Squirting ~ Need Help

[MissDragonfly]

Granted I'm new so I hope I'm not breaching an already well talked about topic. But... I want more info on how to do this. I squirted once on accident over a year ago and have no clue how I did it. My husband keeps asking me to do it again, but I don't remember how. Any tips?

 

[Eilan]

The Try This & Report Back thread is a must-read!

 

[SweetErika]

Trying to do it and feeling any pressure from yourself or your hubby likely won't get you anywhere. I find it happens when I'm completely relaxed, am getting certain types of stimulation and am not expecting it. It's really about letting go completely and seeing what happens.

Your best bet is to understand that and look at it as a nice bonus when it does happen, rather than making it your goal. You can certainly do things like focused g-spot stimulation to encourage it, but fully relaxing is really the key, in my experience.

 

[buxombottom4u]

I agaree that relaxing is a very big part of this, but I also think that there is a possibility that your husband hit your G Spot that nite. That is what usually makes me squirt. There is an entire thread on here about the G spot, by Mr. G. Hope reading it will help you do this again.

 

[phelon]

there are books, videos, etc.. that can cover all the technical side...

the biggest i have noticed is.. you being into having fun, Gspot stimulation helps, and other than that.. lots and lots of practice...

 

[Mr.G]

I squirted once on accident over a year ago and have no clue how I did it. My husband keeps asking me to do it again, but I don't remember how.

Many couples experience G-Gasms and / or squirt "by accident" and are never able to repeat exactly what they did to get there. The Technique described in my TRY THIS thread at least gives couples the chance to read what happens, how, where and have a better understanding of what A technique is for repeating it any time you want.

As far as the squirting goes ... some women do. Some women don't. Some do sometimes and not others. Very few seem to be consistent. As Erica has suggested much of the buildup is based on RELAXING and letting it build. My guess is that the LONGER foreplay happens the fuller the Skeene glands become. They engorge over a period of time so when you did this before do you remember if you played around for an extra long time? Were you having G-Gasms or JUST squirting when it happened before? That may be the deciding factor in some - sometimes. I've seen wham bam & gush. I've seen 7 hours repeating of G-Gasms and NO gush at all. Who knows?

The other misconception is that it dramatically improves orgasm. guys seem to think this and women watching video get this impression too - forgetting it is porn and ACTING. From all the feedback I've received for most women the squirting part is primarily messy but it doesn't enhance the actual orgasm. There's a sense of relief that can happen at the same time as the orgasm but it's been described of having to pee and finally being able to. Somewhat gratifying for sure but NOT a turbo-charged orgasm.

The myth persists however.

 

[subwannabe]

You will probably never squirt again if you are so conscious about it. There are several good tips already posted here but do remember that, in my opinion, it is mostly up to the guy to help you through this and it ain't gonna happen if you are actually trying to do something to achieve this yourself, other than relaxing. Of course this doesn't apply during masturbation. I guess women can squirt while masturbating if done right but offhand I don't remember hearing of any such cases even though I'm sure there probably must be. My wife squirts on a somewhat regular basis. This has been a fascinating topic for me recently since I never really gave it much thought. I always assumed that when my wife squirted, she was having a tremendously good orgasm, but maybe that is just an assumption on my part. I would like to hear from the OP and other women if this is actually the case. The OP actually got me thinking about this because she doesn't actually indicate it was a tremendous experience for her and she wanted to do it again, merely that she squirted once and her husband wanted her to do it again. I would also like to know if a woman can indeed masturbate herself to a squirting Gspot orgasm. Thanks for helping me increase my sexual knowledge.

 

[SweetErika]

I guess women can squirt while masturbating if done right but offhand I don't remember hearing of any such cases even though I'm sure there probably must be.

Of course women can ejaculate with masturbation. It doesn't matter if the source of the stimulation is fingers, a cock or a toy, as long as it's there. Some women are even far more likely to ejaculate with masturbation and alone because they're controlling the stimulation and they can relax more without worrying about what their partner would think.

I always assumed that when my wife squirted, she was having a tremendously good orgasm, but maybe that is just an assumption on my part. I would like to hear from the OP and other women if this is actually the case. The OP actually got me thinking about this because she doesn't actually indicate it was a tremendous experience for her and she wanted to do it again, merely that she squirted once and her husband wanted her to do it again.

I've ejaculated with really good orgasms and more mild ones. I find the ejaculation itself to just be a feeling of pleasant relief, but it's not really physically pleasurable or orgasm-enhancing.

For a lot of people, I think the pleasure comes from the psychological aspect/turn on. If one thinks ejaculation is hot or desired by their partner, they're probably going to perceive it as more pleasurable than one who's more ambivalent about it, and certainly more than one who believes it is gross/unnatural/wrong/etc. That is, the perceived physical pleasure is probably sourced in psychological pleasure.

 

[Mr.G]

For what it's worth ... 9 out of 10 feedback msgs that I get describing their ejaculation / orgasm experience as exactly what you said.

