Trusting Your Instincts

[Rubyfruit]

Do you?

Mostly I do. I'm observant and aware of my environment and what people say and how they say it. The way they move their body. Eye contact. Inconsistencies in truth. Attempts at manipulation.

But I still wonder if I can trust myself to know if I'm getting into a bad situation or not.

How about you?

 

[glamorilla]

always.

 

[Cheyenne]

Yup, I trust them. Even when it makes me unpopular to do so.

 

[calypso_21]

Sometimes mine get a little muddled...but I am making sure they are free and clear for any vibes I am feeling. Instincts are wicked important.

 

[nasty1]

My instincts usually are peccimistic. But, I'm working to change that.

 

[Guest]

always.

Instinct isn't as reliable in cyber space, as we're all finding out at Ram's expence.

 

[Ice Cold]

I'd trust my instincts to about 95%. Can't account for everything, but they are usually right on the money about most things and people.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Nine times out of ten, I am correct in my first judgements of people.

When I find I was mistaken and my trust misplaced, I am more angry and disappointed at me, than at anyone else.

We all have self doubts at times. That's the risk one takes at living life and not just existing.

 

[Sex & Diamonds]

Most of the time I do rely on my own instints. But there are people out there that are just low down liars and enjoy being able to decieve. In real life I think it's easier as you can see their faces, body language etc. Sometimes you just meet a person and they rub you the wrong way, no apparent reason. Just don't like em. That's instints, or perhaps I'm just bitchy

 

[Rubyfruit]

Instinct isn't as reliable in cyber space, as we're all finding out at Ram's expence.

See, I think it's almost easier here, at an active message board. You can get to know people over a long period of time, and their views on many different topics, ad nauseam at times.

Most people can not lie effectively over long periods of time and in front of so many witnesses.

 

[horny_giraffe]

Nope. My instincts tell me to rape, pillage, and loot indiscriminately. That just won't do. I-IIII am n-NOT an animal!

As for my intuition, I try to pay attention to it as an additional factor, but never the sole basis of a decision. If I'm in obvious physical danger, I'll remove myself to a place of temporary safety where I can have a moment to think or otherwise buy myself some time. If necessary, I'll drag whatever (or whoever) I wish to safeguard, as well. One rarely needs more than ten or twenty seconds for immediate problems. I'm not an action hero, so I usually don't find myself in Macgyver situations.

Of course, one can devote more time to less urgent issues.

 

[Cytra]

Do you?

Yes, one of those traits that I have grown accustomed to having around...

Mostly I do. I'm observant and aware of my environment and what people say and how they say it. The way they move their body. Eye contact. Inconsistencies in truth. Attempts at manipulation.

Wouldn't that make you somen kind of born psychologists, a combination of good sense, experience and knowledge?

But I still wonder if I can trust myself to know if I'm getting into a bad situation or not.

Usually, your intuition will lead you to where you were meant to go. Sometimes, it is not your intuition speaking but your heart...

Cytra

 

[RisiaSkye]

Instinct isn't as reliable in cyber space, as we're all finding out at Ram's expence.

There's a simple solution for this--
don't trust anyone you can't look in the eye.

Well, it works for me.

 

[Cytra]

There's a simple solution for this--
don't trust anyone you can't look in the eye.

Well, it works for me.

I second that

 

[juicylips]

When I find I was mistaken and my trust misplaced, I am more angry and disappointed at me, than at anyone else.

What she said.

I'm usually pretty accurate. But I let very, very few people into my life.

 

[intrigued]

Do you?

Mostly I do. I'm observant and aware of my environment and what people say and how they say it. The way they move their body. Eye contact. Inconsistencies in truth. Attempts at manipulation.

But I still wonder if I can trust myself to know if I'm getting into a bad situation or not.

How about you?

Yeah, I do. But I also like to stand back and watch someone hang themselves by their own hand, too...especially when I know in my heart that they are attempting to manipulate me...it just ain't gonna happen.

Ruby, I'm just a tad bit suprised that you wonder about yourself, you are so strong and in touch with yourself.

Listen to your instincts...if they are wrong and things are as they seem, it will become apparent. I'm realizing this more and more by the minute.

 

[weed]

I give my gut feeling a lot of credit but try not to rely on it entirely.

In RL...it's usually been correct. Seems the times I've ignored it are times I shouldn't have ignored it for the most part. But there are a few times it's been wrong also.

Then I try to live and learn.

It's harder here in cyberland and my trust is much slower to give. The gut feelings are fuzzier and seem to be more about whether I care for someone's personality more than trusting them.

It's funny...here in this land of pseudoanonomity it's easy to share more to relative strangers than it is to share in RL. The subject range is wide open. But when it comes to trusting with my feelings there is a wariness. I did it very quickly at first and thankfully that hasn't gotten me into trouble but I've realized how it could.

