Squirting

[OpenMyEyes]

Seriously. I'd love to learn to do this but I haven't a clue as to what to do. Is there anyone with any ideas of how to actually do or learn this? I welcome any honest comments.

 

[miss_bopeep]

Ohhh I'd love to learn too.. my eyes and ears are open! From what I can tell its practice, and relaxation... I've got a fun g-spot vibe that's given me a vaginal orgasm but no squirt? :-(

 

[SweetErika]

First, I'd strongly suggest reading this article on female ejaculation because it's realistic, based on science and damn informative. It's one of the best resources I've found on this topic thus far, and it should give you a good foundation for additional learning and experimentation.

You can also click me and me for past threads on squirting (we've had some really great ones here).

I'd suggest reading up on the basics first, then coming back if you have more specific questions or need additional guidance. Be aware that female ejaculation can take A LOT of experimentation, require complete relaxation, and it never happens for some women. There's simply no instruction manual or magic formula, and like orgasm, trying to force/rush it is a good way to make it not happen.

 

[CWatson]

...Ohhh, you are not a guy. Okay.

(If you were, I'd, err... Well. I'd have some questions.)

~CWatson
(contributing nothing useful)

 

[Mysty61]

Look at the thread "Try This and Report Back". There is probably more information there then anyplace on the interney

 

[frisky-leo]

First, I'd strongly suggest reading this article on female ejaculation because it's realistic, based on science and damn informative.

I never knew exactly what this was, now I know its something I do when I play with my vibe but thought it was something not good to allow to happen elsewhere. Hmmm... Now this could be fun. Thanks SweetErika

 

[miss_bopeep]

Look at the thread "Try This and Report Back". There is probably more information there then anyplace on the interney

Ohhh I emailed that to my boyfriend and we tried it last night.. It was getting pretty intense just as my flatmates decided to come home. Grrrrrr!
Apparantly The veins stick out in my neck when my g-spot is rubbed. haha! Well I guess its just that good...
no squirt yet but I got SO so so wet as soon as he started pressing on me there.

 

[oil_paint03]

fascinating article - thanks, SweetErika

 

[Mr.G]

Squirt

Don't get confused between G-Gasms and squirting. One does NOT necessarily include the other. Some women squirt. Some do not. Some do sometimes and not others. There doesn't seem to be any reason that is common amongst posters and that just means there is a huge diversity in reponses and anatomy / physiology.

Well I guess its just that good...
no squirt yet but I got SO so so wet as soon as he started pressing on me there.

If having your GSpot manipulated and you can orgasm from that then for heavens sake keep doing that. If your SO can, using whatever means, KEEP you G-Gasming and they can make you cum until you are going out of your skull with pleasure then that is a good thing. If you do not flood the basement in the process then don't consider it a failure. The squirt is a much over-rated (for most) side effect of being super turned on for an extended period of time. The other variable I suppose is how developed each woman's Skene glands are.

From most feedback squirting can happen with or without the orgasm and does not enhance the actual orgasm for MOST women so not having to change bedrooms after sex can be a huge plus.

 

[SweetErika]

Don't get confused between G-Gasms and squirting. One does NOT necessarily include the other. Some women squirt. Some do not. Some do sometimes and not others. There doesn't seem to be any reason that is common amongst posters and that just means there is a huge diversity in reponses and anatomy / physiology.

If having your GSpot manipulated and you can orgasm from that then for heavens sake keep doing that. If your SO can, using whatever means, KEEP you G-Gasming and they can make you cum until you are going out of your skull with pleasure then that is a good thing. If you do not flood the basement in the process then don't consider it a failure. The squirt is a much over-rated (for most) side effect of being super turned on for an extended period of time. The other variable I suppose is how developed each woman's Skene glands are.

From most feedback squirting can happen with or without the orgasm and does not enhance the actual orgasm for MOST women so not having to change bedrooms after sex can be a huge plus.

Quoted for truth.

For me, "squirting" is a misnomer. It's actually just a gush of fluid and feeling of relaxation/relief. That relief feels good, but not so good that I'd want to try to do it on purpose. Trying would be counterproductive anyway, since gushing requires complete relaxation (which is why it doesn't happen to me more often, I'm sure).

 

[miss_bopeep]

Ahh thanks forthe advice Mr. G. Maybe my bf needs to read this, he's so determined it puts so much pressure on me!

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

I would love to ejaculate. It just seems such a beautiful and blissful experience - to have, as a woman - a tangible, physical, element to my orgasm; one which comes out of me, and which I can share with my partner.

I suppose the definition of female ejaculation is quite hard to pin down. My vagina often becomes very wet during orgasm, but that's different from something actually squirting out of it.

So it's long been something I find rather fascinating. But in terms of learning to do it, it occurs to me that it's one of those things where, the more you try, the less chance you have of success.

A couple of questions for those you can or have done it:

How would you describe your orgasm when you ejaculate? I've read that it has a different quality to it - especially satisfying, and soothing almost. Is that so?

