The attraction of cyber?

[BritGuy4U]

Cyber. I just don't get it. Pretty much boils down to an anonymous exchanging of sexual words.
Yet people love it.
Even with very creative people, its a bad story at best for me.
No connection, could be talking to a bloke, taking phone calls and feeding the dog inbetween
Give me voice or cam anytime, and no, not naked cam, but a real person with real expressions.

 

[QuantumJumping]

Cyber. I just don't get it. Pretty much boils down to an anonymous exchanging of sexual words.
Yet people love it.
Even with very creative people, its a bad story at best for me.
No connection, could be talking to a bloke, taking phone calls and feeding the dog inbetween
Give me voice or cam anytime, and no, not naked cam, but a real person with real expressions.

Well, that happens when trust is built up.
Connection happens with time.
Of course I always know it's a guy.
I get unsolicited pics of body parts.
Some videos too.
They want me to know the effect I have on them.

Recent comment received, " Fuck, you're so good. Amazing."

Depends on the poster.
Bonne Chance!

 

[Touch_72]

I usually feel pretty much the same about cyber. When done with just anyone, it can feel... fake. I read something like, "I roll the head of your cock around on my lips and slide them down the shaft," and think, "This feels silly... you're not here... it feels too empty and riddled with cliches."

At the same time, if there's something about the woman that's so thoroughly pulled me into a vivid imagination of her... if there are things about her that seriously turn me on in a deeper way that already has me experiencing imagined flashes of what sex with her would taste, smell, look and feel like... it can be different. If my thoughts are already so passionately keyed up into that mode, the chat ends up being a guide of the imagination in a way that's not as empty or fake feeling. But, that's the exception rather than the rule... usually, it's like what I said above.

Something that bothers me about both cyber and phone is that you have to engage your mind and think to type/speak... that's always fun with witty exchanges and flirting, but if you've moved beyond that into cybersex or phone sex, it can detract. I don't like thinking in bed... I prefer just feeling and rolling with instinct, letting spur of the moment desires just blossom into action without any thought or plan. So, in that same way, with cyber or phone sex... I don't want to be stringing words together in my head. There's a time for that (when you're talking, flirting, getting to know each other, emailing) and there's a time when you want to leave words behind.

That said, I fucking love hearing her pleasure! That sound of genuine moans and those bits and pieces of imagination that even just the moan can evoke are delicious. Knowing that her body is alive and feeling those wonderful sensations is awesome. Sometimes, on the phone, it's nicer to skip any role play scenarios of imagination and just talk... and if the talk inspires self touching, just to hear short descriptions of what's being done and hearing the pleasure escape her lips.

 

[sereneone4u]

I usually feel pretty much the same about cyber. When done with just anyone, it can feel... fake. I read something like, "I roll the head of your cock around on my lips and slide them down the shaft," and think, "This feels silly... you're not here... it feels too empty and riddled with cliches."

At the same time, if there's something about the woman that's so thoroughly pulled me into a vivid imagination of her... if there are things about her that seriously turn me on in a deeper way that already has me experiencing imagined flashes of what sex with her would taste, smell, look and feel like... it can be different. If my thoughts are already so passionately keyed up into that mode, the chat ends up being a guide of the imagination in a way that's not as empty or fake feeling. But, that's the exception rather than the rule... usually, it's like what I said above.

Something that bothers me about both cyber and phone is that you have to engage your mind and think to type/speak... that's always fun with witty exchanges and flirting, but if you've moved beyond that into cybersex or phone sex, it can detract. I don't like thinking in bed... I prefer just feeling and rolling with instinct, letting spur of the moment desires just blossom into action without any thought or plan. So, in that same way, with cyber or phone sex... I don't want to be stringing words together in my head. There's a time for that (when you're talking, flirting, getting to know each other, emailing) and there's a time when you want to leave words behind.

That said, I fucking love hearing her pleasure! That sound of genuine moans and those bits and pieces of imagination that even just the moan can evoke are delicious. Knowing that her body is alive and feeling those wonderful sensations is awesome. Sometimes, on the phone, it's nicer to skip any role play scenarios of imagination and just talk... and if the talk inspires self touching, just to hear short descriptions of what's being done and hearing the pleasure escape her lips.

Great description, Touch.

I do enjoy cyber, I am a "word" girl and when you do it with someone that really turns you on, it can be so hot. It is not for everyone, but then what is?

Phone though, getting to hear their desire, the emotions behind those words, sharing laughter, the only thing better is the actual thing.

 

[cf23430]

Amen Serene, Quantum, and Touch

 

[Touch_72]

Great description, Touch.

I do enjoy cyber, I am a "word" girl and when you do it with someone that really turns you on, it can be so hot. It is not for everyone, but then what is?

I get that, yeah... true. Words are wonderful, as I've found, and it's definitely fun to drive someone over the edge with them. *lol* But, the ultimate to me is surrendering thought and words to instinct.

Phone though, getting to hear their desire, the emotions behind those words, sharing laughter, the only thing better is the actual thing.

