My lady friends fantasies and experiences

[Sensuousmind]

I stumbled across this website about a year ago looking for erotica for women. This site has allowed me the freedom to write and feel comfortable about my own experiences and fantasies. Though my husband is aware of my experiences with other men, I find it hard to be totally open with my husband about some of my fantasies even though he has encouraged me to be. I'm not sure if it is fear of his reaction, him feeling I'm not satisfied with our sex life or that I have too many fantasies and experiences with other men.

We really have a great sex life and my husband has gotten quite turned on with some of our escapades. We have participated in some swinging and honestly I have had a number of one night stands over my travels for work that were incredible and hot as hell sex which I have shared on this site. I can sometimes get uncontrollably naughty when I get very turned on. We have even played a game where I pick up a guy and bring him back to my hotel room for sex as my husband watches while hiding in the closet.

I know he gets turned on watching me have sex with other men or just knowing about it. I get turned on having sex with other men and watching their reaction when they reach orgasm and feeling him release his cum in me. It's almost a confirmation to me that I am still attractive and lusted after by men I meet at my age especially when they are younger than me.

I am wondering from other ladies out there if you deal with holding back from your partner your sexual fantasies, thoughts and maybe even experiences outside of the relationship? What are your favorite fantasies? What seems to turn your partner on the most? I guess I am looking for confirmation that maybe my actions are more normal than I think.

 

[AG31]

My fantasies are totally private within the context of our home. We're very vanilla and I'm sure he wouldn't know what to make of them. All of my stories here on Lit are simply records of my fantasies... all but two (soon to be three) are dark BDSM.

 

[Drew4kicks]

I stumbled across this website about a year ago looking for erotica for women. This site has allowed me the freedom to write and feel comfortable about my own experiences and fantasies. Though my husband is aware of my experiences with other men, I find it hard to be totally open with my husband about some of my fantasies even though he has encouraged me to be. I'm not sure if it is fear of his reaction, him feeling I'm not satisfied with our sex life or that I have too many fantasies and experiences with other men.

We really have a great sex life and my husband has gotten quite turned on with some of our escapades. We have participated in some swinging and honestly I have had a number of one night stands over my travels for work that were incredible and hot as hell sex which I have shared on this site. I can sometimes get uncontrollably naughty when I get very turned on. We have even played a game where I pick up a guy and bring him back to my hotel room for sex as my husband watches while hiding in the closet.

I know he gets turned on watching me have sex with other men or just knowing about it. I get turned on having sex with other men and watching their reaction when they reach orgasm and feeling him release his cum in me. It's almost a confirmation to me that I am still attractive and lusted after by men I meet at my age especially when they are younger than me.

I am wondering from other ladies out there if you deal with holding back from your partner your sexual fantasies, thoughts and maybe even experiences outside of the relationship? What are your favorite fantasies? What seems to turn your partner on the most? I guess I am looking for confirmation that maybe my actions are more normal than I think.

Are all your extramarital experiences w/ hub’s knowledge? That is, is prior consent required, or do you so as you please then report back to him?

 

[Toffer_Guy]

If your husband is confident and trusting enough of having an open relationship, seeing you with other men. You can likely be confident to sharing your most secret desires with him. If you’re concerned about his feelings, just be open about how you feel about him and that he satisfies you and use some specifics of how he does. A lot of times, being sincere is all that’s needed.

I get the worry. It can be so hard to really share some of the wilder, darker ideas in our heads. The fear of judgement or misunderstanding from someone you care about. I’ve often struggled with knowing how much to share. There are a lot of fantasies I enjoy that are only fantasy with no desire to act out. There’s a thrill at the idea of crossing taboo lines. People should be judged for their actions and not thoughts.

Perhaps set it up as a game you can share. Where you take turns telling each other fantasies and build up. Did that with one girlfriend years ago. We were smoking some pot and telling each other naughty ideas. Nothing that we would really do but having fun trying to shock the other.

