thank her

[mntcmn]

How does one (me) thank a lady younger than me with whom I have a hug-now-and-then, "love- to-talk-with-each-other" relationship from social gatherings for her having bent over toward me as she went about her work in a store knowing I was directly in front of her? The result was a simply gorgeous view of what was beneath her tee shirt. It was simply beautiful.
M

 

[Cattypuss]

do NOT thank her.

do NOT say anything.

 

[infinity706]

do NOT thank her.

do NOT say anything.

I think that's really too simplistic. It's possible she actually wanted to tease. Now, I wouldn't say mentioning it would necessarily be a good idea, but it would be a good idea to keep an eye out and see if it continues.

 

[SweetErika]

do NOT thank her.

do NOT say anything.

Seconded.

And if you find the words on the tip of your tongue, seriously consider whether or not you want to be that creepy weirdo.

 

[infinity706]

I don't know. It really depends on the woman and knowing how she acts normally. We don't know since we don't know her, but that's just the kind of thing some women would do to flirt with a guy. It could have been anything from an accident to bang me in the stockroom. I even had a resturaunt waitress flirt with me by stopping up a sink before. I just kind of ignored her hints because she was 16. That didn't stop the rest of the maintenance staff from taking her to the back for a free shower, though. Of course, her boyfriend was worried about her wearing shirts that showed off her boobs and flirting with truckdrivers.

 

[Cattypuss]

Well I'm a woman, I'm very sex-positive and I've been known to flirt by being physically forward with a man.

And still, if I was in the shoes of the woman the OP has described, and he said anything to me about the incident, he would INSTANTLY go on my "creepy men who should be avoided" list. Even if he had hitherto been on my "interesting men I may be attracted to" list.

 

[Kojote]

Well I'm a woman, I'm very sex-positive and I've been known to flirt by being physically forward with a man.

And still, if I was in the shoes of the woman the OP has described, and he said anything to me about the incident, he would INSTANTLY go on my "creepy men who should be avoided" list. Even if he had hitherto been on my "interesting men I may be attracted to" list.

Err...
You would do something like this intentionally and then freak out on him if he confessed noticing it?
Shame on him for not looking the other way around...!

Question remains if it was intentionally, but mentioning casually that he enjoyed the tease could further the relationship.
If I was him I would quite plain say 'Thanks' and give her a twinkle if a later conversation covers the encounter in the store. Especially if she seems to inquire about the whole situation (what she would probably do, if she did it intentionally).

Anyway…
The glimpse could have been given away unintentionally and even unnoticed by herself. And mentioning it would most likely embarrass her then.

So my advice is: Wait for her to approach the encounter and keep an eye on her demeanor then. If you get the strong impression that she is aware of it and seeks out your response, you may well give it a try.
Could go awry nonetheless. So make sure you can bear the possible consequences…

 

[satindesire]

How does one (me) thank a lady younger than me with whom I have a hug-now-and-then, "love- to-talk-with-each-other" relationship from social gatherings for her having bent over toward me as she went about her work in a store knowing I was directly in front of her? The result was a simply gorgeous view of what was beneath her tee shirt. It was simply beautiful.
M

There's only one way you could possibly do this without pissing her off.

Look slightly confused, and whisper "I don't know if you know this, but when you lean forward like that, people can see down your shirt?"

If she looks surprised and embarrassed, she'll probably apologize to you with a red face. Say something like "No problem, I just wanted to let you know." Make sure your voice is quiet so that you're not attracting attention to her when you say it. You don't want to humiliate the poor girl.

If she grins at you and makes it pretty clear she did it on purpose, then you can thank her.

But DO NOT thank her unless you are -100%- sure she did it on purpose. If you thank her, you'll go under the creepy-rapist list and she'll probably never talk to you again.

 

[fgarvb1]

If she does it again say "Hey I like your shirt!"

 

[SterlingGuy77]

I agree with the crowd recommending silence. Obviously, you know the girl and the situation better than anyone here. I can't imagine being sure enough about it to say something, though. Give it time and see if it keeps happening.

 

[mntcmn]

thanks

VERY interesting and you all may have kept me from doing the wrong thing. The older I get, and I'm OLD, the more apparent is the difference between the mind of mine and that of females.
M

 

[NippleMuncher]

The older I get, and I'm OLD, the more apparent is the difference between the mind of mine and that of females.
M

In my favorite Calvin and Hobbes strip, Calvin says, "I'll never understand women, even if I live to be six!"

 

[mntcmn]

amen

Amen!!!!!!!!!

 

[squarejohn]

Maybe she should thank you for looking.

 

[Black_Bunny]

Maybe she should thank you for looking.

Hahahahaha!! Yes!!

Ahem. Seriously though, this is by the far the wisest thing to do:

Look slightly confused, and whisper "I don't know if you know this, but when you lean forward like that, people can see down your shirt?"

If she looks surprised and embarrassed, she'll probably apologize to you with a red face. Say something like "No problem, I just wanted to let you know." Make sure your voice is quiet so that you're not attracting attention to her when you say it. You don't want to humiliate the poor girl.

If she grins at you and makes it pretty clear she did it on purpose, then you can thank her.

