Survey: Bad Relationship Sex

[John1965]

I have an insightful survey question........
Would you stay in a bad relationship just for the sex or would you break it off and wait for the next relationship?

 

[Xander]

I would break it off and move on.
It seems that I can't have sex with anybody I don't otherwise, feel good about.
But that's just me.

 

[Sammyjo]

Is there large amounts of money also involved?

 

[Irontoto]

NO MATTER WHAT THE PROBLEM IS, MONEY ALWAYS MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER, RIGHT?

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[Sammyjo]

Frequently, yes...Let's put it this way, it would be another incentive to keep the ball rolling...

 

[Irontoto]

sammyjo, please check your e mail

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[Renee]

Get out of it. I would keep trying new people until I found the one that not only gave me what I needed out a relationship, but also gave me the great sex I deserve.

 

[Hullo_nurse]

Well, when I was young & naive...I stayed in it just for the sex. He cheated and cheated over & over again & I kept him around cuz the sex was phenominal (even if I can't spell the word).

Now, no, never. I'd move on.

 

[SpecialK]

Oh I have sooo been here before! And yes, I did stay in it for the sex. But I don't suppose it was the sex as much as it was the whole convenience of dating someone.

These days, I don't even get to the point of sex before putting them in the discard pile. Damn that makes me sound like a bitch, doesn't it? :/

K

 

[Skitten]

I would break it off and move on. No use staying if you are not getting any emotional attachment to it. Yes the sex is good but isn't there more to a relationship than just sex.

I definetely would move on.

 

[OldDog]

Did both at different times in the past and can't say yet which was a smarter move -- staying because the sex was beyond phenomenal in one relationship that went sour, or leaving because the relationship went to shit even thought the physical aspects were superb.

Has to be the place, the time, and the people involved. Purists might say breaking it off because that's only fair to the other person's psyche -- WHAT if the other person is the reason for the pending breakup?? It's ALWAYS a tough call to make from "the other side of the door"

OldDog

 

[Boo]

I suppose it depends on what you are looking for in a "relationship". I stayed in a relationship for great sex and marginal company once, though I knew that I would never want anything permenant with the person. It was shortly after the bitter end of a long relationship that I thought I would never get over. I wasn't at all prepared for diving into a new soulmate type relationship.....but I did need some physical intimacy and companionship. It was exactly what I needed at the time to get over my aprehensiveness about intimacy after the previous relationship. He (the great sex marginal company guy) finally broke it off.....stating that he felt he wasn't getting the emotional involvment he was seeking. He was right of course. But, without wanting to appear self serving, it was exactly what I needed then. And, that sort of transition relationship allowed me to move on from the pain of the "real" relationship I was trying to recover from. At this point, I wouldn't be in a relationship just for great sex....but then again, it really doesn't qualify so much as a relationship as it does an arrangment of sorts. And, I wouldn't judge anyone for making that sort of an arrangment.

 

[SteamyLesbian]

I have stayed in a relationship because of the incredible sex. She was the greatest thing Id ever had everytime we started to talk about a breakup she would just start her magic on me and Id be hers for hours. Which was ok by me. But eventually we did break it off.

 

[Shannon]

If the person was good in bed, I'd stay in the relationship just for sex. I can say that all my relationships have been pretty decent.

 

[Hecate]

Uhhm - I was wondering if I could post the "counter question" :
would you stay in a relationship that was full of warmth and caring ... but has become completely non-sexual over the years? (as in no sex at all but some kissing and cuddling on a kind of brotherly/sisterly basis)

 

[ShyGuy68]

Hmm this is a tough topic to reply to. I'm not sure I can explain my point of view on it, but I will try.

No I wouldn't stay if only the sex was great, and the rest was one big fight. I see no reason to live like that.

On the other hand, if the sex is important for you, and you don't get it, and that make the relationship feel wrong for you, then I wouldn't stay in it either.

I think it all boils down to what is important for the person in the situation.


ShyGuy

 

[John1965]

WOW! Great responses everyone! I have tried and it works for a little while but in the end it's just not worth it or fair to the other person. Especially since I am still looking for that super special lady. Till then I will do what I gotta do.