I’m currently single and enjoy sharing some of my wilder fantasies with women online and hearing her own, too. It can be easier to share wilder ideas with strangers in these settings. No real risk of consequences. Though, I have had times where women online have asked me to share my kinkiest ideas and won't shock them. Telling them a mildly kinky ideas then not hearing back from them.

 

[zcraft5]

My fantasies are totally private within the context of our home. We're very vanilla and I'm sure he wouldn't know what to make of them. All of my stories here on Lit are simply records of my fantasies... all but two (soon to be three) are dark BDSM.

may i read any of them ?

 

[AG31]

may i read any of them ?

They're all posted here. Search for me on the story side.

 

[gtnlynn]

I know that it took years of marriage before my wife opened up about her fantasies. She has enjoyed an active sex life, but there are still a lot of things she has not experienced. She told me about some of her fantasies. I asked her if she has others, and she said that she has not and will not tell me about all of them.

 

[Badguy4u]

I'm a guy, but from my experiences with several married women, they have fantasies they want to live out of being submissive to a guy and being used and forced/rough sex. However they don't want their husband or friends finding out about this dark secret they have as they don't want the loss of respect.

 

[Islander55]

I suspect most women have some fantasies that they are reluctant to share. If you have been married for a long time, sex tends to get into a rut and I think many married people are reluctant to fully open themselves up to their spouse. I was fortunate even though it came late in life to have a serious conversation with my husband about sex. We ended up getting into the swinging lifestyle which I find to be very exciting. Just having new partners livens things up considerably.

 

[Veronica_Flora]

I stumbled across this website about a year ago looking for erotica for women. This site has allowed me the freedom to write and feel comfortable about my own experiences and fantasies. Though my husband is aware of my experiences with other men, I find it hard to be totally open with my husband about some of my fantasies even though he has encouraged me to be. I'm not sure if it is fear of his reaction, him feeling I'm not satisfied with our sex life or that I have too many fantasies and experiences with other men.

We really have a great sex life and my husband has gotten quite turned on with some of our escapades. We have participated in some swinging and honestly I have had a number of one night stands over my travels for work that were incredible and hot as hell sex which I have shared on this site. I can sometimes get uncontrollably naughty when I get very turned on. We have even played a game where I pick up a guy and bring him back to my hotel room for sex as my husband watches while hiding in the closet.

I know he gets turned on watching me have sex with other men or just knowing about it. I get turned on having sex with other men and watching their reaction when they reach orgasm and feeling him release his cum in me. It's almost a confirmation to me that I am still attractive and lusted after by men I meet at my age especially when they are younger than me.

I am wondering from other ladies out there if you deal with holding back from your partner your sexual fantasies, thoughts and maybe even experiences outside of the relationship? What are your favorite fantasies? What seems to turn your partner on the most? I guess I am looking for confirmation that maybe my actions are more normal than I think.

My husband knows some stuff and it’s been messy sometimes. Every year or so, he asks me about my sexual history and usually catches me omitting something I’ve told him or something he’s discovered going through my stuff.

I’ve kept some past stuff from him and I’ve cheated. I’ve been caught and I’ve got away with it. I’ll never share the ones I got away with. I’ll never share like 3 of my past lovers from before him. Idk if we’re normal though.

 

[Badguy4u]

My husband knows some stuff and it’s been messy sometimes. Every year or so, he asks me about my sexual history and usually catches me omitting something I’ve told him or something he’s discovered going through my stuff.

I’ve kept some past stuff from him and I’ve cheated. I’ve been caught and I’ve got away with it. I’ll never share the ones I got away with. I’ll never share like 3 of my past lovers from before him. Idk if we’re normal though.

What is the difference between the past lovers you shared with your husband and the 3 you won't?

 

[Veronica_Flora]

What is the difference between the past lovers you shared with your husband and the 3 you won't?

One is still in my life. He is engaged to my friend. But we still talk. She knows and there’s nothing going on. But I think my husband wouldn’t want me talking to him anymore. One was my first and I kinda lied to him about who my first was. And the other one is kind of embarrassing.

