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Does Authenticity Matter Here?

It definitely matters.

It’s a sex site, so you will get all kinds of people… and bots/spammers/catfish… men posing as women… and motherfuckers, who post horseshit on the political board, etc.

Or whatever.

I think most people here are authentic. They are curious, looking for community, asking sexual questions, having fun, posting their sexual exploits, sharing their sexual secrets that they otherwise may not have an outlet for…

I have found it fairly easy to identify when someone feels “real“ or not. I have made friends with people from here.

I have met several IRL, and I’m actually meeting a few more this weekend.

And there are people who I’ve not met in person but with whom I feel have made a genuine connection.

Authenticity matters.
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I will also add that I’ve learned a lot from Literotica and these and it’s helped me understand a lot about my own sexuality, trying new things, making me feel like I’m not a weirdo, etc. for the most part, it’s a great sense of community.
 
EvaLane said:
Are we possibly witnessing an enemies to lovers arc happening right before our very eyes?

@CallMeMacaroni and @SpicyBean99 , it might be challenging logistically, but are you open to a threeway?

A threeway discussion on the What Is Wrong With You Podcast (tbd) of course 😋
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We are currently on season three of what's wrong with me.
Look out for the Easter special.
 
SirSparky said:
I don't want to see 'perfect'. I want to see normal everyday people. I want to see those tummys. To appreciate those people putting themselves out there, whether they are proud of their bodies or like you looking for appreciation and validation in how they look. To know those people are genuine and feel vulnerable putting themselves out there makes me feel for them and to open up myself to them.

By the way @ScarletDaisy you are 'perfect' in my eyes 😍
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Agreed. When people share pictures I want to see the real person. I want to see the flaws, I want to see the different skin textures, I want to see the stretch marks. (I think stretch marks on hips and thighs and tummies are hot. Mom bods are hot. Femininity is hot in all its forms.) Having (or seeking) the confidence to post oneself despite the vulnerability of it is awesome.
 
It's the Internet. I've been around enough Internet forums over the last 30 years to realize that some people will be authentic and vulnerable and some people are pretending to be someone they're not. (My headcanon is still that chocolate bar faker was Callipigeon aka JuanDC from RMB.) Most will not design a lit persona that encapsulates the full range of their personality. Hell, I'm on here to shitpost and banter with people while pretending to be cinnamon toast crunch.

That being said, to someone who knows me irl the silliness, the shitposting, the general interactions, and the limited range of schtick I show here would totally track with my actual personality. I'm hiding in a bowl of anthropomorphic cereal in an attempt to preserve anonymity but the goofball mask I'm wearing is the dominant part of my actual personality.

For me lit, particularly am pics and the playground, is a community. You kinda get to know the regulars and can shoot the shit with them. The pics are just (very nice and very appreciated) window dressing for me.

I think wearing a mask that emphasizes one part of one's personality is normal and something we all do in most situations but is amplified in settings like this. It's normal. I DO hope the masks worn by those I'm interacting with are amplifying part of who they really are (or, in the cases of forgotmyantidepressants and ScarletDaisy, a part of themselves they want to nurture and let grow), not something entirely artificial.
 
SpicyBean99 said:
I would like to step back from the heat of recent discussions and ask something broader.

Is authenticity important here?

Lit is structured around threads, dialogue and ongoing interaction, with images being only one part of the site. By contrast, there are endless places online to scroll through porn without speaking to a single person, with no community element and no conversation required. So if someone is only interested in visuals and not the person behind them, what makes this space different?

For me, the appeal has always been that there are real people here. The images are part of it, of course. But so are the personalities, the humour, the back and forth, and the sense that there is a human being on the other side of the screen.

That is why authenticity matters to me.

Authenticity does not mean forcing verification. Anonymity and privacy absolutely matter. But there is a difference between protecting privacy and fabricating an identity. Protecting privacy means choosing what you reveal about a real self. Fabricating identity means presenting something as real that is not.

That distinction matters because it shapes whether we are interacting with real people or performances.

So the real question becomes this:

If a space built around interaction becomes flooded with imported images, AI content, or personas that are not grounded in a real person, does that change what kind of place this is? Does it slowly become just another scrolling platform rather than an open community?

If authenticity becomes optional, then the vulnerability of sharing something real becomes interchangeable with something synthetic. Over time, that shifts trust, expectations and the character of the space itself.

I often hear that many users skip sections of text and look straight for posts with pictures. That is their choice. But it does make me reflect. If the human element is irrelevant, what separates Lit from any other site that serves purely visual content?

In a world so heavily saturated with edited realities and disinformation, does it matter if some spaces remain rooted in actual human interaction?

I genuinely think it does.

