Tallulah's OMD
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Tallulah82
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I know, right???! I don't care if you're being sarcastic.
He is so blasé or whatever about shit, it's frustrating at times to point these things out.
"Darling, no, no-one wants to eat your sex snacks. I have no idea what state your fingers were in when you were taking a biscuit out of the pack. NO! I don't want to know the details!!!! ARGH!!"
hotoldrguy
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It is time for you to have your weekend sex meet. Do you have someone in mind?I never have thoughts...
Well, he went and returned so that's all ok on that front.
We haven't talked about it (as per my preference). But he did exactly what I wanted which was to leave it at the door, and return to home/family life without a fuss.
There was one tiny little issue I had (stop rolling your eyes! I know I'm hard work!!!) and that was about food. Food? You say. Yes, food I say. He was staying in a hotel. He bought snacks. Some snacks were not finished so he brought them home.
I have a bit of a cringe attitude towards the sex snacks. He's put them in the cupboard to merge with all other snacks but I'm a bit... "ew, they're snacks you've eaten naked with someone". I haven't raised this issue (yet) as I'm trying to figure out if I can get over myself about it, or if I need to say that sex snacks are either eaten before home or thrown out before home.
This can also be resolved by him learning in time how many sex snacks he actually needs to buy and not overbuying.
But, keeping focused on the positive - he returned home and got on with family shit and did not strut or swagger or anything that would make me doubt his ability to juggle both in life. Phew!!!
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I wasn’t being sarcastic, though I totally understand why you might have thought that!I know, right???! I don't care if you're being sarcastic.
He is so blasé or whatever about shit, it's frustrating at times to point these things out.
"Darling, no, no-one wants to eat your sex snacks. I have no idea what state your fingers were in when you were taking a biscuit out of the pack. NO! I don't want to know the details!!!! ARGH!!"
And yeah, agree. Just no.
Tallulah82
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I have my first weekend away booked for the end of January with a Lit friend whom I've known for at least 3 years. We're both excited and nervous about it.
hotoldrguy
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Sounds like a great time to look forward toI have my first weekend away booked for the end of January with a Lit friend whom I've known for at least 3 years. We're both excited and nervous about it.
Tallulah82
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Sounds like a great time to look forward to
It will be. Regardless of what happens, we both know that we'll enjoy each other's company and it'll be wonderful to meet in person after all this time. So even if nothing really down and dirty happens, it'll make it easier the next time because we'll have broken the big stress of meeting.
At the very least, I get to hang out and explore some of his city with him. That sounds like a wonderful weekend anyway
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I'm glad for you both that it seems to be working out so far.I never have thoughts...
Well, he went and returned so that's all ok on that front.
We haven't talked about it (as per my preference). But he did exactly what I wanted which was to leave it at the door, and return to home/family life without a fuss.
There was one tiny little issue I had (stop rolling your eyes! I know I'm hard work!!!) and that was about food. Food? You say. Yes, food I say. He was staying in a hotel. He bought snacks. Some snacks were not finished so he brought them home.
I have a bit of a cringe attitude towards the sex snacks. He's put them in the cupboard to merge with all other snacks but I'm a bit... "ew, they're snacks you've eaten naked with someone". I haven't raised this issue (yet) as I'm trying to figure out if I can get over myself about it, or if I need to say that sex snacks are either eaten before home or thrown out before home.
This can also be resolved by him learning in time how many sex snacks he actually needs to buy and not overbuying.
But, keeping focused on the positive - he returned home and got on with family shit and did not strut or swagger or anything that would make me doubt his ability to juggle both in life. Phew!!!
On the snack front -- I think it's reasonable that he not bring his sex snacks into the joint-household. Just tell him where you stand on that.
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Yeah, and if they smell "off", absolutely don't eat them!
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hotoldrguy
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Is bringing home sex snacks like bringing home her panties?I know, right???! I don't care if you're being sarcastic.
He is so blasé or whatever about shit, it's frustrating at times to point these things out.
"Darling, no, no-one wants to eat your sex snacks. I have no idea what state your fingers were in when you were taking a biscuit out of the pack. NO! I don't want to know the details!!!! ARGH!!"
