Tasks assigned and accepted

[FurryFury]

I think it would make a hell of a video! What are you supposed to write? lol.

And ummmmm why are you considering doing something for someone you don't know or have a connection too? Is it just to challenge yourself, or to prove something to this individual?

indian

See that's why I'm not sure I'll be at the BDSM Academy for long. Everyone there so far is very nice but I don't have a relationship with any of them so other than learning from the task and doing it for thrills, there isn't much point.

Perhaps I should say the thing I most crave is missing? Doing for someone I care for and who cares for me is what I crave.

I am looking to learn and grow. I do seek sensations. I also seek connections. One thing I am looking for is task that teach not just me but both my husband and I as a couple.

I had that briefly online once.

What you are supposed to write isn't the point really, it's likely not to be legible. I think that's random too. Random can be fun and has it's place but I'm not too fond of it.

The last task I was supposed to do for my former online Dom btw, had me excited and fearful. That is practically the perfect combination in my book. For him I might have done just about anything but this seemed pretty benign.

I was to find clothes that I thought were sexy for both women and men and be prepared to show him. I was to also find a collar.

You can only imagine what I must have felt and thought. I was so excited to show him these things. I was fearful he would actually want me to buy some of them. The collar however was the really exciting and scary thing.

I eagerly did my part. This was I believe, in part to make me deal with my body image problems that I have.

I thought if he told me to buy something and worse, to wear it somewhere what would I do? Could I do it? I had told him I didn't really like my body you see. *shrugs*

The task remains uncompleted you see only because I never heard from him again. *poof goes the Dom.*

Anyway I remain seeking, connections, information, learning and more, always and that is why I may do this task.

If I do, when I'm done I am supposed to kiss the "art" work that my butt has made and take a picture of my lipstick printed art, sending it to this person. This person, who I believe is a dude is pretty imaginative I'll give him that. Creativity is not a bad thing. Wanting a trophy is understandable I guess.

Fury

 

[indianPilot]

See that's why I'm not sure I'll be at the BDSM Academy for long. Everyone there so far is very nice but I don't have a relationship with any of them so other than learning from the task and doing it for thrills, there isn't much point.

I had no idea there was an Academy! Or are you just yanking my chain? I always fall for these things.. lol

I am looking to learn and grow. I do seek sensations. I also seek connections. One thing I am looking for is task that teach not just me but both my husband and I as a couple.

I think that is the common basis for most of us involved in BDSM. Without growth, we become stagnant and relationships will wilt.

What you are supposed to write isn't the point really, it's likely not to be legible. I think that's random too. Random can be fun and has it's place but I'm not too fond of it.

I was for better or worse, trying to make a joke there... lol. Knowing me and my unending need to find perfection (that I know I never will attain), I would spend hours just getting something legible... but that is my warped little mind.

I was to find clothes that I thought were sexy for both women and men and be prepared to show him. I was to also find a collar.

It sounds similar to that first task I posted... only imagine... it had been so long that I looked at myself as sexy, that I didn't have a single sexy item of clothing... or so I thought.

I learned it wasn't the clothing, it was me. The attitude, the walk, the show of confidence (not that I was very confident at that time).[/QUOTE]


As for the collar... I have been with my partner/dom/master (whatever is your prefence), for over 3 years... and I can't wait for the day he places a collar around my neck. However, there is no rush! It will happen when the time is right. I look at collars the same way I do wedding rings... it is a nice symbol of what the relationship means, but it is not the relationship.

You can only imagine what I must have felt and thought. I was so excited to show him these things. I was fearful he would actually want me to buy some of them. The collar however was the really exciting and scary thing.

I eagerly did my part. This was I believe, in part to make me deal with my body image problems that I have.

