So, it's just a porn board?

[MissTaken]

I have never bought into that line of thought, but many do.

If it were just a porn board, it wouldn't matter a whit if you insult or berate another poster.

As we have seen in recent days, it seems to depend on who you are or who you attack on this "porn board" before it is determined if your scathing words have any bearing on others or are worthy of flaming responses.

Since I am not feeling passive aggressive, let me be more specific.

Only ONE example:
Ishmael posted some very hurtful remarks to *sigh* in a thread designed to stir things up. The thread moved along with some heated discussion, but totally deterioriated when personal judgements were made and Ish posted like an ass.

How is this different from Ishmael attacking Lance? Busybody? etc. or vice versa?

How is this different than Killswitch attacking glam or anyone else he feels like treating like shit, including kind, dignified type posters?

Oh, and Hanns? Well, we tolerate his crap to a point and that point seems further off as time goes by. What used to cause a reaction, no longer does. His attacks on a man who lost his mother, his attacks on a disable man...well, you get the picture.

If this is "just a porn site" why do we have expectations for others and are sorely disappointed when those expectations are not met? Why do we have no expectations for some? Why shouldn't we all be held to the same task of netiquette and demeanor?

And no, I am not talking only of my own perceptions, others have shared some concerns. It just made me wonder...

Why does it matter so much?

It isn't about the victim of the attack. Many good people have been attacked on this board and some, far more viciously. So, it must be about the attacker.

 

[eagleyez]

when I attack somebody its Luna in the cave with the driftwood paddle and a

cauldron full of beet juice....


I know what you mean though...

feel the love! lets play in your cave...

 

[Freya]

Careful Miss T - you're making Lance's clique points for him now. I've always said, it's not what you say around here...it's who you are.

 

[Mia62]

If this is "just a porn site" why do we have expectations for others and are sorely disappointed when those expectations are not met? Why do we have no expectations for some? Why shouldn't we all be held to the same task of netiquette and demeanor?

It changes once it becomes personal...and it always does.

No matter who you are...everyone craves some sort of validation/acceptance/credibility...as I stated in a thread last week.

Every person here expects something from another....no matter if it is positive or negative.

One cannot expect everyone in any community to abide by the same rules and standards. It would be nice...but it is a fairytale.

 

[HeavyStick]

I have never bought into that line of thought, but many do....................
............
So, it must be about the attacker.

Another list I didn't make.

No more PM butt sex for you. ;-)

 

[Guest]

 

[cybergirly]

It's a community.

New people move in, offend the neighbors and with in a short period of time are accepted as the strange folks down the block. No one admits to wanting to have anything to do with them, but they always seem to be invited to all the neighborhood parties.

There's also the nosy man that lives on the corner, who never seems to sleep and who's been spotted at 3 o'clock in the morning trimming the neighbors hedges so he can have an unblocked view down the street. People talk about what a busy body he is, yet everyone seems to find time to talk to him once a week. Just to be nice of course.

There's also the single woman who lives in the middle of the block, all the married women on the street hate her. After all she has the perfect ass, and a different man mowing her lawn every week. Of course all the husbands offer to help her carry that heavy box inside, or fix her leaky roof.

We know that Mrs. Jones is having an affair with Mr. Black, and we don't blame her. Mr. Jones is a creep after all, and as long as no one tells Mrs. Black things will stay peaceful on our street. But on the off chance someone lets it slip, we'll all deny knowing, and if someone is dumb enough to mention what an ass we all know Mr. Jones to be, well we'll beat that person down so fast they won't know what hit them.

I knew where I was going with this when I started typing...

Oh yeah, it's not just a porn board. It's a community full of all the usual inside dynamics that every community has. Some people are given more leyway than others. Is this the way things should be? Not in a perfect world, but what world is perfect?

 

[MissTaken]

Careful Miss T - you're making Lance's clique points for him now. I've always said, it's not what you say around here...it's who you are.

Well, damn.

I didn't mean to get all cliquified and stuff!


But, while it isn't an issue of a small circle of friends, why do some get away with posting hurtful,. personal stuff and others are held to task?

 

[glamorilla]

intent.