 

[Badguy4u]

One is still in my life. He is engaged to my friend. But we still talk. She knows and there’s nothing going on. But I think my husband wouldn’t want me talking to him anymore. One was my first and I kinda lied to him about who my first was. And the other one is kind of embarrassing.

Oh, you have to tell me the embarrassing one!

 

[Badguy4u]

Oh, you have to tell me the embarrassing one!

Oh come on. You couldn't possibly be embarrassed with all the pervs on this site

 

[Justfantasies]

I'm a guy, but from my experiences with several married women, they have fantasies they want to live out of being submissive to a guy and being used and forced/rough sex. However they don't want their husband or friends finding out about this dark secret they have as they don't want the loss of respect.

I'm sure there is some of that. But also some women had a lot of sexual variety before they married and just miss being "friendly" with other guys

 

[Badguy4u]

I'm sure there is some of that. But also some women had a lot of sexual variety before they married and just miss being "friendly" with other guys

I agree. However in two cases of married women that wanted to be submissive to me, the stress and strain of being in a high stress job, along with married with kids, made them want to be submissive to a guy even if just for one evening. I think both men and women that are in high stress situations want relief by being a submissive

 

[magicalmoments]

I started sharing fantasies with my first wife about 50 years ago. I've been sharing them with women ever since. In that accumulated experience I think I've learned a couple of things.

A woman will more likely open up about her fantasies in an anonymous situation, like on Literotica, where she can write her stories and chat with others without fear of being shamed or embarrassment.

In a relationship it is a little different. It seems to me that the most common inhibitor for most women is a fear of being judged harshly for having their fantasies, that she will be shamed for having such "dirty" thoughts. Also, she is afraid that by opening up, even to a trusted partner, that somehow they will think less of her, will lose respect for her if they know her deepest sexual desires. Another factor also seems to be a worry that her partner will develop feeling of inadequacy or will think she is unhappy with their sex life. think that he is unable to sexually meet her needs, which invariably is not true and totally unrelated to her fantasies in any way.

Just my thoughts from a lifetime of sharing.

 

[Justfantasies]

I agree. However in two cases of married women that wanted to be submissive to me, the stress and strain of being in a high stress job, along with married with kids, made them want to be submissive to a guy even if just for one evening. I think both men and women that are in high stress situations want relief by being a submissive

Agree completely. I suppose I can be a tad submissive when I am stressed too

 

[Justfantasies]

Bump ...

 

[babygirl4u1966]

I agree. However in two cases of married women that wanted to be submissive to me, the stress and strain of being in a high stress job, along with married with kids, made them want to be submissive to a guy even if just for one evening. I think both men and women that are in high stress situations want relief by being a submissive

I have to agree. When I'm very stressed, I find my sexual fantasy is very submissive. When I'm not stressed or feeling really good about myself, my fantasy is more domineering.

 

[Tommelon]

My husband knows some stuff and it’s been messy sometimes. Every year or so, he asks me about my sexual history and usually catches me omitting something I’ve told him or something he’s discovered going through my stuff.

I’ve kept some past stuff from him and I’ve cheated. I’ve been caught and I’ve got away with it. I’ll never share the ones I got away with. I’ll never share like 3 of my past lovers from before him. Idk if we’re normal though.

What drove you to cheat?

 

[zcraft5]

What drove you to cheat?

tohave an orgasm with another person just to fulfill sexual needs it has been to long and then the excitement creeps in of cheating

 

[Wrongholesandiego]

What is worse, emotional or physical cheating? A one night meaningless bang won’t hurt if they don’t find out

 

[zcraft5]

physical of course

 

[Wrongholesandiego]

physical of course

That is what everyone thinks but if you actually took the time to get to know someone, made plans, had dinner all behind your significant others back vs a random hook up from a bar or seeing an escort. Are you more likely to form a bond with the hook up chick or the girl you can actually communicate with?