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I love the fact you are keeping the positive even if nothing happens attitude. Enjoy the wonderful weekend.It will be. Regardless of what happens, we both know that we'll enjoy each other's company and it'll be wonderful to meet in person after all this time. So even if nothing really down and dirty happens, it'll make it easier the next time because we'll have broken the big stress of meeting.
At the very least, I get to hang out and explore some of his city with him. That sounds like a wonderful weekend anyway
Tallulah82
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Sex Snacks Update:
We've had a little chat about the sex snacks. It hadn't occurred to him (of course) that I would cringe against what happened. We had a bit of a chuckle about it - that of all the shit we've talked about and prepared for... sex snacks were not on either of our radars before it happened.
So, it's now agreed that more care must be taken on the quantity - for less waste. And that if they're not finished/thrown out, then they are to be 'stashed' for that person to use in their next time away.
I also brought up an issue that was bugging me (WHAT? Another damned issue? FFS Tallulah!). I'd noticed on the weeks before that his car was not exactly clean... (bearing in mind that his car is our family holiday one so it gets hammered with kids and crap on a regular basis). I'd casually asked if he was going to clean the car - in case she gets in it. He was very indignant on his 'yes, of course'.
The other day - after the event - I got in his car and noticed there was still a fine sheen of dust on the dashboard. I commented on it (because I'm a big mouth) and he said he'd cleaned it but what he meant was he'd vacuumed it. Yes, he had. But not even a cloth over the dashboard.
SO... I said to him that I'm absolutely torn about this.
On one side, I am not going to make this yet another issue that I have to push him on... and if she gets in his car and judges him to be a slob etc, then that's on him if he's not going to help himself on portraying this image of a man who's got his shit together.
On the other side, he is a reflection of me (in the most vain way). I am not happy that my husband appears to be a scruffy ass. I mean, he is - but I don't want her to think I'm ok with that. So, basically, this is her opinion of me through him.
I've told him I'm absolutely 50/50 on this and so I'm going to let him be the scruffy ass and tough luck if that turns her off. But I thought I'd give him that heads up that women may judge him for his cleanliness (he himself is well groomed but damn, he's blind to his surroundings).
Overall, I feel like we've turned a corner. I know I still have my first weekend away to come, but it feels good to have broken through that big hurdle of 'The First'.
(And I praised him for his behaviour when he came home - in a non-patronising, non-domme way, calm down )
We've had a little chat about the sex snacks. It hadn't occurred to him (of course) that I would cringe against what happened. We had a bit of a chuckle about it - that of all the shit we've talked about and prepared for... sex snacks were not on either of our radars before it happened.
So, it's now agreed that more care must be taken on the quantity - for less waste. And that if they're not finished/thrown out, then they are to be 'stashed' for that person to use in their next time away.
I also brought up an issue that was bugging me (WHAT? Another damned issue? FFS Tallulah!). I'd noticed on the weeks before that his car was not exactly clean... (bearing in mind that his car is our family holiday one so it gets hammered with kids and crap on a regular basis). I'd casually asked if he was going to clean the car - in case she gets in it. He was very indignant on his 'yes, of course'.
The other day - after the event - I got in his car and noticed there was still a fine sheen of dust on the dashboard. I commented on it (because I'm a big mouth) and he said he'd cleaned it but what he meant was he'd vacuumed it. Yes, he had. But not even a cloth over the dashboard.
SO... I said to him that I'm absolutely torn about this.
On one side, I am not going to make this yet another issue that I have to push him on... and if she gets in his car and judges him to be a slob etc, then that's on him if he's not going to help himself on portraying this image of a man who's got his shit together.
On the other side, he is a reflection of me (in the most vain way). I am not happy that my husband appears to be a scruffy ass. I mean, he is - but I don't want her to think I'm ok with that. So, basically, this is her opinion of me through him.
I've told him I'm absolutely 50/50 on this and so I'm going to let him be the scruffy ass and tough luck if that turns her off. But I thought I'd give him that heads up that women may judge him for his cleanliness (he himself is well groomed but damn, he's blind to his surroundings).
Overall, I feel like we've turned a corner. I know I still have my first weekend away to come, but it feels good to have broken through that big hurdle of 'The First'.
(And I praised him for his behaviour when he came home - in a non-patronising, non-domme way, calm down
)
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I'm very much out of the loop, so I really need to ask... Is that term a euphemism?
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In leu of reading the thread from the beginning, refer to post #175.