If this person knew you well enough, it does indeed sound like that is what the task was put to you for. Self image is a hard thing to correct. With a lot of work, I am learning to love myself as I am, but understand there is nothing wrong with trying to make it better, if possible. The most important thing I would like to tell you is, the people I have a close personal relationship with, are the most beautiful people I know. Both in looks and character, because once you develop a relationship, your view of them changes, increases, etc.

I thought if he told me to buy something and worse, to wear it somewhere what would I do? Could I do it? I had told him I didn't really like my body you see. *shrugs*

Love your body... it's the only one you have. If there are things you would like to change about, try! I found it always helps to have someone I have to be held accountable to.... a buddy if you will. And hey, if you need one, I'm always hanging around! LOL... I know it is sometimes easier to love someone else, than to love ourselves... but life is so much better when we do.

Thank you for sharing!

indian

 

[graceanne]

Nope, I'm feeling worse.

Sammy means something I can't quite think of right now. (My head hurts.)

Fury

It means Smart Ass Masochist. Or SAM.

 

[FurryFury]

I had no idea there was an Academy! Or are you just yanking my chain? I always fall for these things.. lol

I think that is the common basis for most of us involved in BDSM. Without growth, we become stagnant and relationships will wilt.

I was for better or worse, trying to make a joke there... lol. Knowing me and my unending need to find perfection (that I know I never will attain), I would spend hours just getting something legible... but that is my warped little mind.


It sounds similar to that first task I posted... only imagine... it had been so long that I looked at myself as sexy, that I didn't have a single sexy item of clothing... or so I thought.

I learned it wasn't the clothing, it was me. The attitude, the walk, the show of confidence (not that I was very confident at that time).

As for the collar... I have been with my partner/dom/master (whatever is your prefence), for over 3 years... and I can't wait for the day he places a collar around my neck. However, there is no rush! It will happen when the time is right. I look at collars the same way I do wedding rings... it is a nice symbol of what the relationship means, but it is not the relationship.



If this person knew you well enough, it does indeed sound like that is what the task was put to you for. Self image is a hard thing to correct. With a lot of work, I am learning to love myself as I am, but understand there is nothing wrong with trying to make it better, if possible. The most important thing I would like to tell you is, the people I have a close personal relationship with, are the most beautiful people I know. Both in looks and character, because once you develop a relationship, your view of them changes, increases, etc.



Love your body... it's the only one you have. If there are things you would like to change about, try! I found it always helps to have someone I have to be held accountable to.... a buddy if you will. And hey, if you need one, I'm always hanging around! LOL... I know it is sometimes easier to love someone else, than to love ourselves... but life is so much better when we do.

Thank you for sharing!

indian[/QUOTE]


Honey I am not shitting you there really is and I only learned about it in this thread! How about that? I've describe the place in some detail on this thread so if you are curious find those posts and you'll know ALL about it!

I agree about not becoming stagnant! I love learning and growing. It seems that, thank God, my husband does too!

I'm actually considering accepting the task and seeing if my husband will help me with this one. I think he might like fucking my ass with a carrot/pen. Oh and Ice, let's not forget the ice! I feel cramps coming on! *chuckles* I've also been wondering if I could get him to drip hot wax on me. He hates it but I've done it to him, twice and he should "get back," at me I think!

Fortunately perfection is not something I seek any longer. My family made it all too clear I couldn't approach it ever so I gave it up, for Lent! *L*

You are right that is similar in some ways and why I LOVED and empathized with what you posted so much!

I agree with you about the collar and rings but this wonderful miracle in my life? I had not known long enough IMO to be wanting such a thing and yet, of course, I did if He wished it.

Again I agree people look more beautiful when you love and care about them. The beauty is deeper than that which is only skin deep and almost nothing can mar it.

Oh I'm trying to love my body and change it! Believe me! I've done well on both of those fronts this year, at least until the last month but I will start up again soon! The living body, is a magical thing in so many ways and there are many things I do love about them in general even mine.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

It means Smart Ass Masochist. Or SAM.

THANK you beautiful Gracieanne!

Have a cookie!!!

