submission forced or coaxed

[Curiouslycheri]

this is a question about bdsm style for any Doms/Sirs/Masters anybody enjoy exploring the idea with a submissive of if being submissive could be alluringly coaxed or if submission could be forced and still be enjoyed for both the Dom and submissive...
like coaxed a Sir is gentle about attaining my submission with treats like snuggling...
like forced a Sir grabs me and holds me against a wall and...

is there a difference for either the Doms/Sirs/Masters or submissives?

Edit: this is consensual

 

[Ash999]

Consensual ' Forceplay' is legally and morally very good and Erotique too!!! But not non-consensual...

 

[Curiouslycheri]

ya meant what you're saying "forceplay"

 

[Mike130]

I would fall into the gentle Dom category. Taking control but not to the point of nonconsensual. And, yes, I like cuddling .

 

[barefootgirl69]

Grabbing me and putting me against the wall will make me throat punch you, not submit. Unless I've already entered a consensual relationship of D/s.

 

[Jmmmms25]

this is a question about bdsm style for any Doms/Sirs/Masters anybody enjoy exploring the idea with a submissive of if being submissive could be alluringly coaxed or if submission could be forced and still be enjoyed for both the Dom and submissive...
like coaxed a Sir is gentle about attaining my submission with treats like snuggling...
like forced a Sir grabs me and holds me against a wall and...

is there a difference for either the Doms/Sirs/Masters or submissives?

Edit: this is consensual

If the type of relationship is in a bdsm style then safe words/signals should already be firmly in place as well as established limits, so being a bit edgy in exploration of new exciting scenes leading, "strongly encouraging" , a sub to allow being taken down an unknown edgy rabbit hole of submission is where the he hottest experiences take place for both parties, unless the protections aren't headed it

 

[Dearelliot]

I like the role play that my Mistress owns me and has a right to punish me as she wishes! If she tells me to do something, I may choose not to do it, but she will then make me painfully aware that it wasn't a smart thing for me to do.
I don't use safe words because that gives me some say in the matter, but yes, I could always stand up and walk out...but I paid her $300 for the session, and I may never see her again, so that wouldn't be a wise move either. I prefer a Mistress who will push the envelope, and take me into uncharted waters, go a step too far and frighten me.
When she mentions needles and lit cigarettes, I pay good attention, and I am obedient. She has proven to me that she isn't all talk and no action and won't hesitate to make me regret my actions.

 

[transpunksub]

I love to be taken "against my will", held down or tied up and used. I never could orgasm with other people involved so the pleasure I get from it is 100% from providing pleasure for others, like my purpose in life is to be a sex toy, I don't want to have any say in the matter. Even thinking about it turns me on

 

[Ash999]

ya meant what you're saying "forceplay"

It wud be pretending to force a Sub in a consensual, roleplay setting context

 

[Erosfan]

I don't need to be forced and rarely coaxed. With the woman in my life, I seek to please. I submit willingly and I love it. I just want to be what she wants.
Once I have an orgasm, I need to be coaxed to stay naked and submissive. This is where I feel the most anxious.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

I LOVE forcing my wife into a fleece blanket and aggressively cuddling her (i believe the technical term is glomping). My current favourite technique is what I like to call the human spider.

But for every thing else, there is consent and safe words. I take BDSM very seriously, and professionals have standards.

 

[Jmmmms25]

This is obviously an edgy topic with people having very strong feelings about the word "forced" or "coerced" , the context is everything as well as overall consent in the relationship and the protections that are always assumed to be in place. But we are all different in our mindset and kinks, so our thoughts on this vary widely. First time meeting typically forced bad, but not always, in a long term bdsm relationship forced good, but not always, its tricky at best to get people to agree.... Once agreed to previously, even well before the situation happens , with safe words in place I think very edgy realistic cnc or forced scenarios, even those pushing the envelope are crazy hot and super mentally intense for both parties. I also think the edgy idea of it shouldn't be an issue.

 

[Kenziexoxo]

I’m very bratty and will often tell guys no as a test to see how take charge and manly they are to take me.

 

[Jmmmms25]

I’m very bratty and will often tell guys no as a test to see how take charge and manly they are to take me.

I like that as well, it adds an edgy bit of CNC to things raising the temperature while testing each other

 

[HarleyQuim]

Forcing people to engage in sexual activities is in fact a very serious crime and not a turn on for me obviously. Safe, sane, consensual!

Coaxing somebody who doesn’t want to do something is probably not illegal but it’s not healthy. If they’re curious about trying something it’s totally fine to encourage them to try it, but trying to coax a person who has shown no interest or aversion to BDSM isn’t okay.

 

[Jmmmms25]

I believe the entire context of this conversation, on this thread , in this forum , on this site, should be implied that both sides are interested in these types of edgy things, cnc, etc.. Safe words and signals protect all in consensual activities, if it's truly not consensual it's obviously never ok, it's sexual assault, and a crime.

But we are all different, see things differently and there are those that like to be pushed outside the box , and there are those that are curious what it would be like. If everyone were to be afraid of possibly crossing a line then doing any this hot interesting stuff would be impossible and millions of crazy hot experiences would never get to be had. When things are too planned out to the detail, of ever single thing that's ok or not, then it all just turns into acting and the spontaneity and much of the excitement is lost in my humble opinion.

I fully do agree that taking a sexual partner in a vanilla relationship and leading them into non consensual bdsm or cnc activities is not ok, but I don't think that's what we were discussing.

 

[MasterDarcy]

For the most part and in most instances, submission isn't forced or coaxed.