I also understand that some people come here primarily to escape reality. To enjoy fantasy and to totally disconnect from everyday life and step into something playful or erotic without needing it to be grounded in anything 'real'. There is nothing inherently wrong with that...But for others, part of the appeal is that there is a real person behind the username. The fantasy might be heightened or stylised, but it is still anchored to someone who actually exists. Those are two entirely different ways of engaging.

I am not trying to take fantasy or escapism away from anyone. I know this is an erotic space. Fantasy, exaggeration and playful personas are part of what makes it fun. No one is expecting ID checks or fingerprint recognition.

However, there is still a difference between consensual fantasy and misrepresentation. If we all understand something is stylised (ie, the person behind an account has openly chosen to stay anon) or roleplay, that is one thing, if something is presented as real and it is not, that is something else entirely.

So for me, when authenticity is dismissed altogether, it can unintentionally make those who are here as themselves feel interchangeable with something manufactured.

That is the part that matters to me.

I am really interested in hearing different perspectives. This is not about naming and shaming or targeting anyone. It is about discussing what we want this space to be, and whether authenticity plays a role in that.
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SpicyBean99 said:
I also want to challenge my own question a little, because I think there is a valid counterpoint....

Lit has always involved persona, fantasy and selective self-presentation and like...even those of us who are “real” are still curating what we show. We choose which photos to post, which stories to tell, which parts of ourselves to emphasise. In that sense, there is always some level of performance here. For some users, that performative element is part of the appeal, I KNOW that they are not necessarily looking for verifiable authenticity and are instead looking for immersion, interaction, banter, roleplay. For them, the fact that someone may not be fully anchored to an offline identity does not automatically diminish the experience. (I don't express that I understand this often enough).

It is also fair to say that interactivity, not strict realism, may be what separates Lit from static porn sites....The ability to comment, flirt, respond and build a dynamic exchange can exist even within stylised or ambiguous personas... obviously.

So perhaps the issue is not as binary as “real versus fake.” As with everuthing there is so much nuance... There may be a spectrum between privacy, fantasy and deliberate misrepresentation.

So, maybe the more useful question is not simply “Does authenticity matter?” but “How much authenticity is necessary for this space to function in a way most of us are comfortable with?”

I’m genuinely interested in where others draw that line....Open for as much discussion as it warrants. I would love to hear thoughts.
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I’m pretty open. But as a result, I curate carefully on who I talk to about intimate details or even bother reading.

I also flirt indiscriminately because it’s a stress reliever. But I’ve always been a bit of a flirt anyway. So it’s honest?

I try not to spread my misery too much, but I know a few people care about me on lit, so sometimes I post about it just to keep some info flowing.

But it’s also why I stick to the PG mostly. It’s light hearted and easy to ignore the drama if I want to.

The proliferation of AI, fake accounts and what not dilutes “normal” people posting and brings down the overall vibe for sure.
 
The question is simple....does authenticity matter here? The correct answer is no. Now hear me out...since I have been here since the late 90s...I have seen a lot...but that doesn't really matter does it?. The question wasn't...does authenticity matter to you? See the difference? So for me...the question is about the site itself. As a whole. If you randomly sample 100 users at any given time...and look at them indepth...what would the answer be? Are you only looking at the PG? Are you relying on their answer? Or what you find digging deeper? Sorry....most people here are not authentic. They lie. They make things up. They fabricate...it just is. So if you do a random sample....and find a dozen authentic people...how do you count the other 88? Do they matter in answering the question at hand? Or if you want to say....49 out of 100 are authentic...what about the 51? What is the criteria for defining are people here authentic? Or what authentic even means? I look at it as a probability. You won't like my answer as to what I think that probability is.

Now....can people really afford to be authentic any more? Sorry...we don't live in a very friendly World. And since this site is nothing but a sampling of society at large...why would you think this site would be different from what you see out there? So many people are so unaware. Or maybe....their definition of authentic is very different from mine?
 
Authenticity is a little like consent around here.

Some people give it, some absolutely demand it, some people want to cosent to *non* consent.

As the monkey said, intent is important, especially if the intent is to harm.

Personally, I have been on and off this site for two decades or more . There have always been fakes and deceivers. There probably always will be, because nearly everyone on these boards wants to hide their sexual side from the "real" world (if we didn't, this site would not exist and function in the way it does).

Technology has definitely changed how much work a person needs to put in to deceiving someone.

That was my answer to a genuine question.

Now, I have to say that I cannot help but suspect that this thread was created and this question posed just to needle/call out a member of the board..


There are at least three different threads with the OP calling out another member.

You are aggrieved. You got banned and I bet that sucks. This obsession with proving that you are right and they are wrong is growing tedious.

