To Stella Omega

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

This might belong in the cafe, but because I am being totally serious, posting it here instead. If it gets moved, so be it!

Hi Stella O.
I just wanted to say a few things about your Stella's Usual Rant post. First of all, thank you for constantly pushing it on the newbies. I don't think I would have found it if it had just been a reference in your signature, and you never discussed it. Also, thanks for keeping it short and sweet I struggle with my attention span sometimes...
Most of all, I totally appreciate your opinion on the subject. As a sub who is totally assertive in my everyday life and my professional life, I struggled with the dichotomy of it all. I definitely felt some guilt if I needed more from my SO and at times didn't want to suggest things, or didn't want to push things I wanted or needed.
Your info helped me deal with all that in two aspects - the first that it is perfectly acceptable to make my own wants known loud and clear in my relationship, and the second that there is no hard and fast rule regarding roles and boundaries, as long as we agree between ourselves. The list of possible combinations in my head went from diminutive to limitless.
So... Thanks for all that I appreciate your passion on the subject, it has helped me out a lot. AND... I would be remiss if I didn't mention the fact that I totally enjoyed the extra sparkle!! Ummm... I think I did, anyway . Wanted to get this out here in the event that anyone wanted to add to that. And I'm just going to write out your name here like my friends in New England would pronounce it. Stellar

 

[Stella_Omega]

Gosh... thank you! because it does feel strange sometimes, constantly posting the same couple of sentences over and over..

I appreciate your words so very much.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Much appreciated, Stag, especially from you!

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Gosh... thank you! because it does feel strange sometimes, constantly posting the same couple of sentences over and over..

I appreciate your words so very much.

Well, please keep doing it! Even if you helped nobody but me (and *I* would be ok with that ) it was totally informative. And there is NO WAY that I'm the only one that benefitted. Especially from the extra sparkle. God... Love that extra sparkle

PS - I have already had the pleasure of sending that link to 3 people who have been asking how I can be such a willful wench and a sub at the same time It's so great to have that to point to!!

 

[Stella_Omega]

Well, please keep doing it! Even if you helped nobody but me (and *I* would be ok with that ) it was totally informative. And there is NO WAY that I'm the only one that benefitted. Especially from the extra sparkle. God... Love that extra sparkle

PS - I have already had the pleasure of sending that link to 3 people who have been asking how I can be such a willful wench and a sub at the same time It's so great to have that to point to!!

You bookmarked it? That is so great to hear!

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I don't know how many newbies have asked questions about how they should label themselves or indicated that they didn't understand the differences between roles and labels and activities who I've told to find a Stella post and read her essay. Now I've finally bookmarked it to save keystrokes (I'm mostly typing one-handed now; my left hand is essentially useless). It's a great post, though, and I think it should be required reading for all new practitioners of our culture, so I refer people to it frequently.

 

[Dyslexicea]

I too owe you a thank you, not just because of the link to your post, which I do thank you for. More so you're the first person here at Lit I could relate to as a lesbian, although I know you claim not to be one and I know that's true but you still have the heart of a lesbian, a rather large one.

As far as my BDSM desires I can't credit you for those they've always been there, just in the closet. I well credit you for giving me the nerve to explore those desires. We don't always see eye to eye but where at times I'll skip over or only skim others' posts I never do so with yours.

What I thank you most for is just being you!

 

[Shankara20]

T
Hi Stella O.

So... Thanks for all that I appreciate your passion on the subject, it has helped me out a lot.

Well stated.

And I will add this as well

 

[stickygirl]

..... We don't always see eye to eye but, where at times I'll skip over or only skim others' posts, I never do so with yours.

What I thank you most for is just being you!

I'll raise a glass to that and have been a student of Stella's for a couple of years. I've learnt a great deal about sexuality from a small number of people on Lit and zhe is one of them.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Thank you, my friends.

 

[Acktion]

~*snip*~
What I thank you most for is just being you!

I'll raise my glass to that.

(Even if you are mean to me when I'm over medicated and full of crap. )

Seriously, though, thank you for being who you are.