Some strap on help

[Tsoert]

Hi, my gf recently started using a strap on on me. We're starting slowly, using small toys, building up etc. It felt fantastic and its something we'd definitely like to continue doing and eventually start using in our semi regular bondage/domination sessions

Would quite like some advice
Firstly, my gf finds it difficult to position the dildo, presume this come with time?
I'm a little overweight but very unflexible (always have been) making some positions awkward (missionary mostly), can that be remidied?
It felt good but feels there is potential for it to feel amazing, any advice re positions or anything about improving how it feels?
Any general advice, tips or thing to watch for tips?

Thanks

 

[stucknut]

I know this sounds elaborate but one thing you might want to look into is a sling.
It is essentially a soft chair like device with stirrups for your feet. It allows easy access to your hole while you are comfortably seated with feet elevated. There are several types, freestanding that have their own quick to assemble framework and those that have more permanent mountings.

 

[eastern sun]

Are you much taller than her? Can she reach you if you're standing up, with hands against the wall? Moving your hands down the wall - and bending your knees - as far as you're comfortable would help her penetrate.

Leaning over the side arm of a couch or laying your body on the edge of the bed with your knees or feet on the floor can also work, depending on your comfort level.

The easiest position for anal penetration (in my opinion) is elbows or shoulders and knees, so I am suggesting that you use supports like walls and furniture to hold your weight and allow you to gradually relax into a more bent position.

 

[bad_dave]

For missionary put pillows under your bum to give her a better angle. When we first started my partner would often "miss" my arse hole the first couple of tries, it will come.

 

[Emerson40]

As far as positioning the dildo, she should just keep adjusting the straps on the harness and find what works best. Depending on the type / quality of the harness, she may find it more comfortable with a little padding between her and the base of the dildo - like a folded facecloth.
As far as you go, everyone's suggestions are great. Near the edge of the bed or furniture are good places to try. A pillow or two under the small of your back, while on your back, can help her find the target, and the angle could help you reach those pleasurable heights you seek.
You, ass up and face down, is also a great position. It'll give her a great vantage point to see what's going on, and she'll be able to hold your hips to make sure you can't get away. I mean enjoy yourself. She'll hold your hips so you enjoy yourself.

 

[monkeyman057]

Assuming you're not much bigger than her - that's to say if she doesn't find it uncofortable, you can get on top and ride her. Then she doesn't have to worry about positioning - you can handle it.

Also, if you lay on your side and pull your knees towards your chest she should have easier access, though this isn't always the most comfortable entry position for you.

Missionary is kind of tricky and she may have a hard time keeping it in you regardless of how flexible you are, but a previous poster had it right - pillows under your lower back will help keep you angled correctly to meet her thrusts.

Doggy is good but you have to play with the angles a bit to get it right. We weren't able to do it this way the first several times we tried because it hurt more than it felt good. With practice though, this becomes easy, fun, and painless.

Go slow and keep in mind that practice makes perfect. It might feel a little awkward the first few times. Her body is used to doing something very different during sex, as is yours.

 

[rbone04]

There's definitely a learning curve for both partners when you're new to pegging. I think it's more so for her, especially since she's not used to being on that end of the business.

I think the best place to start is by practicing on your own. Use the same dildo she would be using on you, because even a fraction of an inch--errr... centimeter in your case--could be the difference between pain and pleasure. Take advantage of some time to yourself while she's not around and find out what's comfortable for you. Make sure you're you're relaxed and aroused so you don't give up on something that you might actually like if you weren't tensed up.

Since you've got a larger frame, I think being on your hands and knees will be a great place for your to start. Everyone's ass is different when it comes to an angle, so move around until you hit a point that the toy is comfortable moving all the way in and out. I personally like it better when I'm penetrated at the same angle as my back or slightly pointed upwards away from my stomach. Someone mentioned standing and bent over if you're not too tall compared to her, which you'll probably find the same entry angle is going to work. Also, you on top is always an easy position to receive regardless of your size. You can always control the angle and pace yourself... but I'd highly suggest trying this one alone too if you're the least bit worried about eek cleanliness. Even thought it's a great position for beginners, I feel like it requires just a little more preparation and confidence to be enjoyed at its full potential!

 

[bad_dave]

and don't forget, practise makes perfect!

 

[rbone04]

and don't forget, practise makes perfect!

...and there's the reason sex is so fucking great! Practice is can be just as much fun!