Sexless Marriages

[stephen88]

Sorry to hear she said that. It’s unfair but she probably has no confidence either. Unfortunately, this isn’t a one dimensional issue

Agreed, there is more to this. Yet she is reticent to discuss or work this out. Without some sort of discussion, I'm left with conjecture and just plain guessing. Is she embarrassed by something? Afraid of something? Worried? The lack of communication and/or sharing only deepens the mystery. I tend to remain somewhat stoic through all of this. Life has settled into an uneasy alliance of distance and shallow discussions about the weather and the news. I find it frustrating and have expressed this on a few occasions. I am met with silence, a change of topic, or she leaves the room.

 

[Sunshinebum]

It is sad that we should even think it necessary or possible to feel bad, for just being true to oneself.

Been sexless marriage for almost 9 years now....he shows no interest in even a simple hug.

 

[Mtnmike]

Been sexless marriage for almost 9 years now....he shows no interest in even a simple hug.

Very sorry to hear that, 17 year's here and like you no touch whatsoever, not even allowed to see her unless totally dressed

 

[Sunshinebum]

Very sorry to hear that, 17 year's here and like you no touch whatsoever, not even allowed to see her unless totally dressed

He never sees me naked either .... his choice btw

 

[Mtnmike]

He never sees me naked either .... his choice btw

God I'm so sorry that's just crazy, I don't know y'all's situation but he has a problem he needs to figure out.
It's rare I've ran into a woman dealing with this but you have my sympathy, I know how frustrating and mentally rough it can be.
I know as a man you probably wouldn't want to talk about it but I'm open to no judgement talking if you ever feel the need to vent or get it off your chest, my PM's are always open if you'd like to.

 

[LeeKee]

Been sexless marriage for almost 9 years now....he shows no interest in even a simple hug.

Im in same situation with my wife.
It is the most empty feeling in the world.

 

[Sunshinebum]

God I'm so sorry that's just crazy, I don't know y'all's situation but he has a problem he needs to figure out.
It's rare I've ran into a woman dealing with this but you have my sympathy, I know how frustrating and mentally rough it can be.
I know as a man you probably wouldn't want to talk about it but I'm open to no judgement talking if you ever feel the need to vent or get it off your chest, my PM's are always open if you'd like to.

Id love to chat, but im headed to bed now.
Tomorrow?

 

[Mtnmike]

Same here, tomorrow or anytime you feel up to it.
Goodnight and pleasant dreams

 

[Sunshinebum]

Same sweetie

 

[AngieGZC]

He never sees me naked either .... his choice btw

Sounds like his loss...I would love to see you naked haha....

 

[Tryingit26]

I am totally in a sexless marriage and have been pretty much for a few years! We’re out there but we are a bit like unicorns

I am a woman in her 50’s with the sex drive of an 18 yr old boy, that’s not normal I’ve been told by female friends the same age and male friends. I should be settling down for my old age with my hormones dying a slow death, but hell no!

I’m a male in my mid 50’s and want it all the time. The wife could care less. She says I am not normal! Wouldn’t you be a breath of fresh air!

 

[ladysmaid]

I am surprised to see 2 women respond to this thread. I don't know any guys in their 40's or 50's who don't want sex. I quite wrongly thought this was a guy only problem. I guess you learn something new every day. Thanks for sharing.

It spans the sexes and the age ranges

 

[beachlights44]

It spans the sexes and the age ranges

It does indeed. Too bad there isn’t a forum outside of Lit where people could discuss with others in the same situation.

 

[stephen88]

I was raised in a very conservative family. As was my wife. This is apparently something that isn't, wasn't, or just ignored by all parties. And yet, on Sunday morning, we present the happy and well-adjusted, picture-perfect Preacher and his family. My wife learned that lesson well. Everything is fine. I'm fine. How are you? Fine. Great, I'm fine with that. We are all fine then. Let's sing shall we?
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