Vanilla girl wants to be kinky

[Wannabeweird]

Quick back story - my 15 year marriage was just basic vanilla sex. Never experimented with anything. Fast forward a few years and My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5 years. He is a beast in bed and has had me try so many new things. Problem is he wants me to come up with new freaky things and I have no idea!! I don’t even know where to look!!! Things we’ve already done: bondage, fisting, all kinds of anal for both, whips, clamps on both, golden showers, a 3 some… HELP!! What are some kinky wild thing you’ve done or where do you get ideas???

 

[cubbyfire04]

Ummm... That's a pretty impressive kink resume already! Maybe just head to a toy store and look for something new to try? Or maybe even starting a cam site and doing the things you just mentioned live (and make a lil money??)?

 

[Wannabeweird]

Ummm... That's a pretty impressive kink resume already! Maybe just head to a toy store and look for something new to try? Or maybe even starting a cam site and doing the things you just mentioned live (and make a lil money??)?

That might go above both our limits lol. I was just looking for different ideas to try.

 

[madmatt618]

Quick back story - my 15 year marriage was just basic vanilla sex. Never experimented with anything. Fast forward a few years and My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5 years. He is a beast in bed and has had me try so many new things. Problem is he wants me to come up with new freaky things and I have no idea!! I don’t even know where to look!!! Things we’ve already done: bondage, fisting, all kinds of anal for both, whips, clamps on both, golden showers, a 3 some… HELP!! What are some kinky wild thing you’ve done or where do you get ideas???

I know you mentioned being on cam may be above your limits, but how about trying something in public? A handjob underneath a table in a restaurant, a remote vibrator inside you at a shopping mall, etc.?

 

[N2outdoors]

That might go above both our limits lol. I was just looking for different ideas to trydelete

 

[LittleSwitchy]

I know you mentioned being on cam may be above your limits, but how about trying something in public? A handjob underneath a table in a restaurant, a remote vibrator inside you at a shopping mall, etc.?

One of my favs is putting a spin on what you said.
Try a remote vibe. Get one the remote looks like a car key fob. Go to a restaurant. When the waitress comes over. Ask her to do you a favor… this does not seem to work for me. My car is right there. Can you see if it works for you?
Then watch your girls reaction.

 

[Ian_and_Mia]

a 3 some…

It's the only thing I like from what you mentioned. Did you mean FMF or MFM? I'm bisexual, so I prefer FMF. The only thing I feel sexier than a threesome is a public threesome. The easiest way to go public is to register on some web-cam site. My first best orgasm was when I, barely 18, was riding my hubby's cock, and my GF was soul-kissing me, sitting on his face so he could lick her clit. We had 4000+ viewers - and it was my first best multiple orgasms.

 

[Wannabeweird]

How about a toy that can be remotely controlled by someone else? I have a Lovense Lush 2. You should research these. Their website is Lovense.com. Ours works great.

I’ve thought about these- but are they quiet?

 

[N2outdoors]

I’ve thought about these- but are they quiet?

Delete

 

[Bbeeler707]

Quick back story - my 15 year marriage was just basic vanilla sex. Never experimented with anything. Fast forward a few years and My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5 years. He is a beast in bed and has had me try so many new things. Problem is he wants me to come up with new freaky things and I have no idea!! I don’t even know where to look!!! Things we’ve already done: bondage, fisting, all kinds of anal for both, whips, clamps on both, golden showers, a 3 some… HELP!! What are some kinky wild thing you’ve done or where do you get ideas???

Is there anything that you wouldn’t do?

 

[Wannabeweird]

Is there anything that you wouldn’t do?

I’m not sure… to be honest I don’t have a clue what’s out there. He said to use my imagination but apparently I don’t have enough “kinky” experience to even get started.

 

[rthnck]

I’m not sure… to be honest I don’t have a clue what’s out there. He said to use my imagination but apparently I don’t have enough “kinky” experience to even get started.

Kinky is in the mind of the beholder. Sex with the lights on is kinky to some people so in my opinion you shouldn't fixate on the "kinky" directive. I would suspect that your boyfriend wants to explore with you and wants you to think about things you might find pleasurable and that could be anything. If nothing comes to mind you can pop over to pornhub and look at the categories tab to take you down various exploratory avenues. You can look for variations on things you already find pleasurable or step outside of that area and look at things you haven't done that hold a little appeal. Sex in public, sex outside, mutual masturbation, surprise naked on your knees blowjob, the list is endless. There is nothing more appealing to a man than a woman who is open minded and enthusiastic about sex. Your boyfriend is a very lucky guy.

