The Safe Haven

[Spicy Southern Belle]

I just want to thank everyone who has opened up here as well as the ones offering support. It is nice to know we are not alone when it would seem otherwise.

 

[arnoldlane84]

I just want to thank everyone who has opened up here as well as the ones offering support. It is nice to know we are not alone when it would seem otherwise.

I agree *hugs*

 

[SweetieBee]

I've been considering my life, I feel I have to do something to it, something that will work. Just not sure what...

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

I've been considering my life, I feel I have to do something to it, something that will work. Just not sure what...

*HUGS* Sometimes figuring that out is hard since it is different for everyone. For me it is starting therapy. I don't want to. I REALLY don't want to go and talk about things with some stranger, but I need to. I hope you can figure out what will be best for you sweetie. *hugs*

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

I agree *hugs*

Thanks sweetheart. *hugs*

 

[SweetieBee]

*HUGS* Sometimes figuring that out is hard since it is different for everyone. For me it is starting therapy. I don't want to. I REALLY don't want to go and talk about things with some stranger, but I need to. I hope you can figure out what will be best for you sweetie. *hugs*

I'm hoping I don't figure it out. Figuring things out is a pain, it's what ends in cutting usually. So I try to find the routes that work. It's a bit complex. Ah the human mind....

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

I'm hoping I don't figure it out. Figuring things out is a pain, it's what ends in cutting usually. So I try to find the routes that work. It's a bit complex. Ah the human mind....

I guess I don't understand what you mean...You don't want to figure out what would help you?

 

[SweetieBee]

I guess I don't understand what you mean...You don't want to figure out what would help you?

No. I don't want to "figure" it out. I want to "find" it.

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

Just wanting to share a link for an organization that I really think a lot of. They are big on helping those suffering from depression, self injury, eating disorders, and other forms of addiction. They have resources and links on their websites and help you see just how much you are not alone.

To Write Love On Her Arms

 

[avrgblkgrl]

This is a very encouraging thread.
Thank you

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

This is a very encouraging thread.
Thank you

Thank you for that sweetheart.

 

[starrynightin64]

I just want to thank everyone who has opened up here as well as the ones offering support. It is nice to know we are not alone when it would seem otherwise.

*hugs* Thank You for the thread!

Just wanting to share a link for an organization that I really think a lot of. They are big on helping those suffering from depression, self injury, eating disorders, and other forms of addiction. They have resources and links on their websites and help you see just how much you are not alone.

To Write Love On Her Arms

I actually have used Hay House Radio for the last 5 years to get thru all the crap life has thrown me. http://www.hayhouseradio.com It's cheaper then therapy ($48 for the year for the membership to get into the archives) & I'm on my 3rd MP3 player now. Between the pain & the depression it's been a huge help at 2 am or whenever I need to shift my energy or thinking patterns to get to a better place. There have been some shows that have helped me change my thinking patterns on & in many areas, others that have taught me about new things. Being open to new ideas & reprograming myself has helped me so much.

I can honestly say this whole accident falling & then achilles rebuild has been so much worse & harder then the 1st. I've learned how to just stop & laugh my ass off when I get stuck not able to do what I was attempting to... no matter where I am. Even while having to fight for even the most basic things from the right to go to the bathroom after surgery to having home care so I could have a shower while living in no AC & feels like 100 plus most days. This whole no weight on that ankle (with crutches not an option this time), no walking or driving. Most of the friends who said they'd help & bailed on me ALL has been a real challenge.

But it's not all been bad. The 2 local friends who haven't bailed have had positive things happen for them. The one is a friend who deals with depression & is on psych meds. She's been a total God send & I make sure she knows it. She's not afraid to drive me or my truck anywhere. We are splitting food so she is eating better then normal & I have company to eat. She's been over to hep with laundry, trash & housework. The other friend has taken a step up to becoming a boyfriend which isn't a title I have been able to use in more years then I care to even think about. The whole shift has been very easy & so comfortable it still freaks me out some.

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

*hugs* Thank You for the thread!



I actually have used Hay House Radio for the last 5 years to get thru all the crap life has thrown me. http://www.hayhouseradio.com It's cheaper then therapy ($48 for the year for the membership to get into the archives) & I'm on my 3rd MP3 player now. Between the pain & the depression it's been a huge help at 2 am or whenever I need to shift my energy or thinking patterns to get to a better place. There have been some shows that have helped me change my thinking patterns on & in many areas, others that have taught me about new things. Being open to new ideas & reprograming myself has helped me so much.

I can honestly say this whole accident falling & then achilles rebuild has been so much worse & harder then the 1st. I've learned how to just stop & laugh my ass off when I get stuck not able to do what I was attempting to... no matter where I am. Even while having to fight for even the most basic things from the right to go to the bathroom after surgery to having home care so I could have a shower while living in no AC & feels like 100 plus most days. This whole no weight on that ankle (with crutches not an option this time), no walking or driving. Most of the friends who said they'd help & bailed on me ALL has been a real challenge.

But it's not all been bad. The 2 local friends who haven't bailed have had positive things happen for them. The one is a friend who deals with depression & is on psych meds. She's been a total God send & I make sure she knows it. She's not afraid to drive me or my truck anywhere. We are splitting food so she is eating better then normal & I have company to eat. She's been over to hep with laundry, trash & housework. The other friend has taken a step up to becoming a boyfriend which isn't a title I have been able to use in more years then I care to even think about. The whole shift has been very easy & so comfortable it still freaks me out some.

