Want to know or let sleeping dogs lie?

[UtilityCurve]

I don't think it's much of a reach to believe that our partners have fantasies they keep from us for a variety of reasons, some good, some bad.

If you could free them from their reluctance and hear the things they have kept locked away, all without shaming them, would you?

And if not, why not? Are you satisfied loving your image of your lover, the whole truth be damned?

 

[PageWriter2]

I would want to know. Even if not mutually interested it can still invite new spark and inventiveness

 

[CuckGuy89]

I don't think it's much of a reach to believe that our partners have fantasies they keep from us for a variety of reasons, some good, some bad.

If you could free them from their reluctance and hear the things they have kept locked away, all without shaming them, would you?

And if not, why not? Are you satisfied loving your image of your lover, the whole truth be damned?

Would definitely want to know!

 

[Goldenfinger]

No, I think everyone should have something to themselves.

 

[Not Normal]

I always want to know, but am patient enough to let them bring it to me in their own time.

 

[CuckedbyBBC]

Excellent topic! God I want to know! My stories and my posts are all about my alpha, extroverted personality and that’s the face I show to everyone in the world who knows me. Yet here I confess all my submissive tendencies, homosexual encounters and yearning to be a cuckold. They are intense! So of course I want to know what my loving, beautiful wife is cooking up in her brain, especially when eating her pussy. Her eyes are closed and she is concentrating on something. In fact, when I fuck her, and particular when I give her oral sex, Im imaging reading her for another man, almost exclusively a big black cock. So I’d be happy to find out what’s going through her mind! In fact it’s my biggest fantasy.

I would love thoughts and advice on how to do this. We are very open with each other, but she doesn’t like to talk much about sex. However, about six months ago I told her I would like to share the kind of porn I like, my Reddit subscriptions (very telling about my fantasies) and hear hers. I actually said we should discuss what we think about during sex and we talked about using our vr headset to watch porn (we never watched porn together). She was openly reluctant, if that makes sense. She said she’d do it but didn’t seem into it. I didn’t press it and it hasn’t come up since. She would definitely answer this post as she doesn’t want to know or tell!

 

[Handeguy]

I would very much like to know because it would probably lead to new ways to bring her pleasure and for us experience something novel together. What could be better than that?

 

[magicalmoments]

While I appreciate and understand the need we all have to keep some things personal I would like to know. I love hearing about her deepest fantasies and assorted experiences. Her problem is that when she has done this with former partners, despite their assurances that they can cope with any revelation they in fact reacted poorly and couldn't cope. Consequently she's reluctant to open up to me. I can understand that but find it frustrating.

 

[The_Couch]

I say I want to know. But what if it's really fucked up? I mean, REALLY fucked up. We all think we want to know, but somethings are better left unsaid. I suppose if it's just a fantasy and something she didn't want to happen in real life. But still...

 

[Conquen69]

I would want to know everything no matter how kinky, strange, or perverse.
I have at times wished I could read her thoughts.

 

[StrongMaster7]

I'd love to know all my wife's thoughts about sex, if she has any. I suspect she has very few.

I have a friend and I asked him about his wife and although he didn't tell me anything specific, he said he was blown away by how intense and sexy his wife's fantasies are.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

After being together 35+ yrs there isn’t much we don’t know about each other. We’ve basically explored most fantasies and kinks we’ve shared, and those we haven’t probably should remain in fantasy land.

If there are any more in the deep dark recesses of her mind, I probably have an inkling of it and if not, I’d enjoy knowing.

 

[magic_rat]

My partner and I are very open and I probably know everything there is to know about her fantasies, but if I don't, and she has a private one or two, why should I complain or pry?

 

[LeeKee]

Excellent topic. I think I would want to know a little. Not sure if she would want to know. We would probably discuss if we should or shouldn’t first, however lately she had a few open slips of the tongue so to speak, kind of tipping cards. We shall see.

 

[adlon]

some fantasies are to be shared some are to be kept private. I have never felt the need or desire to know all fantasies a partner may have. that sort of unknown holds no fears for me. if the relationship is strong and honest a person will share what they want to or what they feel will enhance the relationship.