I've ejaculated with really good orgasms and more mild ones. I find the ejaculation itself to just be a feeling of pleasant relief, but it's not really physically pleasurable or orgasm-enhancing.

The ones who describe it as fabulously different are likely orgasming at the same time and either way, that's GOOD. A few others get very confused over certain aspects of it so I suspect they are not who they say they are or are making false claims based again on what turns THEM on conceptually versus reality.

 

[jennifermiami25]

Granted I'm new so I hope I'm not breaching an already well talked about topic. But... I want more info on how to do this. I squirted once on accident over a year ago and have no clue how I did it. My husband keeps asking me to do it again, but I don't remember how. Any tips?

I found that if I relaxed my pussy while a finger on my Gspot (usually right under inside---a hard spot with little bumps) after a few orgasms and tried to pee, i squirted.

The best way is to masturbate and practice relaxing your pussy. Some women find the trying to pee while cumming works.

I only squirt after several orgasms (oral only unless my partner is playing with my clit or me doing it).

If you allow a guy to explore you pussy and do the masturbation thing and relax, you can do it. Maybe a gush or a squirt.

It feels like peeing while cumming.

 

[Inrhapsody]

Okay question...I don't think of what I do as squirting..more like gushing. And it is only by myself and with only clit stimuli with my magic wand. Is it the same thing? i wish I could do this for my husband, but I don;t know how to relax enough to do it. Any thoughts?

 

[Zoots_owner]

For what it's worth ... 9 out of 10 feedback msgs that I get describing their ejaculation / orgasm experience as exactly what you said.

I've ejaculated with really good orgasms and more mild ones. I find the ejaculation itself to just be a feeling of pleasant relief, but it's not really physically pleasurable or orgasm-enhancing.

And, FWIW, I showed my girl that description and she disagreed, saying that for her it was both physically pleasurable and orgasm-enhancing. Just kinda throwing that out there, because people differ, and nobody should feel peculiar or wrong for being as they are.

 

[firestorm2]

my 2 cents

you just have to be very relaxed. and after you get the hang of it its easy
but it's easy for me cause i am very sensitive on my clit and g-spot. sometimes
i need more stimulation , depends on my mood, talking dirty , spanking, or just as
simply playing with my nipples.
each person is different, and not all orgasms are the same, one day you will
have a mind blowing orgasm the other you won't . so it depends on how you
feel , and your state of mind.
and also work on your breathing, holding your breath wont help , but don't
hyper ventilate either , try practicing on relaxing breathing techniques ,
inhale with your nose and exhale with your mouth, when you get it right
its great in all aspects of your life, and it helps in your sex life too . just
thought i would put my two cents into this post.

 

[dud007]

my 2 cents worth.

it's all about the g spot and plenty of playing with the clit before hand.

I can get my partner to squirt 9 times out of 10 when she is standing with one foot on the bed, it gives all the right angles for gpsot access.

normally if she is on the back, unless I am really firm, she will not cum and if she does, she will be sore afterwards, but standing is a sure way.

 

[SweetErika]

my 2 cents worth.

it's all about the g spot and plenty of playing with the clit before hand.

I can get my partner to squirt 9 times out of 10 when she is standing with one foot on the bed, it gives all the right angles for gpsot access.

normally if she is on the back, unless I am really firm, she will not cum and if she does, she will be sore afterwards, but standing is a sure way.

I bet she doesn't think you're a dud, dud007. You should have given yourself more credit with your username!

 

[Jack_Craver]

best of luck
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[Mr.G]

I bet she doesn't think you're a dud, dud007. You should have given yourself more credit with your username!

Not to worry (much). He jest doznt no how two speell DOOD.

 

[MissDragonfly]

Update ~ I did it. Well not intentionally, but had success none-the-less. We acted out a fantasy I had where I was blindfolded and submissive. He was pleasuring me orally when it just happened. Only regret is that I wish I could have warned him ahead of time. Of course he didn't complain.

 

[dud007]

Update ~ I did it. Well not intentionally, but had success none-the-less. We acted out a fantasy I had where I was blindfolded and submissive. He was pleasuring me orally when it just happened. Only regret is that I wish I could have warned him ahead of time. Of course he didn't complain.

Congrats,

I wouldn't be too worried about him, I know it gets me off when I get drowned. the rewards are worth it.

 

[cinereaheath]

Update ~ I did it. Well not intentionally, but had success none-the-less. We acted out a fantasy I had where I was blindfolded and submissive. He was pleasuring me orally when it just happened. Only regret is that I wish I could have warned him ahead of time. Of course he didn't complain.

nice.. I'm sure he enjoyed his suprise treat..!
I know my guy is always looking for that..

 

[off2bed]

Seymore Butts has a video on female ejaculation, and how to. My wife ran across it last night somewhere free online (sorry, can't find it now). It shows how to do it, and shows several different women doing it. They ran the gamut from a babbling brook to a lawn sprinkler, to a raging river. The girl that demonstrates is pale but cute, and they are so giggly and the video is so amateurish it's not very erotic, but later on the photography is better (better lighting). Butts seems like a dork, but he gets the job done.