Threesomes?

[NCmtnMan]

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I have a question for everyone. My girlfriend and I have been talking about haveing a threesome (mff). I would like to know if others who have tried this felt that it affected there relationships in a negative or positive way?

 

[NCmtnMan]

she has been with one girl when she was a very young girl and did not know what she was doing and now wants to try.

 

[BgMma]

Okay, I would first say that I don't recommend it.

There has to be an enormous amount of trust there for both people in the relationship.

Second, you have to get together to make decisions together. Just popping in with someone to fuck isn't the right way to go.

I just stress that you be careful there.

And don't think that she won't ask you to reciprocate. If she does this with you, then you should be able to agree as willingly if she asks you to do the same for her. Think about that.

Now that I am done preaching, have a good time.

 

[red_rose]

I've tried this three times. Once was with a girl that I was best friends with - we tried to find a guy. We found one, but I chickened out (I wasn't as attracted to him as she was).

The second time... I was with two people that I didn't know very well - we were all just kinda experimenting and decided to get drunk and have some fun (SAFELY. lol).

The last time... I was with a guy that I had been having a "friends with benefits" thing with. He had a good friend who wanted to experiment... so the three of us got together and had some fun.

I don't think I could ever bring a woman into the bed with my boyfriend and I unless she was someone I trusted implicitly. I agree with BgMma - talk it out and don't do anything spur of the moment!!

 

[NCmtnMan]

thank you both for your input. This is something we have talked about for a long time, but not sure we would ever go thru with it.

 

[Mz_Scarlett]

An ex of mine and I talked about it once and the idea WAS a turn on, but ultimately we decided against it because it would change the dynamic of our relationship.

 

[superlittlegirl]

My last two long-term relationships ended in the aftermath of threesomes. Tread cautiously.

 

[Gil_Favor]

My last two long-term relationships ended in the aftermath of threesomes. Tread cautiously.

I had the same thing happen, what started out as experimentation eventually brought about the demise of a long term relationship. It wasnt worth it.

 

[kinkyme]

wow you guys scare me! is it really that bad? threesomes i mean? the hubby and i have been talking about it forever(mff), with a friend of mine, and were planning on going ahead with it... but now.... anyone have any positive experiences?

 

[superlittlegirl]

I have had a good experience as the odd woman coming to play with another couple, but I know how to behave myself. It's not something I'm keen on doing within an already established relationship that is important to me, though.

wow you guys scare me! is it really that bad? threesomes i mean? the hubby and i have been talking about it forever(mff), with a friend of mine, and were planning on going ahead with it... but now.... anyone have any positive experiences?

 

[red_rose]

I have had a good experience as the odd woman coming to play with another couple, but I know how to behave myself. It's not something I'm keen on doing within an already established relationship that is important to me, though.

That's how I feel, too.

I think threesomes should be saved for playtime... I don't consider a serious relationship a place where you can really play.

However, I've seen some people post about positive experiences, so I'm sure it's possible.

 

[Touch1]

I had a wonderfun experience with a coupe of women I worked with. One day one of the women approached me about a threesome. Well what could I say? I agreed and we hooked up. It was great. But............This was in the 80's before aids. It was "recreational sex" with two women I didn't have a relationship with. We just got together and that was the end of it. From what I have read about the subject, It's different when you have a relationship with one of the partners involved. There are just so many emotions involved, many of which won't be recognized until the event has happened, and if the result is negative, you are screwed. (no pun intended).
Let's just say for example, you end up really liking the other girl. Are you going to start comparing your partner to her?
If you have a really strong relationship with the girl you are with, maybe it's best to leave the threesome as a fantasy and not risk what you have. Remember the story about the dog on the bridge with the steak?.
Just food for thought.

 

[NCmtnMan]

Thanks all for your advice. Super I am glad to see you hear I really have enjoyed your thread, thanks for stoping by. I guess this is one of those things that is best left as a fantacy, we will see.

 

[NCmtnMan]

touch what story about a dog on a bridge with a steak, I must have missed that one in my life. lol. thanks for the advice.

 

[NCmtnMan]

ok here is another question. No one seems be think we should have a threesome, but how about if I let her go and experiment with other girls. I am very secure about myself but would I just be asking for trouble?

 

[red_rose]

touch what story about a dog on a bridge with a steak, I must have missed that one in my life. lol. thanks for the advice.

It's a fable... and I thought it was a wolf with something like a bone, but I'll tell it as a dog with a steak, just for consistency's sake.

A dog gets a steak and is headed off to go eat it - happier than he's ever been.

He gets to the top of the bridge and looks into the water. What does he see? Another dog! With a steak! Now what would be better than the big steak he had in his mouth? Two steaks, of course!

So... somethin-somethin'...dog jumps in the water to get the steak from the "other dog", and his own steak sinks to the bottom of the river. He swims to the side and winds up without anything.

The end.

 

[NCmtnMan]

lol ok i see thanks. I do think I have heard that.

 

[Mrs Christophe]

ok here is another question. No one seems be think we should have a threesome, but how about if I let her go and experiment with other girls. I am very secure about myself but would I just be asking for trouble?

how about she experiments while you watch....turn on for all around?

 

[NCmtnMan]

Mrs. I do like that idea. I would enjoy that for sure.

 

[SexySparkles]

Of course you have to be careful. There has to be an INSANE amount of trust in your partner.

With that being said, being with a man and a woman at the same time is my biggest fantasy that I one day want to do.

 

[rounder03]

wow you guys scare me! is it really that bad? threesomes i mean? the hubby and i have been talking about it forever(mff), with a friend of mine, and were planning on going ahead with it... but now.... anyone have any positive experiences?

Ditto for us (MFF with friend), except haven't discussed with wife. On advice from Lit. members, will probably leave as fantasy (unless something spontaneous happens between the females).

 

[christophe]

how about she experiments while you watch....turn on for all around?

yes now where did i put my camera

 

[Temptress_1960]

I think it can work just fine.

You have to keep your focus, though. You and your partner have to remember that you are together in this experience, whether it's a threesome, foursome, or more-some.

You need to set the boundaries before you start, and remember that the person who's the least comfortable with it who gets to make the rules.

And you need to decide what is acceptable to you and what isn't.

 

[Guest]

I think it can work just fine.

You have to keep your focus, though. You and your partner have to remember that you are together in this experience, whether it's a threesome, foursome, or more-some.

You need to set the boundaries before you start, and remember that the person who's the least comfortable with it who gets to make the rules.

And you need to decide what is acceptable to you and what isn't.

Well put.

 

[NCmtnMan]

Just wanted to thank everyone again for all of you helpfull comment, we still have not decided if we are going to do it just yet, so we will see.