 

[NNJ_Mike]

I’m not sure… to be honest I don’t have a clue what’s out there. He said to use my imagination but apparently I don’t have enough “kinky” experience to even get started.

I don't have any direct knowledge as I'm still stuck with the vanilla partner but you have a huge resource here on this website, go down the rabbit hole. Find some stories that you like. The next time he's going down on you, tell him what you read and how it made you feel. Gauge he reaction. If it works for both of you, go further down that rabbit hole.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

Problem is he wants me to come up with new freaky things

Tell him to stop being a cunt and use his imagination.

 

[zach20092]

Tell him to stop being a cunt and use his imagination.

Totally agree!! And you just lay back or sit up or bend over and enjoy!!!

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

He's the 'beast'. He's the kinky one. He should be down on his knees being thankful that he found a vanilla girl willing to do all the kinky shit he wants, not making demands. If he's run out of ideas, thats his problem,

 

[BDA73]

Could be as basic as role playing...be his cheap hooked and he be your john...dress up as a school girl and make him be your headmaster

 

[Pad_Foot]

Tell him to stop being a cunt and use his imagination.

Or start being a “cunt”
Get a feeldoe or some such and make him switch
Peg his “cunt”

 

[LarryTee50]

In the past I've had more than one lover who wanted me to do "anything I want." I loved that. It was fun getting them to try different kinky things. They wanted me to take the lead. Be who you are and have a good time. It doesn't have to be about how weird you can get. The whole point of creative lovemaking is to make it up as you go along........The guy apparently doesn't realize what a gift you are.

 

[jckontharocks]

2 things.

1. Dirty talk. Doesn't need to be the fake, over dramatic, "oooooo fuck my pussssyyyyy, crap."

Be vocal during sex, "that feels great, keep doing that."

" I love how your cock feels, when you do that."

When you are about the cum, tell him baby I'm going to cum!

2. Initiate sex. NOT by saying to him, " hey, did you wanna do it? " Contrary to my last comment. Tell him you want to have sex without words at first.


Bonus tip touch his asshole a little when he's close to cumming.

 

[Hmm72]

He's the 'beast'. He's the kinky one. He should be down on his knees being thankful that he found a vanilla girl willing to do all the kinky shit he wants, not making demands. If he's run out of ideas, thats his problem,

COULDN’T AGREE MORE….

To be honest seems like he may be the more vanilla one…and is looking to you for ideas as he has no idea…!!!

 

[seekingAlpha]

Just a few quick ones off the top of my head... Breath play, needle play, chemical play, electrical play, public play, role play, and the list is really infinite.

 

[MidnightRyder007]

In my opinion life is too short for shitty sex. A man must use mental hedonism as well as his oral therapy skills to please a woman in the bedroom. Correct me, ladies, if I am wrong but a woman's vagina is a like a box with a 1000 combination number, there are more than three to the left and two to the right.

 

[RockHardKP]

Quick back story - my 15 year marriage was just basic vanilla sex. Never experimented with anything. Fast forward a few years and My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2.5 years. He is a beast in bed and has had me try so many new things. Problem is he wants me to come up with new freaky things and I have no idea!! I don’t even know where to look!!! Things we’ve already done: bondage, fisting, all kinds of anal for both, whips, clamps on both, golden showers, a 3 some… HELP!! What are some kinky wild thing you’ve done or where do you get ideas???

Perhaps a Lovense vibrator? You can wear it to dinner, quietly sitting at the table with others nearby and he can control if from an app on his phone and bring you to the edge over and over before taking you home and fucking the shit out of you.

edit: as I read this thread closer, looks like this idea has already been suggested.

https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph62fbbad3bbf08

https://www.lovense.com/bluetooth-remote-control-vibrator

 

[Wordsworth]

From that list, I think vanilla melted all over the floor.

Kink, like a lot of things that activate the reward center of the brain, is a progressive 'addiction' requiring ever-increasing stimulation.

I don't think there's anything at all wrong with any kinky thing that the two of you decide to try or enjoy but chasing it is the best way to have it elude you. Enjoy the journey, look out the window where you are, rather than rushing to a higher elevation.