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[Spicy Southern Belle]

Big hugs to ((((SERENE)))) and everyone else that needs one. You're all good people and I've got nothing but love for you. ((((HUGS))))

Thank you hon! *HUGS* right back at you!

 

[lakesailer_mi]

For Serene...

 

[Spenser41]

Serene, I have sent you a PM, but know my heart goes out to you.

Thanks Spicey for this thread. When I did the Sheltering Tree, some people said this is a sex site and not for stuff like this. I disagree. This maybe a sex site, but it is also a site where people have made friends, where people have found love, and where people help one another in tough times.

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

Serene, I have sent you a PM, but know my heart goes out to you.

Thanks Spicey for this thread. When I did the Sheltering Tree, some people said this is a sex site and not for stuff like this. I disagree. This maybe a sex site, but it is also a site where people have made friends, where people have found love, and where people help one another in tough times.

I'm sorry. If I had known you had one, I would have just revived it!

I completely agree with you. Everyone uses this site for different reasons. I find more support here than with my family and people who claim to be my friends. *hug*

 

[SweetieBee]

I'm sorry. If I had known you had one, I would have just revived it!

I completely agree with you. Everyone uses this site for different reasons. I find more support here than with my family and people who claim to be my friends. *hug*

Make your next post 7k!

 

[Ellafun]

(((HUGS))) to Serene, Spicy, and ABG, and all the strong, beautiful women out there who need them.

 

[SweetieBee]

(((HUGS))) to Serene, Spicy, and ABG, and all the strong, beautiful women out there who need them.

Umm, I'm not included, I only make the "strong" mark.

 

[Ellafun]

Umm, I'm not included, I only make the "strong" mark.

You know better, Cute one! I was sort of sending those particular ((hugs)) to those who have had an angel recalled to heaven. I send you virtual hugs 24/7! Kisses, too!

 

[SweetieBee]

You know better, Cute one! I was sort of sending those particular ((hugs)) to those who have had an angel recalled to heaven. I send you virtual hugs 24/7! Kisses, too!

"Beautiful women".

 

[highlandlassie224]

Oh, sweetie, I'm so very, very sorry You are such an amazingly strong woman and have gone through so much. The loss you suffered was just unbearable. I cannot imagine anything more painful in this world than losing a child. I'm sending huge bear hugs and prayers your way!!! I'm glad that your husband was there for you last night to hold you while you cried. If you ever need to talk about it, I'm here. Anytime, ok? I'm hoping you're feeling better this morning!! xxxxxx

Last night/morning, I could not keep it inside anymore

so I went downstairs to where my husband was at the computer...(he just came back from two weeks in Tenn...he is now in FL)

to be fair it was a work project not Command and Conquer for once...

anyways, I came back upstairs and got back in bed and just played my Ipod trying to go to sleep...

He came upstairs and asked what was the matter, he could sense something was up...

and I just broke down and cried so hard, I physically shook...like for about an hour...

and yes, he held me...he knew it was because of Emily...and when I finished crying, we talked about her.

I never knew he did not get to see her with her eyes open. I did. She was the first one out and I think her Apgar was like 2 or 3...and they had to get her breathing and my pastor baptized her...they where working on getting her sister out and brought her to me bundled up...you ever see a cancer patient in the last stages? How you can see and smell death from them? She had death in her sweet little eyes...I told her I loved her and how beautiful she was and they whisked her way and her sister was being baptized.

She died while they were sewing me up...but she was with my husband in his arms...from her earthly father to her heavenly one she flew...but her eyes where closed although she was still breathing...and I did not know that until last night...when I finally was brought to her I was able to hold her until she grew cold...

I am thankful I was able to look her in her eyes and tell her how beautiful she was and is and that I love her. I am also thankful that she was surrounded by love as she passed and took it with her.

 

[VelvetWolf]

In 1988, President Ronald Regan declared October to be Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. October 15th is officially known as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day.



