A Desert Rose
Simply Charming Elsewhere
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- Aug 16, 2002
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RE: Trusting online.....
What the lady in your story experienced was a sheer survival instinct: natural and quite reflexive.
It's easy to be duped by people, if we are not alert, as you stated in your opening post. But even easier online to be taken in. One cannot see body language or hear voice inflection, etc. One cannot look someone else in the eye, online.
It behooves us all to be careful and cautious and take things slow. If it clicks with you and another person, time will tell and things will blossom. But hold your heart close unless you are prepared to take the risk of having it trampled on.
That has been my experience, at least. I try to never share my hurt feelings on the board. I won't give another the satisfaction of knowing the pain he/she has caused me. We all know ethical people when we meet them. If they don't measure up to your ethics, they are not EVER going to share and return your feelings.
What the lady in your story experienced was a sheer survival instinct: natural and quite reflexive.
It's easy to be duped by people, if we are not alert, as you stated in your opening post. But even easier online to be taken in. One cannot see body language or hear voice inflection, etc. One cannot look someone else in the eye, online.
It behooves us all to be careful and cautious and take things slow. If it clicks with you and another person, time will tell and things will blossom. But hold your heart close unless you are prepared to take the risk of having it trampled on.
That has been my experience, at least. I try to never share my hurt feelings on the board. I won't give another the satisfaction of knowing the pain he/she has caused me. We all know ethical people when we meet them. If they don't measure up to your ethics, they are not EVER going to share and return your feelings.