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Always follow your instincts. They won't lead you astray.
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Always follow your instincts. They won't lead you astray.
Azuldrgon
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*saunters back in*
I ended up telling my boss tonight to not let anyone or anything take your swagger. It gave me an idea for tomorrow.
shmily
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Tiamo.
In case I didn't make myself clear earlier, I appreciate all of you. Thank you for helping brighten my day when I pop in here.
That includes the guys also although I am straight as an arrow and won't kiss you.
I ended up telling my boss tonight to not let anyone or anything take your swagger. It gave me an idea for tomorrow.
shmily mmw Tiamo. In case I didn't make myself clear earlier, I appreciate all of you. Thank you for helping brighten my day when I pop in here.
That includes the guys also although I am straight as an arrow and won't kiss you.
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Mission accomplished.
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Thanks Tnman and Tiamo. I'll have to visit sometime. It sounds amazing. Hope you all enjoying your nights.
Should I share this or should I not....
Fuck it, I'm sharing it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ao8Qysi_8ZU
Fuck it, I'm sharing it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ao8Qysi_8ZU
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Lol, cute! He also gets vacuumed!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?annot...&feature=iv&src_vid=sYpvEiRnWNc&v=-n8fn7k9NiE
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There is no specific ruleset for this thread, right? Is it just used to chat?
Azuldrgon
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Hello.
No rules for this thread.
You can talk to anyone and just hang out.
Please call me Azul.
Please make yourself at home. We have a good bunch here.
makemewet69
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Hello.
No rules for this thread.
You can talk to anyone and just hang out.
Please call me Azul.
Please make yourself at home. We have a good bunch here.
Good morning! I'm not sure if Elsie can see this, welcome. Due to the nature of the gif in the sig I had to put her on ignore. Those who know me here understand why.
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Good morning all.
I had a rough night sleeping and I have no clue why.
That being said the conversation with my boss last night brought my idea for today's question. The story is that we had a rough night. Everything didn't get prepped for last night and we got busy straight out of the gate. The inside people were having a hard time keeping up and the normally docile Azul that works there had to get into full technical mode. This is where I had to take charge, try to fix it and then go from there. I calmed down a little later, but the boss was set off by the inepitude of the insiders. It was then at the end of my shift that I told him not to let anyone or anything take your swagger.
This brings me to the question. Has there ever been a time a past supervisor or mentor gave you advice that helped you out later? If you want to, please share the advice also because we could all use wisdom, especially with some of the things we go through.
I had a rough night sleeping and I have no clue why.
That being said the conversation with my boss last night brought my idea for today's question. The story is that we had a rough night. Everything didn't get prepped for last night and we got busy straight out of the gate. The inside people were having a hard time keeping up and the normally docile Azul that works there had to get into full technical mode. This is where I had to take charge, try to fix it and then go from there. I calmed down a little later, but the boss was set off by the inepitude of the insiders. It was then at the end of my shift that I told him not to let anyone or anything take your swagger.
This brings me to the question. Has there ever been a time a past supervisor or mentor gave you advice that helped you out later? If you want to, please share the advice also because we could all use wisdom, especially with some of the things we go through.
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It was a rough night sleeping here too, but for different reasons.
Been trying to cover too much the last 2 weeks for Veterans Day.
I'm outta here in about an hour or so & then running all day.
Tomorrow is boat day & what's left of me Sunday will be toast.
Thank You for your service to my veterans!!!
Been trying to cover too much the last 2 weeks for Veterans Day.
I'm outta here in about an hour or so & then running all day.
Tomorrow is boat day & what's left of me Sunday will be toast.
Thank You for your service to my veterans!!!
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This is a free wheeling have a good time hang out place where we try to avoid li drama. When I gets to serious everyone laughs about it and gets back o having a good time again. So yeah feel free to join in.
No worries MMW I understand.
Morning everyone.
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The Best Things Mentors Taught Me
I became who I am through the influence of life experiences and choices - and many different people who helped me understand those experiences, to put them into context, and equipped me with the tools to navigate this wide and beautiful world. Some of those mentors came from unexpected places and unexpected events. My experience with formal mentoring programs has been indifferent - I find they get too political, in that the information and counsel you get is rarely someone speaking from the heart, but rather someone adhering to a particular group-think based line.
That said, let me run through the mentors that transformed me and the things that had lasting change.
In High School: I went to a Jesuit boarding school on part of a juvenile diversion program after a stretch in the state reform school. One of the teachers was a Scholastic (a Jesuit in Training). He taught me something that I didn't understand the complexity and impact of, but basically it was this - always deal with "the world that is". Years later I learned it was a simplified variation of the three worlds problem in philosophy - the internal conflict between the world as we perceive it (imperfect perception), the world as we imagine it (imperfect imagination) and the world that is (true perception). I remember to this day exactly how he phrased it (because we memorized it and used it to mock him and each other). "Your problem Mr. Chance is "the world that is" is kicking your ass." He also had a tremendous impact that was a seed planted that grew much later - he introduced us the Marcus Aurelius's "Meditations" which was my gateway to Stoicism. The Jesuits always say "Give us the child and we'll give you the man." In my life, that was very true - though I have in the course of life become a Buddhist, I have deep Jesuit roots and often jokingly say I'm a Buddhist Catholic.