I will definitely have to check that out hon!

I am so very glad that something good has come out of this situation for you. I'm glad that you and your friend had each other and you have become closer to the other one. *HUGS*

 

[starrynightin64]

I will definitely have to check that out hon!

I am so very glad that something good has come out of this situation for you. I'm glad that you and your friend had each other and you have become closer to the other one. *HUGS*

Hay House has it set up for listening free for their streaming current shows for that week. The archives require the membership but when you sign up they send you a gift of a product (CD series by an auther like Dr, Wayne Dyer or someone else) that normally costs what you're spending for the membership. I usually use those as a Christmas gift for whoever I think it will fit.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I don't have therapy advice. But I know what's been helping me recently has been good friends and well meaning people. Hard to believe I could open up like a book sometimes.

Friday was the hardest day thus far because I spent so much time at my day job trying to stay productive and not think about it. The last half hour was spent trying to hold back because of coworkers trying to do the right thing. I let loose in the car on the way home and just had to let go a bit.

Yesterday was my angry Phase I guess because all the drama I have been trying to avoid came back to my mind. I had to pray it out which was again something I haven't done for me in a while.

Today has been about listening to songs and allowing my heart to remember the good times. So far so good. I missed his memorial even though it's 3000 miles away.

Thanks to everyone who has helped me. I'm usually on the helper side of the equation and the fact so many Litsters have jumped up to give this big blue guy a hug has been more help than anyone here has ever known. It's hard to believe when Spicy started this thread that I would be more of one in need than support but I am feelin much better now and know that it's a one day at a time process. *hugs* to everyone.

 

[Ellafun]

More (((HUGS))) to you, Azul. Us Blue Buggers have to stick together.

 

[Azuldrgon]

More (((HUGS))) to you, Azul. Us Blue Buggers have to stick together.

Yes we do. *hugs*

 

[JennyNo1]

I don't have therapy advice. But I know what's been helping me recently has been good friends and well meaning people. Hard to believe I could open up like a book sometimes.

Friday was the hardest day thus far because I spent so much time at my day job trying to stay productive and not think about it. The last half hour was spent trying to hold back because of coworkers trying to do the right thing. I let loose in the car on the way home and just had to let go a bit.

Yesterday was my angry Phase I guess because all the drama I have been trying to avoid came back to my mind. I had to pray it out which was again something I haven't done for me in a while.

Today has been about listening to songs and allowing my heart to remember the good times. So far so good. I missed his memorial even though it's 3000 miles away.

Thanks to everyone who has helped me. I'm usually on the helper side of the equation and the fact so many Litsters have jumped up to give this big blue guy a hug has been more help than anyone here has ever known. It's hard to believe when Spicy started this thread that I would be more of one in need than support but I am feelin much better now and know that it's a one day at a time process. *hugs* to everyone.

It is a day at a time process, for sure. 25 years later, I still occasionally cry my eyes out missing my dad or my mom. But I came to understand after both of them had passed just what it meant when people say the ones you've lost are never really gone. I feel their presence in my life every day, because they are literally part of me. What made them who they were also went into making me who I am. I hope you find peace soon and comfort from those who want to be there for you, Azul. We get as much when we reach out to help others as we give.

 

[Azuldrgon]

It is a day at a time process, for sure. 25 years later, I still occasionally cry my eyes out missing my dad or my mom. But I came to understand after both of them had passed just what it meant when people say the ones you've lost are never really gone. I feel their presence in my life every day, because they are literally part of me. What made them who they were also went into making me who I am. I hope you find peace soon and comfort from those who want to be there for you, Azul. We get as much when we reach out to help others as we give.

*hugs* thus one reason I try to help.

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

It is a day at a time process, for sure. 25 years later, I still occasionally cry my eyes out missing my dad or my mom. But I came to understand after both of them had passed just what it meant when people say the ones you've lost are never really gone. I feel their presence in my life every day, because they are literally part of me. What made them who they were also went into making me who I am. I hope you find peace soon and comfort from those who want to be there for you, Azul. We get as much when we reach out to help others as we give.

*hugs* thus one reason I try to help.

Lots of love going out to you both! *hugs*

 

[SweetieBee]

I put my arm back in a bandage. Should do.

 

[SweetieBee]

Starting to feel like I'm going off the rails at the moment....

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

Starting to feel like I'm going off the rails at the moment....

Just breathe sweetie. Listen to some of that music you shared with me the other day. *hugs* You will be fine...you can do this.

 

[SweetieBee]

Just breathe sweetie. Listen to some of that music you shared with me the other day. *hugs* You will be fine...you can do this.

I feel like my whole world is about to cave in. I was fine about 15 minutes ago then it just dropped.

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

I feel like my whole world is about to cave in. I was fine about 15 minutes ago then it just dropped.

*hugs* I understand hon but it's not real. Unless something huge happened in the past 15 minutes then it is just your mind making you think that way. Deep calm breaths...listen to that music..find that thought that always makes you happy. y ou can do it hon. I know you can. *hugs*