I don't know if there is a wilfully deceitfulness by a repeat offender or not, but the phony altruism is wearing thin for me.

Maybe it is for others as well.


And if the OP takes issue with my response, well, you asked for people's opinion and I gave mine
 
Cthulhu1138 said:
Authenticity is a little like consent around here.

Some people give it, some absolutely demand it, some people want to cosent to *non* consent.

As the monkey said, intent is important, especially if the intent is to harm.

Personally, I have been on and off this site for two decades or more . There have always been fakes and deceivers. There probably always will be, because nearly everyone on these boards wants to hide their sexual side from the "real" world (if we didn't, this site would not exist and function in the way it does).

Technology has definitely changed how much work a person needs to put in to deceiving someone.

That was my answer to a genuine question.

Now, I have to say that I cannot help but suspect that this thread was created and this question posed just to needle/call out a member of the board..


There are at least three different threads with the OP calling out another member.

You are aggrieved. You got banned and I bet that sucks. This obsession with proving that you are right and they are wrong is growing tedious.

I don't know if there is a wilfully deceitfulness by a repeat offender or not, but the phony altruism is wearing thin for me.

Maybe it is for others as well.


And if the OP takes issue with my response, well, you asked for people's opinion and I gave mine
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I hear what you’re saying! But I’m not aggrieved and I haven’t been banned. 😌

If you knew me and had interacted with me previously you would know that going back a year now I have continuously brought up the subject of nuance online; of why we come to lit, what people need and want from lit. Making this thread was an olive branch stemming from a broader conversation because people engaged with it and seemed to want to talk about it too!

It’s been really interesting reading people’s thoughts and seeing different perspectives of authenticity. This thread was made because of my genuine curiosity about what other people want from literotica and what they expect regarding interaction, it was more a question to help me gauge how I should behave and act moving forwards (ie, being a little more reserved, not sharing as much picture wise, keeping some discussions private and such.)

I believe there is only one other thread where such things have been discussed in some depth, myself and the OP of that specific thread have spoken and apologies have been made to the right people! I’m in no way trying to single anyone out. I alreqdy said what needed to be said to that individual and instead of pressing matters further I decided to post here! If you read the first two thread posts here you see I explain my reasoning for posting, including also playing my own devils advocate and questioning my own thoughts…
I love to think and discuss and share! I always have.

Me asking whether authenticity matters in a space built on anonymity is not inherently aggrieved or malicious at all, and if you read through the responses here everyone has added some really insightful and wonderful commentary! From women also who struggle with similar worries and anxieties as I!

It is a legitimate question which warranted legitimate answers! Answers that don’t prove anything right or wrong, it’s just a discussion I was interested in having.

You may disagree with how I approach it. I will again apologise if I’ve made anyone feel… indifferent to me because of how I’ve gone about sharing?

But I am comfortable with people disagreeing with me. That’s part of having an open discussion!
 
Beholders_Eye said:
Maybe this thought is apropos...

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I will bite regarding this because I’m confused about whether or not you’re calling me a “false saint” without knowing or trying to understand me…I’ve never claimed to be a saint. Ever. I constantly make mistakes and get things wrong and muddle myself up! All the time!

In fact, the older I get the more I realise I dont understand!

But I’ve been pretty open about my flaws and motivations. My point has always been about transparency, and never ever moral superiority.
 
SpicyBean99 said:
I will bite regarding this because I’m confused about whether or not you’re calling me a “false saint” without knowing or trying to understand me…
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i think he is saying the opposite. its better for you to express yourself openly and face ridicule then deny your truth to save face and avoid conflict. sinners are far more fun anyway.
 
SpicyBean99 said:
I will bite regarding this because I’m confused about whether or not you’re calling me a “false saint” without knowing or trying to understand me…I’ve never claimed to be a saint. Ever. I constantly make mistakes and get things wrong and muddle myself up! All the time!

In fact, the older I get the more I realise I dont understand!

But I’ve been pretty open about my flaws and motivations. My point has always been about transparency, and never ever moral superiority.
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Less arguing, more tits! That what I say 😛😛😛
 
Dribble said:
The question is simple....does authenticity matter here? The correct answer is no. Now hear me out...since I have been here since the late 90s...I have seen a lot...but that doesn't really matter does it?. The question wasn't...does authenticity matter to you? See the difference? So for me...the question is about the site itself. As a whole. If you randomly sample 100 users at any given time...and look at them indepth...what would the answer be? Are you only looking at the PG? Are you relying on their answer? Or what you find digging deeper? Sorry....most people here are not authentic. They lie. They make things up. They fabricate...it just is. So if you do a random sample....and find a dozen authentic people...how do you count the other 88? Do they matter in answering the question at hand? Or if you want to say....49 out of 100 are authentic...what about the 51? What is the criteria for defining are people here authentic? Or what authentic even means? I look at it as a probability. You won't like my answer as to what I think that probability is.

