realize that things that appeared to be of less importance for the longest time, were a huge (positive) influence on your life.... now that you come to think of it.
I'm still thinking about this one too. I think I have a few things nailed down, but have to think about it further too.
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I know....bobsgirl said:
The question was easy. The answer is not, as I found out myself...
There is one thing I know for certain is going to make it to my top 5 list, and that is the time someone had a lot of confidence in me.
I was changing jobs and some agency wanted to give me a position I was not sure about myself. It was a huge upgrade. I was very flattered but scared as hell at the same time, wondering if I could do the job. They said they had confidence in me and that made me feel a lot stronger and indeed also confident than I really was.
The first two weeks were horrible; I felt like such a nitwit, but then I started to catch on and a few weeks later it felt like I had done this work forever!
Changed my career, changed my life, and I'm still grateful for whoever it was that believed in me.
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i've really tried to think about this and am still sort of thinking as i type...
1. learning how to be gracious in the face of both gain and loss
2. finding true love
3. having at least one good friend every single day of my life
4. taking the opportunity to go back to college
5. realizing that not everyone can be pleased and that i'm primarily responsible for myself rather than for others
1. learning how to be gracious in the face of both gain and loss
2. finding true love
3. having at least one good friend every single day of my life
4. taking the opportunity to go back to college
5. realizing that not everyone can be pleased and that i'm primarily responsible for myself rather than for others
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Wow! This is a tough one.
In no particular order:
1. Surviving my childhood.
2. Allowing someone believe in me enough to face my fears and the encouragement and support that instructor gave me has been the springboard to my occupation.
3. Even through times of diversity, having a spark of determination.
4. My education.
5. The gift of true friendship.
In no particular order:
1. Surviving my childhood.
2. Allowing someone believe in me enough to face my fears and the encouragement and support that instructor gave me has been the springboard to my occupation.
3. Even through times of diversity, having a spark of determination.
4. My education.
5. The gift of true friendship.
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I think I'm going to answer this one in pieces.
1. Graduating from college with the degree I had originally went for despite my family telling me the whole way through that I would never be able to do it
2. Watching the birth of my nephew and knowing that whatever I did would have an impact on his life.
I'll be back later with others
1. Graduating from college with the degree I had originally went for despite my family telling me the whole way through that I would never be able to do it
2. Watching the birth of my nephew and knowing that whatever I did would have an impact on his life.
I'll be back later with others
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I decided that rather than choosing big, sweeping things like "sharing my life with my beloved wife" or "raising and getting to know my child", I would list specific moments where something very definite HAPPENED. Also, I chose not to list things that turned out to have the most positive result on my life - just the ones that gave me the best feelings at the moment they happened.
These are in the order that I thought of them, which is not necessarily the order from Best Thing to Worst Thing.
(1) First kiss, with my first love. A week later, she moved away and I never saw her again. That was over fifteen years ago and I still sometimes feel the heartbreak - but that kiss has yet to meet its equal.
(2) Getting a job after a year of unemployment and near destitution. There's nothing like reaching the end of your rope only to find an elevator suddenly rising under your feet.
(3) A tie, between my first Bunjee jump and the time I jumped naked into the Arctic ocean. Both were the purest adrenaline rush I've ever had.
(4) First sexual experience with two women. It was at a strip clup, and I had a double lap dance. Most intense turn-on I've even known.
(5) Finding out that my wife would be all right after she nearly died. I don't think that requires an explanation.
(6) Because I just couldn't limit it to five - the time my two-week-old baby girl reached out and grasped my finger, the first time she had ever of her own initiative made contact with me. We bonded deeply at that moment and it's never faded.
These are in the order that I thought of them, which is not necessarily the order from Best Thing to Worst Thing.
(1) First kiss, with my first love. A week later, she moved away and I never saw her again. That was over fifteen years ago and I still sometimes feel the heartbreak - but that kiss has yet to meet its equal.
(2) Getting a job after a year of unemployment and near destitution. There's nothing like reaching the end of your rope only to find an elevator suddenly rising under your feet.
(3) A tie, between my first Bunjee jump and the time I jumped naked into the Arctic ocean. Both were the purest adrenaline rush I've ever had.
(4) First sexual experience with two women. It was at a strip clup, and I had a double lap dance. Most intense turn-on I've even known.
(5) Finding out that my wife would be all right after she nearly died. I don't think that requires an explanation.
(6) Because I just couldn't limit it to five - the time my two-week-old baby girl reached out and grasped my finger, the first time she had ever of her own initiative made contact with me. We bonded deeply at that moment and it's never faded.
