Watching

[Cinner]

...and how do you keep your finger off him? Do you find that when you are together there is the undercurrent of erotic tension in RL?

I don't know these men in real life at all. This makes it thrilling to be able to push their buttons in this way; because I have to have carnal knowledge of them and tap into their real needs in order to be able to do this. It makes me feel sexy and powerful to be able to bring a man to a climax in this way though whether I know him or not.

 

[mtwain4u]

Exactly. There is a type of power in it to that you can say something provocative that can get him off. The look in their eyes as it registers with them what you have said. The little jokes that you share between yourselves that make it more intimate and special than the "wanna watch me on cam" type of play. I like learning what gets others off and how to zero in and make them cum hard every single time we talk. The long drawn out teasing or the super quickies because we each know what the other needs to hear to get them off.

What I think is intriguing is the idea of non-cam cam play. It is along the lines of what you are describing. What I mean by it is that neither party is ever saying "do this" or "do that". Rather, we're just having a conversation where - because of what's said I shift in my seat to relieve the building pressure in my jeans. Or, without even being aware I feel the need to touch my crotch. Likewise, a woman caresses her breast not because I say "touch your tit" but because we're chatting about the sensations generated by the breasts so she simply wants to, on her own, touch one to trigger those sensations.

 

[Daniel_Hart]

I don't know these men in real life at all. This makes it thrilling to be able to push their buttons in this way; because I have to have carnal knowledge of them and tap into their real needs in order to be able to do this. It makes me feel sexy and powerful to be able to bring a man to a climax in this way though whether I know him or not.

Good point, I had miss read friend to mean RL friend. Having someone who you connect with is an amazing rush, that knowledge and control over their arousal. It is a heady thing, not often matched in RL.

 

[Cinner]

Exactly. There is a type of power in it to that you can say something provocative that can get him off. The look in their eyes as it registers with them what you have said. The little jokes that you share between yourselves that make it more intimate and special than the "wanna watch me on cam" type of play. I like learning what gets others off and how to zero in and make them cum hard every single time we talk. The long drawn out teasing or the super quickies because we each know what the other needs to hear to get them off.

Exactly. I have had men tell me that just seeing a PM or e-mail from me gets them hard. I like that. I actually work harder trying to please these people; trying to get to know them better so that I can keep having this effect on them. I feel also that they may not know me in real life but they trust me enough to bond with me online if they admit to having these reactions to me. I don't take this responsibility lightly. I did that once and regret it.

 

[mtwain4u]

Exactly. I have had men tell me that just seeing a PM or e-mail from me gets them hard. I like that. I actually work harder trying to please these people; trying to get to know them better so that I can keep having this effect on them. I feel also that they may not know me in real life but they trust me enough to bond with me online if they admit to having these reactions to me. I don't take this responsibility lightly. I did that once and regret it.

^^^^that's really neat.^^^^

 

[Cinner]

^^^^that's really neat.^^^^

How can one take someone's heart lightly. In the few moments that you're here with someone you're with that person for good or ill. You have it in your power to build or break that person. It's wrong to choose to do the latter, and careless to do it by accident. Oddly this is one of the reasons that I don't like chat because I often end up in three or four conversations at once. I can't concentrate on someone when that happens. I think that for the time that you're with me you deserve my undivided attention and all the care that I can bring to the moment.

 

[Rikki_13]

Exactly. I have had men tell me that just seeing a PM or e-mail from me gets them hard. I like that. I actually work harder trying to please these people; trying to get to know them better so that I can keep having this effect on them. I feel also that they may not know me in real life but they trust me enough to bond with me online if they admit to having these reactions to me. I don't take this responsibility lightly. I did that once and regret it.

I know what you are saying. You want to please them because in a way they are pleasing you by saying you turn me on instantly. I cant think of you without wanting to be with you, touch you, taste you, hear you. I think it is a responsibility, but also damn fun with the ones that have earned that privilege.

 

[Daniel_Hart]

I know what you are saying. You want to please them because in a way they are pleasing you by saying you turn me on instantly. I cant think of you without wanting to be with you, touch you, taste you, hear you. I think it is a responsibility, but also damn fun with the ones that have earned that privilege.

How do you find the comparison between RL and online in the way it affects you? More intense or just different?

 

[Cinner]

How do you find the comparison between RL and online in the way it affects you? More intense or just different?

I don't think that anything can compare to real life. One of the really thrilling things is to see the first spark of desire in a man's eyes... Sometimes you can see that he has surprised himself with this because he's suddenly realised that there is a connection that he didn't suspect existed at all. Then, I REALLY like the chase that ensues after that.

 

[Rikki_13]

How do you find the comparison between RL and online in the way it affects you? More intense or just different?

I cant really say that I have met anyone in RL that I have cammed with. Seems like the ones I have met from here we always just talked on the phone and texted. I cant really say that I have given it much thought. I think for me it takes the edge off of being nervous either way because you "know" them in a way. It isnt the same as a blind date where you know absolutely nothing about the other one.

 

[Cinner]

You know something that I have thought about though is the awkwardness of trying to move someone from one "realm" to another. The awkwardness of moving from "chat" to phone or from phone to a real life meeting. I have found this in almost every case. One becomes comfortable with someone within certain parameters and the transfer is a little bumpy despite how well I know this person in the first situation. Like Rikki, my real life friends and I don't cam; if we know each other well enough to be sexual then we're either meeting face-to-face or fooling around on the phone.

 

[Daniel_Hart]

I don't think that anything can compare to real life. One of the really thrilling things is to see the first spark of desire in a man's eyes... Sometimes you can see that he has surprised himself with this because he's suddenly realised that there is a connection that he didn't suspect existed at all. Then, I REALLY like the chase that ensues after that.

Yes the spark in real life is fantastic...but don't you think that can exist in online? A similar chase can definitely occur...although it just looks a little different

 

[Daniel_Hart]

I cant really say that I have met anyone in RL that I have cammed with. Seems like the ones I have met from here we always just talked on the phone and texted. I cant really say that I have given it much thought. I think for me it takes the edge off of being nervous either way because you "know" them in a way. It isnt the same as a blind date where you know absolutely nothing about the other one.

I have cammed with someone I met in RL, but that was due to distance. We already had a great connection though, so it wasn't a big step/deal.

I can't believe a gal so open as you rikki would be nervous...

 

[Dionysian Beast]

I'm a big fan of watching and being watched. It's a major turn on to show off. The mutual thing with the right person can be pretty intense, too.

 

[mtwain4u]

anyone else want to share what they like to watch? And how do you like to watch?

Don't be shy - especially you ladies out there.

 

[Runner_3]

I like to watch but haven't had the chance to watch another couple. I've watched my gf masturbate and watched her on cam with a guy or girl also on cam. I think it's hotter if they know I'm watching.

 

[Mrtenant]

i watched myself jerkin off once, afraid thats as close as it gets.....took a shot in the eye.....gives a whole new meaning to going blind that way....