The need to pee

[WillowPuss]

Not sure if this is just me or if other 'suffer' in the same way ...

After play, especially if I have been treated to muliple orgasms, when I have finally come back down to earth I get the urge to pee. I always ensure I have an empty bladder to start ... and do not drink during play, apart from the odd mouthful of water.

So ... is it me?

(And if so ... what can I do about it?)

 

[morninggirl5]

You probably don't want to do anything except go to the bathroom. Bladder infections are painful and that's painful as only bad pain can be. The best way to prevent a bladder infection is to use the bathroom before and after sex.

Your body is trying to take care of itself.

 

[MsWorthy]

Not sure if this is just me or if other 'suffer' in the same way ...

After play, especially if I have been treated to muliple orgasms, when I have finally come back down to earth I get the urge to pee. I always ensure I have an empty bladder to start ... and do not drink during play, apart from the odd mouthful of water.

In my experience, this need/urge to urinate after an intense orgasm is fairly common.

As a matter of fact, I find that I can use the need to urinate as a gauge that indicates how "good" (deeply satisfying, intense) the orgasm was.

Other causes of the need/urge to urinate after orgasm can include:

the "play" used to bring about the orgasm encorporated g-spot or other stimulation of the urethral or bladder area.

not emptying the bladder immediately before "play."

playing soon after a meal (the digestion of food, not just fluids, also produces urine).

and some people simply urinate more frequently than others.

So ... is it me?

(And if so ... what can I do about it?)

I am not sure what you can do to prevent it, Willow. I assume you want to prevent it because either it interferes with your ability to continue play until you empty your bladder and/or you will have to be untied (safeword out of play, just so you can go pee..*smiles*).

Although it would be a "pain" to stop play and/or have to untie you if the bondage was intricate, I would think that the message to your dom/me that she/he brought you such intense pleasure would override this irritation (if, indeed, this is the reason you have to urinate).

 

[Guest]

One can always incorporate pee-pee in a play. <joke>

 

[MsWorthy]

One can always incorporate pee-pee in a play. <joke>

Actually, they could CV, if they are into water sports and/or humiliation....*smiles*

 

[WillowPuss]

Thank you mg5 and Ms Worthy.

The need to urinate after intense orgasm seems to be my 'problem'

Luckily, I have a strong bladder and good control so I am normally able to control this until after the play has finished and we are just cuddling, winding down. It is just a blessed nuisance, thats all.

Thinking it through, it is probably caused when I have had a lot of G-spot stimulation.

CV - we haven't done any water-sports, though Robuck paid particular attention to one of cym's posts on this subject in a different thread. I have a feeling that we may be trying this soon.

 

[Guest]

Actually, they could CV, if they are into water sports and/or humiliation....*smiles*

Let us all piss off hotel managers!!! <pan fully intended>

 

[NemoAlia]

Recently, my lover and I have been talking about this sort of thing, and your thread, Willow, came to mind. There's a lot of talk here about G-spot stimulation. For me, though the need to pee seems to hit even before I'm ever actually touched there. Am I imagining things? I'm well-versed in urinary tract infections, so I do always relieve myself before sex. But still, when I get turned on, I need to pee.

This has gone on as long as I can remember. When I was very young and on the monkey bars, I was swinging my legs to try to gain enough momentum to make it all the way across. Suddenly, I had to pee. I dropped down, afraid that I'd lose control, but the 'full' feeling went away. Then, I climbed back up, started swinging again, and I felt the urge once more. Except this time I hung on. It was my first experience with being 'turned on.'

Maybe it's just the tensing of our muscles?

**Edited to add: I'm still looking forward to the day when, during sex, I get that full feeling and someone encourages me to go ahead and pee. I'm not sure that would count as watersports, since it wouldn't be eroticizing the urine, but the release of it sounds wonderful. Has anyone tried this?

 

[lovetoread]

Trust me,go pee.

I have a horrible bladder infection. I am on a second antibiotic cause the first one wasnt working.

I am tired of peeing.

I was not getting up and using the bathroom for various reasons,but from now on I have to.

Oh and peeing for or on someone is a good thing. Trust me.

 

[NemoAlia]

Ooooh -- lovetoread -- I was so hoping that you would respond! If your avs are any indication, you're the lady to ask on this subject! Do you have any practical advice about watersports-type play? Or would that be hijacking Willow's thread?

