weftandwarp
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Aug 24, 2016
- Posts
- 271
Very similar to me (my father was also a writer). I started writing when my marriage started to fall apart. Telling my spouse in the hope of improving our sex life had the unfortunate effect of accelerating the separation though. Hopefully our situations differ there.
There is no need for me to be secretive at present. I live with my aged little dog, my nearest neighbor is 3 km away. The nearest town is 35 km away. I talk to about one person a month, the checkout lady at the supermarket.
I had a partner two years ago but when she discovered my writing she became extremely aggressive in pursuit of absolute control over me. It was very difficult dealing with the daily threats screamed at me, the black mail, theft, Threats to kill me and dishonesty ... in the name of feminism. A frequent trick of hers was to tell me she was leaving, would crash her car into a tree and go with dust and gravel thrown every where. Then she'd return wanting concessions. One day she did it and I went down the drive and locked the gate. She wasn't welcome back. A couple of weeks later she returned and told me her son had suicided. His partner had been doing exactly the same to him. (Men marry their mothers). Her son was brilliant , generous and wonderful. I miss him. My former partner was distraught. We talk now but she will never return. She has asked to return many times but No! Abuse is unacceptable and trust has gone. I got a new identity and am slowly working my way back to where I was before she was a part of my life. So, I think that if one has a control freak in one's life it is essential that one be secretive and not be caught. I envy those who have an open relationship that is encouraging and generous.