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Valley Lilly

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This week, i had my first webcam session. I was talking to a guy, so we decided to get some webcam action. I had heard of people getting ashamed the first time, but not me. I saw him naked, jacking off, so i took my tshirt off, covering and uncovering my tits, and then finally uncovering him and massaging them. Then we had some dirty talk and i showed him my bush. He seemed pretty horny, since i could see his dick, but although i felt wet, i couldn't reach an orgasm. And even though we did it again the next day, and he felt even hornier cause he entirely saw me, i still think i didn't do the best, and i felt little bit akward......

So, what else can i do?
 
The way I see it, there are two sides to such an experience, giving the pleasure and receiving the pleasure. Kind of like real sex, only a little more separate.

Instead of focusing on making sure things are just right for him, get it set up close enough, and then concentrate on your own pleasure. Imagine you are watching a porno and just masturbating to get yourself off. If he is like most guys, just seeing a girl coming will be a tremendous turnon for him.
 
I'm not really clear on the question/problem. Is it that you felt awkward, didn't orgasm, or both?

For the orgasm part, were you masturbating during the activities? Vibes are very handy in this type of situation. Was the "dirty talk" detailed and exciting enough that you were mentally aroused, engaged, and able to slip into fantasy mode? What made you feel awkward? Fixing that and working on relaxing will put you closer. :)
 
Valley Lilly said:
This week, i had my first webcam session. I was talking to a guy, so we decided to get some webcam action. I had heard of people getting ashamed the first time, but not me. I saw him naked, jacking off, so i took my tshirt off, covering and uncovering my tits, and then finally uncovering him and massaging them. Then we had some dirty talk and i showed him my bush. He seemed pretty horny, since i could see his dick, but although i felt wet, i couldn't reach an orgasm. And even though we did it again the next day, and he felt even hornier cause he entirely saw me, i still think i didn't do the best, and i felt little bit akward......

So, what else can i do?

Sounds like you were OK with the whole thing but did not enjoy yourself very much. If you felt awkward I think the answer is obvious. It's not something you NEED to like. So how about just don't do it again anymore? :rolleyes:
 
Since the downfall of Yahoo chat rooms, were on earth did you manage to meet someone for a bit of camera action?

Somebody im'ed me. It wasn't that hard!! :D

Since the downfall of Yahoo chat rooms, were on earth did you manage to meet someone for a bit of camera action?

Actually, both. But it's alright, since i can't orgasm if i'm on a chair. I just can't. I need to be very confortable to have one, and in a chair.....
 
Gender differences. Guys are visual, girls are auditory. The way I see it it's his fault for not stimulating you mentally, showing dick helps I guess but cyber is basically a mind fuck.
 
Valley Lilly said:
Somebody im'ed me. It wasn't that hard!! :D

So someone (some stranger) came to you for sex. And you "serviced" him, partly because you thought it would be exciting. But it wasn't as much as you thought it would be and now you want to improve your skills? I don't get it. :eek:
 
Zmey said:
Gender differences. Guys are visual, girls are auditory. The way I see it it's his fault for not stimulating you mentally, showing dick helps I guess but cyber is basically a mind fuck.


Although I agree for the larger part with what you are saying I don't think it's entirely true that women are not visual. I am. Very much so. I like to watch porn and get turned on by it, although I know it's one big show. But hey, I like to watch other genres as well and know I'm fooled there too. For me the visual thing, however, only works with someone I feel attracted to or with porn (not all porn of course). Not when some stranger pulls out his dick on some stupid webcam and jerks himself off. :D
 
i find that talkiing to her as she plays.....ie phone sex with cams gets both of us off.....seeing her do as i say....head back as my voice fills her head
 
So someone (some stranger) came to you for sex. And you "serviced" him, partly because you thought it would be exciting. But it wasn't as much as you thought it would be and now you want to improve your skills? I don't get it.

Kind of. I was bored, so i wanted to try something new. I think it was "interesting".
 
Valley Lilly said:
Actually, both. But it's alright, since i can't orgasm if i'm on a chair. I just can't. I need to be very confortable to have one, and in a chair.....

My computer is in my bedroom. Sometimes, if my guy wants to see me cum, I'll aim the webcam over to the bed, lay down, spread my legs, and put on the show that way. Maybe you could move your computer, or aim your webcam at the floor.

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don't bother asking me to cam with you, guys. and you know who you are. it's obnoxious and rude. i have a cam for one purpose only - friends and intimate friends from real life. so quit sending the private messages.
 
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It's going to be a while to try it again. I have no webcam at home. I was at my friend's house. So i did it while she was asleep, in the other room.
 
Chicklet said:
My computer is in my bedroom. Sometimes, if my guy wants to see me cum, I'll aim the webcam over to the bed, lay down, spread my legs, and put on the show that way. Maybe you could move your computer, or aim your webcam at the floor.


I hope you feel that way more often! :D

I just bought an Imac and it is even harder (no pun) to find foks of all stripes to 'meet' and relax. As was mentioned earlier: no more Yahoo.

If anyone knows how to help - love to here it. First show on me. :cool:
 
Zmey said:
Gender differences. Guys are visual, girls are auditory. The way I see it it's his fault for not stimulating you mentally, showing dick helps I guess but cyber is basically a mind fuck.


Hey-some of us are visual too! I love watching porn too! The sight and sound are great together.
 
i often strip off and wank while a female watches me on her cam its so erotic!
i dont feel embarressed at all and she tells me to go faster and loves to see me shoot my load! :)
 
You might want to incorporate sound into your webcam shows, a bit of moaning and groaning is enough to make any woman cream in her panties ;) Ask him what he likes every guy likes something different. Some are into being told what to do and others like to tell you what to do. Just go with the flow and enjoy yourself and good luck for next time!
 
I believe it is essential that you enjoy yourself. Relax, have fun, tell the other person what excites you, etc. For me, my greatest arousal is in knowing that my partner is aroused, excited, and enjoying the experience (real life, phone, cyber, or cam). Not that I have much experience with camming but nonetheless, I personally don't enjoy it unless the woman is enraptured. I think someone posted earlier...just move the camera back and enjoy yourself.

Not speaking with much experience here, but <shrug> I'm just a guy.

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