Warning: Two rants ahead

[lilminx]

Ok- I'm a little pissed aff at myself and my roomate, so if you're not into hearing this, please move on...

Rant #1) I am so annoyed that I can't keep my room clean. What am I, 10 years old? I clean up my room whenever I'm expecting, ahem, company, but when I'm not, well... my room becomes very messy. In the morning when I leave for work I'm in such a rush- I try on different things and don't have time to hang them back up. Then my mail, papers from work, etc pile up. By the time I get home from work I'm so tired that i don't want to clean- ok I admit it- I'm lazy and unmotivated. But I wish I was a little more of a neat freak. Ther werid thing is, I don't leave my stuff all around the apartment- only my room...
(btw, my room is messy, not dirty...

Rant #2) My roomate's fiance moved in on Oct. 1. The idea didn't really bother me at first, but he is the laziest person I have met (lazier than me!). It seems like he expects her to do everything- cook, clean, etc... she even said that he wants her to take care of him. The way I see it, though, is that he is living here in our apt, and he should be making more of an effort to clean. If he doesn't, it's her responsibility b/c she's willing to put up with his laziness. He leaves dishes in the sink and doesn't clean them. It's either up to me or my roomate to wash them, and she hasn't been. There was a sinkful of dishes today, and possibly two of the dishes were mine. I was going to leave them all and just wash mine, but I didn't want roaches (hey, I'm in NYC- it happens) and I couldn't refill my water filter thing, so I finally washed them all. I've made a couple of light-hearted comments to her (I don't feel comfortable saying anything to him), but apparently she didn't get the hint. UGH!!! I can't wait to move out and live by myself.

Ok- there were my rants. Don't feel the need to respond to them- thanks for reading- I feel better just getting it out of my system

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

This is why I don't have roomates. I don't have to worry about their being messy and I don't have to share things like the TV. I can watch what I want when I want. My last roomie was in college and he smoked and left his butts all over the place, plus he chewed too - gross. The final straw was when he left a Hustler in the living room when my 11 year old daughter was coming over to visit. I don't mind porn obviously, but I don't believe kids need to be exposed to it - especially Hustler.

 

[Guest]

Yikes! You need lots o' hugs, honey.
I'm so anal retentive, I had a hard time living with other folks. Your home is supposed to be where you escape worries. Maybe you should look at new options?

*hugs*

 

[lilminx]

Thanks for the sympathy...

OMG- I didn't expect people to actually reply to this thread- especially 2 weeks after I posted it- lol. Anyway, right now I don't have many options. My lease isn't up until March, and right now I'm having problems paying rent while I have a roomate, let alone on my own. Believe me, I'd like nothing more than to live by myself. I think that some people are just more inclined for that, while others feel the need for constant company.

 

[Guest]

Okay. I hear you. Let's see- March is in 4 months. That's doable. Do you think you could be honest with your roomie about how you feel? Would it make it better or worse?
It sucks.
Oh, is your roomie's fiance paying too? Splitting 3 ways will lower the cost!
Good luck!

*edited due to brain fart

 

[Gilly Bean]

-nods at Raindancer-

If he isn't helping out in cleaning, I would ask that he help with bills. He doesn't sit there in the dark, so he must use lights. Likely the same with the TV. Talk with the roomy, and explain that he needs to start helping out more around the apartment, and if he isn't willing to do that, then you would like to start splitting the bills three ways, instead of two.

You have just as much right to speak your mind as she does in the apartment, so don't feel bad about wanting to be able to live in peace there. She wants to have her fiance there, then they both need to be responsible about how they are living while there, since they are sharing space.

 

[Guest]

Amen, Gilly!

 

[lilminx]

Gas and electric are included in the rent, and they pay a little extra every month. As for the phone, he doesn't use our phone, as his company pays for unlimited calls for his cell phone. I never even though about the TV, but you're right- he shoudl pay 1/3 of the bill...

I feel very uncomfortable talking with my roomate about this. It's weird because I can be very mouthy, but when it comes to living with someone I often have difficulty dealing with problems. Living with someone you are openly arguing with can be worse than living with someone you are secretly annoyed with (especially if they are one of your best friends). Beleive me, I know because I've lived both ways.

As for the dishes thing, I asked my roomate the other day if John has ever done dishes in our apt. She told me no, and that even when he still had his other apt, either she or his roomate did their dishes. I can't believe that she is willing to marry this guy if he is so unwilling to help out. They both work full-time, and she does all of the cooking and cleaning for them. I don't think it bodes well for her...

