The Validation Thread

[impressive]

I'm to be 'validated' later today. Lung Efficiency Test is the official title - not at all sure I want to hear the result.

Thirty Seven years ago I did a summer job for about two weeks, scraping asbestos fibre off the ceiling of a school. For about three years I've been feeling undefinably unwell, it was put down to work stress, I sold my bakery two years ago, sort of semi-retired.

This summer I contracted a virus that effected my nervous system, in an attempt to discover what was wrong with me, they took chest x-rays... and found the unmistakable signs of asbestos in my lungs. Had the scans, the blood test, more x-rays... this is the last test together with a respriatory muscle response test... I'll know the full extent of the damage later this month, at the moment we've been told it is non-malignant but that is no guarantee that it will remain so.

Been difficult getting my head around all of this over the last three weeks or so, especially as things on other fronts are working out really fine. Apologies for sounding off.

Sending ++++++ vibes your way.

 

[English Lady]

I'm a good mom.




right?

Yes you are! No comfusion about it love.


Do i need to practise my growling again?

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Okay, so I'm a good mom, not a great mom, a fun mom, sometimes a surly mom, I feed them, clothe them and make sure they are clean...why must I go through this nonsense?

 

[yui]

Neon, be well.



Abs you are a good mother. You do the best you can with what you know at the time. That's what my mother always told me; and she's right.

 

[English Lady]

Okay, so I'm a good mom, not a great mom, a fun mom, sometimes a surly mom, I feed them, clothe them and make sure they are clean...why must I go through this nonsense?

Oh pooh, if you feed, clothe, nourish and care for your kids, there ain't much else they need. you're there for them and that is what counts.

I have no idea why you should go through any kind of nonsense. You don't deserve it.

 

[English Lady]

And as she usually is, Yui's spot on.

you do the best with what you know. As long as you try thats all that can be asked for.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Oh pooh, if you feed, clothe, nourish and care for your kids, there ain't much else they need. you're there for them and that is what counts.

I have no idea why you should go through any kind of nonsense. You don't deserve it.

Because someone in the school system is certain that I'm abusing my kids.

 

[English Lady]

Oh yes? these clothed, fed and cared for children we're talking about?

Is this idiot due an eye test? (should test the brain whilst they're at it.)

 

[ABSTRUSE]

Oh yes? these clothed, fed and cared for children we're talking about?

Is this idiot due an eye test? (should test the brain whilst they're at it.)

I dug a tiger trap in the front side walk, so far I only caught a paper boy and a squirrel.

 

[English Lady]

I dug a tiger trap in the front side walk, so far I only caught a paper boy and a squirrel.

tigers are crafty things yannow. paper boys aren't. the squirrel is probably eating the paper boy.

 

[ABSTRUSE]

tigers are crafty things yannow. paper boys aren't. the squirrel is probably eating the paper boy.

I hope so.

 

[English Lady]

I hope so.

you wicked, wicked woman you.

And i mean that in a validatory kinda way...

 

[ABSTRUSE]

you wicked, wicked woman you.

And i mean that in a validatory kinda way...

That made me feel so much better, thank you.

 

[English Lady]

That made me feel so much better, thank you.

my pleasure.

I am here to serve oh surly one. *bows*

 

[neonlyte]

Thanks EL, Imp's, Yui and all who've sent positive thoughts.

The Lung Efficiency Tests have returned an average 66% lung efficiency, it means the scars on the plueral lining of the lung are restricting my ability to draw breath by roughly 30%, allowing for my age. Now we have to put this information together with all of the other tests - next crunch date 20th October.

Thanks again for allowing me space to ease my concern.

 

[English Lady]

Thanks EL, Imp's, Yui and all who've sent positive thoughts.

The Lung Efficiency Tests have returned an average 66% lung efficiency, it means the scars on the plueral lining of the lung are restricting my ability to draw breath by roughly 30%, allowing for my age. Now we have to put this information together with all of the other tests - next crunch date 20th October.

Thanks again for allowing me space to ease my concern.

My pleasure love, i don't know what that actually means, but it looks to me like it could have been alot worse *hugs* fingers crossed for the 20th then.

*hugs some more*

 

[English Lady]

Just a gentle bump

 

[Songcatcher]

I never want to se you, ever.

 

[carsonshepherd]

I need my worry and anger validated.

I know I can't control him and I'm probably making things worse by trying to help... I'm just so fucking tired of this.

Going to one AA meeting is good, but what about tomorrow and the day after? What about in nine hours? What about in two hours?

 

[hugo_sam]

I need my worry and anger validated.

I know I can't control him and I'm probably making things worse by trying to help... I'm just so fucking tired of this.

Going to one AA meeting is good, but what about tomorrow and the day after? What about in nine hours? What about in two hours?

Don't know overly much about AA, but I do know they stress: One Day at a time. I realise that is hard, but try that a while and see if that helps. You cannot do any more than you can do, just care and support.

Good wishes go with you.*hugs*

 

[English Lady]

I need my worry and anger validated.

I know I can't control him and I'm probably making things worse by trying to help... I'm just so fucking tired of this.

Going to one AA meeting is good, but what about tomorrow and the day after? What about in nine hours? What about in two hours?

You have a right to be angry, upset and worried. there are alot of ifs for you to face and all you can do is go on and see what happens.

Concentrate on the positive -the first step has been taken, you've got to keep thinking about today, this minute even. Everything else can just wait, you can worry about that later.

You can do it babe, I know you can.

Now come and snuggle with ma' for a minute *hugs* and I'll feed you comfort food till it all looks better OK?

 

[carsonshepherd]

You have a right to be angry, upset and worried. there are alot of ifs for you to face and all you can do is go on and see what happens.

Concentrate on the positive -the first step has been taken, you've got to keep thinking about today, this minute even. Everything else can just wait, you can worry about that later.

You can do it babe, I know you can.

Now come and snuggle with ma' for a minute *hugs* and I'll feed you comfort food till it all looks better OK?

*snuggle*

I know. It's just hard because I've been lied to so many times.

Thanks all.

 

[English Lady]

*snuggle*

I know. It's just hard because I've been lied to so many times.

Thanks all.

*more snuggle*

I know sweetheart, But if you worry to far in advance, you'll worry yourself sick. it's hard to let someone you love get on and do something on their own, knowing they have to do it on their own but wanting to do it for them. Be there, do what you can, it's enough

 

[English Lady]

*gentlest bump*

for those who need this thread today

 

[Guest]

Thanks EL.
feeling very...sad about my eldest daughter. shes done nothing really wrong but i feel her pulling away and though i know she needs to do so, i find myself hating every moment of it.
last night she didn't get home until after midnight which is fine but damnit, i never fell asleep until after i knew she was home safe and sound.
too damn young, am i to have a daughter who is in college. i dont feel equipped and whats worse...im not ready.
so, here is the poor me:
mom, dad....dead. best friend/sister...not best friend any more over my life style choice...eldest daughter pulling away. kinda feeling abandoned.
Rational thought? this is just the way life is and i should just get ovah it.
Irrational thought? everyone is leaving me and i have no recourse but to just accept it.
ok, rant over but still feeling a wee bit sad.