Fury

 

[mrJohnJones]

THANK you beautiful Gracieanne!

Have a cookie!!!

Fury

{{{{{fury}}}}}

Oh, then I don't think that's me... I wasn't really being a smart ass... just being kinda dumb... careless... stoooooopid... mainly, getting caught.

(Ok, back to hoping she's not in this forum... lol)

Hi, sweets!



mJJ

 

[FurryFury]

{{{{{fury}}}}}

Oh, then I don't think that's me... I wasn't really being a smart ass... just being kinda dumb... careless... stoooooopid... mainly, getting caught.

(Ok, back to hoping she's not in this forum... lol)

Hi, sweets!



mJJ

Honey if you really are concerned about getting caught there are ways to be descrete. I just so rarely see men bother with them. *fixes you with THE LOOK*

Geez Louise why is that? Do y'all want to get caught? Or do you just not really care?

Oh and thanks for the roses!

*blows kiss to the baaaaad boy*

Fury

 

[mrJohnJones]

Honey if you really are concerned about getting caught there are ways to be descrete. I just so rarely see men bother with them. *fixes you with THE LOOK*

Geez Louise why is that? Do y'all want to get caught? Or do you just not really care?

Oh and thanks for the roses!

*blows kiss to the baaaaad boy*

Fury

Oh, no.. not *THE LOOK*! Ack!

I don't think she's in the forum... nothing forum related came up last night at the club. "Whew" But you know....

Well I think I'll put that in another forum. I know it's hopeless, but at least I'll try to stay on topic (except idle chat of course). I'll post it

HERE .

Do we want to get caught? Hmmm.. suppose it could be a subconcious thing.
heehee

Oh, now she's blowing kisses... *all hot and bothered now* You're just TRYING to get me in trouble, aren't ya? No wonder I'm all worked up when I get to the club. *grin*

Stay sweet and sexy!



mJJ

 

[FurryFury]

Oh, no.. not *THE LOOK*! Ack!

I don't think she's in the forum... nothing forum related came up last night at the club. "Whew" But you know....

Well I think I'll put that in another forum. I know it's hopeless, but at least I'll try to stay on topic (except idle chat of course). I'll post it

HERE .

Do we want to get caught? Hmmm.. suppose it could be a subconcious thing.
heehee

Oh, now she's blowing kisses... *all hot and bothered now* You're just TRYING to get me in trouble, aren't ya? No wonder I'm all worked up when I get to the club. *grin*

Stay sweet and sexy!



mJJ

Oh sure! She's in the forum! When we were at the bar last night . . . Oops! I mean she might be here.

*giggles and winks*

Thanks for the roses!

Loved the write up!

Fury

Now for the rest of you, more tasks reports please!!!

Come on we need YOU! (To tell about a task!!)

You know you want to!

*stares with green eyes at you and does the "come hither" finger thingie*

Fury

(Remember I'll tell if you will!)

 

[FurryFury]

Okay so no one has shared a task lately. I'm going share one. I finally did the task that involved putting two pieces of ice and a carrot with a pen attached in it up my ass.

Now to be honest, the ice scared me. The task seemed kind of WTF to me. I never thought I could write with my ass. I sort of assumed the carrot would simply fall the hell out like everything else does.

The ice went in really easily. It didn't stay cold long at all. It was almost like a magic trick. Cold on the outside puckered entrance but it's practically sucked inside and disappears.

I was pleasantly surprised by my control of the carrot-pen and my ass.

What did I learn?

That I'm not accepting anymore tasks.

No matter how much I want to say yes and please people, I just can't keep doing this.

Unless I want to experience the sensations or better yet, it's from someone I actually know somewhat and care about.

I felt like a damn circus act with this one. I felt stupid. Hell, even I laughed! The best part was my man helped me. He actually agreed to help me with something so weird!

He did great things on our night out at the BnB too!