You can find out more information about the movement behind this day becoming official or just on how to help people you know suffering or just to understand at http://www.october15th.com/ or on http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pregnancy_and_Infant_Loss_Remembrance_Day

I thought sharing this would be appropriate considering what Serene had shared with us today. I suffered a loss of my own and, while not as traumatic and heart-wrenching as Serene's, it is still something that is a very big part of my life. Having the support of others makes it so much easier. Remembering makes it feel like I am doing what I can to honor my son. If sharing this site helps just one person then I am happy.

Thanks so much for posting this. I had a miscarriage many years ago and then discovered I could never have children, due to a medical issue. I often think about my baby, even after all these years, and wonder what she would have been like, and looked like, would she have my hair and my love for nature, and her father's gentle eyes and sense of humor, what would she have grown up to become? It's an amazing and incredible bond a woman has with her baby, even when she was never able to see or hold it. And I am always reminded of the loss every time I see someone with a baby or even a young child. The sad ache never leaves you..............


*HUGS* for all the women who have suffered the loss of their beautiful, precious child.

 

[Azuldrgon]

*hugs*

It's all I can say.

 

[tekgirl]

Last night/morning, I could not keep it inside anymore

so I went downstairs to where my husband was at the computer...(he just came back from two weeks in Tenn...he is now in FL)

to be fair it was a work project not Command and Conquer for once...

anyways, I came back upstairs and got back in bed and just played my Ipod trying to go to sleep...

He came upstairs and asked what was the matter, he could sense something was up...

and I just broke down and cried so hard, I physically shook...like for about an hour...

and yes, he held me...he knew it was because of Emily...and when I finished crying, we talked about her.

I never knew he did not get to see her with her eyes open. I did. She was the first one out and I think her Apgar was like 2 or 3...and they had to get her breathing and my pastor baptized her...they where working on getting her sister out and brought her to me bundled up...you ever see a cancer patient in the last stages? How you can see and smell death from them? She had death in her sweet little eyes...I told her I loved her and how beautiful she was and they whisked her way and her sister was being baptized.

She died while they were sewing me up...but she was with my husband in his arms...from her earthly father to her heavenly one she flew...but her eyes where closed although she was still breathing...and I did not know that until last night...when I finally was brought to her I was able to hold her until she grew cold...

I am thankful I was able to look her in her eyes and tell her how beautiful she was and is and that I love her. I am also thankful that she was surrounded by love as she passed and took it with her.

A big hug to you Serene from one mother to another.

 

[Triskele]

Hey Spicy!

I've been cruising around the threads and trying to get a feel for this place. (as you do lol) and have come across your threads/posts in different places. Azuls, too.

I have decided that I like you and the blue fella very, very much!!!

This thread just cements the like, I'm afraid. Soooo.....

I hope you'll accept a fan-for-life.

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

Make your next post 7k!

I don't even know what I made it on. I wasn't paying attention honestly.

(((HUGS))) to Serene, Spicy, and ABG, and all the strong, beautiful women out there who need them.

*Hugs* Thank you sweetheart.

Thanks so much for posting this. I had a miscarriage many years ago and then discovered I could never have children, due to a medical issue. I often think about my baby, even after all these years, and wonder what she would have been like, and looked like, would she have my hair and my love for nature, and her father's gentle eyes and sense of humor, what would she have grown up to become? It's an amazing and incredible bond a woman has with her baby, even when she was never able to see or hold it. And I am always reminded of the loss every time I see someone with a baby or even a young child. The sad ache never leaves you..............


*HUGS* for all the women who have suffered the loss of their beautiful, precious child.

I'm so sorry for your loss, both of them. I am the same way about the thoughts and ache. *HUGS*

*hugs*

It's all I can say.

Sometimes that is more than enough sweetheart. *HUGS*

Hey Spicy!

I've been cruising around the threads and trying to get a feel for this place. (as you do lol) and have come across your threads/posts in different places. Azuls, too.

I have decided that I like you and the blue fella very, very much!!!

This thread just cements the like, I'm afraid. Soooo.....

I hope you'll accept a fan-for-life.