 

[infinity706]

Yeah, I agree with Ms Satin, as well. Of course, that being said, I've probably told over 50 women that they're one hot chick or have great boobs and never had any problems. It probably makes a difference when you can discuss your sex lives, the sexy men and women you see, her period and all her other intimate secrets. The real issue is that a lot of women have kind of an irrational fear that if a guy makes any kind of sexual comment directed at her, he's probably trying to get into her pants and she'll probably get mad because she doesn't want anyone thinking she's easy or "a piece of meat". It really is kind of stupid and sexist, though, and probably promotes rape far more than it helps. It's called the Madonna-Whore Complex. Afterall, pretty much all women want to get sex and have their bodies lusted after. A lot of the problems, many women bring on themselves, as well. Afterall, if guys are looking, they must be after sex and think she's some kind of slut. If they aren't looking she's ugly and not worth looking at. The rules most women follow, though, is that you're only allowed to discreetly peek at them until you ask them out or become friends with them. Of course, if you ask her out and she doesn't shoot you down (I've been turned down multiple times by women I knew liked me, because their girlfriends told me ), you're supposed to make some amount of physical contact with her, that she can allow or reject at her discression. If you really want to make her chase you, though, go on and ask her out. Just treat her like a friend and don't make any advances other than a few sneeky peeks at her, no matter what she chooses to wear. Don't lay a finger on her at all other than a friendly gesture or, of course, helping her up if she falls down or something. If you keep it up for a couple dates, she will probably bust out the most revealing thing in her closet that she's comfortable wearing in public (or quite possibly her favorite babydoll if you're coming over to her house) Afterall, she has desires, too and she'll be missing the affection and whatever sexual contact she was willing to allow. You see, most women are very submissive when it comes to sex have a hell of a time making the first move. If you know the rules for the games she plays, you can turn them against her.

 

[Kojote]

Sometimes I get the feeling, that women of all countries share some characteristics.
But then again I observe huge differences in supposed reactions between the cultures...

Most fascinating!

 

[coastal-boy]

I was in the grocery store yesterday and this young girl was riding in one of those powered carts you usually see old people in and had her foot (in a brace) up on the handle. Only "problem" was that she was wearing shorts and you could see her left pussy lip. She was maybe 15. I probably should have said something, but I didn't. It wasn't worth the risk. If she was of legal age, things may have been different. It was obvious she didn't know.

 

[mntcmn]

Old

Remember that Mickey Mantle called "beaver shooting." Apparently it's a guy thing.
M

 

[NightL]

If it was intentional... she will do it again... and no need to ever say anything... just look her in the eyes (Eyes!!! - I said - hehe) and smile briefly then walk away... then it very may well turn into a frequent event.

Never just stare... let her be in total control of it... a quick smile is all that is needed and probably all that is desired in return.

not

I used to work in an office environment where a few young staff knew they were causing havoc... I appreciated it for what it was and just used to stammer a lot while they tried to keep a straight face...

 

[innocentscribbles]

Err...
You would do something like this intentionally and then freak out on him if he confessed noticing it?
Shame on him for not looking the other way around...!

Question remains if it was intentionally, but mentioning casually that he enjoyed the tease could further the relationship.
If I was him I would quite plain say 'Thanks' and give her a twinkle if a later conversation covers the encounter in the store. Especially if she seems to inquire about the whole situation (what she would probably do, if she did it intentionally).

Anyway…
The glimpse could have been given away unintentionally and even unnoticed by herself. And mentioning it would most likely embarrass her then.

So my advice is: Wait for her to approach the encounter and keep an eye on her demeanor then. If you get the strong impression that she is aware of it and seeks out your response, you may well give it a try.
Could go awry nonetheless. So make sure you can bear the possible consequences…

If it was an accidental flash, saying "thank you" would most certainly earn a spot on the creep list. Accidental flashes happen all the time. I don't know how many coworkers I've flashed, not realizing my top had adjusted while going about my business. It happens, and she might have known you were right there, but she might not have known she had a wardrobe malfunction.

If it was intentional, just wait. If she did it to get your attention, she'll do it a second time and be a little more obvious about it if you act perfectly casual and oblivious to that first glimpse. Sometimes, playing dumb is just the best way to go. You might get an even better show the second time around.

But, if you feel like you just need to say or do something, ask her out (without mentioning that flash). If it was accidental, you might just have a fun night out with a friend. If it was intentional, you might get a much closer look.

 

[Kikori]

There's only one way you could possibly do this without pissing her off.

Look slightly confused, and whisper "I don't know if you know this, but when you lean forward like that, people can see down your shirt?"

Doesn't that still carry the possibility that, in the situation she's doing it to tease, she'll get pissed at the innocent act or lack of aroused response to what she's doing?

 

[innocentscribbles]

Doesn't that still carry the possibility that, in the situation she's doing it to tease, she'll get pissed at the innocent act or lack of aroused response to what she's doing?

If it were a matter of her lifting her top for an obvious peek (think "flashing truckers on the highway"), she would be expecting a reaction and might get annoyed by a lack of response.

Going by the description, it was a subtle and possibly accidental glimpse. If she's being that subtle, she should know it's possible he might not have noticed or might have misread her intentions. She would be a little unreasonable and a little silly to get annoyed in that situation.

Either way, these sorts of situations fall under something like a Five Second Rule. If you are going to comment or respond, you have a fairly brief window of time to do so. Waiting hours or days later says you thought about it way too much. Thus, creepy.

Just wait. If she meant to do it, she'll do it again.

 

[mntcmn]

thanks

Squarejohn, your comment made my day!! And some of them are HARD to make!!
From the comments, it would appear that some ladies do not know that their scoop-neck tee shirt isn't skin tight and will sag when they bend over affording someone in front of them a view of beauty? AH, the mysteries of life!!
M

 

[crazyboy2006]

Haha Reminds me of the movie "She's Out of My League" when the guy was with the girl in the car and they kissed. Afterwards, he goes "Thank you," and she responds "You're welcome."

I loled