 

[lovetoread]

It would be hijacking...lol

But I have only done it a few times.

Its a treat that I dont get often. Especially now.

 

[MsWorthy]

Recently, my lover and I have been talking about this sort of thing, and your thread, Willow, came to mind. There's a lot of talk here about G-spot stimulation. For me, though the need to pee seems to hit even before I'm ever actually touched there. Am I imagining things? I'm well-versed in urinary tract infections, so I do always relieve myself before sex. But still, when I get turned on, I need to pee.

This has gone on as long as I can remember. When I was very young and on the monkey bars, I was swinging my legs to try to gain enough momentum to make it all the way across. Suddenly, I had to pee. I dropped down, afraid that I'd lose control, but the 'full' feeling went away. Then, I climbed back up, started swinging again, and I felt the urge once more. Except this time I hung on. It was my first experience with being 'turned on.'

Maybe it's just the tensing of our muscles?

**Edited to add: I'm still looking forward to the day when, during sex, I get that full feeling and someone encourages me to go ahead and pee. I'm not sure that would count as watersports, since it wouldn't be eroticizing the urine, but the release of it sounds wonderful. Has anyone tried this?

Nemo, I have had this experience and couldn't pee when I tried (this was 10-15 years ago when I was in a f/m relationship; he begged me to just pee so we didn't have to stop and I tried, thinking it could just be cleaned it up after we finished). I found that if I just changed the angle of penetration, the urge disappeared.

If you know your bladder is empty and there was no g-spot stim, perhaps it is psychological. Do you think it might have to do with letting go? Do you have any problem having an orgasm?

~I know this doesn't relate to your urge during swinging. Just a thought that struck me when I read it.~

 

[Quint]

There is a conflict in the information I've been given. About two years ago I had a vicious bladder infection, and when I was talking to the nurse on the phone, one of the questions was whether I frequently urinated immediately after sex. I asked if that lead to bladder infections and she said yes.

Now I'm reading that NOT peeing when you need to, even if it's immediately after sex, can lead to an infection. Which is it? I've been studiously avoiding the bathroom for at least half an hour after intercourse because of that nurse...am I really doing more harm to myself?

(Although I don't have much reaction to g-spot stimulation...not to hijack, Will, but does EVERYONE in the world except for me get G-spot orgasms? I'm so bloody frustrated.)

 

[NemoAlia]

Hmmm... problems having an orgasm? Well, sometimes. I can climax just fine by myself. But when I'm with somebody, well, sometimes I feel a little self-conscious. Cumming or peeing. I once dated someone who eroticized diaper play. Well, it's not my thing, but my spirit was willing enough. However, my flesh was weak. I drank liters of water, but I just couldn't. Are my inability to orgasm and my inability to pee related? Yeah, probably.

But I'm not sure how my urge to pee is related to my frequent inability to have an orgasm. Well, except that they're linked by both existing in my own mind. Ideas?

And does this have anything at all to do with Willow's post-orgasmic urges? Surely those aren't linked with her inability to cum!

 

[NemoAlia]

Hey Quint! I, for one, have never had a G-spot orgasm. Then again, I've also never had a nurse tell me not to pee after sex. Every doctor, OB/GYN, nurse, and relative I've ever asked has told me to pee both before and after sex, to help flush out whatever little germies that invading penis has rubbed up into my twisty little urethra.

 

[Quint]

Heeheehee....those pesky penises. (No, wait. Is this like cactus/cacti? Peni?)

I thought it was a pretty logical thing for the nurse to tell me; I mean, the tissue in and around my naughty bits is generally pretty raw after a nice hard fucking. My philosophy is, if it hurts to pee, you shouldn't be peeing. You can adopt that philosophy if you want, by the way. I'm generous. I can come up with more.

Damn...I was hoping maybe I WAS the only one who hadn't managed the g-spot thing yet, which means I'm just doing something wrong. I so dearly want to be able to come for T, and Mistress Clit requires very special attention. Guess it's back to the "How-To" board...

 

[Desdemona]

Kinky Nurse Nancy says

There is a conflict in the information I've been given. About two years ago I had a vicious bladder infection, and when I was talking to the nurse on the phone, one of the questions was whether I frequently urinated immediately after sex. I asked if that lead to bladder infections and she said yes.

Now I'm reading that NOT peeing when you need to, even if it's immediately after sex, can lead to an infection. Which is it? I've been studiously avoiding the bathroom for at least half an hour after intercourse because of that nurse...am I really doing more harm to myself?