 

[Mia62]

But, while it isn't an issue of a small circle of friends, why do some get away with posting hurtful,. personal stuff and others are held to task?

It just depends on you hang out with at Arnold's....if you hang with Fonz...then you have it made.

 

[Mia62]

intent.

Not necessarily. You were excused for intending to be hurtful towards KS...while he has been lambasted for his intent to hurt you.

What is the difference?

(note that I am just playing devil's advocate here, glam...k?)

 

[MissTaken]

It just depends on you hang out with at Arnold's....if you hang with Fonz...then you have it made.

Ahhh

so who is Fonzie?

And who is Pottsie?

I think I would be more apt to hand with Mr Cunningham

There is some truth to that statement and I think it's truth was more evident when lit was a smaller pond.

Now, with so many different people and different sub groups, I think there are four or five Fonz's on the GB, at least!

Joking, but with meaning.

 

[MissTaken]

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Oh yeah, it's not just a porn board. It's a community full of all the usual inside dynamics that every community has. Some people are given more leyway than others. Is this the way things should be? Not in a perfect world, but what world is perfect?

Hmm my world certainly isn't perfect.

Nice post, btw...

Now who is getting intimate with whom, again?

 

[glamorilla]

Not necessarily. You were excused for intending to be hurtful towards KS...while he has been lambasted for his intent to hurt you.

What is the difference?

(note that I am just playing devil's advocate here, glam...k?)

well i think the difference is he spent about two months trolling me before i actually got aggressie with him.

he came after me,i defended myelf.

killswitch took a bigoted poition in his arguments against me. that never wins or manages to sway publi/popular/bb opinion.

plus i'm a sweetheart.

 

[Mia62]

he came after me,i defended myelf.

True...but then the positions reversed. Now you two are behaving, which is nice...so I won't beat a dead horse...I was only trying to make a point....After all, two wrongs never make a right, right?

plus i'm a sweetheart.

 

[glamorilla]

True...but then the positions reversed. Now you two are behaving, which is nice...so I won't beat a dead horse...I was only trying to make a point....After all, two wrongs never make a right, right?

what message board are you on?

 

[lobito]

I'll never understand why...

 

[Mia62]

what message board are you on?

LMAO...fuckifIknow some days.

 

[glamorilla]

LMAO...fuckifIknow some days.

 

[Guest]

i think we all either don't or try not to take things seriously. sometimes we're having a bad day and something here just gets to us. it maybe just a porn board but i've met some very nice people that have helped me through some hard times.

it would be nice to see everyone get along here but it seems this is more of a place to blow off steam after (or during) a hard day.

 

[ksmybuttons]

NO amount of hurtful behavior is acceptable from anyone no matter where you are or who you come in contact with. Mutual respect is deserved by all.

I agree with you to a point, LL. There are people I have no respect for, many mentioned in MissTaken's original post. I take the information they give me and form an opinion based on my values. Some I tolerate, others, such as Hanns, I ignore.

Stirring things up is one thing. Cruelty is always objectionable and should we let it into our lives? A tainted soul is a tainted soul.

So many people here shout their ideology, careless of the differences of people. Personal attacks are wrong and do not deserve respect. Disagreements, with the understanding of another's points, are good, fun and learning.

 

[crappie master]

Even in our real lives, don't we hold some people to a higher standard than we do others? Right or wrong, our moral expectations for the local 4th grade teacher are usually different than for the guy who runs the junkyard.
So much of this board has the regular trolls on ignore or else just scroll through their posts without paying that much attention, that we really don't notice what they say anyhow. But we do do notice when someone who usually makes thoughtful or intelligent posts seems to post out of character.

 

[ma_guy]

With some people you extend a virtual hand and make some sort of connection, even if it's just minor. With other (ala Hanns) everyone knows who/what he is and everyone just ignores them. You only take people who you've made a connection with to task because their behavior is out of character.

 

[MissTaken]

Out of Character?

Does this mean, "out of role?"

Or posting that is inconsistent with what believe their true personality to be ?

 

[ma_guy]

Re: Out of Character?

Does this mean, "out of role?"

Or posting that is inconsistent with what believe their true personality to be ?

The latter. Different from their normal posting style or a comment you wouldn't normally expect from that person.