Trusting Your Instincts

[A Desert Rose]

RE: Trusting online.....

What the lady in your story experienced was a sheer survival instinct: natural and quite reflexive.

It's easy to be duped by people, if we are not alert, as you stated in your opening post. But even easier online to be taken in. One cannot see body language or hear voice inflection, etc. One cannot look someone else in the eye, online.

It behooves us all to be careful and cautious and take things slow. If it clicks with you and another person, time will tell and things will blossom. But hold your heart close unless you are prepared to take the risk of having it trampled on.

That has been my experience, at least. I try to never share my hurt feelings on the board. I won't give another the satisfaction of knowing the pain he/she has caused me. We all know ethical people when we meet them. If they don't measure up to your ethics, they are not EVER going to share and return your feelings.

 

[riff]

Do you?

Mostly I do. I'm observant and aware of my environment and what people say and how they say it. The way they move their body. Eye contact. Inconsistencies in truth. Attempts at manipulation.

But I still wonder if I can trust myself to know if I'm getting into a bad situation or not.

How about you?

Hell, I know I can't. The converse is true too. I wouldn't know a good situation if it fell on my face and wiggled.

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Trusting Your Instincts

I wouldn't know a good situation if it fell on my face and wiggled.

How about if I fell on your face and wiggled?

 

[riff]

Re: Re: Re: Trusting Your Instincts

How about if I fell on your face and wiggled?

LOL.

You are sweet to me.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Re: RE: Trusting online.....

What the lady in your story experienced was a sheer survival instinct: natural and quite reflexive.

Actually, the point of the story was that it's not natural instinct so much as absorbing the information in your environment and listening to what it is telling you. The woman's "natural instinct" was to lay there in bed and wait for him to leave. It was his act of closing the window that forced her to do otherwise.

 

[A Desert Rose]

Re: Re: RE: Trusting online.....

Actually, the point of the story was that it's not natural instinct so much as absorbing the information in your environment and listening to what it is telling you. The woman's "natural instinct" was to lay there in bed and wait for him to leave. It was his act of closing the window that forced her to do otherwise.

I am sorry Ruby, but once again we don't agree. I think it would be natural for me at least, to try and get away or at the least, find a weapon of my own.

But that is my perspective and as I have said, we do not need to agree on anything.

 

[Rubyfruit]

I think it's great that you'd react that way, Rose.

Judging by the amount of women who are raped and murdered every day around the world who do not fight back though, I'd have to say that you might not be in the majority.

A lot of people do not have good boundries, especially women. Many of us are natural pleasers, especially towards men.

This is why it's important to be aware.

 

[A Desert Rose]

You are right. I didn't read or comprehend correctly what your point was in the rape story.

(But I still think I would try to escape or find a way to defend myself. ~smile~)

 

[Hamletmaschine]

My instincts told me to drop in and say "Hi" to Ruby.

 

[Rubyfruit]

*smiles broadly*

Hi Hammie! Life still crazy busy for you?

 

[perks]

trust my instincts? most of the time.

ignore them, lots of the time.

 

[Hamletmaschine]

*smiles broadly*

Hi Hammie! Life still crazy busy for you?

Yup, pretty busy still. One major project down, but I still have plenty to keep me from getting into too much trouble.

In regards to your question: I think I trust my instincts completely when it comes to work/professional life, and I rely on them a lot. It helps keep things interesting.

When it comes to situations outside the professional context, however, I'm not so trusting of instincts about people. I find that I tend to make snap judgments about people if I go with my instinctive reaction to them.

 

[SimplySouthern]

I tend to trust my instincts. I'm skeptical by nature so sometimes it takes a while for me to get a "feel" for people.

I've found over time that if I were more trusting of my first instincts, I would save myself lots of heartache.

Isn't that always the way?