(Although I don't have much reaction to g-spot stimulation...not to hijack, Will, but does EVERYONE in the world except for me get G-spot orgasms? I'm so bloody frustrated.)

Quint, go and pee soon after sex. It helps you to avoid the infections. That nurse probably misunderstood your question and thought you meant "does *not* peeing after sex lead to bladder infections?".

 

[MsWorthy]

Hmmm... problems having an orgasm? Well, sometimes. I can climax just fine by myself. But when I'm with somebody, well, sometimes I feel a little self-conscious. Cumming or peeing. I once dated someone who eroticized diaper play. Well, it's not my thing, but my spirit was willing enough. However, my flesh was weak. I drank liters of water, but I just couldn't. Are my inability to orgasm and my inability to pee related? Yeah, probably.

But I'm not sure how my urge to pee is related to my frequent inability to have an orgasm. Well, except that they're linked by both existing in my own mind. Ideas?

My thinking was that it might be a issue with letting go, losing control. Not to be Freudian or anything (smiles) but it could be related to potty training problems. Fear. Punishment. Withholding. Wetting the bed. Arousal can feel like the urge to pee sometimes, so it makes sense that you might hold it if you were punished for letting go (urinating).

I am not suggesting you have that issue, Nemo, just a thought I had.

And does this have anything at all to do with Willow's post-orgasmic urges? Surely those aren't linked with her inability to cum!

I don't think they are related. I think Willow's *problem* is physical (not that yours can't be) but yours may be psychological. It isn't a big deal if it is, just a matter of understanding it and resolving the underlying issue.


Quint, I have always been told to pee after sex to flush out the bacteria that is inherent in bumpin and grindin. Bacteria that naturally lives on the skin (on him and you) is pushed into the urethra during penetration.

And, I didn't have a g-spot orgasm (or a vaginal orgasm, without clitoral stim) until I was older (30s), so don't feel alone.

 

[NemoAlia]

The first place where I learned the 'correct' plural for penis was in Grapes of Wrath. Somewhere in that bleak first chapter (or at least, somewhere in the first part of the book), there's a description of a big piece of farming equipment (whose official name I can't remember) that rakes the soil in preparation for dropping seeds in. Steinbeck describes the claws of the rake as mechanical "penes" penetrating the soil.

 

[WillowPuss]

ltr ... please hijack!

Actually you are possibly the best to ask this.
Golden showers.
We tried - I failed.

I needed to go. I wanted to go ... and I couldn't.
I just could not get the stream started. The urge totally dried up.

Any ideas?

 

[lovetoread]

As ironic as this sounds you have to relax.

I couldnt do it at all the first few times we tried.

And he started off slow.

I dont know exactly what you were doing,but if you could suggest that he take you into the bathroom and spread and hold you as you pee. And I do mean as you sit on the toilet. I had to be forced to do it,as it was not something that I wanted to try,but I ended up liking it,

Not a romantic spot,but you do get used to it faster,as the pee will have to come out eventually. We sat for a long time quite a few times. I do have applaude his patience there.

It seemed that I would never be able to do it,I was so embarrassed.

But if I could do it,anyone can.

We dont do any play outside the bathroom (shower,etc) because we live in small apt with 3 kids.

One day,some day I'd like a little more room to do more with it.

 

[lovetoread]

Did I mention that its fun too?

 

[Azzy]

Great subject for a thread! I, for one, ALWAYS feel the urge to pee right after.

Unfortunatley, I am also prone to urinary tract infections, which my doct advised me could happen right after sex.

For awhile, I was taking antibiotics right after sex for a few days as a precautionary measure.

Anyone else have this problem?

 

[NemoAlia]

It seems to me that drinking lots and lots of water might be a more long-term "cautionary measure" than taking antibiotics every time you have sex. Wouldn't you be likely to build up a resistance to antibiotics if you take them so frequently? Instead, flushing out your system for a day or two, plus drinking cranberry juice seem like a good post-sex plan.

I wonder if washing his penis beforehand would help with urinary tract infections?

 

[Azzy]

Good point. I have long since stopped the antibiotic treatment, and the problem seems to have been less and less recently.

Maybe it has been my increase in drinking water?

Hmm, washing his penis? That could open up a ton of opportunties. Could be worked in to a worshiping scenario easily I would think.