 

[Guest]

I empathize. I do. I know the uneasiness and tension that's present when you don't get along with a roomie. But, resentment builds. It isn't fair for you to be unhappy while your roomies live as they need to be content. You don't have to argue. You deserve a voice. Just think about it.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Dirty dishes cure...

If you have already talked to them about it, next time you find a sink full of dishes, just take them in and put them in their bed. It's subtle, quick and roommates usually get the message... worked for me.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Yep, put em in a box, take out ones you know you have dirtied, and leave em in thier room. I am willing to bet your roomie doesn't realize the strain it is putting on you, and once she does, will try to rectify it.

In the mean time, as you dirty a dish, wash it, and more or less make a point of doing it in front of them, so that the realize that the dishes piling up are thiers not yours.

You both have every right to be comfortable, but she has an obligation to make sure her fiance' isn't over stepping his bounds.

 

[lilminx]

Thank you all for the suggestions and the support- I plan on doing the whole "washing my own dishes and making a point of it" thing.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Yep, put em in a box, take out ones you know you have dirtied, and leave em in thier room. I am willing to bet your roomie doesn't realize the strain it is putting on you, and once she does, will try to rectify it.

In the mean time, as you dirty a dish, wash it, and more or less make a point of doing it in front of them, so that the realize that the dishes piling up are thiers not yours.

You both have every right to be comfortable, but she has an obligation to make sure her fiance' isn't over stepping his bounds.

Bang on the money Gilly Bean, but don't use a box... lay the dishes individually on the bed. It takes longer to remove them making more of a statement. from experience I can tell you it works. I'm really house proud and hate dishes anywhere in sight.

 

[Karmic]

Ok- there were my rants. Don't feel the need to respond to them- thanks for reading- I feel better just getting it out of my system

Ha!, what makes you thiink we read .... that... or ..... wanted .. to reply....... Stupid oximorons *pouts*

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Re: Thanks for the sympathy...

OMG- I didn't expect people to actually reply to this thread- especially 2 weeks after I posted it- lol.

My fault; Lost Cause said he couldn't find the thread where I had put his pic, so I was looking for it and clicked on the wrong page link. I noticed a few threads I had not seen before and replied to them before realizing how old they were.

At least they were 2 years old like some others are wont to reply to.

It does show that timing is important; no replies before, lots now.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I feel very uncomfortable talking with my roomate about this. It's weird because I can be very mouthy, but when it comes to living with someone I often have difficulty dealing with problems. Living with someone you are openly arguing with can be worse than living with someone you are secretly annoyed with (especially if they are one of your best friends). Beleive me, I know because I've lived both ways.

Ditto. I can argue to the death about philosophical stuff - but something so simple as doing the dishes or not throwing cig butts in the toilet, I would rather move out than have to deal with such conflict.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Bang on the money Gilly Bean, but don't use a box... lay the dishes individually on the bed. It takes longer to remove them making more of a statement. from experience I can tell you it works. I'm really house proud and hate dishes anywhere in sight.

Ooo... come wash mine? It hurts to stand in place for to long.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

that is just a shame.im sorry to hear that.tell him to get off his lazy but and do something productive.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Ooo... come wash mine? It hurts to stand in place for to long.

Tell the truth... you've just got a thing for big men in pink rubber gloves... LMAO

 

[Gilly Bean]

Tell the truth... you've just got a thing for big men in pink rubber gloves... LMAO

How did you know?

Do you have any objections to a frilly white apron?

 

[kiwiwolf]

How did you know?

Do you have any objections to a frilly white apron?

Will you be wearing it or me...? LOL If you want me to wear it I'd better shave my legs...

 

[XXplorher]

Ok- I'm a little pissed aff at myself and my roomate, so if you're not into hearing this, please move on...

Ok- I'm a little pissed aff at myself and my roomate, so if you're not into hearing this, please move on...

Can’t resist her Dryness….........


You right, I should have bailed out on the thread. I thought I was bored proof at the moment. But you proved me wrong *g*

Let me get this straight: you started the argument by chastising yourself for being a lazy lil’ wench. And then you went on to make a point about how perturbed you are about your roomate’s lazy fiance. That’s disturbing, minx. Do you recognize why? No wonder you need a ‘dom’.

 

[XXplorher]

Hey GillyBean -

You've got stripping stamina like I've never seen. Amazing.

 

[lilminx]

Yes, but exxplorher, if you went on to read, I keep my mess contained to my room, and it's not dirty, it's messy. he is a slob who leaves dirty dishes not only in the sink, but on the stove and countertops as well. He's also left his dirty underwear in the bathroom on numerous occasions, and never cleans up after himself. I have yet to witness him take out the garmage. Do you see why I'm mad now?

 

[XXplorher]

No. I only see tits.