The Validation Thread

[McKenna]

If anyone's got any validatin' left in 'em I could do with some. I feel like crap today. Chest infection, lack of sleep and a very long day ahead, is not doing much for my chirpiness.

I'm not using my chirpiness at the moment. You're welcome to borrow it if you like.


Feel better soon, EL. Sometimes it's tough to take care of yourself when you're so used to taking care of everyone else. Gift yourself the time to get better. You deserve it.

 

[AppleBiter]

If anyone's got any validatin' left in 'em I could do with some. I feel like crap today. Chest infection, lack of sleep and a very long day ahead, is not doing much for my chirpiness.

EL, you're soooo loved. Take care, sweets, and be as good to yourself as you are to others. You'll feel better in no time.

 

[English Lady]

Aww you guys! You make me feel so loved, thank you!

RG -Thanks love, your support is well appreciated

Mlady *hugs* I am so glad I've been able to be there for you, I am also glad you told me how much you appreciate it, that means alot to me. Thank you, and Anytime you need an ear, you know I'm here

Mckenna -why thank you -we can share if you like I'm taking care of me as best I can, thank you!

Applebiter- Thank you sweetheart. I feel so much better now.

Honestly, I do. I've had a good day, and all this validation has done wonders for me.


Now then, who needs some validating?EL's ready to dish it out

 

[matriarch]

You know, it feels like those horror stories you hear about women who lose a ton of weight and all their friends/family start to get jealous and end up ditching them. Why are people threatened by success, or at least by people who try to better themselves and take care of themselves?

I just don't get it.

I suspect it has more to do with you being a woman, and assertive and successful......than just 'someone' who is assertive and successful.

I could be wrong...............

Congratulations on the new job, and well done for knowing your worth.

 

[Sweetpeeee]

i need a hug cuz im cold!!!

 

[English Lady]

I'm really warm,I've got my biggerst jumper on. *hugs*

 

[McKenna]

I suspect it has more to do with you being a woman, and assertive and successful......than just 'someone' who is assertive and successful.

I could be wrong...............

Congratulations on the new job, and well done for knowing your worth.

You know Mat, I hadn't thought of it from that angle. Wow, that could be part of the problem if not the problem.

Thanks for your well wishes and kind thoughts.

 

[hugo_sam]

You know Mat, I hadn't thought of it from that angle. Wow, that could be part of the problem if not the problem.

Thanks for your well wishes and kind thoughts.

Small rant!
Why can't we 'get over' treating women as 'second-class' citizens. I thought we solved that in the '70's. There is really no excuse. A woman can(and probably has)do(ne) anything as well as a man. Often better. Individuals are far more interesting if they are themselves, not some misguided notion of what they should be. Some folks need to wake up and smell the coffee.
rant over. sorry sore subject.

McKenna - there is nothing more sexy and alluring than a assertive self-assured woman. A woman being secure in herself is about as wonderful as it gets.
You keep up the good work, girl!

Hugo

 

[carsonshepherd]

I need validation.

I feel like I fucking do everything around here and I'm totally unappreciated. Sure, he says he appreciates me but his actions say otherwise, and that's what counts.

 

[BlackShanglan]

Small rant!
Why can't we 'get over' treating women as 'second-class' citizens. I thought we solved that in the '70's. There is really no excuse. A woman can(and probably has)do(ne) anything as well as a man. Often better. Individuals are far more interesting if they are themselves, not some misguided notion of what they should be. Some folks need to wake up and smell the coffee.
rant over. sorry sore subject.

I think some things only change when, quite bluntly, everyone who really recalls it being otherwise is dead. Whether they recall and perpetuate gender disparity, racial tension, or sectarian violence, there are quite a number of people whose greatest service to humanity will be when they pass gently onwards to Divine illumination and leave the rest of humanity to struggle toward it slightly less burdened. Time is the great healer.

McKenna - there is nothing more sexy and alluring than a assertive self-assured woman. A woman being secure in herself is about as wonderful as it gets.
You keep up the good work, girl!

Amen. Confident self-assurance looks sexy on pretty much anyone. It is itself sex appeal.

English Lady - I hope you know how much I sincerely treasure and appreciate you. The Great Mover has, I think, a special place for those whose daily lives give peace and beauty to others, and who make every day an offering of gentle good cheer. Most of us fool ourselves by focusing on the great, dramatic, and reassuringly distant elements of faith; we demand great things of others, and insist that we're prepared to stand up for our faith as we are thrown to the lions. We're not always so good, however, at maintaining it in the face of being cut off in traffic or annoyed by a co-worker. Hence C. S. Lewis has Screwtape tell his nephew that the trick is to make sure that his mortal has very high ideas of religion, but that he keeps pushing them every further and further away from his daily life and into the misty, distant realms of idealized but improbable sacrifice. In the meantime, so long as he is curt and nasty to his mother at breakfast, he too will come to dwell with the Father of Lies.

You do better than nearly anyone I know at the real work: the daily kindnesses and generosity that are so painfully hard to come to day after day. You quite honestly inspire, and I hope some little change may come to me in emulation of you.

Shanglan

 

[BlackShanglan]

I need validation.