And sorry to get icky, but I have to ask: what is it that you actually ejaculate? What's it like? Does it have a taste? What does it smell like?

 

[Shadowann2]

I would love to ejaculate. It just seems such a beautiful and blissful experience - to have, as a woman - a tangible, physical, element to my orgasm; one which comes out of me, and which I can share with my partner.

I suppose the definition of female ejaculation is quite hard to pin down. My vagina often becomes very wet during orgasm, but that's different from something actually squirting out of it.

So it's long been something I find rather fascinating. But in terms of learning to do it, it occurs to me that it's one of those things where, the more you try, the less chance you have of success.

A couple of questions for those you can or have done it:

How would you describe your orgasm when you ejaculate? I've read that it has a different quality to it - especially satisfying, and soothing almost. Is that so?

And sorry to get icky, but I have to ask: what is it that you actually ejaculate? What's it like? Does it have a taste? What does it smell like?

If you follow the first link in SweetErica's post, it will answer your questions.

 

[Mr.G]

I would love to ejaculate. It just seems such a beautiful and blissful experience - to have, as a woman - a tangible, physical, element to my orgasm; one which comes out of me, and which I can share with my partner.

I often quote Erica because she along with many many IMs sent to me because of the TRY THIS thread, state clearly that it IS a unique feeling but for the majority of women it does NOT enhance the G-Gasm and in fact is not necessarily a part of the G-Gasm. It can happen withOUT an orgasm or with.

I suppose the definition of female ejaculation is quite hard to pin down. My vagina often becomes very wet during orgasm, but that's different from something actually squirting out of it.

Again it may happen. It may not. Some women do. Some don't.

So it's long been something I find rather fascinating. But in terms of learning to do it, it occurs to me that it's one of those things where, the more you try, the less chance you have of success.

Guys get all obsessed with it because they've seen the porn vids and many are naive enough to think a woman has not orgasmed if she doesn't spew. They put pressure on their g/f's to spew and that just adds tension to the proceedings and almost ensures it ain't gonna happen. Guys are such twits sometimes!!



A couple of questions for those you can or have done it:

How would you describe your orgasm when you ejaculate? I've read that it has a different quality to it - especially satisfying, and soothing almost. Is that so?

I'll leave that up to the women. You likely won't find two women who will describe them exactly the same so your question will be answered BY YOU - if and when it happens.

And sorry to get icky, but I have to ask: what is it that you actually ejaculate? What's it like? Does it have a taste? What does it smell like?

Cut with the ICKY. That stuff is NOT icky. The fluid I've encountered is NOT icky or slimy. Unless she has a massive yeast farm growing up there NOTHING produced by your lover is ICKY!!! It has a light almost sweet taste sometimes - is a little thicker towards the end of her monthly cycle. You can swallow it - most of it - some of it or you can shampoo your hair. It doesn't matter. If she does produce a LOT of fluid she should drink a lot and replace the electrolytes flushed from her system or you're liable to have a helluva headache the next day.

Enjoy. If it doesn't happen (ejaculating) but you're enjoying multiple G-Gasms then consider yourself a WINNER. If your b/f considers it a failure if he's giving you multiples and you haven't drowned the family pets, he's a maroon. 'SPlain to him the diff between porn flicks and reality or dump his ass and get one that has a better grasp of reality.

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

If you follow the first link in SweetErica's post, it will answer your questions.

Thanks for that - it's very interesting, well-argued, informative and thoughtful article.

And it's only served to pique my interest in the subject.

From what it says, I'm wondering whether sometimes I *do* ejaculate - but it seeps out, rather than squirts, which is why I can be very wet after orgasm.

The author says that one way to tell what's come out of you, is by the smell. I asked my partner - and she says that whatever it is doesn't smell like pee...but smells, well, difficult to describe. So when it's not pee, what does "proper" female ejaculate" smell like?

 

[OpenMyEyes]

First, I'd strongly suggest reading this article on female ejaculation because it's realistic, based on science and damn informative. It's one of the best resources I've found on this topic thus far, and it should give you a good foundation for additional learning and experimentation.

You can also click me and me for past threads on squirting (we've had some really great ones here).

I'd suggest reading up on the basics first, then coming back if you have more specific questions or need additional guidance. Be aware that female ejaculation can take A LOT of experimentation, require complete relaxation, and it never happens for some women. There's simply no instruction manual or magic formula, and like orgasm, trying to force/rush it is a good way to make it not happen.

Thank you so much, SweetERika! That was very helpful!

 

[satindesire]

Thanks for that - it's very interesting, well-argued, informative and thoughtful article.

And it's only served to pique my interest in the subject.

From what it says, I'm wondering whether sometimes I *do* ejaculate - but it seeps out, rather than squirts, which is why I can be very wet after orgasm.