In the Army: I served in the late seventies/early eighties when the Army was demoralized, confused, and trying to rebuild from the shattering of the Vietnam War, so my experience was significantly, if not radically, different from those who served in our more modern army. Our equipment was shit, our leaders were burnt out and bitter. Still, from one of the old hands (a Korean and Vietnam veteran) I learned one vital thing that shaped my life. I was a Battlefield Intelligence Specialist (this means that my job was at the company level where I gathered intelligence from the field and reported it up the chain). He always hammered home "count shit and find the pattern". LOL - thirty five years later I make a very good living "counting shit and finding the pattern".
As a Lover: I space this one here because age wise it was about here that a woman I was in love with taught me something when we broke up (she left me). "Just Love. That's all.". Much of our pain and suffering in life arises not because we love, but because of the crap we attach to love. Love is a thing all in itself. So as you go through life, as lovers come and go, as relationships rise and fall - just love. Do it without expectations. Do it without burdening it with all kinds of crap.
As A Cop: We had an old Sargent who used to respond to urgent calls by telling us, "there's still time to force a cup" (meaning drink a cup of coffee before going to the call). At the time, as I was young and a hard charger, I thought he was lazy. It took me several years to realize the vital lesson he was teaching - stop charging into trouble. Almost all the time, if you just slow down, things will work themselves out before you ever have to do anything. By charging into things, quite often you make them worse, not better.
My Boss: Many years ago, my current boss hired me. She is actually a few years younger then me, had a high school diploma (no college) and is simply put both brilliant technically and a brilliant human being. From her I learned one thing that transformed my working life (among a few hundred other things). When confronted with a problem she always starts out by saying "Help me to understand...". That approach is brilliant in my book, both in the working world and in my personal life. Whatever you're banging into - if you start from a position of asking other people to help you understand - you will get to the heart of it faster and cleaner than any other approach.
Which brings it full circle to that first lesson from that Jesuit Scholastic. If you approach the problem seeking to understand it before you try to solve you, you will get to "the world that is" far faster, learning how the discord between the three worlds is causing pain and suffering, whether that conflict arises from the conflict between the known and unknown worlds (false perception), or the conflict of unrealistic expectations, where you confuse how you think the world should work with how the world actually works.
Along the way you can add a thousand other people from whom I learned small things and all those authors whose writings shared with me their experiences in the search for the world that is. And of course, all of you, in your small ways are mentoring me, so thanks for that.
I became who I am through the influence of life experiences and choices - and many different people who helped me understand those experiences, to put them into context, and equipped me with the tools to navigate this wide and beautiful world. Some of those mentors came from unexpected places and unexpected events. My experience with formal mentoring programs has been indifferent - I find they get too political, in that the information and counsel you get is rarely someone speaking from the heart, but rather someone adhering to a particular group-think based line.
That said, let me run through the mentors that transformed me and the things that had lasting change.
In High School: I went to a Jesuit boarding school on part of a juvenile diversion program after a stretch in the state reform school. One of the teachers was a Scholastic (a Jesuit in Training). He taught me something that I didn't understand the complexity and impact of, but basically it was this - always deal with "the world that is". Years later I learned it was a simplified variation of the three worlds problem in philosophy - the internal conflict between the world as we perceive it (imperfect perception), the world as we imagine it (imperfect imagination) and the world that is (true perception). I remember to this day exactly how he phrased it (because we memorized it and used it to mock him and each other). "Your problem Mr. Chance is "the world that is" is kicking your ass." He also had a tremendous impact that was a seed planted that grew much later - he introduced us the Marcus Aurelius's "Meditations" which was my gateway to Stoicism. The Jesuits always say "Give us the child and we'll give you the man." In my life, that was very true - though I have in the course of life become a Buddhist, I have deep Jesuit roots and often jokingly say I'm a Buddhist Catholic.
In the Army: I served in the late seventies/early eighties when the Army was demoralized, confused, and trying to rebuild from the shattering of the Vietnam War, so my experience was significantly, if not radically, different from those who served in our more modern army. Our equipment was shit, our leaders were burnt out and bitter. Still, from one of the old hands (a Korean and Vietnam veteran) I learned one vital thing that shaped my life. I was a Battlefield Intelligence Specialist (this means that my job was at the company level where I gathered intelligence from the field and reported it up the chain). He always hammered home "count shit and find the pattern". LOL - thirty five years later I make a very good living "counting shit and finding the pattern".