Submissives are submissive because they are submissive. It's really is as simple as that. They aren't being forced against their will (or they shouldn't be). They're giving in to their most nature and primitive desires.

In relationships. It really depends on the dynamic.

Kinks and limits within the parameter of a BDSM relationship are usually agreed upon. So they're set in stone.

CNC (Consensual Non Consensual) is forced. But it's consensual, so it's all good.

I would say that CNC is the closest thing to "forced" of "coaxed" you'll get.

 

[EoghanDubhara]

CNC is one of my turn ons. I haven't found a real life partner who's into it yet, but most of my online partners have understood and been accepting of boundaries.

Playing CNC within my boundaries makes me endlessly wet! I daydream and cum hard while thinking about "saying no" while I cum on a cock sliding in and out of my cunt.

 

[Mike130]

CNC is one of my turn ons. I haven't found a real life partner who's into it yet, but most of my online partners have understood and been accepting of boundaries.

Playing CNC within my boundaries makes me endlessly wet! I daydream and cum hard while thinking about "saying no" while I cum on a cock sliding in and out of my cunt.

Hmmm, maybe combined with public groping. A hand on your breast, another in your panties, feeling your wetness. Tasting it on their fingers. Then lifting your skirt and fucking you right there, in an alley, with a few onlookers….

 

[EoghanDubhara]

Hmmm, maybe combined with public groping. A hand on your breast, another in your panties, feeling your wetness. Tasting it on their fingers. Then lifting your skirt and fucking you right there, in an alley, with a few onlookers….

Being groped by strangers is hot! I fantasize about a man, a stranger, pushing his hand between my legs and cupping my pussy. Slipping inside my panties to feel my bare pussy, how smooth I keep my labia, how my little clit swells, and how wet I so quickly become for him. My pussy wants him to violate and use it in front of other people. My pussy wants to be taken. It wants to be his helpless, needy little fuck hole, exposed and penetrated. Dominated in front of other men. Made to cum for their entertainment and pleasure. I'm touching myself and thinking about that now.

 

[Mike130]

Being groped by strangers is hot! I fantasize about a man, a stranger, pushing his hand between my legs and cupping my pussy. Slipping inside my panties to feel my bare pussy, how smooth I keep my labia, how my little clit swells, and how wet I so quickly become for him. My pussy wants him to violate and use it in front of other people. My pussy wants to be taken. It wants to be his helpless, needy little fuck hole, exposed and penetrated. Dominated in front of other men. Made to cum for their entertainment and pleasure. I'm touching myself and thinking about that now.

I feel the wetness on my fingers, taste it. The musky scent arousing, making my thick cock hard, dripping precum. Bending you over a garbage can in the alley. Your short skirt flipped up over your smooth pale, panty covered ass. I rip your panties off, put them in my pocket so that I can remember this moment. There are other men watching. Some have their dicks out. Stroking. Leering at your smooth legs and tight ass. On display for them to see.

I drop my pants, cock so hard it hurts, rub the tip on your wet cunt. Unconsciously, you spread your legs slightly in anticipation. I rub the tip more against your dripping pussy, then slide in to the hilt! You jump in surprise. But I grab your hips and begin to pound you. Hard!

Some of our audience are jerking their cocks furiously. Some are beginning to cum. You feel some wetness splash your face, they’re very close. It’s almost like they want a turn…

 

[lukaspot]

this is a question about bdsm style for any Doms/Sirs/Masters anybody enjoy exploring the idea with a submissive of if being submissive could be alluringly coaxed or if submission could be forced and still be enjoyed for both the Dom and submissive...
like coaxed a Sir is gentle about attaining my submission with treats like snuggling...
like forced a Sir grabs me and holds me against a wall and...

is there a difference for either the Doms/Sirs/Masters or submissives?

Edit: this is consensual

Oh, little one, the real question isn’t if submission can be coaxed or taken, it’s how deeply you crave both. Picture this: My hands in your hair, pulling just enough to make you whimper as I growl, ‘You were made to obey.’ Or perhaps you’d rather melt into me, pliant and eager, as I praise every tremble of surrender? Either way, your submission, stolen or gifted, belongs to me. And I promise… you’ll love every second of the struggle.

 

[dommastermark]

this is a question about bdsm style for any Doms/Sirs/Masters anybody enjoy exploring the idea with a submissive of if being submissive could be alluringly coaxed or if submission could be forced and still be enjoyed for both the Dom and submissive...
like coaxed a Sir is gentle about attaining my submission with treats like snuggling...
like forced a Sir grabs me and holds me against a wall and...

is there a difference for either the Doms/Sirs/Masters or submissives?

Edit: this is consensual

Dom sub relationship is first and foremost built on trust and consent. Once this is established then bdsm becomes an enjoyable and erotic activity for both.

 

[Japansurfer]

this is a question about bdsm style for any Doms/Sirs/Masters anybody enjoy exploring the idea with a submissive of if being submissive could be alluringly coaxed or if submission could be forced and still be enjoyed for both the Dom and submissive...
like coaxed a Sir is gentle about attaining my submission with treats like snuggling...
like forced a Sir grabs me and holds me against a wall and...

is there a difference for either the Doms/Sirs/Masters or submissives?

Edit: this is consensual

My only experience was forced and not ‘planned’
I was forced by mistress and her bbc - although I had a relationship with her that if I said the safe word it would have stopped immediately

 

[lil_jenni]

Grabbing me and putting me against the wall will make me throat punch you, not submit. Unless I've already entered a consensual relationship of D/s.

Exactly.