I feel like I fucking do everything around here and I'm totally unappreciated. Sure, he says he appreciates me but his actions say otherwise, and that's what counts.

*nuzzle*

Dear one, I am most sorry. And you are right. And you are wonderful.

(My home now has a chore chart. It seems to be helping, and not just me. I think the SO rather happy that there is a way to communicate what's been done that I haven't noticed, and there is a good deal. It's been good for everyone. Just a thought.)

 

[carsonshepherd]

*nuzzle*

Dear one, I am most sorry. And you are right. And you are wonderful.

(My home now has a chore chart. It seems to be helping, and not just me. I think the SO rather happy that there is a way to communicate what's been done that I haven't noticed, and there is a good deal. It's been good for everyone. Just a thought.)

That sounds like a great plan for you. Won't work here though. thanks for the validation *sniff*

 

[BlackShanglan]

That sounds like a great plan for you. Won't work here though. thanks for the validation *sniff*

You know I'm always happy to take your mind from your troubles in any way whatsoever.

 

[carsonshepherd]

You know I'm always happy to take your mind from your troubles in any way whatsoever.

If you hear a knock on your door in the next week, don't be surprised

 

[Colleen Thomas]

I need validation.

I feel like I fucking do everything around here and I'm totally unappreciated. Sure, he says he appreciates me but his actions say otherwise, and that's what counts.

*HUG*

Anyone who does the lion's share of the household chores will feel at times their opposite dosen't appreciate it or them. It's a natural consequence of doing a job that never ends, that never provides it's own sense of accomplishment and is under appreciated by those who haven't had to labor against it themselves.

It's kind of a paradox. No one notices what you have to do to keep it all together, but if you stop, then they sit up and take notice

 

[BlackShanglan]

If you hear a knock on your door in the next week, don't be surprised

I would be far too busy being delighted.

Any hour of the day or night, dear one.

 

[BlackShanglan]

It's kind of a paradox. No one notices what you have to do to keep it all together, but if you stop, then they sit up and take notice

Sounds like an answer to me.

 

[carsonshepherd]

*HUG*

Anyone who does the lion's share of the household chores will feel at times their opposite dosen't appreciate it or them. It's a natural consequence of doing a job that never ends, that never provides it's own sense of accomplishment and is under appreciated by those who haven't had to labor against it themselves.

It's kind of a paradox. No one notices what you have to do to keep it all together, but if you stop, then they sit up and take notice

Oh believe me, they notice.

 

[McKenna]

I need validation.

I feel like I fucking do everything around here and I'm totally unappreciated. Sure, he says he appreciates me but his actions say otherwise, and that's what counts.

I notice you. You make people smile here and feel better about themselves. That's a wonderful thing to do.

Okay, that has nothing to do with your living situation and an unappreciative partner, but I did want you to know that you make a noticeable difference in people's lives.

It's like Colly said, it seems that partners never realize how much work is done until it's not getting done anymore. I completely sympathize with your situation.

 

[hugo_sam]

I need validation.

I feel like I fucking do everything around here and I'm totally unappreciated. Sure, he says he appreciates me but his actions say otherwise, and that's what counts.

Sorry, didn't mean to bypass you so long. You are appreciated by being who you are. Sometimes SO's miss things because of familiarity. Don't let it get you down. With what I've seen here, there are a great many who appreciate you and your contributions.
*W E*
Hugo

 

[English Lady]

Shanglan -I love you horsey, so very much *hugs* you're so very, very sweet. I'm
always blown away by your gentle spirit, your passion and your inteligence. If I ever wander into a debate I want you on my side *grins*


Carson, you are appreiciated. You've just said it really, they might not mention when everything is being done, but they do when it isn't. You do everything so well, so regularly that it is seen as an every day thing, something that doesn't stand out. Darlin' you bring all kinds of smiles asnd laughs to the AH, you're more than appreiciated here and I hope you get to feel that in your real life soon

 

[neonlyte]

I'm to be 'validated' later today. Lung Efficiency Test is the official title - not at all sure I want to hear the result.

Thirty Seven years ago I did a summer job for about two weeks, scraping asbestos fibre off the ceiling of a school. For about three years I've been feeling undefinably unwell, it was put down to work stress, I sold my bakery two years ago, sort of semi-retired.

This summer I contracted a virus that effected my nervous system, in an attempt to discover what was wrong with me, they took chest x-rays... and found the unmistakable signs of asbestos in my lungs. Had the scans, the blood test, more x-rays... this is the last test together with a respriatory muscle response test... I'll know the full extent of the damage later this month, at the moment we've been told it is non-malignant but that is no guarantee that it will remain so.

Been difficult getting my head around all of this over the last three weeks or so, especially as things on other fronts are working out really fine. Apologies for sounding off.

 

[English Lady]

Neon, it is always, always a pleasure to see you. *hugs* I will keep you in my prayers love and I hope the test results come back as positive as they can do.

You'll deal with it, you seem so very calm and composed, always with your head screwed on. I know you'll take the news and pull the positive out of it, if you need any help, you know where I am.

take care and let us know how it goes,

 

[ABSTRUSE]

I'm a good mom.




right?

 

[logophile]

I'm a good mom.




right?

Yes. You're a good mom.
Say it again, without the question mark!