I feel all limp and shit! You know that absolutely worn out, life is good feeling? When it's deep in your bones and muscles? I love that feeling. I love having it right now.

I do want more tasks. I just want them to be from someone I have a relationship with and a mutual level of caring. You know what I mean?

*hugs and kisses to all who want them*

Fury

 

[mrJohnJones]

Oh sure! She's in the forum! When we were at the bar last night . . . Oops! I mean she might be here.

*giggles and winks*

Thanks for the roses!

Loved the write up!

Fury

Now for the rest of you, more tasks reports please!!!

Come on we need YOU! (To tell about a task!!)

You know you want to!

*stares with green eyes at you and does the "come hither" finger thingie*

Fury

(Remember I'll tell if you will!)

What bar???? Oh... ok... You know, one of these times, I might believe you.... lol

Hihi, Gorgeous.... No new tasks yet, soorrryyyy....

Hot..... I mean.... Nice to see ya though! *wink*




mJJ

 

[FurryFury]

What bar???? Oh... ok... You know, one of these times, I might believe you.... lol

Hihi, Gorgeous.... No new tasks yet, soorrryyyy....

Hot..... I mean.... Nice to see ya though! *wink*




mJJ

Roses! *picks up each one smelling and smiling*

Thanks MJJ!

No new tasks? *sobs*

Me either. Not since the carrot/pen and ice up my ass one. I haven't finished it. I have to send a picture of the ass writing still. It's not my best work!

LOL!

However there are other tasks I haven't talked about yet that I would share if someone else shared another one.

Come on! Share! You know it feels good when you do!

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

I was assigned a new task today at the BDSM Academy. I probably shouldn't do it but I know I will. Why am I like that?

So has anyone else had any tasks they have done or assigned that they would like to share?

Pweese?

These are some of the elements I am looking for when you write about a task.

Task description / requirements:

What you felt and or learned before during and after the task:

How the task actually went versus how you thought and/or the PYL who assigned it expected it to go.

I'll write about mine if you will about yours! *winks*

Fury

 

[raven2]

I was assigned a new task today at the BDSM Academy. I probably shouldn't do it but I know I will. Why am I like that?

So has anyone else had any tasks they have done or assigned that they would like to share?

Pweese?

These are some of the elements I am looking for when you write about a task.

Task description / requirements:

What you felt and or learned before during and after the task:

How the task actually went versus how you thought and/or the PYL who assigned it expected it to go.

I'll write about mine if you will about yours! *winks*

Fury

I have not had any tasks assigned or done but I would be interested in reading about them on this thread. I am most interested in the reasoning behind the assignment.

 

[FurryFury]

I have not had any tasks assigned or done but I would be interested in reading about them on this thread. I am most interested in the reasoning behind the assignment.

I find that interesting too.

Fury

 

[FurryFury]

I've changed my mind. I've decided I can't do this task. For the first time I've wobbled on a task, that's pretty horrible and interesting to me. I may have to resign from the BDSM Academy.

Fury

 

[raven2]

I've changed my mind. I've decided I can't do this task. For the first time I've wobbled on a task, that's pretty horrible and interesting to me. I may have to resign from the BDSM Academy.

Fury

It shouldn't be horrible. Everyone has hard limits and maybe this is one of yours. I don't think you should resign over one thing.

 

[FurryFury]

It shouldn't be horrible. Everyone has hard limits and maybe this is one of yours. I don't think you should resign over one thing.

Thanks!

I have a "thing" about not doing what I've agreed to do. We will see how it's handled by the people involved. The truth is, there isn't much for me to do there because doing tasks for people I don't know is not going to work for me that well overall.

There were about six tasks I wanted to do. A butt load I was "willing" to do but in my head were the words, under the right circumstances for the right person. The problem is that the right circumstances and person aren't there. (I had hoped to forge one but it hasn't happened.)