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In no particular order:
--Surviving my childhood. After witnessing my parents' abusive marriage and receiving all sorts of mixed messages about what was expected of me (e.g. women are worthless sluts who can't be trusted to do anything right, but you'd better be the best at everything, no matter what, you worthless slut), it's amazing that I've turned out as well as I have.
--When my ex moved out. Even though I wanted to crawl into a corner and die at first, I learned that I am strong enough to make it on my own.
--Answering a personal ad in May of 2001. It was totally out-of-character for me, and it changed my life forever.
--My kids. Duh. I'm more than a little self-centered at times, and having children has taught me that it's not all about me.
--Deciding to become a stay-at-home-mom after my youngest was born. The hours are long and the pay's lousy, but I'm happy to have been around for the big moments.
--Surviving my childhood. After witnessing my parents' abusive marriage and receiving all sorts of mixed messages about what was expected of me (e.g. women are worthless sluts who can't be trusted to do anything right, but you'd better be the best at everything, no matter what, you worthless slut), it's amazing that I've turned out as well as I have.
--When my ex moved out. Even though I wanted to crawl into a corner and die at first, I learned that I am strong enough to make it on my own.
--Answering a personal ad in May of 2001. It was totally out-of-character for me, and it changed my life forever.
--My kids. Duh. I'm more than a little self-centered at times, and having children has taught me that it's not all about me.
--Deciding to become a stay-at-home-mom after my youngest was born. The hours are long and the pay's lousy, but I'm happy to have been around for the big moments.
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1. Surviving polio as an infant. All the rest is the small stuff. I'm grateful.
2. My children. The first time I gazed into their little faces, I fell headlong into a lifetime love.
3. Meeting MrB. His presence daily reminds me I am not alone in this world.
4. Coming to terms with my body image.
5. Having the curiosity and the "balls" to venture into the wide world of Lit. I have met some wonderful people, and learned so much.
2. My children. The first time I gazed into their little faces, I fell headlong into a lifetime love.
3. Meeting MrB. His presence daily reminds me I am not alone in this world.
4. Coming to terms with my body image.
5. Having the curiosity and the "balls" to venture into the wide world of Lit. I have met some wonderful people, and learned so much.
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Some good, important things...I'm not sure if they're the best things, but it's a start.
1. One evening in 1993, accompanying my dad to his office at the university, and letting him set me up on GOPHER. This was my introduction to the Internet, and I've been entranced ever since by all the things there are to explore.
2. One evening in 1998, dancing to the Sisters of Mercy at the local nightclub, and my (future) husband introducing himself to me afterward. I'd actually been eyeing him for a couple of weeks, but was trying to stay single for a while. After he came up to me, however, and we chatted for half an hour in the middle of the dancefloor, I was hooked. He's handsome and romantic and intelligent, and...though I've always hesitated to say this about a lover...he's become my best friend.
3. A trip to Sicily in 1997, the most exotic place I'd ever been at the time. I was forced to really use a foreign language, and I also learned that my parents weren't omniscient gods. We were all confused, and I was doing the communicating with the world, and making a lot of the decisions.
4. A 7-year penpalship with B. My intentions toward him were never sexual -- I was/am happy with my man -- but B. was a brilliant and thoughtful writer and we discussed everything from movies to masochism, art to alien life, fashion to France. Always in nicely-composed formal email letters, never on the phone or internet chat. There was sometimes a subtle tension because I was already in a relationship, and I think we're over because B. hasn't written in months...I hope he's found a lovely woman. But I learned a lot from him, and did some of my best writing in my letters to him.
5. Discovering Star Trek as a troubled young teen. Yes, I know it's a dorky thing to say. But really -- classic Trek, the movies, and ST: The Next Generation have helped me through some dark times. The fair, intelligent characters and amazing inventions help me believe that the future's going to be all right.
1. One evening in 1993, accompanying my dad to his office at the university, and letting him set me up on GOPHER. This was my introduction to the Internet, and I've been entranced ever since by all the things there are to explore.
2. One evening in 1998, dancing to the Sisters of Mercy at the local nightclub, and my (future) husband introducing himself to me afterward. I'd actually been eyeing him for a couple of weeks, but was trying to stay single for a while. After he came up to me, however, and we chatted for half an hour in the middle of the dancefloor, I was hooked. He's handsome and romantic and intelligent, and...though I've always hesitated to say this about a lover...he's become my best friend.