The author says that one way to tell what's come out of you, is by the smell. I asked my partner - and she says that whatever it is doesn't smell like pee...but smells, well, difficult to describe. So when it's not pee, what does "proper" female ejaculate" smell like?

The scent is different for every woman, and can actually change during the month because of the difference in hormones in her cycle.

You're basically squirting out vaginal secretions. The g-spot is incredibly spongy and connected to the bladder, and the gspot will 'soak up' your vaginal secretions and expel them via your urethra when you squirt. So if you're wondering what YOUR female ejaculate will smell and taste like, if you have ever kissed your partner after he's given you oral, or if you've ever smelled/tasted your fingers after masturbating, you should have a pretty accurate idea already.

 

[ptwelder]

yes it does taste and feel different, from pee, but "it's all good"!!!

 

[blackpanonme]

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A couple of questions for those you can or have done it:

How would you describe your orgasm when you ejaculate? I've read that it has a different quality to it - especially satisfying, and soothing almost. Is that so?
When I squirt, it just flows, mostly due to excitement. It feels like a river flowing out of you. I used to "literally" squirt, but now it just rushes really fast. The liquids come for quite a long time and can stop and begin again (usually do). At some point, I feel "Empty" and then I feel like I can orgasm/come.
And sorry to get icky, but I have to ask: what is it that you actually ejaculate? What's it like? Does it have a taste? What does it smell like?

I despise the smell of squirt, myself. It has a urine-based smell, imo.

 

[Julie_in_the_north]

I despise the smell of squirt, myself. It has a urine-based smell, imo.

Aw. Oh dear! Not sure I want to end up having smelly orgasms...

 

[SweetErika]

Aw. Oh dear! Not sure I want to end up having smelly orgasms...

Black's post is the first I've heard of female ejaculate smelling like urine, or foul at all. If it smells and/or tastes and/or looks like pee, it probably is pee, rather than ejaculate. Some women try so hard that they do actually end up producing pee, rather than ejaculate, and in the heat of the moment, they may very well not know the difference.

IIRC, my ejaculate is pretty much odorless and tasteless, plus it's not the same watery texture as pee (it's very fluid, but has a semi-slick quality). Some report it has a somewhat sweet taste and smell.

At any rate, I wouldn't let one anecdote of it smelling like urine keep me from letting go and ejaculating. I'd suggest assessing your own ejaculate for yourself, rather than going off of what someone else says.

 

[Mr.G]

I agree

Some women MAY be trying to PUSH so hard to ejaculate that if their bladder sphincter muscles are not that strong they may push out some urine but that is usually ONLY if she is actually pushing. Normally the bladder is cut off (in both men and women) with very a powerful muscle clenching to PREVENT urine from escaping during intercourse because urine would severely inhibit conception.

In my limited experience with "gushing" the fluid is completely odourless and almost tasteless. It has a light slightly sweet taste when it does and is also slight viscous especially near the end of her monthly cycle. Whether oral, intercourse or Gspotting (digital), again, IMHO, the fluid is a complete turn ON.

I just don't understand this modern misconception that a woman HAS to squirt to orgasm properly. On another site a young woman complained of not being able to squirt, blamed what she is concluding are a series of "lousy" lovers and stated that her orgasm are "only 50% of what they should be" because she is, so far, unable to squirt. She describes her GREAT multiple orgasms via clitoral stim but squirting is such a goal for her that she thinks her pleasure will at least double when a lover is able to make her do that. I think that (for 99% of women) FALSE concept is very sad. Almost as bad as the twits who insist that female ejaculate IS / HAS TO BE urine.

 

[blackpanonme]

Black's post is the first I've heard of female ejaculate smelling like urine, or foul at all. If it smells and/or tastes and/or looks like pee, it probably is pee, rather than ejaculate. Some women try so hard that they do actually end up producing pee, rather than ejaculate, and in the heat of the moment, they may very well not know the difference.

IIRC, my ejaculate is pretty much odorless and tasteless, plus it's not the same watery texture as pee (it's very fluid, but has a semi-slick quality). Some report it has a somewhat sweet taste and smell.

At any rate, I wouldn't let one anecdote of it smelling like urine keep me from letting go and ejaculating. I'd suggest assessing your own ejaculate for yourself, rather than going off of what someone else says.

Please don't misunderstand...I didn't mean to make it sound like it was foul...just not for me. I don't like the smell of ANYones come...so that's just me. But...I do still notice...especially after it dries...an odor...and I swear it has a faint hint of urine...which is possibe...I'm sure anyone would agree. Anything's possible! lol
Nonetheless...I didn't acquire my "ability" to squirt until later in life...so I wouldn't change it for anything!

 

[gloriann]

In my experience, the female ejaculate is odorless. Perhaps I've been lucky.

 

[jtf71961]

My wife has done it, and it has no smell or taste at all. Her only problem is that when she does it I think it has to be a perfect situation that she is really turned on and sometimes is months apart. In other words she can only do it once in a while or once every couple a months. I wish she could do it more though, it is awesome to see!