Yuppppers!

 

[Touch_72]

Amen Serene, Quantum, and Touch

I feel like a preacher now.

Brothers and sisters! We are gathered here to today in this hhhhhooooly congregation before God Almighty to talk about something that strikes deep into that core of humanity and troubles our minds with its wickedness! I'm talkin' about... cyber sex!

 

[cf23430]

I feel like a preacher now.

Brothers and sisters! We are gathered here to today in this hhhhhooooly congregation before God Almighty to talk about something that strikes deep into that core of humanity and troubles our minds with its wickedness! I'm talkin' about... cyber sex!

Preach it Brother Touch......can you hear the organ warming up.....lol

 

[sereneone4u]

I get that, yeah... true. Words are wonderful, as I've found, and it's definitely fun to drive someone over the edge with them. *lol* But, the ultimate to me is surrendering thought and words to instinct.



Yuppppers!

You are talking to a control freak, Touch.

I totally agree about instinct and surrendering.

Just with me, my first instinct is self-preservation

and getting me to surrender takes quite an effort.

But then it comes with great reward too.

 

[sereneone4u]

I feel like a preacher now.

Brothers and sisters! We are gathered here to today in this hhhhhooooly congregation before God Almighty to talk about something that strikes deep into that core of humanity and troubles our minds with its wickedness! I'm talkin' about... cyber sex!

laughing!

Preach it!

 

[Touch_72]

Preach it Brother Touch......can you hear the organ warming up.....lol

*roflmao*

You've gotta know better than to say "organ" around these parts.

 

[sereneone4u]

*roflmao*

You've gotta know better than to say "organ" around these parts.

You know he said it on purpose.

 

[cf23430]

You know he said it on purpose.

but of course I did....lol

 

[Touch_72]

You know he said it on purpose.

Yup.

What do you expect of a Virginian? *lol*

I'll be back later.

 

[cf23430]

Yup.

What do you expect of a Virginian? *lol*

I'll be back later.

Well Virignia is for lovers....lol

 

[ZipBlockBloodie]

Well for me, I didn't do it for love or to get to know anyone, I just wanted sex from a person I found physically attractive. It's all about the sex without the constraints of unnecessary and unwanted emotional baggage.

I don't it as often anymore cause I found a way to do that in real life.

 

[NotHisLady]

I like this preacher!
Will there be snake handling?
Should I be on my knees for the love offering?

Yeah, words can get you there if you're sharing them with someone smart and who knows you well. That part I think more than anything is what makes it. Online will never be the real thing but how poor an imitation it is depends on the people.
I like someone who knows how to make me laugh or blush--or both. When we make a game of it that it only ours until we are touching fingertips through the keys.

Oh my, this is some come-to-meeting I stumbled into!!

 

[Touch_72]

I like this preacher!
Will there be snake handling?
Should I be on my knees for the love offering?

*lol*

Just remember that communion requires a chalice.

 

[InsatiableDsire]

Cyber, for me, only works as foreplay. It can be intense, exciting, for all the reasons stated above. I'm a lover of words and the right words, from a person who knows you... Oh my... Phone, even better, as typing certainly takes away from truly surrendering yourself to the moment. But all of it loses its luster for me when there is nothing real to be had in the future, or to be remembered until the next time.

 

[Touch_72]

Cyber, for me, only works as foreplay. It can be intense, exciting, for all the reasons stated above. I'm a lover of words and the right words, from a person who knows you... Oh my... Phone, even better, as typing certainly takes away from truly surrendering yourself to the moment. But all of it loses its luster for me when there is nothing real to be had in the future, or to be remembered until the next time.

Good point! And good to see ya around, too!

 

[InsatiableDsire]

I know; I owe you some correspondence!!

 

[Touch_72]

I know; I owe you some correspondence!!

It's okay. I slack on that at times, too.

 

[Thandi]

I am a huge reader so for me, it's making love (or fucking) my imagination.

The words can touch the very core of you if written with passion.
I read, and reread them, getting more aroused each time.

I feel a visceral response to them if I am already into the person I am sharing with.

To me....incredibly hot.

 

[bill3901]

Cyber. I just don't get it. Pretty much boils down to an anonymous exchanging of sexual words.
Yet people love it.
Even with very creative people, its a bad story at best for me.
No connection, could be talking to a bloke, taking phone calls and feeding the dog inbetween
Give me voice or cam anytime, and no, not naked cam, but a real person with real expressions.

What are you wearing?

 

[PrissOff]

Cyber. I just don't get it. Pretty much boils down to an anonymous exchanging of sexual words.
Yet people love it.
Even with very creative people, its a bad story at best for me.
No connection, could be talking to a bloke, taking phone calls and feeding the dog inbetween
Give me voice or cam anytime, and no, not naked cam, but a real person with real expressions.

I have always maintained that some of my best manicures happened during cyber sex.

It can be a fun little prelude if you happen to have more of a connection with someone, sort of like foreplay before moving to voice.