3. A trip to Sicily in 1997, the most exotic place I'd ever been at the time. I was forced to really use a foreign language, and I also learned that my parents weren't omniscient gods. We were all confused, and I was doing the communicating with the world, and making a lot of the decisions.
4. A 7-year penpalship with B. My intentions toward him were never sexual -- I was/am happy with my man -- but B. was a brilliant and thoughtful writer and we discussed everything from movies to masochism, art to alien life, fashion to France. Always in nicely-composed formal email letters, never on the phone or internet chat. There was sometimes a subtle tension because I was already in a relationship, and I think we're over because B. hasn't written in months...I hope he's found a lovely woman. But I learned a lot from him, and did some of my best writing in my letters to him.
5. Discovering Star Trek as a troubled young teen. Yes, I know it's a dorky thing to say. But really -- classic Trek, the movies, and ST: The Next Generation have helped me through some dark times. The fair, intelligent characters and amazing inventions help me believe that the future's going to be all right.
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In no particular sequence or order of importance:
1) being born
2) getting sober
3) meeting my ex girlfriend
4) having the parents I did/do
5) getting published
1) being born
2) getting sober
3) meeting my ex girlfriend
4) having the parents I did/do
5) getting published
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Boy I've beenthinking about this and thinking about this. Here's where I'm at right now:
1.) Marrying my wife.
2.) My wife turning to me one day and saying, "You know, for the first time I can actually admit to myself you're for real and this isn't going to all disappear." That was after 5 years of marriage and was without a doubt the turning point in our relationship.
3) The first time I stepped onto the ice to play hockey.
4.) Getting my first book published.
5.) Watching my sister graduate form Law School.
This is a tough one for me becasue I have truly led a blessed life. With so much good that has happened to me, it's tough to pick just 5, so these are the most recent ones that stick in my head.
1.) Marrying my wife.
2.) My wife turning to me one day and saying, "You know, for the first time I can actually admit to myself you're for real and this isn't going to all disappear." That was after 5 years of marriage and was without a doubt the turning point in our relationship.
3) The first time I stepped onto the ice to play hockey.
4.) Getting my first book published.
5.) Watching my sister graduate form Law School.
This is a tough one for me becasue I have truly led a blessed life. With so much good that has happened to me, it's tough to pick just 5, so these are the most recent ones that stick in my head.
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TBKahuna123 said:
This one I like....
Made me realise that I have been waiting to feel that way a few times in former relationships, and it never happened. Come to think of it... I think I'm waiting for that moment still... only this time I somehow think it's going to happen. I'm not there yet though... too many disappointments in the past. Was that the same for your wife, if I may ask? And does she know what finally made her so secure?
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Not really, I think it was just a process of coming to that realization. Like you, she had her guard up, and that's a hard thing to let down. Even if you're in a long term relationship. It's being comfortable enough to take that last bit of protective independence, lay it on the table and saying, "here it is, don't hurt me", then not getting hurt. You have to take the risk to get the reward. When you're comfortable enough to make that move though, all you can do is watch and wait. You'll know quickjly if you are there or not.M's girl said:This one I like....
Chances are you'll know before you get there though.
Hmmmm...this is a toughy
1.) Surviving infancy by ripping the tubes out of myself, determined even then to do things on my own.
2.) The summer I was 16 corkscrewing my first car into a ditch and totalling it. My best friend was unbuckled in the passenger seat. We both crawled out of a incomprehensibly smashed car practically unharmed, saved by a series of coincidences. This probably saved my life, because at this time I was literally living life at a hundred mph, not to mention partying like a fiend.
3.) My best friend from above. She's like a sister to me. It's the richest and closest friendsip I have.
4.) Coming out of a slightly suicidal and cutting prone frame of mind in my early teenage years, while learning to build up my self-esteem.
5.) Realizing how much of a role model I am for the little girls I love and doing something about it.
Thats what came to mind at the spur of the moment.
1.) Surviving infancy by ripping the tubes out of myself, determined even then to do things on my own.
2.) The summer I was 16 corkscrewing my first car into a ditch and totalling it. My best friend was unbuckled in the passenger seat. We both crawled out of a incomprehensibly smashed car practically unharmed, saved by a series of coincidences. This probably saved my life, because at this time I was literally living life at a hundred mph, not to mention partying like a fiend.
3.) My best friend from above. She's like a sister to me. It's the richest and closest friendsip I have.
4.) Coming out of a slightly suicidal and cutting prone frame of mind in my early teenage years, while learning to build up my self-esteem.
5.) Realizing how much of a role model I am for the little girls I love and doing something about it.
Thats what came to mind at the spur of the moment.
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