 

[Nightspeed]

I only want to know what my partner is comfortable telling me. I respect boundaries. I love talking to my partner about our other partners and experiences as it's a big turn on for me, as are learning their desires and fantasies. But if I'm told x or y are off limits, then I don't push the issue. I make sure they know that if they want to ever tell me I'm open to listen, but I won't bring them up again.

 

[Jeph77]

Brooding on her being so late:
She's not picking up. Feel that pit in your stomach, so breathless and hopeful but desperate, as you try to hold the suspicion at bay, ready to accept any of her excuses, when you know she's a bad liar... and you think that at this very moment, they are coupling, you think you know the guy, in your mind you hear the sound of their bodies smacking together, he has her naked and he's fucking her this minute, she making sounds you haven't heard her make yet, she is enjoying it more than anything you've done for her. She's telling him that his hot cock is making her cum again. My god, you don't even know her!
There must be a good reason for this. Of course, she's working, and doesn't know her phone died! Maybe she was at her sister's place and just crashed. She's been so tired lately.

 

[Twistedkink]

I don't think it's much of a reach to believe that our partners have fantasies they keep from us for a variety of reasons, some good, some bad.

If you could free them from their reluctance and hear the things they have kept locked away, all without shaming them, would you?

And if not, why not? Are you satisfied loving your image of your lover, the whole truth be damned?

I would want to hear it all! That would be the best thing for a relationship, and the most intimate.

 

[canopy]

I'd want to know but I don't want my husband to know that I know

 

[Str4ng3rth4nf1ct1on]

My wife started meeting men 2 years after we started dating and has been (on and off) ever since. She’s a (self confessed) slut and I love her for it. She is the sexiest woman I know. We’ve always shared our fantasies and thoughts and after nearly 35 years together I thought I knew everything about her. Then about 10 years ago she “confessed“ that she’d been sucking men off behind my back from the day we met. It’s been wild listening to her recount the 2 years that I knew nothing about. I hope she’s held back on other trysts so she can blow my mind again.

 

[UtilityCurve]

by how intense and sexy his wife's fantasies are.

Somehow I find that unsurprising. Who's reading the books wherein a single kiss lasts pages? Detail. Who spends time perfecting makeup? Details. Who "freshens up" before bedding a lover? Details.

I suspect the palette women use to paint their fantasies is enormous, though I laugh at how often their descriptions of male pleasure (especially ejaculations) have less detail than the way he smells. I get "write what you know about," but borrowing from some of what they have read here seems too appealing not to!

 

[UtilityCurve]

I'd want to know but I don't want my husband to know that I know

That bears explaining!

 

[magicalmoments]

No, I think everyone should have something to themselves.

I agree with this wholeheartedly, but I'd still want to know.

 

[MaxwellSmart86]

This is something that my wife and I are experiencing at our current stage of our lives.
We recently altered our marriage dynamic from monogamous to ethical non-mono and so part of that is sharing fantasies and desires that have normally been kept to ourselves.

My wife recently had her first experience (a threesome with a woman and her husband) without me (my wife is out of town and I couldn't be there with her) and I debated with myself if I wanted to know. Since we have never done this before, I wasn't sure if I would be turned on from it, neutral or turned off. I decided that I wanted to know the details, mainly out of curiosity and for future experiences to help expand any rules or boundaries. I found myself turned on from my wife's activities with the woman but not from the man (at least at this time as I am still processing my thoughts and feelings on this). I was more relieved that the man was respectful and gentle with my wife. In my particular case, I felt knowing was better as not knowing would allow my imagination to run wild from the most mundane to the most severe (long story, but I have some mental health struggles).

I think this question of knowing or not knowing is really dependent on the individual. Some may not want to know where others may want to know everything. I think it's healthy to not share everything though, as that still allows a person to maintain their own agency. But this is just my personal view point and shouldn't be taken too seriously.

 

[canopy]

That bears explaining!

Well I have this fantasy that my hubs thinks he's cheating but I know it all along. He spends the evening with a woman and comes home late. The next morning the woman would text me and I'd go there eager to taste my hubs on and in her, while she tells me all the way my he made her feel. Dom me. Extra bliss if she makes me lick her or makes out with me while on phone with my hubs making plan for their next evening. Let me hear how eager my hubs is in trying to fuck her again


I haven't told my husband about this fantasy in detail. I've hinted. He thinks I'm messing with him