Also this particular task crosses one of my limits. I didn't think it did at first but when I tried to figure out how to do it and read the instructions over again I found I couldn't do it comfortably at all. In order to cross that boundary I'd have to have the right relationship and be motivated to do so.

Fury

 

[Stegral]

Recently cyber collared

After much PM & MSNing I finally offered my neck to a person I felt comfortable with.
Friday I was assigned a task that crept VERY close to a hard limit...
I am very shy sexually & rarely even hug in public my Master knows this...
My first task to "prove" my obedience was to stroke a male until he was hard, nothing else was required...
I was allowed to chose a stranger or friend, clothed or not...To be completed before the end of the day Saturday.
This task was a bit hard as I had friends over for D&D all day saturday & we normally play until late, they are all married, attached or something thereof....Time was running out so I approached someone I have been close to & understands the BDSM lifestyle.
He agreed to help if it made me happy to serve my Master.
He also added onto it... "I could have Dommed you too you know" He knows me as a switch & I have always seen him as a sub...
He has told me if I ever need help to ask away

 

[FurryFury]

After much PM & MSNing I finally offered my neck to a person I felt comfortable with.
Friday I was assigned a task that crept VERY close to a hard limit...
I am very shy sexually & rarely even hug in public my Master knows this...
My first task to "prove" my obedience was to stroke a male until he was hard, nothing else was required...
I was allowed to chose a stranger or friend, clothed or not...To be completed before the end of the day Saturday.
This task was a bit hard as I had friends over for D&D all day saturday & we normally play until late, they are all married, attached or something thereof....Time was running out so I approached someone I have been close to & understands the BDSM lifestyle.
He agreed to help if it made me happy to serve my Master.
He also added onto it... "I could have Dommed you too you know" He knows me as a switch & I have always seen him as a sub...
He has told me if I ever need help to ask away

Thanks for sharing Stegal!

I'm glad you've found a relationship so fast that you are so excited about but . . .wait, wait, wait!

You have just been collared, cyber collared at that, (I don't know how long you've known him before that but anyway,) he wants you to stroke a guy, any guy to hardness? As one of if not the first thing? If I didn't have a lover, I would so NOT do that but each to their own.

Wow, that sounds like it's moving fast!

So how did doing the task make you feel?

Did you learn anything from it?

Did you feel about you Master when he assigned this, during and after you did it?

If you want to tell us that is.

Fury

 

[Stegral]

Thanks for sharing Stegral!

I'm glad you've found a relationship so fast that you are so excited about but . . .wait, wait, wait!

You have just been collared, cyber collared at that, (I don't know how long you've known him before that but anyway,) he wants you to stroke a guy, any guy to hardness? As one of if not the first thing? If I didn't have a lover, I would so NOT do that but each to their own.
Luckily I have friends that have "open relationships" & some that understand the D/s thing so I could ask for help.

Wow, that sounds like it's moving fast!
Yes it does seem to be...

So how did doing the task make you feel?
Nervous, I didn't want to dissappoint him. but I also felt odd doing such an openly sexual act right away...

Did you learn anything from it?
That my Master is testing my limits very quickly...

Did you feel about you Master when he assigned this, during and after you did it?
I was terrified I would fail... I have a hard time being open about sex... even with a lover...I had a hard time approaching a friend for help even though I knew he would...I felt very happy when I reported back but He was not online until today so I lost some of the excitement.

What happens if a Master sets a task you cannot do? How does it make you look knowing He went further than he should?? Are their Masters out there that will push extremes to prove loyalty???

Steg

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

sighs

 

[alice_underneath]

Congratulations, Stegral. It sounds as if you overcame your fear, picked a stroking partner wisely, and completed your task with flying colors.

Are their Masters out there that will push extremes to prove loyalty???

Based on what I've read here at Lit, I'd answer your question by saying: Sure. Masters assign tasks for lots of different reasons, and that can be one of them.