As a Lover: I space this one here because age wise it was about here that a woman I was in love with taught me something when we broke up (she left me). "Just Love. That's all.". Much of our pain and suffering in life arises not because we love, but because of the crap we attach to love. Love is a thing all in itself. So as you go through life, as lovers come and go, as relationships rise and fall - just love. Do it without expectations. Do it without burdening it with all kinds of crap.
As A Cop: We had an old Sargent who used to respond to urgent calls by telling us, "there's still time to force a cup" (meaning drink a cup of coffee before going to the call). At the time, as I was young and a hard charger, I thought he was lazy. It took me several years to realize the vital lesson he was teaching - stop charging into trouble. Almost all the time, if you just slow down, things will work themselves out before you ever have to do anything. By charging into things, quite often you make them worse, not better.
My Boss: Many years ago, my current boss hired me. She is actually a few years younger then me, had a high school diploma (no college) and is simply put both brilliant technically and a brilliant human being. From her I learned one thing that transformed my working life (among a few hundred other things). When confronted with a problem she always starts out by saying "Help me to understand...". That approach is brilliant in my book, both in the working world and in my personal life. Whatever you're banging into - if you start from a position of asking other people to help you understand - you will get to the heart of it faster and cleaner than any other approach.
Which brings it full circle to that first lesson from that Jesuit Scholastic. If you approach the problem seeking to understand it before you try to solve you, you will get to "the world that is" far faster, learning how the discord between the three worlds is causing pain and suffering, whether that conflict arises from the conflict between the known and unknown worlds (false perception), or the conflict of unrealistic expectations, where you confuse how you think the world should work with how the world actually works.
Along the way you can add a thousand other people from whom I learned small things and all those authors whose writings shared with me their experiences in the search for the world that is. And of course, all of you, in your small ways are mentoring me, so thanks for that.
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Good morning all.
I had a rough night sleeping and I have no clue why.
That being said the conversation with my boss last night brought my idea for today's question. The story is that we had a rough night. Everything didn't get prepped for last night and we got busy straight out of the gate. The inside people were having a hard time keeping up and the normally docile Azul that works there had to get into full technical mode. This is where I had to take charge, try to fix it and then go from there. I calmed down a little later, but the boss was set off by the inepitude of the insiders. It was then at the end of my shift that I told him not to let anyone or anything take your swagger.
This brings me to the question. Has there ever been a time a past supervisor or mentor gave you advice that helped you out later? If you want to, please share the advice also because we could all use wisdom, especially with some of the things we go through.
First boss out of college wise old 65 YO man told me "Never try to match wits with nitwits"
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Paul_Chance
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Hi Spacelings - hope everyone's Friday is moving smoothly and in the right direction.
I'm about to slide into a week's vacation spent in the vacation capable of nowhere - rural Nebraska. Where we do exciting things like - stare at each other and try not to freeze. LOL - just kidding the weather is supposed to be nice and I'll spend too short of time visiting family.
Everyone should come to California for winter vacation. We have perfect weather right now. I am in the SF bay area when I'm here and this point is, weather wise, paradise found. Even our bad days are pretty damn nice.
Tiamo - enjoy your trip to SF. A truly wonderful city that should be seen a couple of times in a life time, if you're not fortunate enough to be able to pop up there for lunch. Is your trip business or pleasure?
I'm about to slide into a week's vacation spent in the vacation capable of nowhere - rural Nebraska. Where we do exciting things like - stare at each other and try not to freeze. LOL - just kidding the weather is supposed to be nice and I'll spend too short of time visiting family.
Everyone should come to California for winter vacation. We have perfect weather right now. I am in the SF bay area when I'm here and this point is, weather wise, paradise found. Even our bad days are pretty damn nice.
Tiamo - enjoy your trip to SF. A truly wonderful city that should be seen a couple of times in a life time, if you're not fortunate enough to be able to pop up there for lunch. Is your trip business or pleasure?
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Ok today turned into 12 weird fun hours on the road. There were Congressmen both new and old, a real Marine Major General who sang to us at the service today during his speech. Photos requested all over the place today cause Miss Vi may be 93 but everyone wants to meet her. She still has her uniform and can fit in it /wear it. We had fancy yogurt for a quick snack before flag wave where people stopped and ask if they could take pictures so we were included in a calender shoot for Tampa Bay. Then Fox 13 TV showed up again following us it seemed... 1 team was at the service this morning and wanted an interview but she got out of it. The 2nd team ended up just wanting footage of the flags so she got out of that interview. There was a special charity flag run from the base they came down to film with us.
It ended up doing supper with bikers at Quaker Steak and Lube. Tomorrow is Sailors and boats and another even longer day.
It ended up doing supper with bikers at Quaker Steak and Lube. Tomorrow is Sailors and boats and another even longer day.
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Starry - sounds like an exciting day! Keep going!
