There are no right answers

[MissTaken]

I was talking with a friend last night and we were discussing this forum.

We have many posters, including myself, who have used the forum or the Mother thread to ask questions and search for answers.

Unless a question has a tangible answer, such as "What is a riding crop?", there are no answers.

Are you a sub or Dom?
What should you do if...?
What should you expect when..?

These questions can only be answered relative to our own experiences. Many of us are happy to share our experiences and many of us may find common threads and themes that evolve after some discussion. That does not mean anyone of us has the answers.

Only YOU have the answers. If our posts and thoughts, our ideas and suggestions give you cause to pause and think and assist you as your find your way to the answer, then we have done the best we can do.

BDSM comes in as many or more flavors than Baskin Robbins ice cream. It is a form of self expression and/or sexual preference that is specific to each individual. So, if we can help you find your flavor, that is great.

If not, keep asking questions, but never expect the "right" answer!

Just a few random thoughts on my part.

 

[zipman]

I was talking with a friend last night and we were discussing this forum.

We have many posters, including myself, who have used the forum or the Mother thread to ask questions and search for answers.

Unless a question has a tangible answer, such as "What is a riding crop?", there are no answers.

Are you a sub or Dom?
What should you do if...?
What should you expect when..?

These questions can only be answered relative to our own experiences. Many of us are happy to share our experiences and many of us may find common threads and themes that evolve after some discussion. That does not mean anyone of us has the answers.

Only YOU have the answers. If our posts and thoughts, our ideas and suggestions give you cause to pause and think and assist you as your find your way to the answer, then we have done the best we can do.

BDSM comes in as many or more flavors than Baskin Robbins ice cream. It is a form of self expression and/or sexual preference that is specific to each individual. So, if we can help you find your flavor, that is great.

If not, keep asking questions, but never expect the "right" answer!

Just a few random thoughts on my part.

This was a great post MissT and I think it bears repeating!

When those of us with a lot of experience answer questions here, it is based on our experience and how we have incorporated BDSM into our lives.

Too often, newbies feel that they are being judged, when they read an opinion that they disagree with.

BDSM is something either we all enjoy or are at least interested in. We all share our thoughts and feelings to differenct degrees, but don't mistake opinions or experiences as judgements.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Re: Re: There are no right answers

This was a great post MissT and I think it bears repeating!

When those of us with a lot of experience answer questions here, it is based on our experience and how we have incorporated BDSM into our lives.

Too often, newbies feel that they are being judged, when they read an opinion that they disagree with.

BDSM is something either we all enjoy or are at least interested in. We all share our thoughts and feelings to differenct degrees, but don't mistake opinions or experiences as judgements.

Piggybacking. I agree. I post to my own flavor of BDSM, and what I know to be true and real FOR ME And no one else. I do not claim to the the definitive Domme in BDSM. I am definitive for Me and no other. And I learn something new everyday.

 

[The G]

If not, keep asking questions, but never expect the "right" answer!

Just a few random thoughts on my part.

I to feel as all of do.......sometimes questions are our only way to find knowledge.........I support people in my work world and I tell them the only way I can assist you is to have you ask questions....I have found GREAT insight here....just by reading sometimes......but sometimes I have to ask for clarity of a thought..... Remember to be clear gives you understanding.....understanding allows you to proceed.........

 

[Goddess Helena]

Me, too.

Piggybacking. I agree. I post to my own flavor of BDSM, and what I know to be true and real FOR ME And no one else. I do not claim to the the definitive Domme in BDSM. I am definitive for Me and no other. And I learn something new everyday.

I agree with Ebony yet again.

I only know of BDSM from what I have experienced. It is different from what the others here know. I have learnt and continue to learn from all who post here.

Questions can be a reminder or show an issue in a new a light. Get U/us to think in a new way or see something through fresh eyes.

That has been the case for me on many occasions.


Helena

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you, all, for your input.

I would only add that there are no experts, either

We are all just people with varying degrees of experience.

While all questions are welcome, none of us are qualified to bear the responsibility of having led someone in any direction.

For me, I do advise people entering the lifestyle focus on safety and communication.

However, the deeper answers, those life changing responses can be found within, not without.

 

[pet petra]

I truly love this thread and site. I would like to thank all of the posters for the questions and answers I have been reading. There are so many sides to this lifestyle. I feel as if I have been enriched from both the boards and stories! So many people feel as if sex is taboo. I feel that all taboos should be exposed once for everyone. Twice if they like it.. Petra

 

[MissTaken]

Welcome, petra!

I am glad you are enjoying the forums.

I hope no one thinks I am discouraging them from asking questions. Actually, that is one of my favorite pieces to the forum. Someone's questions and the responses they recieve are often food for thought.

Have fun!

 

[sirhugs]

I'm still trying to learn the right questions.

 

[catalina_francisco]

This is a great thread and would do well to float to the surface periodically for the good of all....just IMHO I admit, but holds a message that rings true.

Catalina

 

[MissTaken]

I'm still trying to learn the right questions.

Me too.



Thank you, catalina.

I had forgotten this thread, but have to agree, it bears bumping from time to time.

 

[sirhugs]

Me too.



Thank you, catalina.

I had forgotten this thread, but have to agree, it bears bumping from time to time.

I think forgetfullness might be a separate thread....right under " forgiveness"