Stegral, I notice that your sig line says: "This girl just wants to have fun." Aside from the fact that Cyndi Lauper is now singing and dancing in my head... ...... that sentence caught my attention because it seemed to be in contrast with other comments in your post.

"Nervous, I didn't want to dissappoint him."

"I was terrified I would fail."

These comments seem to indicate that you are taking your role as a submissive seriously, moving beyond the point of just having to fun to the point where a mental and emotional commitment is being made.

I am not asking you to tell me whether you are just having fun, or making an emotional commitment to your online Master. However, if you have not already done so - I suggest that you spend some time really thinking about why you are participating in this relationship.

One of the main reasons to do so is to make sure that there is not a mismatch between your motivation in entering into this arrangement, and his. Once you decide what level of commitment you are interested in, it seems like a good idea to ask your master about his.

FurryFury has been very open in describing a relationship she had with an on-line Dom whom she trusted and tried very hard to please. One day he just disappeared - "poof goes the Dom" - is how she describes it in post #151 above. Clearly there was a mismatch of commitments, and the result was pain for Miss Fury.

There is another type of mismatch of which you may or may not be aware. If you look at this thread......

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=414320

...... you will see that one of the most common reasons given for an online D/s relationship is that a married man is in one way or another unsatisfied with his wife.

Whether your Master takes his commitment to you seriously or is just playing, there is a possibility that all of this obeying and submitting and trying hard to please will lead to a situation in which you end up giving your heart to a married man. Whether you are comfortable with this from a moral perspective is up to you. Leaving aside the moral issues, there is a risk in this mismatch. The risk that you will be offering your heartfelt devotion to a man whose primary loyalty lies with someone else.

Please forgive me if my comments here seem presumptuous. On a different thread, you described yourself as a "newbie", and on this one you are asking some very basic questions about online Masters. My motivation in writing this post is simply to help you be aware of the risks involved in what you are doing. If you were already aware of these risks.... ..... then, please excuse me, and ..... nevermind!



Respectfully,
Alice

 

[alice_underneath]

The last task I was supposed to do for my former online Dom btw, had me excited and fearful. That is practically the perfect combination in my book. For him I might have done just about anything but this seemed pretty benign.

I was to find clothes that I thought were sexy for both women and men and be prepared to show him. I was to also find a collar.

You can only imagine what I must have felt and thought. I was so excited to show him these things. I was fearful he would actually want me to buy some of them. The collar however was the really exciting and scary thing.

I eagerly did my part. This was I believe, in part to make me deal with my body image problems that I have.

I thought if he told me to buy something and worse, to wear it somewhere what would I do? Could I do it? I had told him I didn't really like my body you see. *shrugs*

The task remains uncompleted you see only because I never heard from him again. *poof goes the Dom.*

Miss Fury,

I have been trying to find a post that you wrote a while ago, in which you talk about the questions you would ask, and stated commitment you would expect, from a prospective online Dom in the future to reduce the chance of something like this happening again.

I can't find that post of yours... .... so I am forced to ask.....

If you have time, would you mind re-posting some of your thoughts for the benefit of any newbies on the Board?

Alice

 

[Stegral]

Thank-you

Much thanks to Alice_Underneath, I appreciate all information as it may cover something I have not thought of...
My new Master has allowed my continued "play" in the forums, Hence why I have kept the cindy lauper in my sig (Sorry for the mental tourture).
There is no emotional link between Master & I that I can see, other than that he is helping me bring out my "darker side" & I am fine with that. He is not close geographically to me so I don't see anything romantic/emotional coming of it...
I am a "newbie" & When he IM'd me last night we spoke of how I felt & he did not realize he had put such pressure on me... the next task allows for a longer completion time, to which I had asked... he seems to be caring & not wanting to "break me" but wanting to help me explore the parts of my sexuality that I have been conditioned to hide & scared to bring out, yet I secretly desire to...

I thank you deeply for the concern & have my gratitude for expressing concern I may not have realized...

Stegral