Tied up play

[lizzyqte]

So my boyfriend comes to me with this video that really turned him on and he really wants for me to consider doing it in the same way. The video features this hot looking girl bent under a pipe looking contraption that it mounted to the floor. She is tied up near the armpits, then near the elbow and then finally by the wrists. She is just suspended there with her butt in the air and her ankles were also tied to the floor. I have to admit the girl herself was a turn on like that and I was more interested in the girl than how she was positioned.

She did not seem to be in any pain but it looked tiring. Then the guy comes, or the master, I don't know. He comes and touches her. She is completly exposed and completly in his control. The way she is tied up he can do anything to her. I admit a little thrill ran trough me thinking of myself in just the same way. Also a little chill of realization went through my brain too. If he were to go bananas I would be completely under his control. I also find it humiliating and degrading.

So anyway he just shoves his cock into her mouth and just uses her mouth as much as he likes. Then he gets behind her and shoves his cock into her vagina and makes her push back and makes her ride him while he stands still. All the time she is suspended and held by these ropes. After he's had his fun he unties her ankles and ties each ankle to a stick and pulls her up until her back arches.

I don't know what to think. A part of me wants to try this. I would have no control and he would have access to every part of me. Not that he does not already, the difference here is that i would not have any control. Then the other part of me wonders is this would hurt, although the girl in the video looked fine after she was untied. All the time another part of me feels feels that thoughts of humiliation and degregation would begin to surface after he gets done with me. Also I don't understand what the purpose of being suspended fulfills. Unless the guy she was with just enjoyed her suspended. Some one here has to explain this to me.

So to my big surprise I came home and I was introduced to a similar set up completly hand build in the garage. He build it with the bar I would hang under and the hooks to tie up my ankles from. I could not believe he could be so motivated.

So this is it, he has the contraption build and he even purchased thick silky rope that will leave no marks so he states. He also promises to stop at any time I tell him I had enough but wants to do me exactly the same way the guy in the video did the girl.

I don't know what to do? How are the ropes not going to leave a mark? How can I work this out with him? I know that there are a least some of you that can share their dabble in this and I wish you to tell me. What should I concentrate on? Should I make him promise to allow me to do the same to him? What if he has a coronary? Not that he will but what if he does? Now I would be really stuck and helpless.

 

[Trolltroll420]

I suggest you go ahead and get strapped in. Have a safe word just in case you freak out. I love tying up my wife. One time I tied her up and them went to the movies... (Dark knight opening weekend) when I got back, she was super pissed. I dumped a load in her mouth, and then went to sleep. I hit it one more time in the morning before I untied her... My wife is a very lucky person to have someone as great as me in her life.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Troll is troll. And satire is a tricky thing to get right. You missed.

OP, have you ever played with bondage or BDSM or anything like this before? If not, Troll had one good suggestion; use a safe word.

Ropes will leave a mark if you struggle like fuck, if they are tied too tight, if you REALLY want them to. Otherwise, I guarantee you will be disappointed at the lack of markage.

You can do a few things before you get into the big stuff-- have him tie you into the contraption as a test, then let you go.

Tie HIM into it, as a test-- this is pretty important actually, so that he knows better what the stresses are on a body. Then let him go.

You get to negotiate with him. Maybe you want to be done like she was, maybe you want everything except some one thing. You have the right to veto that one thing. Obviously!

There is a lot of information out there. BDSM is a little bit more like rocket science than vanilla humping is; it entails a certain amount of risk, and you want to be sure everyone knows, more or less, what is up. There are ways to be safer, and most people want that.

You should read the essay in my sig, theres a short list of books at the end that you might take a look at.

And finally-- OMG, you have no idea how many women show up here wishing their husbands wanted to do what yours wants!

 

[IrisAlthea]

As for thoughts of humiliation and degradation surfacing afterwards.
Yes, that could happen.
Something that can be hot in it's own way or not. Only you can know how you are most likely to react and how you would handle a case of the not so hot thoughts.
Easing into it like Stella suggests, might help you get an idea of how you will think and feel about it.

 

[Trolltroll420]

Stella is an old woman with a beard and maybe a penis... That's why I don't give a fuck. Please wright something witty so I know I really get under your skin.

 

[lizzyqte]

Looking at the decice.

I spent a long time looking at the contraption last night on my own. Imagining myself being tied up to it. All the while I just kept getting wetter and wetter as I thought about how it was going to be. I like the idea of making him feel it as well. I am going to ask him to test drive it first to see how it feels. I just may take advantage of it.

What do you mean you want to leave rope marks? I don't want rope marks at all. How can I prevent rope marks?

We also watched a couple of more videos and I have to admit, whats the point of tieing anyone up if you don't have sex with them?

 

[Stella_Omega]

I meant to say that it takes some effort to make ropes leave a mark, for most people. Like-- you have to really want the marks.
If you are super easily bruised, you can avoid rope marks by wrapping a washcloth around each wrist and ankle first, and tying the rope over that.

Make sure you know how to tie rope so that the knot doesn't tighten as you struggle.
Some good knowledge can be found at http://bondage-tutorials.blogspot.com/
and if you two fall in love with bondage, http://twoknottyboys.com

 

[Ropebunny]

What do you mean you want to leave rope marks? I don't want rope marks at all. How can I prevent rope marks?

We also watched a couple of more videos and I have to admit, whats the point of tieing anyone up if you don't have sex with them?

I have no idea about how to prevent rope marks, but rope marks should fade in a matter of hours anyway. You may even quite like the rope marks. I know I do.

As to the point of tying some up and not fucking: some people just like being restrained, for a variety of reasons. Masochists might like enjoy the discomfort of tight ropes and uncomfortable positions and as odd as it may sound, for some people, being tied feels more safe and natural than being free. For example, when I get upset I curl up into a ball and comfort myself with the fantasy of being trapped in a box, just coz it relaxes me.

I also very, very much enjoy being fucked while tied but it isn't nessesary for me to have a really good time.

 

[paulthewetcd]

I spent a long time looking at the contraption last night on my own. Imagining myself being tied up to it. All the while I just kept getting wetter and wetter as I thought about how it was going to be. I like the idea of making him feel it as well. I am going to ask him to test drive it first to see how it feels. I just may take advantage of it.

What do you mean you want to leave rope marks? I don't want rope marks at all. How can I prevent rope marks?

We also watched a couple of more videos and I have to admit, whats the point of tieing anyone up if you don't have sex with them?

Restraints are very sensual, and the trust component is very intimate and erotic. I like both of us to achieve climax.