Now....can people really afford to be authentic any more? Sorry...we don't live in a very friendly World. And since this site is nothing but a sampling of society at large...why would you think this site would be different from what you see out there? So many people are so unaware. Or maybe....their definition of authentic is very different from mine?
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Cthulhu1138 said:
Authenticity is a little like consent around here.

Some people give it, some absolutely demand it, some people want to cosent to *non* consent.

As the monkey said, intent is important, especially if the intent is to harm.

Personally, I have been on and off this site for two decades or more . There have always been fakes and deceivers. There probably always will be, because nearly everyone on these boards wants to hide their sexual side from the "real" world (if we didn't, this site would not exist and function in the way it does).

Technology has definitely changed how much work a person needs to put in to deceiving someone.

That was my answer to a genuine question.

Now, I have to say that I cannot help but suspect that this thread was created and this question posed just to needle/call out a member of the board..


There are at least three different threads with the OP calling out another member.

You are aggrieved. You got banned and I bet that sucks. This obsession with proving that you are right and they are wrong is growing tedious.

I don't know if there is a wilfully deceitfulness by a repeat offender or not, but the phony altruism is wearing thin for me.

Maybe it is for others as well.


And if the OP takes issue with my response, well, you asked for people's opinion and I gave mine
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You both bring up good points. Most people (myself included) only show certain facets of their personalities on the board, and it can switch up depending on which board or even thread they are on. Those parts can definitely be authentic, but if people only know the one facet, seeing another side come out (emotions, bad day, good day, etc) can sometimes lead viewers to conclude that the “primary” facet that is portrayed is false.

When in reality, we’re mostly all complex personalities and a digital interface leds to a simplistic view of each other.
 
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TXRafe said:
i think he is saying the opposite. its better for you to express yourself openly and face ridicule then deny your truth to save face and avoid conflict. sinners are far more fun anyway.
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I am feeling SO drained and tired from trying to prove myself to people who have immediately perceived something they’ve seen at face value (ie my posts regarding certain things), and I’m at the point where when I put my phone down I immediately want to make sure no one’s angry with me or misunderstanding me so I reopen my phone and choose to engage! It’s probably silly but when it’s get to this point I read everything as an attack? I’m a sensitive sally at times hey? 😂

Does saying I’m really not a bad person with ill intent going to change anything here? Probably not. But neither does saying you’re not a catfish. 😂
 
SpicyBean99 said:
I am feeling SO drained and tired from trying to prove myself to people who have immediately perceived something they’ve seen at face value (ie my posts regarding certain things), and I’m at the point where when I put my phone down I immediately want to make sure no one’s angry with me or misunderstanding me so I reopen my phone and choose to engage! It’s probably silly but when it’s get to this point I read everything as an attack? I’m a sensitive sally at times hey? 😂

Does saying I’m really not a bad person with ill intent going to change anything here? Probably not. But neither does saying you’re not a catfish. 😂
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im definitely a catfish 🤪
 
SpicyBean99 said:
I am feeling SO drained and tired from trying to prove myself to people who have immediately perceived something they’ve seen at face value (ie my posts regarding certain things), and I’m at the point where when I put my phone down I immediately want to make sure no one’s angry with me or misunderstanding me so I reopen my phone and choose to engage! It’s probably silly but when it’s get to this point I read everything as an attack? I’m a sensitive sally at times hey? 😂

Does saying I’m really not a bad person with ill intent going to change anything here? Probably not. But neither does saying you’re not a catfish. 😂
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Eh, fuck them. Any old asshole can be liked by everyone. Be yourself, speak your truth and if some people are upset or offended that’s on them.
 
Apisto42 said:
Eh, fuck them. Any old asshole can be liked by everyone. Be yourself, speak your truth and if some people are upset or offended that’s on them.
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I’ve seen plenty of old assholes be licked online…

Oh damn, you said liked?

Well that’s also true. 🤪

Thankyou though, I can only ever be me 😆 I think I’m like marmite you either really get me and like me or you don’t understand or like me at all! And that’s fine by me! 🥰
 
SpicyBean99 said:
You know where to find the AM pics thread? 😉 there are SOOO many titties there… I promise! Go and have a peek I know you want toooo 😏

This thread was for discussions onlyyy no pics unfortunately! 🫶🏽
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Yes SpicyGoddess very true. What I really mean is that all this time analyzing and deep-diving could be spent unbuttoning, oiling, soaping, toying, and letting me watch 😛😛😛
 
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