You are very sweet. *HUGS*

 

[VelvetWolf]

I'm so sorry for your loss, both of them. I am the same way about the thoughts and ache. *HUGS*

Thank you. It's a terrible club to belong to, isn't it? Sorry for your loss, as well. *hugs*

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

Thank you. It's a terrible club to belong to, isn't it? Sorry for your loss, as well. *hugs*

*hugs* thank you..and yes, it is.

 

[Semlvr]

I just met Spicy and found this thread. Hugs to all that need them today

I have one thing going on in my life, very minor in comparison to others, that I kinda needed a hug for. I cant really tell anyone about it and Spicy didnt know, but wanted to post thanks for the hug she sent me in a pm.

Thanks girl!

 

[HesterPrynne]

I just met Spicy and found this thread. Hugs to all that need them today

I have one thing going on in my life, very minor in comparison to others, that I kinda needed a hug for. I cant really tell anyone about it and Spicy didnt know, but wanted to post thanks for the hug she sent me in a pm.

Thanks girl!

*HUGS* to you .....

 

[PinupgirlLvr]

*Hugs* to whoever needs one.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Hey Spicy!

I've been cruising around the threads and trying to get a feel for this place. (as you do lol) and have come across your threads/posts in different places. Azuls, too.

I have decided that I like you and the blue fella very, very much!!!

This thread just cements the like, I'm afraid. Soooo.....

I hope you'll accept a fan-for-life.

*hugs* I'm touched.

 

[Triskele]

Thanks so much for posting this. I had a miscarriage many years ago and then discovered I could never have children, due to a medical issue. I often think about my baby, even after all these years, and wonder what she would have been like, and looked like, would she have my hair and my love for nature, and her father's gentle eyes and sense of humor, what would she have grown up to become? It's an amazing and incredible bond a woman has with her baby, even when she was never able to see or hold it. And I am always reminded of the loss every time I see someone with a baby or even a young child. The sad ache never leaves you..............


*HUGS* for all the women who have suffered the loss of their beautiful, precious child.

Hey VelvetWolf,

Can feel with you. I lost 3 babies before I was taken seriously as having a problem. The third one nearly killed me but after that I was assessed properly. Ten years later I had my first surviving baby and 3 years later another. I thank God every day for them. They're away for school now. I never, ever forget those I lost.

Next year, after I travel a bit, I'll foster some cherubs because my lovely community has so much to share. My cherubs are all for it. We have a lot of love to share.

 

[Spicy Southern Belle]

I just met Spicy and found this thread. Hugs to all that need them today

I have one thing going on in my life, very minor in comparison to others, that I kinda needed a hug for. I cant really tell anyone about it and Spicy didnt know, but wanted to post thanks for the hug she sent me in a pm.

Thanks girl!

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*hugs* Glad I could help. I'm here if you need to talk.

*Hugs* to whoever needs one.

*hugs*

Hey VelvetWolf,

Can feel with you. I lost 3 babies before I was taken seriously as having a problem. The third one nearly killed me but after that I was assessed properly. Ten years later I had my first surviving baby and 3 years later another. I thank God every day for them. They're away for school now. I never, ever forget those I lost.

Next year, after I travel a bit, I'll foster some cherubs because my lovely community has so much to share. My cherubs are all for it. We have a lot of love to share.

Thank you so much for sharing this! *hugs*

 

[Azuldrgon]

*hugs* to all who need em tonight.

 

[VelvetWolf]

Hey VelvetWolf,

Can feel with you. I lost 3 babies before I was taken seriously as having a problem. The third one nearly killed me but after that I was assessed properly. Ten years later I had my first surviving baby and 3 years later another. I thank God every day for them. They're away for school now. I never, ever forget those I lost.

Next year, after I travel a bit, I'll foster some cherubs because my lovely community has so much to share. My cherubs are all for it. We have a lot of love to share.

Hi Triskele,


Thank you. So sorry you lost 3 precious angels. How wonderful that you were finally blessed with 2 amazing children. I can well imagine that you thank God for them every day.


That's great that you are planning on fostering! They will be lucky kids indeed, as it sounds like your family is very loving and giving. Bless you and yours. *hugs*