 

[MissTaken]

I have trusted my instincts and they have lead me well in many situations.

There have been times that I have missed cues or whatever, and ended up hurt.

But ya can't stop trusting and trying.

Use a bit more than your instincts, rely on your judgement and you ability to pick up on inconsistencies, your ability to think logically.

I have been burned very harshly, but more so in real life than from anyone on the net.

 

[TWB]

Do you?

Mostly I do. I'm observant and aware of my environment and what people say and how they say it. The way they move their body. Eye contact. Inconsistencies in truth. Attempts at manipulation.

But I still wonder if I can trust myself to know if I'm getting into a bad situation or not.

How about you?

I don't trust your instincts. You haven't stalked me yet.

 

[red_rose]

Generally, I do trust my insticts... I'm a fairly intuitive person.

But I still wonder if I can trust myself to know if I'm getting into a bad situation or not.

This is something that's bothered me more as of late. There are times when I wonder if my instinct/intuition is really good enough for me to take a chance on putting myself in a bad position...one that I may possibly not be able to get out of.

However - more often than not - I wind up feeling that I would rather trust myself and take a chance than wind up missing out on some of the things life has to offer.

 

[SINthysist]

I'm the king of instinct...

 

[floridaguy64]

Here's a scenario for you...

I drove a cab to pay my way through college. Graduated and worked as an accountant for 8.5 years, developed an ulcer and decided that swinging a hammer was healthier than dodging tax shelters. So what do I do? I open my own business as a remodeler, subcontract for all kinds of commercial sleezeball builders... and re-develop the same peptic ulcer from before!

Only this time, Instead of 1 bottle of Maalox a day... it's now 12 pepcids/no milk... unless you like puking up cottage cheese freequently/no butter/no eggs/no meat/no anything you've ever liked to consume in life. The Jack Daniels still made me puke, but seeing as how I was drunk as fuck at that point, I didn't give a shit.

The end result?

I'll be 40 in May... I've just recently (5 weeks now) gone back to driving a cab... and you better damn well believe that I trust my instincts 110% of the time. In the cab business, if I even have the least bit of doubt about you, no matter how desperate I may be for the money at the time, your walking sucker! I'll never need your dollars at the risk of my life!

In real and Net life, 1st impressions are everything. Yet! Yet, there is one sole factor to consider between the two; in REAL LIFE, generally speaking, what you see is what you get. In NET LIFE, what you see is more often than not most assuradly what you DON"T get!

I'm not jaded to the point of never trusting anyone again, it's just that I am now AWARE of the fact that I have just so much life left, and I want whatever time that I do have left here on earth to be the very best, well spent/managed/enjoyed time of my life. I burried my mom in '96 from Leukemia, my Dad in '97 from Hodgekin's... the big "C" runs rampent in my family at the mid 60's age range.

I sincerely hope that this is not too much to ask, and still be able to make and hopefully meet new friends.

Oh yeah! I was at a loss for RAM and ISH when I read the posts recently of thier personal loss... Hell, I even wasted a whole bottle of Jack Black that morning in thier honor........OOPS!, I drank that bottle, so that can't count as a waste. OOPS!

 

[SINthysist]

I am the Queen of Instinct...

 

[Rubyfruit]

Thank you all for your input and votes of confidence (yay me!)



Intrigued, of course I occasionally have self-doubt. I can't imagine anybody not.

However, I really do try to listen to my intuition - which really is simply an awareness of the things mentioned above.

I'll never forget hearing about a woman's story who was raped. She was walking up the inside stairs to her apartment. After the locked door closed behind her, she heard footsteps behind her in the stairwell. How did somebody else get in without using a key? (He followed her in) Then he insisted on helping her with her grocery bags. When she tried to refuse, he made her feel badly about not accepting help. Red flag number two. She was now accommodating him. Of course, he insisted on bringing her bags into her apartment, which is where the rape occurred. I can't recall the entire story, but in her recounting of events that led up to the rape, there were several things that didn't add up and made her uncomfortable, but she ignored them.

Here is where this story become really interesting though. After the rape, he told her he was going to go and let her live, but first he wanted to get a drink of water from the kitchen. Before he left her in the bedroom, he closed the bedroom window. Why would he close the window after the rape and before he said he was going to leave? Because he was going to the kitchen to get a knife to kill her. Lucky for her, she put it together in her mind this time and managed to escape with her life.

We hear about the Ted Bundies of the world being master manipulators, con artists, charming, but I bet if we're listening inside, we'd hear them for who they are.

Or would we?

 

[DarkAngel]

Nope never..

But I do trust the little voice in my head.